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Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Preetti(f): 11:39pm On Dec 02, 2021 |
Mrbenjame interesting thread. Well as for me, the families and friends I know who travelled abroad with their spouses are fine till today. Everyone would always have diverse opinions based on their own experiences. PS: Back when I was new to naira land and didn't know better, I used to reply nairaland mails. I got mails from married Nigerian men living abroad requesting for a relationship, phone intimacy or something perverse. And they always say "I'm married" or "I'm almost separated from my wife" (which anyone can tell is a lie) One even said his wife was working at the hospital and that she's a strong woman and all. If she's that good a person why the heck are you then chatting up a random person on the internet asking for a relationship. Now these are the sort of men that are unapologetically cheating on their wives for no reason, but if you judge by their nairaland comments you would think they are responsible, well behaved men. Op this is is to tell you that sometimes women are not the problem so if you choose to make your life decisions based on some comments from some hypocritical people here then you might regret it cause they aren't practising what they preach. Last last do what you think is right for you . 11 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by adieora(f): 12:02am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Marry the one wey dey abroad naa. If you think bringing a woman from Nigeria to abroad will save you after you don her treat her like shit finish,e up shock you. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by ABANGWABOI(m): 12:41am On Dec 03, 2021 |
abobote: It would end in premium larger tears.. I would be glad to read your Wailing post here with a new moniker.. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Mariangeles(f): 12:50am On Dec 03, 2021 |
MISSCONGENIALITY: One lady shared the story of her cousin who got This lady hasn't seen her husband for 5yrs! FIVE YEARS! Omg! The man just married her, got her pregnant, then left! You know what's worse? She lost the pregnancy. Imagine 5 wasted years with nothing to show for it! The lady said her cousin's husband has been "trying" to fix her papers so that she can go over to join him, but it's not been "successful". Smh! I told her to tell her cousin to file for an annulment or a divorce or whatever of the sham of a marriage and move on with her life, but she claimed the man has been " taking care of her" all the while by sending money frequently. I nukwa!? Did she marry a man or money? Na she sabi sha! Hopefully, when her eyes clear, make e never dey too late sha. He's already wasted 5 years of her life! 5 years wey couple dey take born all the children wey them want for marriage o. 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by greenie77: 1:10am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Mariangeles: What is the family of the husband saying in all these? 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BigBashiru: 1:28am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Preetti: there is nothing like "cheating". I made it clear to my wife that im still available to other women and she too is available to other men.... its only "cheating" when you both promise yourselves monogamy.... 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by calcal: 2:41am On Dec 03, 2021 |
If both are from the zoo and if both can drop their zoo identity most likely the marriage will survive, in fact, it will survive. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Acidosis(m): 3:15am On Dec 03, 2021 |
walexsho: LMAO |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by walkingshadow911: 3:33am On Dec 03, 2021 |
oilmonie: i decided not reply her when i saw that she register a year ago. Nairaland is where you will hear the darkest truth that no one would be willing to share in the open. you just have to choose your poison wisely 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by omoyankee3(m): 3:45am On Dec 03, 2021 |
I think I'm too late to this thread. But let me add something: The way women in Nigeria are pressured by the society to get married is the same way they are pressured by the society to divorce abroad. So don't put her in that pressure situation by taking her abroad. Don't let the success (or failure) of your marriage be at her sole discretion. Keep her in Nigeria. 6 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Judybash93(m): 4:10am On Dec 03, 2021 |
JovialJune:Well, judging from the way issues are handled in the US, there's nothing like equality when it comes to marital issues especially in the divorce court. The system here is absolutely gynocentric and would do anything to destroy men even if women are in the wrong. A woman would have to be worse than the devil here in the US to be punished. So, the system and law aren't fair. They're gynocentric at best 4 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by omoyankee3(m): 4:22am On Dec 03, 2021 |
pocohantas: When the stakes are high, and the cost is dire, hope is not enough. You see, Nigerian men abroad are cautious abt marriage mainly because they stand to lose all they've built with over the years. Not many men can start over again after the devastations of a costly divorce. So going on and on about it is warranted...in fact it can't be overemphasized |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MufasaLion: 4:33am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Jaqenhghar: I don't know who raised you, but the person did a terrible job. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MufasaLion: 4:37am On Dec 03, 2021 |
grandstar: Lol There's nothing bad in being with a local woman. Everyone should be with whosoever they want as long as their ideologies are the same. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 4:58am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Mariangeles:That's the thing. The marriage was a scam. She's just there because she believes he sends are money and is working on her papers. He's not even thinking of taking here abroad but deceiving her that he's working to bring her. Not as if he's in prison or death or off to the war front. Some of those ladies are just too lazy to use their brains and wouldn't mind of the man comes back in 10yrs or even more. She probably didn't love the man. All she wanted was an abroad husband and that's all. Even if you advice such a persin from now till the end of the world, they will only end up seeing you as enemy. God in heaven knows I love my singlehood more than any scam marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 5:05am On Dec 03, 2021 |
larryking540:Where is the black paint. Between men and women, who paints who black. Go through the post and read comments from male. They don't even want to consider the fact that the way they treat women determines if the woman stays or not. And the way they treat women here is not the same way they would treat them abroad because most men here don't even see their wives as humans. And even here women who are independent might not take what a woman who doesn't have any personal account would take and the men will call that submissiveness. We always forget that submissiveness is a reaction to the love the man shows to her. The love of the husband comes first before submission. Christians here can go back to their Bible. No normal woman who is treated like a wife will leave the husband. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Profkenny1(m): 5:19am On Dec 03, 2021 |
whiteroses: Bullshit at the bolded! In the US, black women have the highest divorce rates. In fact, the divorce rate of black women is higher than their marriage rate. White women marry at the rate of 56% while Black women marry at a rate of 26%. That is, only one out of every 4 black women will marry in their life time. Why? they are not marriageable humans. Just Google "Least married women in the US" then come back here to call me a liar. Happy reading |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Prince001(m): 5:43am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Tuxpera: That's an organization not individual but we can all see the reality on ground. Pls Ask anyone living in UK about those countries ladies they mentioned on d video and prove them wrong! U will be amazed about the outcome!!!!!! |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by freedomchild: 6:44am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Prince001:correct |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by sheDD(m): 7:09am On Dec 03, 2021 |
adeakin:Yes a scam to the men fold... Nothing of benefits. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Emepresh(f): 7:31am On Dec 03, 2021 |
A woman is what you make her to be whether you are in Nigeria or abroad. Treat her well and watch her worship you. Though there are bad ones amongst but by prayers you will succeed in finding a good one. Best wishes!!! 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Alusiizizi(m): 7:57am On Dec 03, 2021 |
mrbenjame: Gigantic mistake, trust me. Most of these marriages crash, and the ones that seem to be stable on the outside turn out to be roiling in firestorm on closer look. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by xavuv: 7:57am On Dec 03, 2021 |
This is kind of discussions my dad initiated with me 2weeks ago. Hes of the opinion that if everything don set i should not Bring my wofe over but be sending money to take care of her and kids. Me: I will bring my wife over at any available chance. EOD! 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by grandstar(m): 8:38am On Dec 03, 2021 |
MufasaLion: I meant "local" in perception. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by MufasaLion: 8:42am On Dec 03, 2021 |
grandstar: Oh, I dig. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Jaqenhghar: 8:50am On Dec 03, 2021 |
JovialJune:My sister. I worked in a few international organizations in Niggeria. I can fill a small library with stories about how Niggerians coon and throw each other under the bus for white people. Its so annoying. The whites will never throw their own under the bus for you. If marrying Nigerian girls was so bad then why do we have more guys abroad preferring to come home to marry? Form my interaction with most single men in diaspora ( esp those above 30? they prefer to come home to marry. Our people like exaggeration. They hear of one story about soe.unfaithful wife and run with it as if its the norm. Go and look at those Nigerian couples divorcing , most of them are the ones married to foreigners 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Jaqenhghar: 8:54am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Prince001:I call Bullshit on your stats. That's a lie. I even doubt you have lived in Europe ( at all) for that long. Msot men you talk to agree that Nigerian women are still the better option. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Klass99(f): 9:10am On Dec 03, 2021 |
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Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by lereinter(m): 9:15am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Where did you do the survey and concluded about the high rate of misbehavior? Mumu |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by DukeNija(m): 9:54am On Dec 03, 2021 |
Loreettaa: And how is this relevant? So yea Chiamaka remains in Nigeria while Chinedu stays back in the US married to his Akata wife and they’re better for it? Use your brain and jettison your internalized hate for men before speaking. The op needs solutions not ramblings. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Loreettaa: 10:07am On Dec 03, 2021 |
DukeNija:Go and give solution and never troll me again. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Evercurious(f): 10:15am On Dec 03, 2021 |
mrbenjame: Oga inasmuch as you re accommodating and caring ,pls learn and remember to be tough on some of your stands when dealing with women. The truth is that most women are naturally manipulative and you need to be tough to sail through... All this your attitude of ' I dont like trouble or wahala' wont help ooh. In fact i ve discovered that most people that act and speak the way you do end up receiving all the wahala from others. No one says you shld be a troublemaker but also learn not to take or accommodate trash too as you remain caring 2 Likes |
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