Raalsalghul:


Are you with Cococandy and her partner?

No. You lack tact by mentioning d monika sha

catice:
Sincerely there are lot of them. My friend was going nut after his episodes. All he could say is "I was the one who suggested that we move to America". Very few Nigerian ladies will genuinely love you. Most are opportunists, selfish and greedy lots. They will Spoil your life for this abroad. In addendum: Bunch of Nigerian men are piece of sh#t. They are solely responsible for how these women treat them. Cheating & Financial are the main cause of problems!

Freedom intoxicates. Takes genuine feelings and a home oriented lady to make things work.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Those marriages are not my dream. We know bad wives when we see them whether here or outside. But 90% of Nigerian men can't stand a marriage where the woman has an opinion. They prefer dolls and women they can oppress and because they grow up seeing marriage as a king-maidservant relationship, it's almost impossible for them keep a marriage in a civilised country especially when they are married to their fellow Nigerians. They would rather marry a foreign woman and practice her culture than marrying their fellow country woman and allowing her learn the foreign culture.

so u can as well call out mothers doll or mini slaves or servant ...you can learn the foreign culture but don't use the foreign culture against ur man

adeakin:
nobody say everyone bad. But can you date everyone
I have lived in uk and Canada, let me tell you what some of our women do.
1- the ones based abroad have high taste and typically live above their salary, they can rent a house that takes 80% of their salary while men will typically rent the one that takes 35% of salary. They always want holidays and trips, cooking is seen as slavery to many of them. Any man wey marry them just dey marry wahala . You will even take loans to pay for ring, wedding and honeymoon

2. The women take abroad have chances to get free funding for course like nursing and IT. They later become richer or equal to the man . Then start to rub shoulder. Later they will say i dont need a man and divorce you.

3. Some will call police when una fight or quarrel. You as the man will be asked to leave the house temporarily or permanently. Some of the benefits are paid to the women eg child benefits. Some of our 9ja women spend it alone. Some demand you take care of all bills after you will have 200 dols as saving. While she invests her own salary of like 3k to 5k dols a month in Nigeria or her siblings.

Marriage is looking like a scam these days

Nailed it!!

If no be love, na money palava
If no be stress, na woman and drama


Op, Fireboy don give you the answer wey you dey look for.

Mariangeles:


That will be unfair and demonically wicked!

It will be better for if you don't marry.

Some women actually know what they are going into when they enter such marriages. They will happily let their husband go while the stay here. That's how they think they can get their own peace. So if he meets a woman who agrees to do that fine. But not for him to deceive one babe who wants to travel abroad that he will take her after marriage only to dump here here and travel. God sef will punish him.
As for me, I can't go into such a marriage where my husband will leave me here and travel. I would rather remain single and find my own way to travel if I must travel, than to go into a scam marriage.

ziondaughter247:


Very toxic forum. But I have stopped being upset about the toxicity here because 99% of the small boys that spill trash here about women have no life. Forget oooh, most of the people here forming red-piller bulshit are actually in their village looking for snake to kill and mention lalasticlala. They don't even have hope of visiting this so-called abroad in this life. This is the only place they get to feel like men probably because it's a faceless forum. I just pity the SIMPs (probably part of the 1% who have a life) who listen to this bullshit advice for lowlifers and try to apply it in the real world.

You are not a very informed person and you're also guilty of the same thing you presume all red pillers to be.

It will do you a lot of good to stop seeing life in white and black: there are also shades of grey.

Better women dey but you no fit see them. Dem Don old pass you. Dem be 80+
Women below 60 Don open eye ooooooooo.
Na to just use you as stepping stone.

pocohantas:


Send me that iPhone and MacBook first.

If I vex you, you go come open thread. For the ending you will add “my wife would be reading, she is a Nlder too” hahahaha!

hahahaha

larryking540:


seriously bro , men don't give a fuvk if a lady wants to cheat ,,,don't just bring infection, another man's kid to my home , court is too far you will not even see my Shadow close to the apartment again in her life ...

Oh pls stop telling yourself lies. Cheating pains Nigerian men to the marrows.

Marrying her and taking her abroad is good but could be risky depending on the kind of lady. After awhile she might start growing wings and may start giving u attitude when she starts meeting men over there. As u know, marriage law over there favours women alot. So, u gat to think twice.

larryking540:

so u can as well call out mothers doll or mini slaves or servant ...you can learn the foreign culture but don't use the foreign culture against ur man

You are not getting it. Anyway, if you know you can't treat your wife the way you would love to be treated? Don't marry. Whether here or anywhere. Because if she treats you right and you treat her like shit, one dey your cup go full. And remember abroad is not Nigeria where the women might just be crying and begging you but even a neighbor could even call the police on you for disturbing their sleep.
If you are not ready to treat people the way you would love to be treated, don't bring her.

jaxxy:


Don’t take a gal that is only submissive because she is dependent on u. When she gains independence u will be her 1st rival rather than ally or confidant.

Your sense too much. One chilled Guinness stout for you

accurate description. only economic power dey give them advantage...anything apart from that, it is a shithole.

BigBashiru:


Those countries aren't "first world".... they are overglorified shitholes....

ziondaughter247:


Likewise, not all women are bad.
see just do what works for you. Honestly, this topic is overflogged. Many women relocate their partners abroad too and many women are moving abroad on their own. Gone are the days when real women with something to offer wait on a man to relocate her abroad because of marriage. It is only unexposed people that still think like that. Just like someone said, you cannot have the average Nigerian marriage abroad, where things like domestic violence and cheating is condoned. Someone also said on this thread that women like to 'punish' their husbands once they land abroad. Why would someone punish you if you truly have not done anything wrong? See eeh, people should be good to each other. you cannot treat your partner like trash and expect them to always be docile and and take your crap. Even here in Nigeria, if you look around you most older women expecially those who saw hell from their husbands during their younger years abandon them when the children are grown under the guise of visiting or omugwo. The man who is usually old and sick at that time has no one to care for him.
Please be good to your spouse, it costs you nothing. Above all please marry your friend. The younger woman most men claim they can marry when they dont want their wives (afterall he's a man) is only there for money, not true love. That one will abandon you in a heartbeat.

you're just being idealistic is like you've not been good to someone and they still stab you. You make it look like being good will make your partner good to you but in real life you and I know it doesn't work that way. Good people even get hurt the MOST being good won't change a devilish woman from being devilish to you.

E go shock you oooooo

wunmi590:


Some of our men with this their shallow mentality, I guess Nigerian men should stop thinking all Nigerian women are gold diggers...

If I have the chance which I'm currently working on, I will take my wife along, infact, I can't travel out for long without letting my wife be beside me...

No be every nigerian woman bad

PeaceJoyLove:

Most people abroad are emotional criminals. They all want to get papers there. Now, when you come home, most ladies people turn emotional criminals also as soon as they hear it's an abroad person, and they are worse. For example, a good girl will be pushed even by her boyfriend or family to marry the guy, get papers, and divorce her. Lol. That's a good girl oooo..she turns a criminal instantly such offer comes. Have you not noticed that almost everyone in Nigeria doesnt see anything wrong with internet scamming? Seriously. Check well. They tell you that everyone doing it is a businessman, but the thief is the one caught. Even parents are arrested with their children these days cos they encourage and support the kids. Parents pray for their kids these days to be successful in yahoo business.

So, if you come to Nigeria to pick a spouse, they will want to take advantage of you also. It's an opportunity for them. Let me tell you the truth, the people abroad are criminals, the ones at home too are criminals. The only issue is that this abroad are with years of experience while the ones at home are just starting and give them 3 months, they act even smarter than the one with many years of experience living abroad.

So, wisdom is needed. You still have a better chance picking from Naija. But you must not show you are from abroad. If you can act as if you arent living abroad, you can get a good spouse. Apart from this, I dont know oooo. People are desperate these days. Marriages are lies. Money is love now.

Let me advise you. You can marry anyone. Just pray for wisdom. Asking you to come pretend you arent from abroad doesnt make sense. Just be yourself, open your eyes, and find a spouse where you are. Open your heart to anyone from any race.. white, latino, Asian, black, etc. I even prefer asians. Japanese, Chinese, Koreans, Thai, etc still have low rate of adultery.

Marriage is not what you ask for advice on NL. This is the truth. You need wisdom to choose a good person..

Same here. Add Arabs...Asia is the last stronghold of this corrosive culture.

ziondaughter247:


Very toxic forum. But I have stopped being upset about the toxicity here because 99% of the small boys that spill trash here about women have no life. Forget oooh, most of the people here forming red-piller bulshit are actually in their village looking for snake to kill and mention lalasticlala. They don't even have hope of visiting this so-called abroad in this life. This is the only place they get to feel like men probably because it's a faceless forum. I just pity the SIMPs (probably part of the 1% who have a life) who listen to this bullshit advice for lowlifers and try to apply it in the real world.

The Redpill crusades is really getting you worried. Change tactics this shaming tactics don caste. Men don wise up....

In the real world, it's not a big deal only on NL

VULCAN:
A very deep and insightful response.

Well done

Thank you

SeriouslySense:
GOLDEN, thanks for your golden oversight. Don't mind my grammar, just very good advice.

Thank you for the compliment

Klass99:
I think Nairaland is affecting too many people in the real world and informing the choices they make, based on the toxic negativity often displayed here. Do what feels right to you at the end of the day, irrespective of people's views/opinions.

I understand ur point but statistically u are wrong óò. I lives in Europe for 20yrs now and I can tell u most guys that brought their spouse from Naija regretted their decisions.
But the faults goes both ways cos some of us living abroad think we can get any gal we want and d ladies are ready to deceived us aswell.
Bottom line for me is economy and the bad governance in Naija changes a lot of people's characters.
My advice for guys living here that's trying to have his future partner in Naija should be vigilant cos any red flag u come across during ur dating its real RED flag ooo!
Cos according to research Nigeria women are not in 1 to 10 of countries in Africa where one can get good wife but we men are at no 7 in Africa. That research speaks volume oooo.
However, there are still good ladies in Naija but they are not much due to economy and bad governance!!!!!!!

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Marrying a Nigerian woman and taking her abroad?

Thats literally another way to describe suicide!!

Naija woman? Freedom and power turns them toxic. Take for example the female bosses or the way these women treat their maids.

The best thing anybody living abroad can do for himself is marry from there. Even if you want a Naija woman, let it be the ones born and brought up there..because they are already used to the system and laws. They wields enough power to destroy their men because the law favours them the most but then, every one there already know this and knows how they survive it. In this case, the women may not be over power drunk; its nothing new to them

But take a naija girl there? The way she will fly away eh.. sleep around and don't give fukc. Try her best to provoke you to the point of touching her...and any small contact, police will be knocking on your door. You are evicted from your home..you lose most of the things you laboured for. She start enjoying your sweats with another man.

Nigerian women should be taken far away from power by all means. They tend to abuse it horribly.
Don't dare try it, man.

Kokaine:
Are you a marriage counselor. I'd love to chat with you privately about my relationship and my wedding is due in less than 30days. You have a wealth of experience

I’m not a professional life coach but I’ll enjoy being one if I had the time. I just give advise based on learning and experience.

Dont generalize like that. No doubt, some women may change when taken abroad, but likewise men. I sponsored my wife to Canada. She was in Nigeria alone for 2 years, all by herself and did not change. When she came here she did not change, and she has been the most supportive wife anyone could ask for. And we have been together for eleven years. It all depends on the individual. Every woman does not do that.

Legendrysailor:
Hell no !!!

Don't try dat shit with a Nigerian lady, u will live to regret it.

I repeat u will live to regret it





Do not quote me if ur IQ is below 10

Never in my life will I take any naija gal abroad

I never see any resonable one I can call a wife material finish

Very selfish creatures and loveless

@womenareapess answer this OP seems he never see anything for life about taking naija girls of this generation abroad

But women also take men abroad too na

ziondaughter247:


Very toxic forum. But I have stopped being upset about the toxicity here because 99% of the small boys that spill trash here about women have no life. Forget oooh, most of the people here forming red-piller bulshit are actually in their village looking for snake to kill and mention lalasticlala. They don't even have hope of visiting this so-called abroad in this life. This is the only place they get to feel like men probably because it's a faceless forum. I just pity the SIMPs (probably part of the 1% who have a life) who listen to this bullshit advice for lowlifers and try to apply it in the real world.

Lol. You can always tell the economic class of a man by the way he thinks about women and treats them.

Most of them post from a place of bitterness. Women will always bring facts out, but the gender that claims to be logical tends to go by the lines they were taught.

It's too bad teenage boys will grow up reading some of the most disgusting, toxic and bigoted things about women, and think it is normal and the truth. That is actually the point of whoever began these threads (think we all know the two people behind the wave of misogyny on the forum) and the mod that pushes them to the front page. Without knowing it, over 80% of the men post the exact same misogynistic posts, with very few capable of thinking for themselves. The few who can are cyberbullied into the psychological games they play here

There's a gay/inncel/embittered/misogynist (AKA red pill) mod behind this, and a crew of his content creators in the same club.

mrbenjame:
Please I need an honest opinion. I’m not saying there’re no good women. But the rate at which women who marry their abroad hubbys and thereafter go to join them overseas and start misbehaving gets me very worried and sometimes afraid. The question is

1. How often does this happen?
2. Should a guy go on to take his chances?
3. Should he marry someone already abroad?
4. Should he settle entirely with another Nationality totally?

Guys make una input o make we know where we Dey.

meet a lawyer in both countries, sign a pre nuptial agreement with her (make sure she understands what she is signing) . Then marry and take her outside.

yes many women betray there men once the move outside -especially to Europe and America. I have seen a man denied access to his kids and forced back home to begin afresh.

I have also seen a man go strong with the wife once they moved to the USA (even though she earns more than him).

But a pre nuptial will save you from loosing your investments if not your heart

MummyD2020:
But women also take men abroad too na

Not in their world. If it doesn't fit the templates they've created online in which only men do these things, they will shout their assumptions over everything else. Half of them are in some Forest killing snakes beneath the canopy.

Klass99:
I think Nairaland is affecting too many people in the real world and informing the choices they make, based on the toxic negativity often displayed here. Do what feels right to you at the end of the day, irrespective of people's views/opinions.

Is that shrewd? (Read Proverbs 27:12)

pocohantas:


Oh pls stop telling yourself lies. Cheating pains Nigerian men to the marrows.

LMAO.

Cheating has made all of them hulk out on the forum, chanting their usual chants. Yet they don't really care. O Kay.