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TheGift:
How do you know that is what She went to do?

what normal and responsible woman outside been an escort will leave hospital where her two kids are in admission to galivate on uber? Na only ashawo dey behave like that they dont want to loose the sharp 10k .all those vexing is a ploy so he wouldn't question her .

Well for me I like to know what my partner is up to so I can see things for what they really are. I will advise you to keep calm and act like nothing is fishy. Probe deep and further, be stealth and decisive to gather concrete evidence to ascertain or disable your suspicions. But most importantly brace up yourself for the outcome of your investigation.

Lovebliss2:
You have trust issues.
Work on it and don't destroy your marriage.

...and what is your message for the woman?

I'm not married oh but I don't keep this kind of things to myself.

I'd just look at my gf and say to her 'madam are you cheating on me' or 'madam I think you are cheating on me'

It'll hurt her if she's not. But the discussion that always follows will solve the issues and as well help me know if she is or not.

I personally don't understand why people keep this things to themselves and never confront their partner straight up. I mean you are married, why the fear to confront your spouse?

Marriage issues on nairaland is making some of us scared of venturing to it...

...also please pay more attention to the comments from men more than those from women as regards your concerns. Very important!

Favfables1:
That's a possibility...
Buh have you also considered the possibility that the wife hasn't given him any reason to trust her??

Lovebliss2 and many of the women on this platform don't reason clearly when it concerns women. They are more about "women supporting women" even when it is.morally wrong to do that.

They are not about morality, dignity or honor; they are more about blind unreasonable defence of their fellow women.

hashbag1:
Nlanders,
I have been married for 9 years now, amidst several incidences that gave me suspicions over my wife's infidelity. The one that happened of recent gave me nothing more than great suspicion over any other.

My daughter and son got infection, they were admitted into the hospital. On this faithful day, I was there with them and I left the hospital in the afternoon to get something for them to eat, I got back with the food and quickly rushed down to my office to tidy some work. I felt hungry and decided to drive out, on my way to the restaurant leads to the hospital, I was in traffic when I put a call through to my wife whom I asked how she was coping and how the kids were doing, while on call with her, I heard sounds of car horns so I asked if she was out, she said yes that she was going to get water across the stree, so i was like you shouldnt have stressed yourself since
the house maid was with her, next thing she yelled at me saying why am I making ascertion as to who should go get the water or not, I was like but that isnt a big deal to ask, she was like well the house girl have been the one running errands all day, I responded saying instead of yelling at me, you would have just responded by saying the above.

As a responsible and concerned father, I decided to suspend dinner and branch at the hospital which took me 8 mins to get there because of traffic. On getting to the hospital, lo and behold, my wife was not there, just the kids and the house maid. I asked the house maid where madam was, she said she stepped out without saying where she was going. I immediately put a call through to her. "Babes where are you at, just got here now and you are not here". She immediately hung up on me, I called back, she didnt pick, called her again didn't pick, waited few mins and called, she picked and yelled "why are you looking for me" I was like but you claimed you went to
go get water but its been up to 15mins and you are not here yet, next thing she said was I'm in a uber car, Wow uber car when you just said you went across the street to get water, how does being in uber car relate to that. I requested a video call, I hung up the normal call and called her on whatsapp call, she didn't pick, I called her back again on normal call and said you aren't picking, she responded saying am in uber car now, call me on video again, I did but she still didnt pick. So I decided not to bother since declaring her whereabout seems frutile. She called back on normal call saying she was on her way home to pick some her items to quickly do an advertising shoot to model to her customers in the hospital room, that she didnt want me to get mad at her reason why she didn't tell me before she left, I was like its not a big deal telling me that after which I have found out she never did go out there to buy water.

Husbands and fathers in the house, in this kind of situation, what could have been your thought? As for me, something was not just right, and the most damning part of all these is leaving the kids at the mercy of just the house maid, I feel if there is something she is hiding from me and leaving the kids like that is what
the issue of trust has led us to, I am left in amazement and total disappointment.

You are not in charge of ur home as a result of that, your wife had lost regards for you.

If she has not been doing it, just a step to start doing it, and to stop her,it remains a daunting task.

So because of this you automatically assumed she is cheating on you?

hashbag1:
Nlanders,
I have been married for 9 years now, amidst several incidences that gave me suspicions over my wife's infidelity. The one that happened of recent gave me nothing more than great suspicion over any other.

My daughter and son got infection, they were admitted into the hospital. On this faithful day, I was there with them and I left the hospital in the afternoon to get something for them to eat, I got back with the food and quickly rushed down to my office to tidy some work. I felt hungry and decided to drive out, on my way to the restaurant leads to the hospital, I was in traffic when I put a call through to my wife whom I asked how she was coping and how the kids were doing, while on call with her, I heard sounds of car horns so I asked if she was out, she said yes that



she was going to get water across the stree, so i was like you shouldnt have stressed yourself since
the house maid was with her, next thing she yelled at me saying why am I making ascertion as to who should go get the water or not, I was like but that isnt a big deal to ask, she was like well the house girl have been the one running errands all day, I responded saying instead of yelling at me, you would have just responded by saying the above.

As a responsible and concerned father, I decided to suspend dinner and branch at the hospital which took me 8 mins to get there because of traffic. On getting to the hospital, lo and behold, my wife was not there, just the kids and the house maid. I asked the house maid where madam was, she said she stepped out without saying where she was going. I immediately put a call through to her. "Babes where are you at, just got here now and you are not here". She immediately hung up on me, I called back, she didnt pick, called her again didn't pick, waited few mins and called, she picked and yelled "why are you looking for me" I was like but you claimed you went to
go get water but its been up to 15mins and you are not here yet, next thing she said was I'm in a uber car, Wow uber car when you just said you went across the street to get water, how does being in uber car relate to that. I requested a video call, I hung up the normal call and called her on whatsapp call, she didn't pick, I called her back again on normal call and said you aren't picking, she responded saying am in uber car now, call me on video again, I did but she still didnt pick. So I decided not to bother since declaring her whereabout seems frutile. She called back on normal call saying she was on her way home to pick some her items to quickly do an advertising shoot to model to her customers in the hospital room, that she didnt want me to get mad at her reason why she didn't tell me before she left, I was like its not a big deal telling me that after which I have found out she never did go out there to buy water.

Husbands and fathers in the house, in this kind of situation, what could have been your thought? As for me, something was not just right, and the most damning part of all these is leaving the kids at the mercy of just the house maid, I feel if there is something she is hiding from me and leaving the kids like that is what
the issue of trust has led us to, I am left in amazement and total disappointment.

He who alleges let him prove. Ur relationship has not been Rosy recently. That is understandable, but suspecting her of adultery should not be the option.

hashbag1 ..... 9 out of 10 women will cheat in marriage at some point, i did my research and it was accurate... yes 9 out of 10

hashbag1:
Nlanders,
I have been married for 9 years now, amidst several incidences that gave me suspicions over my wife's infidelity. The one that happened of recent gave me nothing more than great suspicion over any other.

My daughter and son got infection, they were admitted into the hospital. On this faithful day, I was there with them and I left the hospital in the afternoon to get something for them to eat, I got back with the food and quickly rushed down to my office to tidy some work. I felt hungry and decided to drive out, on my way to the restaurant leads to the hospital, I was in traffic when I put a call through to my wife whom I asked how she was coping and how the kids were doing, while on call with her, I heard sounds of car horns so I asked if she was out, she said yes that she was going to get water across the stree, so i was like you shouldnt have stressed yourself since
the house maid was with her, next thing she yelled at me saying why am I making ascertion as to who should go get the water or not, I was like but that isnt a big deal to ask, she was like well the house girl have been the one running errands all day, I responded saying instead of yelling at me, you would have just responded by saying the above.

As a responsible and concerned father, I decided to suspend dinner and branch at the hospital which took me 8 mins to get there because of traffic. On getting to the hospital, lo and behold, my wife was not there, just the kids and the house maid. I asked the house maid where madam was, she said she stepped out without saying where she was going. I immediately put a call through to her. "Babes where are you at, just got here now and you are not here". She immediately hung up on me, I called back, she didnt pick, called her again didn't pick, waited few mins and called, she picked and yelled "why are you looking for me" I was like but you claimed you went to
go get water but its been up to 15mins and you are not here yet, next thing she said was I'm in a uber car, Wow uber car when you just said you went across the street to get water, how does being in uber car relate to that. I requested a video call, I hung up the normal call and called her on whatsapp call, she didn't pick, I called her back again on normal call and said you aren't picking, she responded saying am in uber car now, call me on video again, I did but she still didnt pick. So I decided not to bother since declaring her whereabout seems frutile. She called back on normal call saying she was on her way home to pick some her items to quickly do an advertising shoot to model to her customers in the hospital room, that she didnt want me to get mad at her reason why she didn't tell me before she left, I was like its not a big deal telling me that after which I have found out she never did go out there to buy water.

Husbands and fathers in the house, in this kind of situation, what could have been your thought? As for me, something was not just right, and the most damning part of all these is leaving the kids at the mercy of just the house maid, I feel if there is something she is hiding from me and leaving the kids like that is what
the issue of trust has led us to, I am left in amazement and total disappointment.

something looks fishy though. I will suggest you track her calls and chat for that could give you a better assurance

aminusodiq:
similar to what my friends gf did to him. My guy paid for her transport to visit her school because she needed to collect her certificate.

Babe reach ogun, babe no gree pick call again. When she picks, she'll yell and drop within 2 secs. I tried calling too, but she never picked till the following morning. Guess what, she was online and replying texts after some hours.

Now i told my guy to request for a video call, and na where wahala. Begin be that. Shes someone who would do v.call without even asking on a norm. But on this day she said she was on queue and cant pick call.
Guess what? She was on queue from 10am till 6pm as she never picked any of those calls.

Well i adviced my guy to leave her alone and wait till she return before we do our own counter attack. On the third day... She called when she reached the park and still had the odercity to request for return transport. ... Request outrightly denied.

Conclusion: me and my friend already made a plan for her.... Guy already let go of all issues and they are back to normal, no more free money and gifts. But, according to my friend. She has a juicy pusssy and shes still useful. She'll forever remain a side chick and shes only meant for fucking, till she realise the game herself. She lives in close proximity, and shes the best fit for that . She came last sunday though they were fucking tirelessly while i listened to the werey ringtone in the siting room.

I once told her to ask for cheating clues next time.... Shes a very poor cheater!!!

Na queue wey dey go heaven she dey.

Cheating is not only when you start sleeping with another person, the act of lying & secrecy to your husband or spouse is cheating for me.

The fact that she lied about her whereabout is not a proof that she is with another man. Did something else happen to make you feel she is cheating?
Personally, if my kids are hospitalized, i stay with them 24/7. I don’t even leave them alone with their dad to attend to whatever business because i can care for them better. But not everyone can act that way. She said she knew you’ll be pissed that she is attending to business while the kids are at the hospital that is why she lied. Give her the benefit of the doubt and query her for her actions and for lying.
But do not accuse her outrightly of cheating. Only a very foolish and irresponsible woman will leave her sick kids to see a lover. If you have reasons to believe she is unfaithful then do your findings and investigate. If she is truly cheating and you accuse her without proof, she will deny and turn it on your head. Its you that will end up being the bad person. Monitor her and get proof that she won’t be able to deny.
A marriage without trust is heading for disaster by the way.

hashbag1:
Nlanders,
I have been married for 9 years now, amidst several incidences that gave me suspicions over my wife's infidelity. The one that happened of recent gave me nothing more than great suspicion over any other.

My daughter and son got infection, they were admitted into the hospital. On this faithful day, I was there with them and I left the hospital in the afternoon to get something for them to eat, I got back with the food and quickly rushed down to my office to tidy some work. I felt hungry and decided to drive out, on my way to the restaurant leads to the hospital, I was in traffic when I put a call through to my wife whom I asked how she was coping and how the kids were doing, while on call with her, I heard sounds of car horns so I asked if she was out, she said yes that she was going to get water across the stree, so i was like you shouldnt have stressed yourself since
the house maid was with her, next thing she yelled at me saying why am I making ascertion as to who should go get the water or not, I was like but that isnt a big deal to ask, she was like well the house girl have been the one running errands all day, I responded saying instead of yelling at me, you would have just responded by saying the above.

As a responsible and concerned father, I decided to suspend dinner and branch at the hospital which took me 8 mins to get there because of traffic. On getting to the hospital, lo and behold, my wife was not there, just the kids and the house maid. I asked the house maid where madam was, she said she stepped out without saying where she was going. I immediately put a call through to her. "Babes where are you at, just got here now and you are not here". She immediately hung up on me, I called back, she didnt pick, called her again didn't pick, waited few mins and called, she picked and yelled "why are you looking for me" I was like but you claimed you went to
go get water but its been up to 15mins and you are not here yet, next thing she said was I'm in a uber car, Wow uber car when you just said you went across the street to get water, how does being in uber car relate to that. I requested a video call, I hung up the normal call and called her on whatsapp call, she didn't pick, I called her back again on normal call and said you aren't picking, she responded saying am in uber car now, call me on video again, I did but she still didnt pick. So I decided not to bother since declaring her whereabout seems frutile. She called back on normal call saying she was on her way home to pick some her items to quickly do an advertising shoot to model to her customers in the hospital room, that she didnt want me to get mad at her reason why she didn't tell me before she left, I was like its not a big deal telling me that after which I have found out she never did go out there to buy water.

Husbands and fathers in the house, in this kind of situation, what could have been your thought? As for me, something was not just right, and the most damning part of all these is leaving the kids at the mercy of just the house maid, I feel if there is something she is hiding from me and leaving the kids like that is what
the issue of trust has led us to, I am left in amazement and total disappointment.

Your wife way no pure... Hack her phone and monitor your

Take those children for DNA test and again Separate from that woman if not your name na sorry for your old age she is a bad type

My concern is which responsible mother will lie and abandon ha kids for one shooting to another. Someone said it seems like ha hubby never trusted his wife but forget that just what she did alone, all fingers point at her for questioning based on ha actions. Even those claiming what dey are not will even do worst things. Anyways Oga Shud handle dis wit care

hashbag1:
Nlanders,
I have been married for 9 years now, amidst several incidences that gave me suspicions over my wife's infidelity. The one that happened of recent gave me nothing more than great suspicion over any other.

My daughter and son got infection, they were admitted into the hospital. On this faithful day, I was there with them and I left the hospital in the afternoon to get something for them to eat, I got back with the food and quickly rushed down to my office to tidy some work. I felt hungry and decided to drive out, on my way to the restaurant leads to the hospital, I was in traffic when I put a call through to my wife whom I asked how she was coping and how the kids were doing, while on call with her, I heard sounds of car horns so I asked if she was out, she said yes that she was going to get water across the stree, so i was like you shouldnt have stressed yourself since
the house maid was with her, next thing she yelled at me saying why am I making ascertion as to who should go get the water or not, I was like but that isnt a big deal to ask, she was like well the house girl have been the one running errands all day, I responded saying instead of yelling at me, you would have just responded by saying the above.

As a responsible and concerned father, I decided to suspend dinner and branch at the hospital which took me 8 mins to get there because of traffic. On getting to the hospital, lo and behold, my wife was not there, just the kids and the house maid. I asked the house maid where madam was, she said she stepped out without saying where she was going. I immediately put a call through to her. "Babes where are you at, just got here now and you are not here". She immediately hung up on me, I called back, she didnt pick, called her again didn't pick, waited few mins and called, she picked and yelled "why are you looking for me" I was like but you claimed you went to
go get water but its been up to 15mins and you are not here yet, next thing she said was I'm in a uber car, Wow uber car when you just said you went across the street to get water, how does being in uber car relate to that. I requested a video call, I hung up the normal call and called her on whatsapp call, she didn't pick, I called her back again on normal call and said you aren't picking, she responded saying am in uber car now, call me on video again, I did but she still didnt pick. So I decided not to bother since declaring her whereabout seems frutile. She called back on normal call saying she was on her way home to pick some her items to quickly do an advertising shoot to model to her customers in the hospital room, that she didnt want me to get mad at her reason why she didn't tell me before she left, I was like its not a big deal telling me that after which I have found out she never did go out there to buy water.

Husbands and fathers in the house, in this kind of situation, what could have been your thought? As for me, something was not just right, and the most damning part of all these is leaving the kids at the mercy of just the house maid, I feel if there is something she is hiding from me and leaving the kids like that is what
the issue of trust has led us to, I am left in amazement and total disappointment.

I'm not a married man but from my experience with the opposite sex so far, I have learnt not to put my trust in any woman, even my future wife.
I have configured my mind that my girlfriend or wife may cheat on me.
No matter how rich, handsome or good in bed you are, a cheat will always cheat.
You can't change that, it's a basic animal instinct.
I hope you are not that family oriented man.
Because most responsible fathers, husbands are the worst treated people.
This is because, women are animalistically (permit me to use that word) wired to assume a caring, responsible, home-oriented man as a weakling.
Women tend to respect and impress irresponsible men that doesn't give much Bleep about their lives.
Women respect men that doesn't give them attention.
Women love men that make them feel less insecure about their looks.
Women love men that bleeps them like a stallion.
My advice: Ignore her suspicious moves.
Stop stalking her.
Don't be emotional attached to her.
Don't beg her for sex.
Instead of you to beg for sex, you masturbate in your privacy.
Treat yourself right, wear good clothes, nice perfume.
Eat good meals groom yourself.
Act like you don't fancy her beauty again.
Provide the home basic needs like foods stuffs, house rents, light bills, etc.
Stop! giving your kids too much attention( over pampering)
This is a motherly instinct.
A man that does that is not an alpha.
But still be a responsible man, not a weakling.
Stop! Attaching emotions to relationships.
It is unmanly to attach emotions to a relationship.
Stop alcohol consumption, include fruits in your daily diet.
Reduce ur sugar consumption.
Bleep her like stallion.
Be an alpha, be in charge.
Build your self confidence.
Stop making yourself so insecure in the presence of a woman.
Good luck.

personally i have never met anybody who likes to eat the same food everyday till the end of life.

All i would ask a woman is to do it with respect, and not close to home.

Life and relationships get so much easier when we accept that we human being are both angel and beast all in one, and variations there of.

Cheat back with the house maid you go dey alright

Better do a paternal DNA tests on those kids

Although this is a bad omen but you haven't caught her red handed

But I think you have check your man management

Of your wife can be yelling and lying and not taking the children as priority

Something is wrong

Give her a stern warning

Oga go and call 'Cheaters'

This is not enough reason to suspect your wife of 9 years, except she has given you reasons to suspect her in the past.
She may have lied because she knew you will get upset with her for leaving the kids.

Anyway, I believe she is tensed and under pressure. I haven't seen any reason to suspect her from this story. Let sleeping dogs lie.

Kobojunkiee:
Dude, this your conversation with your wife sounded more like an interrogation session to me. If say na me be her, I for turn my phone off from the time you started querying my decision to go get water across the street. For real, interrogations of that kind, and from a so-called love one... I no dey do at all.

Something was not right about what exactly that you literally took to interrogating your wife's every move when it wasn't as if your kids were abandoned or something? The maid was with them so... Was she meant to report her every movement to you or something?

Leaving the kids at the mercy of the maid? Are you for real? If you can't leave your kids with your maid, what do you have a maid for?

What should a man do if the wife ask, "who is folaqueen"?

Should the man yell at her?

PS: i only used folaqueen to avoid mentioning someone's name directly.

Boss the problem with humans is knowing the truth, but looking for subtle ways to tell yourself that isn't the truth...

Iyaebe:
If this is all you've got to accuse her of infidelity then go work on your mindset because you've got no proof and evidence.

any one wey marry this one marry sorrow

Iyaebe:
If this is all you've got to accuse her of infidelity then go work on your mindset because you've got no proof and evidence.

u said my mind.

She went to collect one hand and make small change. They re all the same

oldtruth:
What to say? You are apparently not a real African man. Let me tell you straight up. Real men controls. You are obviously not in control. Infact I wonder where you people see equality in marriage. The West don't even practice it. The FACT is that; "you are USELESS to your woman".

Ha!

Skyfornia:
You don't trust that woman one bit...so what are you still doing with her? I'm even irritated with your actions...why let your marriage get to this level ? Has she done anything in the past that prompted you to start questioning her moves?

Personally once trust is lost in a relationship, then it is no longer worth it.

Trust u said why does she have to lie why can't she come straight to her husband