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Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 6:14am On Nov 22, 2021
I understand the frustration a man can face due to pressure from work, extended family, peer pressure and other forms of issues which could fall in the range of financial, religious, promiscuous (women) colleagues at work and all that.

It's more disturbing when the man comes home after the days work hoping to find peace only to be greeted with a nagging woman and an ungrateful wife who seizes every opportunity to complain, bring up issues at every slight opportunity.

I do not subscribe to hitting a women but sometimes this cruel and vile rage crawls up to give her a resounding slap, which I strongly over come due to my descipline and principles.

I see some other men flare up in rage and beat their wife this in turn makes their wife fear and respect them unlike what is obtainable with me..

Please guys does hitting your wife when she errs makes one a man who is in total control of his home?

Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by NovesaTillie(f): 6:17am On Nov 22, 2021
The good book says it is better to live in a house with leaking roof than living with a nag.

Hitting your wife in any form for any reasons makes you an abuser and a violent person. Like how will you even think of hitting her is she your child?
Let me tell you something my father said, women are like children and children are ignorant of many things. The best way to instill discipline and command respect in your home as the man of the house is through psychological means, actions like not eating her food, sleeping on the same bed with her but never having sex with her, silent treatment. These things melt any woman to either show remorse because she doesn't know you next actions or expose her true character and you can end the marriage.




Hitting a woman is like beating a child.
The first time Will definitely scare her, second time she will see you like a beast and the next time it happens she will begin to formulate defence mechanisms. If you are unlucky she will kill you by poisoning.

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Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by ugwumichael(m): 6:22am On Nov 22, 2021
It makes you less a man.
No matter how a woman nags, raising your hands on her only shows the kind of family you came from.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by DrMoney1: 6:24am On Nov 22, 2021
I have been divorced four times and even as I know divorce is not always the answer and I need to fix that part of myself, I will still applaud the fact that I have never beaten any of my women before. It's stupidity and nothing but cowardice.

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Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by donbachi(m): 6:25am On Nov 22, 2021
It shows how weak you are as a man.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by ExudeLoveToAll: 6:27am On Nov 22, 2021
It doesn't make you a man when you beat someone else, it's totally an assault irrespective of whether it is your wife or someone else. I must admit it is a serious dilemma if one finds himself in such serious situations, for a repeat offender it is necessary sometimes to assert yourself when it comes to making decisions that can lead to nipping such life-threatening traits out of such person. Failing to address such habits can actually lead to blood pressure issues over a period of time. I must admit I don't subscribe to using violence to solve this, but if my non-violent approach doesn't work over and over again there will be a need to involve third party family members which personally I don't really like. If this persists after all options have been laid bare, then renegotiation of my peace will be sacrosanct.

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Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Sonnobax15(m): 6:35am On Nov 22, 2021
lipsrsealed
The day you raise your hands on your wife,just know from that moment say you don give devil free ticket to come operate for your house.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 6:36am On Nov 22, 2021
NovesaTillie:
The good book says it is better to live in a house with leaking roof than living with a nag.

Hitting your wife in any form for any reasons makes you an abuser and a violent person. Like how will you even think of hitting her is she your child?
Let me tell you something my father said, women are like children and children are ignorant of many things. The best way to instill discipline and command respect in your home as the man of the house is through psychological means, actions like not eating her food, sleeping on the same bed with her but never having sex with her, silent treatment. These things melt any woman to either show remorse because she doesn't know you next actions or expose her true character and you can end the marriage.




Hitting a woman is like beating a child.
The first time Will definitely scare her, second time she will see you like a beast and the next time it happens she will begin to formulate defence mechanisms. If you are unlucky she will kill you by poisoning.

Wow
This is really deep, I keep wondering why a woman change from been sweet, gentle and kind within a short while in marriage.

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Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 6:38am On Nov 22, 2021
ugwumichael:
It makes you less a man.
No matter how a woman nags, raising your hands on her only shows the kind of family you came from.

I beg to pardon your last statement of the kind of family one comes from is over generalised and it's unwise to assume such, be open to reasons than clinching to outdated clichés.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 6:40am On Nov 22, 2021
DrMoney1:
I have been divorce four times and even as I know divorce is not always the answer and I need to fix that part of myself, I will still applaud the fact that I have never beaten any of my women before. It's stupidity and nothing but cowardice.

Wow, divorced 4 times you should try to talk to someone especially someone you can connect with.

Proud of your stance on wife Battery♥️
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by NovesaTillie(f): 6:40am On Nov 22, 2021
Nahunger:


Wow
This is really deep, I keep wondering why a woman change from been sweet, gentle and kind within a short while in marriage.

She did not change. She is manifesting her true colors. You too use psychological treatment on her,it is more powerful than raising hands to beat her.
Do you remember when children will see their mom who spank them every day and be jumping up but at the mention of their father who doesn't even lay a finger on them they will scamper for safety? It is psychological

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Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 6:40am On Nov 22, 2021
ExudeLoveToAll:
It doesn't make you a man when you beat someone else, it's totally an assault irrespective of whether it is your wife or 5someone else. I must admit it is a serious dilemma if one finds 5himself in such serious situations, for a repeat offender it is necessary sometimes to assert yourself when it comes to making decisions that can lead to nipping such life-threatening traits out of such person. Failing to address such habits can actually lead to blood pressure issues over a period of time. I must admit I don't subscribe to using violence to solve this, but if my non-violent approach doesn't work over and over again there will be a need to involve third party family members which personally I don't really like. If this persists after all options have been laid bare, then renegotiation of my peace will be sacrosanct.


True
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by muheeb01(m): 6:41am On Nov 22, 2021
Any man that raised his hand to beat a woman is sissy and a weak man there's nothing you can tell me....no matter the frustration or stress or how stubborn or annoying the woman might be,the best you could av done was to leave the house....ability to control your anger is one of the quality of being a human wether you're a man or woman......
#saynotodomesticviolence #notogenderbasedviolence
#notophysicalandemotionalabuse



Check my signature and my profile for my work
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 6:42am On Nov 22, 2021
NovesaTillie:


She did not change. She is manifesting her true colors. You too use psychological treatment on her,it is more powerful than raising hands to beat her.
Do you remember when children will see their mom who spank them every day and be jumping up but at the mention of their father who doesn't even lay a finger on them they will scamper for safety? It is psychological

Smiles...
You seem like someone with deep experience on Marital affairs.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by NovesaTillie(f): 6:46am On Nov 22, 2021
Nahunger:


Smiles...
You seem like someone with deep experience on Marital affairs.
I am a sweet chick tongue and a natural psychologist and I know how to treat my man kiss
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 6:48am On Nov 22, 2021
NovesaTillie:

I am a sweet chick tongue and a natural psychologist and I know how to treat my man kiss


Aww
You are beginning to sound delicious to be with, your man is in safe hands no doubt♥️
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by NovesaTillie(f): 6:50am On Nov 22, 2021
Nahunger:



Aww
You are beginning to sound delicious to be with, your man is in safe hands no doubt♥️
Wanna find out? cheesy
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 6:57am On Nov 22, 2021
NovesaTillie:

Wanna find out? cheesy


Yea, if you will allow me tongue wink
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by ugwumichael(m): 7:28am On Nov 22, 2021
Nahunger:


I beg to pardon your last statement of the kind of family one comes from is over generalised and it's unwise to assume such, be open to reasons than clinching to outdated clichés.

Alright I get your point, but careful examination on some spouses that use there spouse as punching bags will reveal to you that probably it's something there dad has been doing to there mom, making them to view wife battering as a normal thing.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Myer(m): 7:32am On Nov 22, 2021
Nahunger:
I understand the frustration a man can face due to pressure from work, extended family, peer pressure and other forms of issues which could fall in the range of financial, religious, promiscuous (women) colleagues at work and all that.

It's more disturbing when the man comes home after the days work hoping to find peace only to be greeted with a nagging woman and an ungrateful wife who seizes every opportunity to complain, bring up issues at every slight opportunity.

I do not subscribe to hitting a women but sometimes this cruel and vile rage crawls up to give her a resounding slap, which I strongly over come due to my descipline and principles.

I see some other men flare up in rage and beat their wife this in turn makes their wife fear and respect them unlike what is obtainable with me..

Please guys does hitting your wife when she errs makes one a man who is in total control of his home?

It's all about understanding.
Women by nature must nag.
Only few women don't nag.

If you're not so lucky and you have a nagging wife, the solution is obviously not to hit or beat her.
The solution is to find a way to make her see how much you need peace at home.

Some times this might mean staying out late.
Some times this might be achieved by you bringing her gifts to appease the goddess.. Na heir automatic mumu button be that. I wish a lady would prove me wrong.LOL

But hitting or beating your wife is never the solution.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nobody: 7:41am On Nov 22, 2021
Domestic violence is not gender based. There are women who assault and beat weak or meek men up. There are also women though weaker but tend to be the aggressors. What would such a man do when she initiated assault first? Na no touch am, no matter what kill some men las las.

Ps: I don’t support domestic violence, no matter who is involved, but if it’s for self defence, it should be ok.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nobody: 7:56am On Nov 22, 2021
Beating your wife makes you an animal, not a man.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nobody: 8:37am On Nov 22, 2021
NovesaTillie:
The good book says it is better to live in a house with leaking roof than living with a nag.

Hitting your wife in any form for any reasons makes you an abuser and a violent person. Like how will you even think of hitting her is she your child?
Let me tell you something my father said, women are like children and children are ignorant of many things. The best way to instill discipline and command respect in your home as the man of the house is through psychological means, actions like not eating her food, sleeping on the same bed with her but never having sex with her, silent treatment. These things melt any woman to either show remorse because she doesn't know you next actions or expose her true character and you can end the marriage.




Hitting a woman is like beating a child.
The first time Will definitely scare her, second time she will see you like a beast and the next time it happens she will begin to formulate defence mechanisms. If you are unlucky she will kill you by poisoning.

Your analogy is really amusing grin
"Women are like children"...
However, let's examine scriptures, shall we...
Scriptures or "the good book" ((according to you grin)) says, "foolishness dwells in the bossom of a child, but the ROD of correction will drive it away"
Kikikikikiki grin grin
I hope you get the point grin grin

Stop making excuses for a woman's excesses!!!! A woman is not like a child, she is an adult!!!
If you sincerely believe that a woman is LIKE a child, then you must agree that she should be treated LIKE a child!!!! You can't act childish and expect to be treated like an adult, it's not done anywhere!!!!!

And it's funny that a woman is telling a man "the best way" to instil discipline in the home, if a man told a woman how to act now, sheybi you go talk plenty?? Calling the man all sort of despecable names...

Back to OP...
I wont advice anyone to beat his wife for ANY reason, yes!! Any reason!!!
Even if she tries to kill you, it's better you send her parking than beat her...
Think of what could happen if you go down this road...
Examine this....
She's abusive and continuously disrespectful, she nags and puts you down at every slight opportunity... One day you choose to beat her out of anger, you hurt her pretty bad... The matter gets to the court, you'll be locked up for quite a while, so why lose your freedom over a nagging woman?? On the other hand, you send her parking and you're free to do whatever you want with your life...

I don't know about you...
But to me...
"Man divorce nagging wife" is a much better headline than "man goes to prison for beating up wife"

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Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by NovesaTillie(f): 8:53am On Nov 22, 2021
Favfables1:


Your analogy is really amusing grin
"Women are like children"...
However, let's examine scriptures, shall we...
Scriptures or "the good book" ((according to you grin)) says, "foolishness dwells in the bossom of a child, but the ROD of correction will drive it away"
Kikikikikiki grin grin
I hope you get the point grin grin

Stop making excuses for a woman's excesses!!!! A woman is not like a child, she is an adult!!!
If you sincerely believe that a woman is LIKE a child, then you must agree that she should be treated LIKE a child!!!! You can't act childish and expect to be treated like an adult, it's not done anywhere!!!!!

And it's funny that a woman is telling a man "the best way" to instil discipline in the home, if a man told a woman how to act now, sheybi you go talk plenty?? Calling the man all sort of despecable names...

Back to OP...
I wont advice anyone to beat his wife for ANY reason, yes!! Any reason!!!
Even if she tries to kill you, it's better you send her parking than beat her...
Think of what could happen if you go down this road...
Examine this....
She's abusive and continuously disrespectful, she nags and puts you down at every slight opportunity... One day you choose to beat her out of anger, you hurt her pretty bad... The matter gets to the court, you'll be locked up for quite a while, so why lose your freedom over a nagging woman?? On the other hand, you send her parking and you're free to do whatever you want with your life...

I don't know about you...
But to me...
"Man divorce nagging wife" is a much better headline than "man goes to prison for beating up wife"
I agree with you kiss
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Agricmoney(m): 8:55am On Nov 22, 2021
Nope



Anyway, Agriculture is life
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by siofra(f): 9:34am On Nov 22, 2021
It makes you a man. A MAD MAN.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 10:34am On Nov 22, 2021
Myer:


It's all about understanding.
Women by nature must nag.
Only few women don't nag.

If you're not so lucky and you have a nagging wife, the solution is obviously not to hit or beat her.
The solution is to find a way to make her see how much you need peace at home.

Some times this might mean staying out late.
Some times this might be achieved by you bringing her gifts to appease the goddess.. Na heir automatic mumu button be that. I wish a lady would prove me wrong.LOL

But hitting or beating your wife is never the solution.
Thanks this is every wise and insightful♥️
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by Nahunger(m): 10:36am On Nov 22, 2021
ugwumichael:


Alright I get your point, but careful examination on some spouses that use there spouse as punching bags will reveal to you that probably it's something there dad has been doing to there mom, making them to view wife battering as a normal thing.

Not in all cases, people change, and pressure can change you too.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by chinchonglee(m): 10:38am On Nov 22, 2021
DrMoney1:
I have been divorce four times and even as I know divorce is not always the answer and I need to fix that part of myself, I will still applaud the fact that I have never beaten any of my women before. It's stupidity and nothing but cowardice.
So if the woman hits me first and i retaliate, it makes me a coward?

You guys have given women so much power to frustrate men. The society support women even when they are clearly at fault. Bunch of simps

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Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by ugwumichael(m): 12:19pm On Nov 22, 2021
Nahunger:


Not in all cases, people change, and pressure can change you too.
That's why I used the word "some".
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by ugwumichael(m): 12:24pm On Nov 22, 2021
chinchonglee:

So if the woman hits me first and i retaliate, it makes me a coward?

You guys have given women so much power to frustrate men. The society support women even when they are clearly at fault. Bunch of simps

Coming from a Self acclaimed nairaland alFa mail, the story says "Nagging wife" and besides the person you quoted never said his ex wives were violent.
So beating your wife because she nags make you an alpha male, mehn your stupidity and low self esteem stinks.
Re: Does Beating Your Wife Make You A Man? by chinchonglee(m): 12:35pm On Nov 22, 2021
ugwumichael:


Coming from a Self acclaimed nairaland alFa mail, the story says "Nagging wife" and besides the person you quoted never said his ex wives were violent.
So beating your wife because she nags make you an alpha male, mehn your stupidity and low self esteem stinks.
You sound like am the cause of the ancestral curse placed on your lineage to be in poverty and frustrations forever.

You are def blind on the topic.
You didn't see where a they said no matter what, a man shouldn't beat a woman.

Go and find a way to cancel that generational curses that has been placed on your family.

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