But like seriously
Why can't we just be happier in a relationship ?
What do we seriously need to do that can make a relationship have a happy ending, even if we need to separate must we end it in sorrow and hatred all the time ?
I do imagine all this question and most times i get over it but telling myself maybe she's not the right one 4 me but NO ! damn fucking no bro.
we most times don't find d right word's to decribe what really cuz breakup's in most relationship's we do create wit our partner's, we get older everyday by day, and yet we do jump into relationship to another relationship within some month's or yrs. but wat really causes it, is it lack of money,understand,not satisfying each other on sexual needs or any of the above wat jus it the damn fucking problem to our early breakup's ? is this how we gonna train ourselves for marriage becuz no relationship no fucking marriage !! u can't just jump into marriage conclusion without understanding if ur partner is really down 4 it . JAH BLESS 4 NOW.

to be happy in a r/ship, we 1st need to enter in it for the right reasons....sadly, today the majority are dating for flimsy reasons thus they have no issuess with bailing out of that same r/ship in a sec...also, with all the online dating apps available, the value of a r/ship has diminished greatly....just get Tinder, match a with a babe, meet this stranger and fukc, then repeat tomorrow. why bother to get stuck with someone?! the effort is not there any longer, so something you get easy, you dont really value. remember that when there is too many options, people will be quick say:"fukc it" and go for the grass that is greener on the other side.

last but not least, times have changed, people dont have the same desire for a r/ship as back in the days. people today wanna have FUUUUUUUN, and think about being serious with someone much later.

Why taking it too personal?

Can't relate but I do feel your pain. But who do you this kind thing now ehn.

Check yourself very well

Bennysam:
Check yourself very well

Asin ?

yuping:
Can't relate but I do feel your pain. But who do you this kind thing now ehn.

No body bro just pouring out my point of view
I'm a cousellor therapist mostly on relationship, i settle a 2 month's old relationship today but to my greatest suprise i came back home feeling so emotional and remorseful about the whole issue today.
I hate seeing young ladies crying over a guy who does'nt care about her emotional feeling's or warfare it really hurt tho.

MrBrownJay1:
to be happy in a r/ship, we 1st need to enter in it for the right reasons....sadly, today the majority are dating for flimsy reasons thus they have no issuess with bailing out of that same r/ship in a sec...also, with all the online dating apps available, the value of a r/ship has diminished greatly....just get Tinder, match a with a babe, meet this stranger and fukc, then repeat tomorrow. why bother to get stuck with someone?! the effort is not there any longer, so something you get easy, you dont really value. remember that when there is too many options, people will be quick say:"fukc it" and go for the grass that is greener on the other side.

last but not least, times have changed, people dont have the same desire for a r/ship as back in the days. people today wanna have FUUUUUUUN, and think about being serious with someone much later.

Yea true but not every one is down 4 playing game's anymore (speaking 4rm experience)

Jayzel:
Yea true but not every one is down 4 playing game's anymore (speaking 4rm experience)

thats where a person needs to focus on WHO they meet, and make sure they have the same mindset as they do. just going on a few good dates does NOT mean you guys have any future together... sadly many make the mistake of believing that this is their future partner.

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram real matters. WTF MAN

Lol real matter's oo
Na BaBa JAH go save from different heart~break we dey face for this life mehn

Jayzel:

No body bro just pouring out my point of view
I'm a cousellor therapist mostly on relationship, i settle a 2 month's old relationship today but to my greatest suprise i came back home feeling so emotional and remorseful about the whole issue today.
I hate seeing young ladies crying over a guy who does'nt care about her emotional feeling's or warfare it really hurt tho.

Don't mean to derail or to be mean towards the ladies girls only cry and claim love when the man is wealthy, you will shock the lady might be lying.

Girls lack manners! And are prone to cheating

Op na sex be the game, love is the name.

A young lady in her middle 20's came crying to me that her 3 yrs of marriage is collasping, crying so hard that i got to take a break and return when she had calm down a lil bit.
Then she started crying again and was explaining herself to me saying her husband does'nt pass a nyt in their martimonial hus anymore always finding a reason to bring up a fight wit her and ending beating her merciessly in front of their 2 yrs old child .
Not dropping money 4 feeding and the warfare of their child and many more i could'nt remember
Wat baffled me the most was when she begged me to hook her up wit any single dude out there that does'nt mind her relationship statue. i was mouth pouring like 4 real ! ?
She was even ready to pay any amount it will cost her to be hooked up wit any man i could link her up with .
Life just weak me today mehn

Lol

Jayzel:

Asin ?

my brother asin ko asinwin ni

yuping:

Don't mean to derail or to be mean towards the ladies girls only cry and claim love when the man is wealthy, you will shock the lady might be lying.

I understand ur point , but this particular lady is of a wealthy background, so i don't think money is the problem here. And i can tell when a lady is in love like madly in love !

Everyone is just f*cked this days,from lust to insecurities to being toxic.... Different nonsense.

Film and Tv have ruined courtship culture, what do people take relationship for
They think it's chatting, sexing, gifting , eating out , snapping pictures

I keep saying this, if you're not dating to get married, you're wasting your time
If you can't marry your BF or GF within the next two years
You're wasting your time.

Feelings are not enough reason to be in a romantic relationship with someone.
Just because you have feelings doesn't mean , you deserve to be in a relationship with that person.

Our generation have failed to realize the importance of platonic relationships

Any small thing, I have feelings for you , I want us to start dating
WTF !!

You can have feelings for someone and not be in a relationship with them.
You can love someone and not be in a relationship with him/her


We really need to evaluate our feelings and emotions.
Someone that's not single and happy can never find happiness in a relationship.
The person old habits of being sad and angry would be shared with the partner .
And that Is enough to ruin the relationship .

You can't be a wicked person and expect to be in a happy relationship with a good person.
One person would seriously suffer and the relationship would crumble.

People should stop seeing relationships as coping mechanism or escape route from their individual problems.

You have anger issues, work on it
You have trust issues, work on it
You're promiscuous , work on it
You can't easily forgive , work on it
Don't look for someone that would love you like that.

No one would, the moment you start showing this traits , they would run !!!


Don't go into a relationship when you're struggling with your personality, it would only compound your problems

Because is build on lies, sex and benefits.

One thing y'all should know is that majority of persons that goes in to a relationship have personal motive/interest if not all.

Only few have real love and understanding for u which is hard to come by.

Lilsameey:
Everyone is just f*cked this days,from lust to insecurities to being toxic.... Different nonsense.

Our everyday life affect every~thing about our relationship, insecurities u say depend on the enviroment we build our foundation from .
NOTE: Wealthy background makes most relationship last

Jayzel:

I understand ur point , but this particular lady is of a wealthy background, so i don't think money is the problem here. And i can tell when a lady is in love like madly in love !

I just hope her age is not getting to evening news paper, because after enjoying the life of their head at young age they will start claiming love at older age, I'm just being blunt here ooo and thinking from all angle.

brosom:
Because is build on lies, sex and benefits.

One thing y'all should know is that majority of persons that goes in to a relationship have personal motive/interest if not all.

Only few have real love and understanding for u which is hard to come by.

There's no real love out there, we build the love ourselves to our standard
There's different btw affection (feeling's) and love. Emotional feeling's can be created easily when u like something special abt someone (talent or beauty)
Love can't be created easily cus it got to do with commitment and self desire frm both partner's
I Don't wanna go too deep into this lol

Relationships are like mirrors
They reveal to us , our characters and traits that we aren't aware of.

Example, you get into a relationship and your babe starts doing annoying stuffs, and each time it gets you pissed and you make a fuss about it.

That relationship is only revealing your anger issues to you.

Mind you, before you started dating, you were the calm and cool headed guy but now any small thing you're nagging.


Or the lady that Is insecure, then starts dating a guy that other ladies aggressively admire,
Such lady would just be worried and be creating problems out of her imaginations.

Instead of her to realize that the problem in the relationship is her insecurities, rather she keeps trying to convince herself and keeps looking for evidence to prove that the guy has done something wrong .


Many people don't realize that the issue with their relationship is actually their own doing.
The moment one realizes his error In the whole problem, one can just change attitudes
Like instead of me giving my babe silent treatment because of her nagging while don't I just hear her out then go out on a date with her after.
Such actions changes the whole dynamics, the babe would be confused , why didn't he react the typical way.

Relationships are opportunities to help us grow and become better people !!
Every relationship you go into, would expose one or more of your flaws .

It may be challenging to accept that you've done so many wrong things in the past.
But the moment you come to acceptance with your flaws and weakness
And work on improving yourself, you would solve a problem I your relationship.

And even if after all the sell evaluation and self improvement , the person is still challenging then you know you need to walk away and love the person from a distance.

Not all relationships have an happy ending.

This why you shouldn't use only feelings to determine who you want to go into a relationship with, so that when it ends, you won't feel like you've lost the best person you Ever found..

Rather you would have made yourself a better person, you would have known what clearly doesn't work for you and what you don't want in to next relationships.


Relationships is strictly meant for growth !!
Accept all the challenges that comes with it,

Control your feelings and emotions .
Remember their feelings, let them come and go .you don't need to act upon them .

You have feelings for someone, good.

It's enough reason , can you marry them, are they your type, do they share the same core values with you..


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Jayzel:

There's no real love out there, we build the love ourselves to our standard
There's different btw affection (feeling's) and love. Emotional feeling's can be created easily when u like something special abt someone (talent or beauty)
Love can't be created easily cus it got to do with commitment and self desire frm both partner's
I Don't wanna go too deep into this lol

You've said it all,

Like me now I pray never to love too deep ever again just for my sanity.

Jayzel:

Our everyday life affect every~thing about our relationship, insecurities u say depend on the enviroment we build our foundation from .
NOTE: Wealthy background makes most relationship last

The bolded is under probability, A mature reasonable girl that has a huge view of the future is what a guy needs not a fool who only knows to flex and do some non sort nonsense sh*ts, girls of nowadays are just about, drip, flex, sex and eat. Eat tomorrow's food today is what they know. There are still reasonable girls though.

yuping:

I just hope her age is not getting to evening news paper, because after enjoying the life of their head at young age they will start claiming love at older age, I'm just being blunt here ooo and thinking from all angle.

Lol not mostly all, most ladies out there have'nt experience wat we call relationship talk less of love, base on their strictly parent's who does'nt let them have their own way's. Most of them experience their first love or relationship when they get admitted into higher institution (university). so don't judge most lady out base on love issues most re still newbies depite their mature age

Jayzel:
But like seriously
Why can't we just be happier in a relationship ?
What do we seriously need to do that can make a relationship have a happy ending, even if we need to separate must we end it in sorrow and hatred all the time ?
I do imagine all this question and most times i get over it but telling myself maybe she's not the right one 4 me but NO ! damn fucking no bro.
we most times don't find d right word's to decribe what really cuz breakup's in most relationship's we do create wit our partner's, we get older everyday by day, and yet we do jump into relationship to another relationship within some month's or yrs. but wat really causes it, is it lack of money,understand,not satisfying each other on sexual needs or any of the above wat jus it the damn fucking problem to our early breakup's ? is this how we gonna train ourselves for marriage becuz no relationship no fucking marriage !! u can't just jump into marriage conclusion without understanding if ur partner is really down 4 it . JAH BLESS 4 NOW.

Because men cannot even handle and control their affairs anymore. No woman will stay faithful to a weak man cos d alpha ones will catch her attention... If you watch National Geographic you'll notice same pattern in animals.

Jayzel:

Lol not mostly all, most ladies out there have'nt experience wat we call relationship talk less of love, base on their strictly parent's who does'nt let them have their own way's. Most of them experience their first love or relationship when they get admitted into higher institution (university). so don't judge most lady out base on love issues most re still newbies depite their mature age

I'm just being careful this gender ehnnn, but anyway if a girls truly loves, you should go for her as a man, its in your best interest, its the man lost.

brosom:
You've said it all,

Like me now I pray never to love too deep ever again just for my sanity.

Loving too deep is risky tho, at least make it 50\50
To avoid suicide lol

Jayzel:

Loving too deep is risky tho, at least make it 50\50
To avoid suicide lol

hmm 50 is for my wife to be only, but 15 or 20 is/are girl friends .

Forget bro u no go understand the kind damage these genders don do person.