MufasaLion:


They tend to adopt their culture there which is normal, but most of them take advantage of the freedom and power to "punish" the husband. It's better to just marry a western woman that's used to her culture and see it as normal, than marry a Nigerian lady that's gonna see it as luxury and avenue to do all sorts of damage.

mrbenjame:


Lols. You’re right though. I need the Nigerian kind of marriage. Although I’m not problematic character wise. But my fear is if the woman will give me peace of mind

Mariangeles:


Easy to type.

Can you dare to openly have that conversation with her?
Can you give her the go-ahead?
Would you be OK with it if she does?

Klass99:
I think Nairaland is affecting too many people in the real world and informing the choices they make, based on the toxic negativity often displayed here. Do what feels right to you at the end of the day, irrespective of people's views/opinions.

JovialJune:



So in your head,, all marriages abroad dont last?

The ones that lasted without dominance, how did they make that happen? Doesnt it show that they both put in the effort and see themselves as equal without the usual b.s shenanigans of dominance/submissiveness you guys blab about here?

My mum's elder brother lives in L.A, he brought his wife to join him there, sponsored his wife to nursing school and shes a highly paid nurse today, he is close to 70 now and not doing anything anymore while the wife works and pays the bill, how come we've never for once heard of any fracas from them? How come the wife didn't divorce him cos she earns more? If my uncle wasn't good, nice, respectful and a responsible man, wouldn't she have divorced him since? How come she stayed with him up till now?

You guys keep putting the blame on the wives when the man also contributed to whatever attitude he gets, you want a wife that will lick your ass same way it was in naija coupled with stupid egositic attitude or worse cheating, then expect her to smile and pray you'd get your senses back all in the name of endurance? naaa it doesnt work that way, you have other options, marry other abroad based ladies and gladly wash plates and cook for her without complaints simple

Me thinks you guys just hate the fact that Nigerian women exercise their right over there at the expense of you men and your ego/dominance so y'all are bitter/envious about it, if the abroad system was like ours, y'all will have no problem wives with you since it favours you all to a 't', that's why y'all keep wailing and wailing about it, keep wailing.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
You have to chose which you want. You can't be in hell and expect the air conditioner in heaven to be reaching you.
You want Nigerian marriage, stay here with your wife. Don't go to a place where women have a view, and life and their rights are respected and expect to have a wife who can only be gotten in a place where there are no laws. Where men throw out their wives when they life and don't even ask about the kids. Where men sleep around and come home to beat their wives for complaining. Where men tell their wives you can't further your education because you are now married to me and I am the one that decides what you do. Where men tell their wives to quit their jobs and turn to house maids against their will.
All I'm trying to say is, you can only have one. Either stay here and marry your wife or go there and stay single since you need a Nigerian wife cos you won't find a Nigerian marriage in a civilised country where men and women share equal rights.

Jaqenhghar:

And it is western woman that wint punish you abi?
The thing I see here is many of you niggers see western women as demi gods. Y'all are comfortable with them disrespecting y'all but you will never tolerate even a fraction of that from Nigerian women. This is some self hating coonery at it's finest .
The other day I listend as some oyinbo girls were talking about how "caring African men are". One was talking about how her african boyfriend cooks and cleans the house. That same African man will never help his African wife do anything and if she suggests it na wahala.

BigBashiru:


Women are not attracted to men that aren't dominant even though they won't admit it just like you hv denied just now....this explains why women love men that beat them..... it's a confused gender....that's why they say never take advice on relationships from a woman. That friendship is good so long as the dominant component isn't completely taken away.

BigBashiru:


Women are not attracted to men that aren't dominant even though they won't admit it just like you hv denied just now....this explains why women love men that beat them..... it's a confused gender....that's why they say never take advice on relationships from a woman. That friendship is good so long as the dominant component isn't completely taken away.

MufasaLion:


Did you see in my post where I put Western women above Nigerian/African women?

Seems you got hatred for Western women. Well, that's your problem, not mine, nigga! Let people do whatever pleases them. Go deal with your inferiority complex. Also, go ahead and marry Nigerian/African woman that you can maltreat and bully!

Don't qoute me again without understanding my post!

Klass99:
I think Nairaland is affecting too many people in the real world and informing the choices they make, based on the toxic negativity often displayed here. Do what feels right to you at the end of the day, irrespective of people's views/opinions.

oloshun:
Is good that you asked. From my personal experience, women are not different across the globe. Ireespective of space or place, a woman that will frustrate you will not not hesitate. The only variance is that there is more financial independence here in the US than Nigeria. That factor really empowers women to freewill and renders you less control.

But as i said, women are women; just pray that God helps you to chose well. My friend here married a lady from here while i brought my Nija wife, his marriage crumbled just like mine. He then married another lady and broght her here and since then, they have been happy together. On my side, o vowed never to brong a nija babe again, i married an American, and my brother, i regre u have not married her some 24 years ago. So it is about luck.
But in all, please i beg you, anywhere you decide to chose a wife from, dont marry a poos person. Being poos is deadly than Covid and any other STDs.

mrbenjame:
Please I need an honest opinion. I’m not saying there’re no good women. But the rate at which women who marry their abroad hubbys and thereafter go to join them overseas and start misbehaving gets me very worried and sometimes afraid. The question is

1. How often does this happen?
2. Should a guy go on to take his chances?
3. Should he marry someone already abroad?
4. Should he settle entirely with another Nationality totally?

Guys make una input o make we know where we Dey.

Raalsalghul:


This is just the way to go in my opinion: the man should just make sure that the kids are for him via DNA test and also give the lady a strict warning to take her lover far away from home.

Win-win for both: quid pro pro.

mrbenjame:


Lols. You’re right though. I need the Nigerian kind of marriage. Although I’m not problematic character wise. But my fear is if the woman will give me peace of mind

mrbenjame:


Lols. You’re right though. I need the Nigerian kind of marriage. Although I’m not problematic character wise. But my fear is if the woman will give me peace of mind

Jaqenhghar:


Listen you coon. Only Niggers put others above their own. Even the whote people you worship always out their own first. Its just natural. Arabs put their own first Asians put their own first Niggers put others before their own and wonder why their society is so fùcked up

nanceeleecious:

All this questions tho,smh,
If you love ur spouse as yourself and vice versa,
I see no need for these questions,
Except you plan on becoming an oppressor instead of a companion,
This talk no suppose hard bikonu,

mrbenjame:


If you understand what I mean. Not all Nigerians oppress their wives. Please get it.

MufasaLion:


Did you see in my post where I put Western women above Nigerian/African women?

Seems you got hatred for Western women. Well, that's your problem, not mine, nigga! Let people do whatever pleases them. Go deal with your inferiority complex. Also, go ahead and marry Nigerian/African woman that you can maltreat and bully!

Don't qoute me again without understanding my post!

Klass99:
I think Nairaland is affecting too many people in the real world and informing the choices they make, based on the toxic negativity often displayed here. Do what feels right to you at the end of the day, irrespective of people's views/opinions.

texazzpete:
99% of the time, the women don’t ‘misbehave’. More often than not, they have husbands who think they can continue to beat them, or who grow more and more resentful when their wives earn well and have jobs so demanding that they can’t play the housewife role.

Mariangeles:
The question you really want to ask is Can I live abroad and have the Nigerian type of marriage?

Dude! You can't have your cake and eat it!

larryking540:

calm down ,u too day vex ,,,all na interaction

BRATISLAVA:
Same topic, same baseless abuse everyday just to give men different ways to say the same thing many times in one day. It's obvious that men are always thinking about women--obsessed with them. The so called red pill has killed off too many male braincells that threads like this are the norm. This is the new manhood. And it's gotten so stale so fast.

We already know you think all women are a trap set to destroy you. And it's what you expect you will get.

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