siofra:


Good morning sir.

How your night ma?

Dem run this nigga street still de gaslight am.

backbencher:


Because a woman has a limited time to get pregnant and have children

Once a woman passes 35, it can become more and more difficult to have a child. The 'prime' childbearing age is in a woman's 20's. If a woman passes 30, problem starts. And if it reaches 35...it gets worse.

Some women even have 'premature menopause' by the time they reach 35, if not earlier.

Thank God for IVF...but that thing does not work immediately...it can be several rounds before there is success.

For us men, we can get a woman pregnant at the age of 90 self. We don't have the equivalent of menopause

this the sad truth...for men na finance

Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story?


It would have been you used and dump her that's what we will all be saying here.
She was the one who used and dump you at the same time crying and playing the victims card.... That's what they do.

I like what your friend told you move on

Brushstrokes20:
I've been there done that... Very traumatising experience.
if not that I cut all ties with her, she would have pinned several pregnancies from me on her hubby.

Though it's been over 8 years now and she's got 2 kids, She's still desperately seeking me by all means necessary but I won't bulge.

Nawa. Why women be like this?

Rosement:

If you tell her you are ready to marry her now, she might break up her relationship with the other guy. If you are not ready to marry her now, you can just do introduction with her so that her mind can be at rest and so that her family will not pressure her.

I understand that what she did is hurting you so deeply but I cannot blame the lady, she is twenty-six years, she did not want to take too much risk, it is not like the decision she made is easy for her but she must have taking that decision because she felt she is doing the right thing. It is today will know, we don't know tomorrow, we cannot predict the future, if anything happens tomorrow that eventually obstruct you guys marriage, she has more to lose than you.

She loves you, she is also hurt by this decision but she did what she thinks is right. She made this decision to secure her future. Some people are just judging and blaming her but decisions are not easy to make, I am not saying the person in question made the right decision but we all reason differently so we cannot make the same decisions. This might just be her own weakness so try not to judge her. Sorry about your situation but you can still try to amend things if you want to.

One of the best comments I've seen here. I really appreciate you. Thanks a lot. At times we make decisions not because it's right, but at times because it's good at moment.

TuFab:


I tell you, I noticed the age too and its so sad they're just graduating when they should have been done with school around 6 to 8 years ago.
Nigeria is a curse which affects every aspect of its citizens lives.
I wish I could advise the girl to try and add some value to herself b4 jumping into that marriage, else, in a few years she may come back to that single state she's running from but this time with baby(s) and more misery.
@ op, just move on and look for another girl, because that girl can't listen to even jesus himself, if she doesn't rush in and out of that marriage, she won't understand that life is more than being married, self empowerment is key.
Na body go tell am.

Brooooo, it's really sad no cap. I wrote jamb 3times, I was supposed to graduate last year, but pandemic took over. It even more sad that some persons at that age are still writing Jamb. So poor...

Moreign001:
I sincerely appreciate all of your comments, and words of encouragement, the criticism too helps a lot
.
Let me reassure you guys that I'm fine, relaxed and mild. I feel bad for myself a bit because I lost a wonderful woman, but I'm sincerely gleeful for her. I won't cut her off communications, I will stand by her, support whenever. One thing I understood about love is this. If you genuinely love someone, their happiness should be your first preeminence. Allow them to do what ever makes them happy, and still love them regardless.

Yes we spoke lengthy tonight, and I understood exactly how she feels, I understood deeply how our parents and guidance keeps pressuring their children, pupils and siblings against their wish, not just in marriage, but even in careers and others. And also how parents are forcing children into marriage in other to help in assisting the family burden. How is this right?

Life is love, so I have decided that I'm never going to cut her off, or act as if she never exist, she deserves better. But I will never get involved with her again. I'm mentally strong, and I built it on love. Right now i'm so concerned about her happiness, not her leaving me. I just want her to be happy and fine, that's all. We should never criticize people when they make decisions, maybe we would have made worst decisions in that same position.

Yes, I had intention of marrying her, she knew. She is not a cheat, she's a very good girl and I respect her. The main reason why I brought up this post was because lots of girls are after marriage, some are forced into it without having nothing to offer. I personally asked what's her plans after school, and she said she will open a shop (Food items) until after her Masters programs. I was ready and willing to support her.

I told her to hold on until we're done with our Nysc which should be next year by God's grace.

And those asking why I didn't marry or engage her... Even if I had billions in my account, I still wouldn't have married until I'm done with my Nysc. You don't rush it, we were students for 4years and that's our love duration, we needed at least some time outside school to see how ideal we were.

And to some persons saying she doesn't have time... I pleaded for just one more year, for our Nysc..
Don't encourage people to rush into marriage because of age, she just met this guy, they don't know and haven't tolerate themselves. This is one of the major reasons why marriage keep failing because it can lead to trust issues, violence and others. I understood her very well, she's a very jealous individual, and I can tell you that the new guy doesn't know this, now how about if he doesn't want a woman who is loaded with jealousy? But it's fine, many read to criticize, not to understand and learn.

My advice to every girl out there, try and add value to yourself, this won't just make your husband respect you, it will also stop your parents and guidance from going against your preferred wish.

Bro you too talk. You're suffering from oneitis. This left you for a man who she think is much better than you. Instead of you to cut ties with her. You dey write formal letter.

Let her go emotional and physically. Find another girl and move on.

You're just pained because you think she's a good girl. And maybe cause you aren't getting younger.

No vex me bro. Your b!tch has been playing the victim. She don already plan this game right from school . Quit been Stup!d

Moreign001

i like this

Support her, we move, no be God leave you

lugrae22:
oga nobody presured her stop talkin nonsense,dat girl neva planed building her life,una just graduate,she done find man already,wats the rush,her cries is it changing the fact,she is hurtin u,bro that girl knows her mind,all her calls na scam...and u talk like a boy,she asured u she wont do anytin til everytin is done and u trust her...how has that got to do wit that she is marrying a man she barely knws after being wit u 4 4 years,if na me i go change am 4 am,u be simp,stupid supporter

Correct bro. That guy na mum* . That girl don get side guy right from when Dem dey school.
She never saw a future with him. And the guy loved her more than she does. This guy na simp. A great one.

Nigga just dey cry na pikin.

@this is my watsapp no
08137295645

Forthepeople21:
You’re delusional bro. “Good girls” don’t leave their BF to marry another MFer. You’re standards are real low, like on the ground low.

Good one bro. That man has low self-esteem. He was probably the woman in the relationship. Ok, fine. Let's assure she was a good girl. And now that she left. This guy shouldn't be crying. Move on.

IdreamOfUnicorn:
After four years of being with her you don't have intention to marry her and you expected her to stay put? You want to turn her to lord of the rings

He should have married her even when he was doing his NYSC with NYSC allowance so that all the big men in the neighborhood will be fuccking her for peanuts. Nonsense without ingredient.

revived:
E go be

But Omooooooooo E Be Things Oooo

For the fact that you both dated for 4years and she left you in few months is shocking

Walahi plan is always good

I no dull myself again like this

If your cl fit open crypto dot com dm make we run Christmas funds

Let's work bro
My watsapp number
08137295645

revived:
E go be

But Omooooooooo E Be Things Oooo

For the fact that you both dated for 4years and she left you in few months is shocking

Walahi plan is always good

I no dull myself again like this

If your cl fit open crypto dot com dm make we run Christmas funds

Let's work bro
My watsapp number
08137295645[color=#990000][/color][b][/b]

I knw its hard to mueve but move..
Not with d calls and texts again
Dt will Mak ur road crooked..

Moreign001:
I sincerely appreciate all of your comments, and words of encouragement, the criticism too helps a lot
.
Let me reassure you guys that I'm fine, relaxed and mild. I feel bad for myself a bit because I lost a wonderful woman, but I'm sincerely gleeful for her. I won't cut her off communications, I will stand by her, support whenever. One thing I understood about love is this. If you genuinely love someone, their happiness should be your first preeminence. Allow them to do what ever makes them happy, and still love them regardless.

Yes we spoke lengthy tonight, and I understood exactly how she feels, I understood deeply how our parents and guidance keeps pressuring their children, pupils and siblings against their wish, not just in marriage, but even in careers and others. And also how parents are forcing children into marriage in other to help in assisting the family burden. How is this right?

Life is love, so I have decided that I'm never going to cut her off, or act as if she never exist, she deserves better. But I will never get involved with her again. I'm mentally strong, and I built it on love. Right now i'm so concerned about her happiness, not her leaving me. I just want her to be happy and fine, that's all. We should never criticize people when they make decisions, maybe we would have made worst decisions in that same position.

Yes, I had intention of marrying her, she knew. She is not a cheat, she's a very good girl and I respect her. The main reason why I brought up this post was because lots of girls are after marriage, some are forced into it without having nothing to offer. I personally asked what's her plans after school, and she said she will open a shop (Food items) until after her Masters programs. I was ready and willing to support her.

I told her to hold on until we're done with our Nysc which should be next year by God's grace.

And those asking why I didn't marry or engage her... Even if I had billions in my account, I still wouldn't have married until I'm done with my Nysc. You don't rush it, we were students for 4years and that's our love duration, we needed at least some time outside school to see how ideal we were.

And to some persons saying she doesn't have time... I pleaded for just one more year, for our Nysc..
Don't encourage people to rush into marriage because of age, she just met this guy, they don't know and haven't tolerate themselves. This is one of the major reasons why marriage keep failing because it can lead to trust issues, violence and others. I understood her very well, she's a very jealous individual, and I can tell you that the new guy doesn't know this, now how about if he doesn't want a woman who is loaded with jealousy? But it's fine, many read to criticize, not to understand and learn.

My advice to every girl out there, try and add value to yourself, this won't just make your husband respect you, it will also stop your parents and guidance from going against your preferred wish.

Bro!!! Back-off, don't try this, leave her alone, if you try this you will turn to a frustrated, depressed, confused and heart broken poor guy.

Leave the lady alone, let her face her life while you face yours.

The more you try to stay around her, the more it will keep hurting you, just forget about her until you are healed completely, you can never be friend with your ex or someone you love, it will drain you mentally.

I'm telling you this from experience been entagled to that girl will break your man emotionally irrespective of how strong you are mentally, yours might be worse because i almost commit suicide because i was always after her happiness thank God for the therapy i took which made me understood how far i need to go away from such unhealth relationship. For Bleep sake forget this girl for real she's using you like a roller coaster, someone that followed her heart because you don't exist in it before her decision geez another man is after someone else's coochie. My brother man up Abeg don't regret this later

Frankicent:



Nawa. Why women be like this?

I weak for them o!...
Most of them are actually confused beings and
They are ONE WAY thinkers....a.k.a any where belle face.

felixzo1:
most ladies marry who is available when they want to marry. a man can get married even at 40 to a 20year old girl. women do not have that previlage ,their biological clock is not their friend. i will never advice any woman to wait for man. more 70 percent of campus relationship do not lead to marriage. finance is usually the major factor. I have a friend who dated a girl since his first year in school . They were always together, did everything together , they were even living together, their parents were even aware of their relationship. They behaved as if they cannot live apart. But after service year the story changed, the lady was willing to marry the guy but the guy was not ready due to finance. The parents of the girl were even willing to sponsor the wedding but the guy refused that he wanted to stand on his feet first. 6 months later the girl got married to someone else, went on to have 3 kids the ex boyfriend was still single. After 9 years the guy got married to a 20 year old girl. The ex girlfriend has grown up kids

One thing is probably the ex boyfriend took all those years to marry was he was getting over his lost relationship now he felt since she’s out of the picture am no longer in hurry I can decide to be single forever or wait till I feel it’s the best time…cause he waited 9 years doesn’t mean he would have done the same with his ex..and why get married cause u want to have grown up kids quickly have u ever wondered if a child dies,what if u rushed into a relationship only to discover some biological incompatibilities but still continued with hope of “gods grace” some women don’t want kids at all but just because of parents and society they just have to take it that way..nowadays you have so many people married but they aren’t really married in public u see them as the best couples but in the house they don’t even talk or meet eye to eye..some even tell their kids how they regret the marriage and of possible would go back and wait for the person they really loved but didn’t have all the time to wait

DrObum:

You're probably between 18 - 21 years.

Right or wrong?

Don't mind her. She should stay there and get to the point where the same nairaland men complaining here will still call her evening newspaper.

A woman is insulted when she married late or turns 30 without marriage and they also insult her for moving on to a man who is ready.

What do men want bikonu?

I won't have my daughter marry at 30 years.
Eat your meal while it is still hot. But it is still my daughter choice. Men don't rush into marriage. Wife must eat something during pregnancy.
As man must provide for house. Until she finish pregnancy and is strong to continue her great destiny...
Hope I made sense

I'm really feeling sorry for the man she's about getting married to.

Dis talk sweet me

siofra:


I will na

But I'm still waiting for my tall, dark, rich, handsome, real Nigerian prince.

see am here dey handle you for the second photo

Oloristarr:




One thing is probably the ex boyfriend took all those years to marry was he was getting over his lost relationship now he felt since she’s out of the picture am no longer in hurry I can decide to be single forever or wait till I feel it’s the best time…cause he waited 9 years doesn’t mean he would have done the same with his ex..and why get married cause u want to have grown up kids quickly have u ever wondered if a child dies,what if u rushed into a relationship only to discover some biological incompatibilities but still continued with hope of “gods grace” some women don’t want kids at all but just because of parents and society they just have to take it that way..nowadays you have so many people married but they aren’t really married in public u see them as the best couples but in the house they don’t even talk or meet eye to eye..some even tell their kids how they regret the marriage and of possible would go back and wait for the person they really loved but didn’t have all the time to wait

that exactly what happened. he could not get over her early but he too was not marry the girl at that time. the girl was from a rich family and he was afraid they will try to control his life

Anndrew:
this the sad truth...for men na finance

all what she said na naija problem cos we are backward in terms of growth. We like to do follow follow thats d main reason. No health issues involved at all! cos most of una want to make pre wedding pics and so on. The main problem we are using social media mostly in the wrong way in Naija. if u look most people's post online especially the women u will understand we are in deep trouble cos una taste recently is beyond normal!

Vanity upon vanity! Asan lori asan...oniwaasun na wipe, Asan ni!

Nigeria adopting Western system of civilization that they can't really uphold and play by its rule has really destroyed a lot of things...including the fabric of the society...that is why everything is so much in disarray.

In developed societies, you see church boys of 22, 23 getting married to their mate....non-religious and religious alike getting married immediately after college....why? Because their economy churns out job and job dey plenty except you no wan do.

One major thing that is causing all these bitter tales is finance. If there are jobs, no one will wait to marry his sweetheart.

Money stops nonsense like my brother does say.

If you are a young man still in the school and you are reading this....don't get into a relationship...Don't be pressured into a relationship because others are getting hooked. Fight that temptation and rather use that time to learn high-income skills....save your money in foreign currencies....and have a plan by saving towards it to migrate or begin your own startup...whatever you do, invest heavily in self-development.

Chibuzor93:




Let's work bro
My watsapp number
08137295645

Oga delete your number I no dae do whatsapp
Telegram only @revivedn

Moreign001:

One of the best comments I've seen here. I really appreciate you. Thanks a lot. At times we make decisions not because it's right, but at times because it's good at moment.

You are welcome and thank you.

Olayetan:
This makes me remember one of my ex who has been singing marriage in my ear but i told her then that, marriage isn't sure for me in 5years, just because, she doesn't want to wait, she met a guy during her service and conceived for the guy.

They did engagement and after 2months living with the guy, the guy do beat and maltreat her and she left the guy to her parents house and gave birth there, she then came back to me after a child to another man but i bluntly told her we can't be anymore...

What's the moral of this story? That she should have continued waiting for a dullard who isn't sure of his life in 5 years, or what? No sense at all.

[quote author=olawaley12 post=107849303] i day feel your iq baba mi one girl tried this with me person leave me for her ex because of audio marriage! I closed her matter asap she wan day do friendzone, monitoring and check up. I no day ever get her fucking time because woman plenty out there [/quote

U get bro.. Dats how real nigga play it .