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Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by nedzuby: 6:56am On Nov 29, 2021

Datboredberry:
It takes two to tango... Be honest, Nigerian men and women have nothing to offer the other except for sex... Most of those mentioning it are men...

I agree! I created this thread as a test.... So many topics on this section bashing Nigerian women, I wanted to know if men had more to contribute too...

This generation is sex crazed! It's weird, sad and a bit pathetic...

The funny thing, you can ask this question without the relationship part... 'what do you have to offer to the society'...

I doubt if many would be proud to comment...

Nigeria is messed up... The system, the youths... everything...

I totally agree with you on this one. The first thing that comes in the mind of the boy is the shape of the lady, his imagination will be how he will be having sec with her and the show off among his friends.

The part of the lady will be, the money she will get, the phone the guy will buy for her, hair she will make and other expenses and also the show off among her female friends.

At the end you find out that there is no intellectual exchange. When real issues comes up they become confused because the foundation of the relationship was never built on solving real issues. That is when the guy will realized that the lady is only there for the money and the lady will also realize the guy is there for the sex and her body shape. The next they will both accusing themselves and at the end everything will scatter.

Sex and money shouldn't be the only thing that attracts you into relationship. Learn to build capacity, exchange ideas and also have goals to better each other

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by jornwhite: 6:56am On Nov 29, 2021

Teleprompter:
Why don't i see anyone mentioning gossiping?

Back in the day, the gossip that we can't share with others, we share with each other. We play games, gist and go out a lot. We cooked and cleaned together as well and studied and travelled.

That was all back in the day though...

with women gossip is a constant K, garri no need advert cheesy

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by jornwhite: 7:06am On Nov 29, 2021

placeofallure:
Marry your friend and you will have lots to do apart from sex.

Even when we were still dating, we've never been all about sex. We gist together and never get tired, we take evening strolls, we attend shows, concerts and events together. We play Ludo game, we watch movies together, he made me love Action movies and I sold Premier League love to him too.

Sometimes, he plays his guitar and I sing to the tunes. At times, I just listen to him play and sing. We compose songs together too and record it. We go out to eateries, make jest of ourselves over a meal and return home.

We've been married for about a decade now, things haven't changed much, we still gist into the night, he tells me about his day and I tell him mine. We still tease ourselves and run around the house. Our sex life is still intact, he's not my brother so we really can't take that part out. Relationships are amazing if you find the one.

Sounds to good to be true, even jack & rose can't keep all that activity up for 10yrs ... are you saying responsibilities & kids never happened.

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by ogawisdom(m): 7:22am On Nov 29, 2021

Quarrelling and fighting grin

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by jornwhite: 7:30am On Nov 29, 2021

JerryBizz:
The most important thing to most Nigerian youths (from 18-40 years) going by what they live talking about the most is SEX, SEX , and more what?? SEXXX!
DAZZ ALL
It's evidently clear by the number of comments that show how excited the readers where upon finding this topic.

Remove sex from marriage completely and guess how long it with last.

Now remove sex from dating n tell the difference between relationship & friendship ...

Youths talk about sex the most, cos no course or topic in the world does what sex does in r/ship.

Lets not forget naija gurlz mostly settle for men above them, weytin undergraduate gurl wan add to the life of her Engr boyfriend ... remove sex what should they be doing most

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by ImoleNaija: 7:33am On Nov 29, 2021

BigBashiru:
Me I hv sex with my close friends that is a Christian without marriage and I see nothing wrong with it

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Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by ImoleNaija: 7:36am On Nov 29, 2021

sharone21:
• WHEN TO AVOID SEX IN PREGNANCY
There are conditions where sex in pregnancy is not advised, they include:

1. PLACENTA PREVIA

This is when the placenta covers the gate of the womb called the cervix. Sex is not advised here because it could lead to life-threatening bleeding.

2. TWIN GESTATION..........

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Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Vickyguero17(m): 7:39am On Nov 29, 2021

Ogbotobo77:

Men get into relationships for sexual access..if women didn't have Vjays men wouldn't deal with women....women control access to sex...so men in turn give commitment to gain access to sexual exclusivity...cos women don't treat sex as an equal value exchange... they've always leveraged sex since time immemorial for compliance, resources,commitment,attention etc

nice right up very true so when you get access to it (sex) always apply the law of okoro �

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Nobody: 7:44am On Nov 29, 2021

jornwhite:

Remove sex from marriage completely and guess how long it with last.

Now remove sex from dating n tell the difference between relationship & friendship ...

Youths talk about sex the most, cos no course or topic in the world does what sex does in r/ship.

Lets not forget naija gurlz mostly settle for men above them, weytin undergraduate gurl wan add to the life of her Engr boyfriend ... remove sex what should they be doing most

So in conclusion, you are alluding to the notion that they are only good at offering sex ? grin

They will come for you soonest.
*Jokes *

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by 7victor(m): 8:06am On Nov 29, 2021

Ogbotobo77:

Men get into relationships for sexual access..if women didn't have Vjays men wouldn't deal with women....women control access to sex...so men in turn give commitment to gain access to sexual exclusivity...cos women don't treat sex as an equal value exchange... they've always leveraged sex since time immemorial for compliance, resources,commitment,attention etc

That is why if you don't like sex, you would not fall under the influence of women.

I speak from experience.

I made sure that I am not into sexual stuff.

I started undermining sex when I was still in secondary school.

Although I had the urge as most young boys of my age, but I seriously refused to satisfy the urge, and as you all know,if you resist an urge,it would soon leave you, particularly if you are not yet addicted.

My school mates started indulging in it but I strongly ignored the urge to start experiencing it.

Now it is paying off because I am able to be focused and no woman can treat me anyhow.

There are many other advantages that comes if you are not addicted to sex.

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Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Nobody: 8:32am On Nov 29, 2021

Datboredberry:
Because they can't... Same applies to our men...

What do Nigerian men do or offer to the society?

Don't mention any achievement by the West... I'm talking about the Nigerian youths...

Most men are into rituals, fraud, getting married to old white women for green cards, kidnappers, traffickers, cocaine pushers...etc...

Most Nigerian women aren't doing anything? Sure...

But they are still a million times better than the men who invest their time and whatever intelligence they have to hurting others...and being nuisances...

Don't compare the output of those from a third world country to that from developed countries...

I could create a thread comparing European men and their contributions to the WORLD to African men... But I won't...

Let’s go there
Innosson motors is owned by a man
Flutter wave payment systems was developed by young men. This list can go on as long as you want can you write the same lists for women ?
Pointing fingers will solve nothing
The odds are against young women and the earlier they realize the responsibilities ahead the better stop fighting men!!
Collecting money by fraudulent means is called yahoo yahoo
What will you call thousands who received transport money and never showed up?
Urgent 2k for cooked up family problems?
What will you call editing your photos to look like who you are not ??

What about kayamata is it not equivalent to money rituals ?

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Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by jornwhite: 8:59am On Nov 29, 2021

JerryBizz:

So in conclusion, you are alluding to the notion that they are only good at offering sex ?
They will come for you soonest.
*Jokes *

NO ! just trying to let them know no school of thought in guise of objectivity/productivity can undermine SEX.

Lets not decieve ourselves if not for reproduction & sex there is no tangible reason for marriage, so it is understandable why people talk about it the most

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Ejiod(m): 9:02am On Nov 29, 2021

Sincerely this is a hot topic!!!!

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Joyblinksma: 9:33am On Nov 29, 2021

See u on judgement day

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Joyblinksma: 9:37am On Nov 29, 2021

See u on judgement day

BigBashiru:

There's nothing like "fornication" we are human beings

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Nobody: 9:40am On Nov 29, 2021

Babysho:

I don't even know you but I like you already

which anime is that on your DP, seems likes something I would like to watch.

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by TemmyT002(m): 9:48am On Nov 29, 2021

The word 'partner' is wrong.
It refers to fornication.
Sex is supposed to be for married people.

Anyway, apart from sex, we watch season films together on my phone. We play LUDO and Scrabble and Whot and Monopoly.
We play video games and whenever we have extra cash, we go out and eat pepper soup and swim.
We also stroll out to buy things together. We pray together too.

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Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by nameo: 10:02am On Nov 29, 2021

Swinger60:
Alot.

I can spend all day with my hubby without getting bored, even when we were dating it was still same.

we tease each other. We have pillow fights. we play indoor games like ludo and even play cards betting with money. (when I see he is winning me, I start cheating) .

we also go out too. (I'm married to an oringo/flexing guy).

Ehen, there are some times we have fun on low key too without breaking bank. all we do is take an evening stroll, buy corn, stroll to his snooker place, I sit and munch my corn while watching him play snooker with his friends and listen and laugh to their jokes and jabs at each other.

see ehen.., in choosing a partner, choose a friend who you can be silly, unserious, shameless, witty, crazy and in their presence, e get Maka why..!!

So we must all get married to Extroverts, right?

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by tunnex190: 10:13am On Nov 29, 2021

Apart from sex? we talk about her work, what she does everyday at work. Her expectations for the month. And we both do laundry and cleaning together sometimes. I help her with every other things.

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Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by BigBashiru: 10:23am On Nov 29, 2021

Joyblinksma:
See u on judgement day

They have enslaved your mind with fear. There's nothing like fornication because human beings are mammals and have feelings. Examples of fornication are: sleeping with a prostitute, debauchery, sleeping either someone you don't consider a close friend or wife....

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Double0h7(f): 10:23am On Nov 29, 2021

Doubleoh7:

U sure did. We live in a strange world u know

Okay, I have to ask... wtf is going on with your DP? shocked

Is that you? grin

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Vicky2k(m): 10:25am On Nov 29, 2021

7victor:

That is why if you don't like sex, you would not fall under the influence of women.

I speak from experience.

I made sure that I am not into sexual stuff.

I started undermining sex when I was still in secondary school.

Although I had the urge as most young boys of my age, but I seriously refused to satisfy the urge, and as you all know,if you resist an urge,it would soon leave you, particularly if you are not yet addicted.

My school mates started indulging in it but I strongly ignored the urge to start experiencing it.

Now it is paying off because I am able to be focused and no woman can treat me anyhow.

There are many other advantages that comes if you are not addicted to sex.

You just explained my exact disposition to SEX. One of my mentors- Dr. Pat Ndu will always say that in Nigeria, sex is overrated.

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by autchman144(m): 10:26am On Nov 29, 2021

Bleep.

then after that, make luv.

then after that, bang.

then after that, lamba.

then after that, straf.

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Nobody: 10:31am On Nov 29, 2021

jornwhite:

NO ! just trying to let them know no school of thought in guise of objectivity/productivity can undermine SEX.

Lets not decieve ourselves if not for reproduction & sex there is no tangible reason for marriage, so it is understandable why people talk about it the most

Alright! Alright!
* Lays down his e-arms and surrenders *
But, you have a strong point there. I was discussing with someone last two weeks and we were talking about sex and having children.

Like you just pointed out, marriage is primarily seen as meant for reproduction. So sex too is only meant for those who want to reproduce?
Well, the man was telling me that since I firmly do not want to have children of mine in future, then I shouldn't be having sex with whoever I end up marrying. It made sense to me. Ordinarily, I'm supposed to have been upset with his submission. But I wasn't. He was speaking from a deeper , spiritual standpoint.
So , I'm not all that sex-crazed. Well, not anymore...Was mostly when I was in my teen years.
Now, I'm wondering if I'll be going against nature and God ( for some.of us who believe in there being a God) if I end up marrying a woman and have constant sex (to please both ourselves) but I practice withdrawal menthod or anti-pregancy methods. I've been pondering on this. Sex is, but just a feeling. It's not a necessity for survival. I think we've been worked by the many films and videos we have seen over the years to think that we must fvck in this lifetime. Otherwise, we are not complete as a human being. But this is a lie. A misconception by many. Mind you, this has nothing to do with religion or being religious right now.
But , you're right! Many are married today, or even dating all because of it creates the avenue for them to have SEX. Safe sex, legal sex, sex, sex, sex....You get my point?
It is this sex that later leads to an outcome of having babies, children. But it was sex that first became the catalyst.
If it's not sexual appeal, then why do most guys only choose to go for the ladies with thick bodies or curves? It all has to first do with list and sex! Then comes whatever they assume to be ' love ' They grow on each other.

But it's sex that was the original binding factor here. Reason why I cannot ever kill myself for any one woman. It's all a mirage. It's like an infatuation. You think she is the one. Or he is the one. Who told you!? This is why majority of them cannot remove sex from the union and still be happy, productive, blossoming, bonding, being besties and what have you. Because it's really not about unconditional , mutual understanding. It's just that mutual interest - sex. Other things follow after.

Omo, I can be with a woman that o feel is a good companion and if she tells me, ' Jerry, we ain't having sex for the next four years ' I would still hold on to what I feel for her. Because I know that sex is not the main reason why I wanted to get married to her. O want companionship, laughter, plays in the park, eat and cook together, walks on the beach, working together and brainstorming, exchanging ideas, playing silly games and pranks with each other, and so on. A deeper sense of what relationship and real love (not the love that's common in the world today) means. Not just sex that most use to sustain their relationships.
Don't get me wrong. Sex is good. But sex ain't supposed to be the main thing. The ultimate thing. Those who do not have wives for celibate reasons, how about them? They still make sure they have people to talk to. Even ladies to gist with, just to feel they aren't alone and lonely. But they don't look for sex. What am I saying ? Sex is not supposed to be this powerful in our marriages and relationships. I know many will disagree and insult their mothers here ( not me grin

) but it's because they do not understand the deeper things of relationships and intimacy. They think it's all about sex. If there was love, why will a man's wife die and then he will hurriedly rush to marry another woman? Konji has to be satisfied, innit? Then the result of that sexual union bears forth children ( not the primary interest of the husband with this second wife o) Then we would all say, 'oh , he has given her children, being his new wife. He loves her .'
That's the misinterpretation of the above scenario. He loves the sex, not her. The children are a consequence of the sex. He already has children from his first wife and is already approaching the late stages of his life. Did he really want these new set of children? I think not.
Omo! See bah, it goes deeper. I've just tried to summarize it for the sake of your reading. As it is, it's lengthy enough. But I was trying to make you and anyone else reading to see that sex is not just the main thing that's satisfies in a marriage or relationship ( well, to me tho)
Lesson: cultivate the mindset of not depending on sex and being addicted to it. Sex is overrated as they say. And they say it for different reasons, depending on one's own interpretation of the saying.
DAZZ all!

Www.Nscdc...dazzall! I just had to grin

. No stone me.

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Doubleoh7: 10:37am On Nov 29, 2021

Double0h7:

Okay, I have to ask... wtf is going on with your DP?

Is that you?

Don't I look good enough if that is me? wink

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Double0h7(f): 10:40am On Nov 29, 2021

Doubleoh7:

Don't I look good enough if that is me?

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Nobody: 10:41am On Nov 29, 2021

Doubleoh7:

Don't I look good enough if that is me?

You sure do look enough. But it seems as though that c*ck is bigger than your brain. Hence.... undecided

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Nobody: 10:45am On Nov 29, 2021

Datboredberry:
It takes two to tango... Be honest, Nigerian men and women have nothing to offer the other except for sex... Most of those mentioning it are men...

I agree! I created this thread as a test.... So many topics on this section bashing Nigerian women, I wanted to know if men had more to contribute too...

This generation is sex crazed! It's weird, sad and a bit pathetic...

The funny thing, you can ask this question without the relationship part... 'what do you have to offer to the society'...

I doubt if many would be proud to comment...

Nigeria is messed up... The system, the youths... everything...

Well, I can't believe I'm agreeing to a point made by you, but it was irresistible!
Really impressed. At least we still have a few ladies with sense on this world. Who have things more than sex to offer.
The bolded is nothing but the gospel truth. Sentiments aside.

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by Doubleoh7: 10:46am On Nov 29, 2021

JerryBizz:

You sure do look enough. But it seems as though that c*ck is bigger than your brain. Hence....

Guess that leaves you at a heavily disadvantageous position then, cos I could bet my brain is bigger than yours. Hence ......... undecided

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by GreaterFuture(m): 10:51am On Nov 29, 2021

jaxxy:

What way? Everything built in life is dependent on the foundation. Be it marriage or any other thing ur trying to build. It’s simple

U can’t have a wrong relationship and have a right marriage. It’s not possible unless u intentionally correct Smtn afterwards if it’s correctable.

So all marriages are Scam?

Re: Apart From Sex What Else Do You Do With Your Partner? by BePrepared: 10:53am On Nov 29, 2021

Lukepeter:
She cooks, do my laundry, clean my house and bring groceries at times, and I return the favour by giving her some hours in my time to blab about all her dreams and whatnot.

Why not marry her immediately, why turn someone's dota into a wife or slave

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