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Re: Sex Starved Husband by luminouz(m): 8:37pm On Nov 19, 2021
PROPEACE:

Your post is embarrassing. Imagine washing the toilet not because you want to assist but because you need a sexual reward. And you are even coming here to say "some men see women as sex tools" come on bro! To consent to sex in marriage doesn't make one a sex tool. There are women who crave for sex more than the husbands, demanding for it does not make the husbands sex tools! No one should go into marriage if they don't like sex, except if both of them agree to do it that way.
That dude is lost already. Just leave him

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by luminouz(m): 8:39pm On Nov 19, 2021
Mummyfour:
wow!!! Men like you are hard to find.
Kudos, keep it up.
I do hope some selfish men would read your comment and see you for what you truly are: a hero..
Those SIMP crooners will soon jump in to talk rubbish
Which nonsense kudos? undecided

That dude has suffered and is still suffering. Only the redpill can save him.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by gassbee: 8:40pm On Nov 19, 2021
jamesversion:


Na your type of wife I dey find. Cos me I don't like sex as such. I can sleep on the bed with a lady for weeks and I won't even feel like having sex. Her companionship is what I enjoy. The issue recently caused my breakup.
are u sure ur ak47 is in order

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Newboss(m): 8:41pm On Nov 19, 2021
Get a side chick.

They tell you to marry if you want to be having sex. You don marry, toto no dey again.

Wahala for simps

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Nobody: 8:41pm On Nov 19, 2021
Hmm more and more I'm getting more convinced polygamy might be the way, how dare she starve her husband, later when he cheats she go dey bind and cast village people when dey jeje.
Re: Sex Starved Husband by pappilo(m): 8:42pm On Nov 19, 2021
I used to be married and suffered from the same issue.

We lived together for like 2 years before marriage and we had a fantastic sex life. Almost immediately after we got married, sex life stopped being great but it wasn't bad. After the first baby, it deteriorated a bit more. It was like going to work when we tried for a second baby i.e. wake me up from sleep to have sex with the sole purpose of conceiving having calculated her fertile days.

After 2nd baby, sex dried up. I tried to reason with her on a few occasions but all to no avail so I eventually looked outside and never looked back. I lost interest in her totally and the outcome was divorce.

I honestly think this refusal of sex thing has something to do with how comfortable a woman gets. When you get married, they know you are stuck with them and either consciously or subconsciously, start to withdraw their sexual services.

Now I have like 6 girls I am running concurrently (God forgive me) and the one that came closest to refusing me sex is the one I let live with me for a bit. The rest wey na come and go, dey gimme steady sungbàlaja. Even when dem dry, we go use lube. I quick wake up from my slumber pursue the one wey wan turn landlady for house.

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. At my big age? Never Again will I let any woman run format on my head!

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by LesbianBoy(m): 8:42pm On Nov 19, 2021
slimjohn2k5:


You are wrong bro. You cannot just go and meet Ur wife to open leg because your penis stand.

You need to make her happy and put her in the mood. I was thinking like you till I found my way out and I am happy with it

You are 'happy' with it because you have no choice! grin grin grin grin grin grin

Your wife is fooling guy, whether you want to admit it or not embarassed
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Newboss(m): 8:42pm On Nov 19, 2021
ednut1:
For many women they married cos of pressure not because they wanted to. Send her packing

Correct guy. Kick that bîtch to the curb
Re: Sex Starved Husband by OscarJaden(m): 8:43pm On Nov 19, 2021
Let your vaseline replace your wife
Re: Sex Starved Husband by lereinter(m): 8:44pm On Nov 19, 2021
Show her shegey

Change it for her

Abi wetin cause rubbish
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Mummyfour(f): 8:44pm On Nov 19, 2021
luminouz:

Which nonsense kudos? undecided

That dude has suffered and is still suffering. Only the redpill can save him.
I talk am say una association dey come.
I wasn't wrong naah grin grin

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Newboss(m): 8:44pm On Nov 19, 2021
GboyegaD:
How involved are you with her and the home? Try get more involved and find out what works in your own home. One of the thing I learned before marriage is whenever you go out, never come home empty handed. Sincerely, it makes every one at home crave your return when you go out and vice versa. Things you can buy are as easy as chocolate bars, fries, or any other snack you all like.

Continue buying o.

Don't start what you can't sustain. Simping is not good for a man

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by plat0: 8:45pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:


That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much
grin grin grin grin

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by bukatyne(f): 8:47pm On Nov 19, 2021
Yoighaman:
@OP: You don't want to live up to your moniker? Maybe you should take a look at it again wink

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Mummyfour(f): 8:47pm On Nov 19, 2021
Eagle360:

It is just determination and affection to her, likewise not forgetting the vow we shared.
She is loyal, why hurting her and put curse on myself.
We do quarrels when we started the journey and she do promise to change but when I don't see the changes. I let her be.
At least we still dey do it.
Daddyfour come and see your brother oooo!!!
Other men, please come and take lectures abeg.
Keep it up bro.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by after4: 8:48pm On Nov 19, 2021
The last time i checked, I didn't know you exist, can you remain the same?



Kobojunkie:
Marry a selfish girl? Some of you don't even understand your partners are humans, flesh and bold, just like you. undecided

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by after4: 8:49pm On Nov 19, 2021
So the day she want it what happens?
Will she make him happy and put him in the mood?
Well, I am not you and can't be you. Stay on your lane. Simp



slimjohn2k5:


You are wrong bro. You cannot just go and meet Ur wife to open leg because your penis stand.

You need to make her happy and put her in the mood. I was thinking like you till I found my way out and I am happy with it

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by bukatyne(f): 8:49pm On Nov 19, 2021
luminouz:

Which nonsense kudos? undecided

That dude has suffered and is still suffering. Only the redpill can save him.

What solution does redpill have for him?
Re: Sex Starved Husband by matm: 8:50pm On Nov 19, 2021
Common problem in all marriages. Warning for self control for those who think marriage is sex and sex marriage.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by PeachtreeReside(f): 8:50pm On Nov 19, 2021
Nilx:
She said spiritual, lol.

Team virgin or nothing should take note.

Tell her, you ain’t her spirit husband and she should stop expecting you to be spiritual.

Why don’t you consider Spanish goldfly stuff on her or make her desire for it bu other means.

But if na me be you, I go give an excuse whenever she’s in the mood too



Too risky. What if she reacts to it?








Re: Sex Starved Husband by olak4gold(m): 8:51pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?
Sex is the most important thing in marriage and should be respected. Marriage counselors and therapists always lay emphasis on sexual compatibility with respect to libido and how, where and when to and not to have it.
Unfortunately, most culture saw sex and it's discussion as a taboo in its entirety whereas it's the basis of marriage.
I'd advice you discuss with her or meet a counselor to help you out. I wish you the best in your quest for a successful life, family, career etcetera.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Ayokunumi24(f): 8:51pm On Nov 19, 2021
If you can try this if you get good self control, try not to request for it for like a month, find another number to open a WhatsApp use picture of a sexy black lady as the profile, use that number to send some romantic msg to your normal WhatsApp and reply, just make it sound as if you are chatting with a lady that you already have sex with and how she always derived you of sex, try to always be on WhatsApp so that your wife can see it, just wait and see how everything will follow up but don't have sex with her immediately she ask

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by luminouz(m): 8:52pm On Nov 19, 2021
Mummyfour:
I talk am say una association dey come.
I wasn't wrong naah grin grin
If you like no satisfy your husband. You will come here to cry ni.

Who has that nonsense time to dey beg woman for sex, person wey you pay her bride price? That mumu upstairs dey go wash toilet so his wife will give him some? He said he is even contented with it? Tufiakwa!!! Not in my lifetime.

Anytime we tell these dudes to sharpen up that women respect leaders and men with frame,they will say we ain't shiit but they come online with their marital woes and expect us to give them advice? Is that not madness? How can someone you have been fuqin for so long before marriage suddenly denies you cookie and you had to Goan wash toilet before she gave you some? And he is so proud to say it online? Another Baba dey talk say he uses his professional exams result to tickle his wife onto the mood for sex.

These men will not kee me. grin grin grin

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by authority2006(m): 8:52pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Lol. Oga, heed the warning and control your urge as you were told. Don't let madam be angry with you. Seriously?
Re: Sex Starved Husband by GboyegaD(m): 8:52pm On Nov 19, 2021
Newboss:


Continue buying o.

Don't start what you can't sustain. Simping is no good for a man

If caring for your family members and it is done by all is being a simp, I don't mind being a Chief Simp. We would rather be a happy simping family than a miserable one trying to act in capacities we cannot.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by LesbianBoy(m): 8:52pm On Nov 19, 2021
theForth:


You're such a shame of a man, you're everything a man shouldn't be.

Better not talk o before they say you no like women.

He was even laughing. Orishirishi guys everywhere. lipsrsealed His type are being fooled by their wives in their home and they come outside and start forming "Real man" grin grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by TenQ: 8:53pm On Nov 19, 2021
Simran94:

And you too please try to control your urge sometimes, there was one other guy who posted here one time that he always has sex with his girlfriend three times a week, and that went on for 3 years. Just imagine getting married, she definitely would be exhausted.
I'm sure you aren't yet married. That's a very wrong mindset.
Sexual needs for women is quite different on the average than the needs of men.

It's like asking a breastfeeding baby to control his/her appetite....a wailing baby you'll have.
Just as women desire unending VALIDATION of love from their Husbands, men desire sex from their wives

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by dokyOloye: 8:53pm On Nov 19, 2021
Smithroll44:
Do you know I’m experiencing this same issue with my wife if you married a woman that do not like sex you have to endure. My marriage is 10 years old with 3 kids have been facing this kind of issue since we got married then I later have side chick to satisfy my sexual stuff
Correct man grin

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by TenQ: 8:54pm On Nov 19, 2021
saxby:
This na why you suppose know who you dey marry before anything.
No madam.
Marriage and its responsibilities change usually the equation especially with respect to sex
Re: Sex Starved Husband by olas24u(f): 8:57pm On Nov 19, 2021
[quote author=luminouz post=107779317]
If you like no satisfy your husband. You will come here to cry ni.

Who has that nonsense time to dey beg woman for sex, person wey you pay her bride price? That mumu upstairs dey go wash toilet so his wife will give him some? He said he is even contented with it? Tufiakwa!!! Not in my lifetime.

Anytime we tell these dudes to sharpen up that women respect leaders and men with frame,they will say we ain't shiit but they come online with their marital woes and expect us to give them advice? Is that not madness? How can someone you have been fuqin for so long before marriage suddenly denies you cookie and you had to Goan wash toilet before she gave you some? And he is so proud to say it online? Another Baba dey talk say he uses his professional exams result to tickle his wife onto the mood for sex.

its a power game ,and anyone that control's the sex ,will control more things outside of the sex.its just a matter of time and reality will set in


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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Smithroll44: 8:57pm On Nov 19, 2021
You can tell her make she give you hand-job so you can feel relief or give yourself hand-job if you don’t want to cheat on her

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by seamfund: 8:57pm On Nov 19, 2021
bigman001:


Bro, i really appreciate this reply of your, actually many married men are facing this condition i'm also one of them, mine is even worst. i dont know maybe because she is the last born or sort of, but have learned to live with it for over 9 years now, because of the sexual starvation have resulted in masturbating whichi have never tried before when i was single. worst thing is she is not even sexually inclined ( she no sabi, sh just be like intimacy gadget) when it comes to sex she go just dey like log stick na me go dey do all the running around. It's very frustrating thou, but i need to accept and deal with it.

U started wanking in marriage? U sure say person go marry 4 dis life

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