nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

/

Flee.

Don't try to be a saviour.

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Ammishaddai:
My bros, I already read his post and I am aware that he already talked with his girlfriend about this before. However, the way he presented his case made me emphasize on him"sitting her down " and having a heart-to-heart talk that is serious and means business .

You suggesting that he should leave her and focus on his life does not sound right. Why? Because he loves this girl and he wants the best for her. Calling it quits before trying all the possible options of reconciliation is certainly not the proper way to handle things .

the girl already called him a nag, how else is he going to sit her down for more advice.

You and your girl are same you too can't save ,why not look for away getting money from her and save when she broke you give it to her and let her know the important of saving and let her know that the money is her own

Look for a way to get money from her with different stories anytime you observe she’s boxed up. Do yourself the honor of saving such funds for her. Buy her things from that same money when she’s in need.

Just quit the relationship
She can never change no matter your advice. If she loves you and wants to keep you
She can only change her tactics to evade your detections and suspicions.

A financially reckless lady can never change. Trust me

At your age, i think you should not be in this position with a woman. But lets treat it as e don dey happen.

From what I can see, you are different from her in financial management. She is free with money, and might be the way she saw her parents do it. Are her parents rich business people? Are your own parents salary earners? That might show the reason for the difference in financial orientation.

If it must work for you both, money must be constantly flowing in (either from you or her), to meet her desire to spend because as she grows, her desire grows too.

If you both will depend on monthly salary, will she be happy/contented with that? Or will she make your life unbearable?

In a way, this is a good foundation, as you will have yourself a hardworking woman ready to do things to have money around. She can also push you beyond your complacency level. Can you catch up with her energy on this? Peace

Because both of you are still young, I'm sure there are some of her spending that are extravagant but you feels are not.

Few things I can say as per what you posted:

1. You are unemployed. Your girl makes money and you don't. Have you asked her what she does online? Is there a way for you to join this online "business" as well?

2. For her to blow through 100k without flinching means there's a solid assurance she can get more. This is the more reason you should ask what she's into. You could be missing life changing money by not doing so.

3. I personally have no problems with an extravagant lady as long as she has earned it herself. There is no prize for living in poverty in this life.

4. Some people have said you should leave her because she spends "unwisely". I think they all miss the vital point here. It's HER money not yours and she has every right to spend it as she wishes. What if she's making investments that you know nothing about? Talk to her. You have not come out to say she buys this or that, only that you don't know what she spends on.

Let me know your thoughts.

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

Since you are good at managing money and she has the business sense. Collaborate with her on the online stuff and see how the joint venture will go.

Op, do you really know what your girl is doing online to fetch those money? I stand to be corrected, I feel her online business might not be legit. I'm saying this because if your source of income is not legit, there is always something to take the money from you.

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

The area you mentioned she is SUPPORTIVE is all I cares every other na joke..

To support is what all real men need from concerned women this modern times.

Pls OP don't focus on your life. She is the Air you breathe. So pls continue pleasing her and begging her to save her money for herself to better her life.. and finally make sure you help her secure a rich young dude to marry her too..
Hey.. don't forget to take up menial jobs and see her thru school..
You are a REAL man if you do so..

Why is she’s making more than you? You need to double your hustle man. It’s a matter of time before this girl tells you that you are no longer on her level if things keep going this way.

Just bear with her she will change in the future.

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

Young man, financial behavior is very very very crucial in a marriage. It can stress a man to his early grave. She is hard working in making money but scandalous in money management. VERDICT: SHE IS A FAILURE FINANCIALLY. It's not how much we make that matters. It's how much we save and put to good use. Let me tell you, things change in the business and financial world. Some of the things that used to be money spinners yesterday are no longer viable. Oil for instance is going down and Tech is taking over. If you used to make money via oil and you didn't save to divest into Tech, the speed with which you would go broke would surprise you. That thing that is giving her money now and she is wasting it can become obsolete tomorrow and she would become broke. It's then you would bear the brunt of her financial recklessness. She isn't disciplined financially and doesn't even want to accept that it's a problem, not to talk of changing. This is a serious red flag. You don't marry out of sentiments. If you do, you would regret it. Put sentiments aside and put an end to that relationship. You people are not compatible and it's going to give you heartache going forward. SOMETHING YOU SEE AS A GRAVE ERROR, SHE IS CHIDING YOU THAT YOU ARE WRONG AND DUMB. It's a red flag. You can't change her perception, not to talk of her character.

mikigen:
OP they are telling you now you are defending her.
She isn't financially disciplined my guy and I see that you are even too young to control that girl she won't and can't respect you Atleast not for now so how do u intend to make her change when she doesn't even listen to you?

You are a still young, I will advice you face your life and do the little you can to make her see reasons to adjust her lifestyle if you don't notice any changes then let her be even this relationship stuff you are doing now at this your age is not the best for you cos u need to focus and build your life.

E want join people when get babe by all means. E eye go eventually clear.

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

Then help her save her money by borrowing lots from her when she has and then keep the borrowed money for when she's broke, don't spend it on your personal needs.

Your girl needs financial intelligence. Please listen to max FM radio 102.3program 10 pm to 3am Monday night to Thursday night.

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

Based on experience most generous girls spend lavishly, and those that save every penny tends to be stingy by nature they go as far as asking u money for maggi when they can afford to buy 10 packs of Maggi....You got the best gf u can change her if u truly love her

Japa. That's my sole advice.

Ammishaddai:
Bros , the foundation of every good relationship begins and ends when both parties see and accept things from the other person's point of view .

So try and make her see things from your perspective by highlighting the pros and cons of her spending habits . But if she's adamant, kindly walk out of the relationship and save yourself the horrors of living with someone who's unbending.

After all, a woman who's used to living extravagantly isn't someone worth marrying and raising children with.

@nextBIGthing,
Come,
Listen
Read,
Don't listen to any other advice aside this on here.
I don talk my own.
Bros or Aunty, God bless you for this advice.

Fiscus105:



She is not extravagant yet she spends unwisely, indeed you are confused.

You also said if she get paid today, she spending recklessly and might ask you money tomorrow, even though you are jobless! This confirm ur foolishness.

I swear I just weak for the guy.
Just look at the kind of graduate Nigeria is churning out. A graduate that doesn't know what extravagant is, how can he know what is fetching the girl money online talk more of knowing when to call it a quit with that bitch of a girl?.

I didn’t read your story but continue with her����

Kriss216:

Learn to advice her to invest not save.

If you don't save how can you invest?

Teach her how to invest

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

Is she born on February, if yes let me tell u her sign.

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

Very simple bro, download Netflix, call her over, buy popcorn, make feel comfortable, open your Netflix and search for this movie....

"The Smart Money Woman"

That movie is all about women spending big and how it affected them and they decided to start saving, after you guys are done tell her, she might end up being broke like the lead character if she doesn't change and start saving now or she might become successful like the lead character who later retraced her steps and started saving....

This movie is going to reset her brain bro, believe me

ConnectPhones:
Una de advice op. Op de defend babe. Should I tell him?

Na Love.

Send her this link below to read:

https://www.nairaland.com/6872867/9-clear-signs-poor-financialslot