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Iyaebe:
If this is all you've got to accuse her of infidelity then go work on your mindset because you've got no proof and evidence.

my friend shut up, it disguste me when people know what is really going on but trying to act defensive.

One thing I've learned is that once a woman is caught red handed her first line of defense is to immediately look like you are the one at fault by screaming and shouting. That part of the video call that she didnt pick believe you me sir, you have your answer there. Just go and sleep

She's definitely cheating.. Why didn't she explain all the modeling stuff when he called her after he got to the hospital?
All the while she didn't pick she was thinking of a lie to fit the situation.
He called her video call and she declined it are you kidding me?
There's no such thing as the man has trust issues, she's been cheating and the man is suspicious of it.

I know its hard to wrap your head around the fact that your wife is cheating and she will still come back to tell you "babe i love you" when you clearly see through all her lies.
Even if you do decide to cheat also it wont be from ur heart it will just be to even it. Because clearly you love her more than she loves you. Focus on your kids boss( hashbag1) and have an intelligent side chick that know you are married so you can flirt with her.

hashbag1:
Guys, blv me its not like am reading all comments here, just digging into the real comments not just some women support women comments or some small pikin wey never
grow balls yet. I have some few points to clear the air here:

1: Majority of what I have seen here so far boils down to hack her phone, put a spy and so on and so forth,based on my previous statement that we have had series of
issues that points towards infidelity, so the issue of phone tracking even though i didnt make use of sophisticated software, she got to know so phone is not even
what I can use right now, she has upgraded from that. However I know if access is granted to listen to her calls, I def would get evidence.

2: I have done DNA 4 years ago, both kids are mine.

3: Yes there have been trust issues from wayback beginning from where i found out that she saved her main ex number as another name and lied
on her mothers grave that they never spoke where call logs showed otherwise amongst plenty other incidences

4: I understand people saying I would have calmed down when i found out she wasnt in the hospital, the thought of her hiding something from me wasnt what roused
my actions, but that she left the kids with the maid, some people here saying leaving kids with maid isnt a big deal, isnt this same nairaland where we
read stories of maids abducting kids? I can never in this life risk such.

Now let me give a clearer version of what gave me the intution that something was up. That very morning on this faithful day, she had called me she was coming home
to bath so she can go back, I was like bae, plz i will be coming down there now to represent you, then u can leave, she was like no her body itches that she cant wait
i was like oh well, I will call the hospital to ensure that they watch over the kids since they will be left with the house maid, lo and behold after hanging up with
her, 3 mins later she stepped in. I was like so u already left even before calling me, she was like yea i couldnt wait. Now for you guys saying she probably
didnt want to get me mad by not telling me she went home, what happened to calling me and say bae i need to quickly get home to pick my modelling stuff, come stay while
i leave, but hell naw she didnt. Now what sparked my major suspicion was that, guys I know this madam well, if at any point she was hiding anything from me, and I have evidence
that shes telling a lie, she will immediately own up and say ok i lied, in the situation that she was actually in the uber as of the time I called her n asked
where she was, I swear guys she will immediately tell me shes on her way home and will gladly take my video call.

But in this case, when i called her, she was in a silent environment, call it interrogation or whatever but i know what am talking about, then she hung up immediately, what sign
does that immediate hanging up gives? Shes rushing to quickly gather herself together and leave the scene shes at because she knows i will request a video call.
The second and third call i put through that she didnt pick goes to show shes taking more time to gather herself to leave the scene. Then next time she picks
and then says am in uber, call me now on video shows to me that the uber had picked her up, waited for her to get done and head to whatever destination she was heading
before she heads back to the hospital, and by virtue of not picking the video call in the uber means she knows def well that I will ask that she shows me the
enviroment where she was at, because she told me the uber guy already reached the house, because I called security and they said she has not come home yet. All shades
of lies came through that really stink harder than what I have never experienced before. Guys talking about evidence, to get evidence from a smart cheating or
secretive partner is really hard, most especially in this hard Lagos where u need to work hard day and night to survive. As of now, November trip on her app is deleted,while
september and previous months shows there which u cant do on ur own unless you contact the company to delete it, to me thats trying to avoid getting info from the ride, because it was the same cab that picked her up that also dropped her back
at the hospital. Marriage is something else my brother, at this point, I may need to get me a side chic that will wallow away these worries and pain i feel
whenever these type of incident come up.

Well you're right, cheating spouses do not stop. They only get smarter.

Look at her deleting her trip history because she knows you will check. She evolved from saving her exes number with a different name and swore to have never contacted him until she was caught red-handed.

Unfortunately you are already in a marriage with her, the only silver lining I see from your story so far is that your kids are CONFIRMED to be yours.

You said from the past and this particular issue, you are suspecting your wife. She is not sincere. As a married man, I will advise that you set a trap for her before you end up bringing up children that are not yours.

A man must be void of emotions when it's comes to matter of infidelity. Because from the day your wife start seeing another man, your grave is beside you.

Keep everything that have to do with emotions aside and deal with this issue the same way you work to bring food to her table, otherwise you will regret these little signs you are seeing today.

In fact, if you have enough go for DNA test for your children secretly.

From this picture you painted, she was really eating dick somewhere while her children were dying in hospital. What kind of honest and responsible woman will do that? Set a trap for her before she kill you.

Lovebliss2:
You have trust issues.
Work on it and don't destroy your marriage.

With all what he explained u think he has trust issue even with the fact that the woman is lying and couldn’t even answer video call and was turning him around smh I guess is a case of women supporting women that don’t exist.

TheKingIsHere:
You are the first person that shows real logical reason.

So many other replies especially on the front page are filled with dimwits

Thanks

This is so heartbreaking...

Kobojunkiee:
So....?

did you two ever actually find hard evidence that she cheated on that trip or are you boys simply content concluding she did simply on grounds that she did not pick up phone or video chat you when you wanted her to?

What hard evidence guy? This your mumu nor too much so? Evidence is staring u in the face and u still looking for one smh u are obviously one of those Simpsons and gullibles. But don’t worry experience will teach u bitter lessons

Chummynoni:
@all men. You wanna know if your wife cheats?. Get hold of her phone, and ask for her password if she use one. The interest is not about checking her phone, but in checking her countenance. I hope I solve your puzzle? Lol

What if she refuses to give you her password but instead demands that she unlocks it herself and gives the phone to you right away in your very presence?

Raph3177:
What hard evidence guy? This your mumu nor too much so? Evidence is staring u in the face and u still looking for one smh u are obviously one of those Simpsons and gullibles. But don’t worry experience will teach u bitter lessons

I hope you know as OP is looking for solutions to his problems. Smart cheaters are reading to upgrade their game.

Take note of the ones seeking "hard evidence".

ThinkSmarter:
i am speaking on the context of sexual relationship

I'm trying to tell you that, you shouldn't be gender bias in ur opinions.

The way female disappointed is the same way guys do. Try to learn how to balance ur opinions on issue raised.

Iyaebe:
If this is all you've got to accuse her of infidelity then go work on your mindset because you've got no proof and evidence.

Oh I see where you're coming from

Melkizedeck:
What if she refuses to give you her password but instead demands that she unlocks it herself and gives the phone to you right away in your very presence?

she is cheating brother. It is a psychological something. She is covering her track i.e she deletes her chats, and she knows you can't catch her unaware if you don't know her password. Think bro, think
It is a must for married couple to know each other passwords, not for investigative work, but a necessity .


Another clue to know if your wife cheats, don't focus on her WhatsApp, focus on her Facebook instead




@OP, your wife is a cheat, or a potential cheat. Any woman/man that lies about location to her/his husband/wife is a potential cheat

Focus on your health and that of your kids, forget woman.

Dminister:
Once you start having the feelings your spouse is cheating just know it’s happening. This happened to me many times until I caught her red handed.

First sign; She was always on the phone with her Boss even after she closes from work.

Second sign; She suddenly gets angry over little things not enough to make her angry.

Third sign; The day she did it with her Boss. On Valentines Day Madam dresses up and went to work only to returned from work seeing her in casual clothes, trousers and a top. Not knowing she put those clothes in her when she left the house to work. I stayed in the room to see her UnCloth so that I could really confirm it. Na so I discovered madam no wear pant come back o! Omo, my eyes see wonderment! Person wey wear pant before she wear her clothes begin nag and shout as I asked her watin happened to her pant.

Fourth sign; This na the sending away as I caught both of them inside her Boss’s car kissing and smooching. I almost get heart attack at the sight of it. Na then I know say I be strong man because I just walked away.



Things dey happen!

WTF? You were smart enough to work on your instinct! Hope you've not had kids with her?

You should have employed a matured and pretty maid. That maid should have been your wife.

hashbag1:
Guys, blv me its not like am reading all comments here, just digging into the real comments not just some women support women comments or some small pikin wey never
grow balls yet. I have some few points to clear the air here:

1: Majority of what I have seen here so far boils down to hack her phone, put a spy and so on and so forth,based on my previous statement that we have had series of
issues that points towards infidelity, so the issue of phone tracking even though i didnt make use of sophisticated software, she got to know so phone is not even
what I can use right now, she has upgraded from that. However I know if access is granted to listen to her calls, I def would get evidence.

2: I have done DNA 4 years ago, both kids are mine.

3: Yes there have been trust issues from wayback beginning from where i found out that she saved her main ex number as another name and lied
on her mothers grave that they never spoke where call logs showed otherwise amongst plenty other incidences

4: I understand people saying I would have calmed down when i found out she wasnt in the hospital, the thought of her hiding something from me wasnt what roused
my actions, but that she left the kids with the maid, some people here saying leaving kids with maid isnt a big deal, isnt this same nairaland where we
read stories of maids abducting kids? I can never in this life risk such.

Now let me give a clearer version of what gave me the intution that something was up. That very morning on this faithful day, she had called me she was coming home
to bath so she can go back, I was like bae, plz i will be coming down there now to represent you, then u can leave, she was like no her body itches that she cant wait
i was like oh well, I will call the hospital to ensure that they watch over the kids since they will be left with the house maid, lo and behold after hanging up with
her, 3 mins later she stepped in. I was like so u already left even before calling me, she was like yea i couldnt wait. Now for you guys saying she probably
didnt want to get me mad by not telling me she went home, what happened to calling me and say bae i need to quickly get home to pick my modelling stuff, come stay while
i leave, but hell naw she didnt. Now what sparked my major suspicion was that, guys I know this madam well, if at any point she was hiding anything from me, and I have evidence
that shes telling a lie, she will immediately own up and say ok i lied, in the situation that she was actually in the uber as of the time I called her n asked
where she was, I swear guys she will immediately tell me shes on her way home and will gladly take my video call.

But in this case, when i called her, she was in a silent environment, call it interrogation or whatever but i know what am talking about, then she hung up immediately, what sign
does that immediate hanging up gives? Shes rushing to quickly gather herself together and leave the scene shes at because she knows i will request a video call.
The second and third call i put through that she didnt pick goes to show shes taking more time to gather herself to leave the scene. Then next time she picks
and then says am in uber, call me now on video shows to me that the uber had picked her up, waited for her to get done and head to whatever destination she was heading
before she heads back to the hospital, and by virtue of not picking the video call in the uber means she knows def well that I will ask that she shows me the
enviroment where she was at, because she told me the uber guy already reached the house, because I called security and they said she has not come home yet. All shades
of lies came through that really stink harder than what I have never experienced before. Guys talking about evidence, to get evidence from a smart cheating or
secretive partner is really hard, most especially in this hard Lagos where u need to work hard day and night to survive. As of now, November trip on her app is deleted,while
september and previous months shows there which u cant do on ur own unless you contact the company to delete it, to me thats trying to avoid getting info from the ride, because it was the same cab that picked her up that also dropped her back
at the hospital. Marriage is something else my brother, at this point, I may need to get me a side chic that will wallow away these worries and pain i feel
whenever these type of incident come up.

I'd rather divorce a cheating wife than sleep in the same bed with her! Your woman is promiscuous and you need to unleash her back into the street! She's got no respect for you, the kids and the marriage!

Iyaebe:
If this is all you've got to accuse her of infidelity then go work on your mindset because you've got no proof and evidence.

So what about the lies? The cover-ups? The inconsistent narratives? You don't do that to the man you love. Truthfulness and being plain is not exclusively for men. Its a 2 way thing. When you begin to say A in a marriage and your man cannot believe it for obvious reasons, then the relationship is gone. If your man behaves just like the narrator's wife did, i am sure it will be a red flag situation. You women are really terrible! And irredeemably selfish.

MufasaLion:
WTF? You were smart enough to work on your instinct! Hope you've not had kids with her?

No, I thank God it didn’t happened

topiiiiiiii:
this sound scary chai what did you later do to her

Sent her out of my house

Dminister:
No, I thank God it didn’t happened

Lucky you! She was for the street!

I pity men who say, 'me I trust my wife 100%'. Do you know how many trust worthy wifes have tried to fuuuuck me both at work place and outside? If you want to live long in life, better don't trust anyone.

Skyfornia:
You don't trust that woman one bit...so what are you still doing with her? I'm even irritated with your actions...why let your marriage get to this level ? Has she done anything in the past that prompted you to start questioning her moves?

Personally once trust is lost in a relationship, then it is no longer worth it.

What the hell is wrong with humans like you for God's sake. Dude trusted his wife all these years, and he just caught her red-handed telling some blue lies. She declined his request for a video call more than once for God's sake
What's wrong with you

MufasaLion:
Lucky you! She was for the street!

And the street was for her

Dminister:
And the street was for her

Right!

Kobojunkiee:
Dude, this your conversation with your wife sounded more like an interrogation session to me. If say na me be her, I for turn my phone off from the time you started querying my decision to go get water across the street. For real, interrogations of that kind, and from a so-called love one... I no dey do at all.

Something was not right about what exactly that you literally took to interrogating your wife's every move when it wasn't as if your kids were abandoned or something? The maid was with them so... Was she meant to report her every movement to you or something?

Leaving the kids at the mercy of the maid? Are you for real? If you can't leave your kids with your maid, what do you have a maid for?

People are really dumb in this life, and you are one of them

Dminister:
Sent her out of my house

lolzzz this sounds like a movie to me so such really happens wow so sorry!

hashbag1:
Nlanders,
I have been married for 9 years now, amidst several incidences that gave me suspicions over my wife's infidelity. The one that happened of recent gave me nothing more than great suspicion over any other.

My daughter and son got infection, they were admitted into the hospital. On this faithful day, I was there with them and I left the hospital in the afternoon to get something for them to eat, I got back with the food and quickly rushed down to my office to tidy some work. I felt hungry and decided to drive out, on my way to the restaurant leads to the hospital, I was in traffic when I put a call through to my wife whom I asked how she was coping and how the kids were doing, while on call with her, I heard sounds of car horns so I asked if she was out, she said yes that she was going to get water across the stree, so i was like you shouldnt have stressed yourself since
the house maid was with her, next thing she yelled at me saying why am I making ascertion as to who should go get the water or not, I was like but that isnt a big deal to ask, she was like well the house girl have been the one running errands all day, I responded saying instead of yelling at me, you would have just responded by saying the above.

As a responsible and concerned father, I decided to suspend dinner and branch at the hospital which took me 8 mins to get there because of traffic. On getting to the hospital, lo and behold, my wife was not there, just the kids and the house maid. I asked the house maid where madam was, she said she stepped out without saying where she was going. I immediately put a call through to her. "Babes where are you at, just got here now and you are not here". She immediately hung up on me, I called back, she didnt pick, called her again didn't pick, waited few mins and called, she picked and yelled "why are you looking for me" I was like but you claimed you went to
go get water but its been up to 15mins and you are not here yet, next thing she said was I'm in a uber car, Wow uber car when you just said you went across the street to get water, how does being in uber car relate to that. I requested a video call, I hung up the normal call and called her on whatsapp call, she didn't pick, I called her back again on normal call and said you aren't picking, she responded saying am in uber car now, call me on video again, I did but she still didnt pick. So I decided not to bother since declaring her whereabout seems frutile. She called back on normal call saying she was on her way home to pick some her items to quickly do an advertising shoot to model to her customers in the hospital room, that she didnt want me to get mad at her reason why she didn't tell me before she left, I was like its not a big deal telling me that after which I have found out she never did go out there to buy water.

Husbands and fathers in the house, in this kind of situation, what could have been your thought? As for me, something was not just right, and the most damning part of all these is leaving the kids at the mercy of just the house maid, I feel if there is something she is hiding from me and leaving the kids like that is what
the issue of trust has led us to, I am left in amazement and total disappointment.

Ur wife must cheat because women and prick are like butter and bread....I don Bleep many people wives

hashbag1:
Nlanders,
I have been married for 9 years now, amidst several incidences that gave me suspicions over my wife's infidelity. The one that happened of recent gave me nothing more than great suspicion over any other.

My daughter and son got infection, they were admitted into the hospital. On this faithful day, I was there with them and I left the hospital in the afternoon to get something for them to eat, I got back with the food and quickly rushed down to my office to tidy some work. I felt hungry and decided to drive out, on my way to the restaurant leads to the hospital, I was in traffic when I put a call through to my wife whom I asked how she was coping and how the kids were doing, while on call with her, I heard sounds of car horns so I asked if she was out, she said yes that she was going to get water across the stree, so i was like you shouldnt have stressed yourself since
the house maid was with her, next thing she yelled at me saying why am I making ascertion as to who should go get the water or not, I was like but that isnt a big deal to ask, she was like well the house girl have been the one running errands all day, I responded saying instead of yelling at me, you would have just responded by saying the above.

As a responsible and concerned father, I decided to suspend dinner and branch at the hospital which took me 8 mins to get there because of traffic. On getting to the hospital, lo and behold, my wife was not there, just the kids and the house maid. I asked the house maid where madam was, she said she stepped out without saying where she was going. I immediately put a call through to her. "Babes where are you at, just got here now and you are not here". She immediately hung up on me, I called back, she didnt pick, called her again didn't pick, waited few mins and called, she picked and yelled "why are you looking for me" I was like but you claimed you went to
go get water but its been up to 15mins and you are not here yet, next thing she said was I'm in a uber car, Wow uber car when you just said you went across the street to get water, how does being in uber car relate to that. I requested a video call, I hung up the normal call and called her on whatsapp call, she didn't pick, I called her back again on normal call and said you aren't picking, she responded saying am in uber car now, call me on video again, I did but she still didnt pick. So I decided not to bother since declaring her whereabout seems frutile. She called back on normal call saying she was on her way home to pick some her items to quickly do an advertising shoot to model to her customers in the hospital room, that she didnt want me to get mad at her reason why she didn't tell me before she left, I was like its not a big deal telling me that after which I have found out she never did go out there to buy water.

Husbands and fathers in the house, in this kind of situation, what could have been your thought? As for me, something was not just right, and the most damning part of all these is leaving the kids at the mercy of just the house maid, I feel if there is something she is hiding from me and leaving the kids like that is what
the issue of trust has led us to, I am left in amazement and total disappointment.

The simple truth is , your wife is irresponsible.

How can you abandon your sick children in the hospital and go to God knows where?

I think you need to sit her down and talk eye ball to eyes ball. Let her tell you the reasons for her actions

Wish you guys best of luck

I'm a husband and a father. From your narration, permit me to say you're being overprotective.

You see, while dealing with women you don't mount pressure.

She might be true but telling you she wanted to get stuff for her intending customer in the hospital.

Your reason is too petty to conclude she cheats.

Try and work on your mindset.

Trust is a vital tool in marriage. Once it's lost, there'll be issues!

larryking540:
there are lots of device on jumia to get for audio device,I think op should get one of those ,,,, ladies who spend so much time on social media are definitely going to fail this test ,,,for a woman to start cheating na hi hi for Facebook e take day start ,and compliment from strangers online

You are very experienced. Seriously, woman have fish brain. Can you imagine that some made a woman fall for him by giving her a seed of beans as a token of love.