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Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Hassanmaye(m): 10:07am On Dec 07, 2021
God1000:
I just came across a story on Facebook today, a man was lamenting and seeking for advice on what to do, he's at his wit's end.
Here's the story, the man lost his wife at child's birth and after awhile he met another lady that assisted him in raising the child, he eventually had a soft spot for her and sent her to university with the hope of marrying the girl the moment she finishes from school.

The problem now is that the lady doesn't pick his calls like before, she hardly calls him and the man is nonplussed.

Why are ladies giving guys every justifiable reason not to help them
again?
Is this smartness or turpitude?
Problematic creatures, daughters of Jezebel, Many men will learn the hardest way about that gender! They only know themselves
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Nicklaus619(m): 10:09am On Dec 07, 2021
FiverrTutor:
Over sense don finish this one grin
Baba, I cannot come and kill my self nah, person need to apply common sense in this kind of situation grin
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by larryking540: 10:09am On Dec 07, 2021
this is why most men mostly nigeria guys stopped helping ladies and guess what the ladies now do ,many are in street life and few are working legitimately,,, nigeria female's brought this upon themselves ,at my work place when I see the way they work like jakky,,I just feel pity for them but most times I don't at all
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Traplord09: 10:12am On Dec 07, 2021
Bigredmachine:
The man is a fool...

Why not marry the lady before sending her to school, or who don marry no dey go school...

At times some men behaves like they don't have choices in this life which is bad...

Always read the end from the beginning, now they have left u behind, u are lamenting
God done send Lucifer to earth ....
Men never no difference between lift and Right
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Brushstrokes20:
Bullocks undecided...# even marriage / procreation ain't enough!
An elderly friend of mine sent his wife who bore him 4 kids to the University, and guess what?.........

She still left the man for a sugar boy!

ONLY give / invest in a woman what you can afford to LET GO or LOSE ELSE, it may end in eternal REGRETS !
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by 8stargeneral: 10:12am On Dec 07, 2021
Na weak men does that in d name of yeye love
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by jimtemi1: 10:13am On Dec 07, 2021
If u plan on gaining any thing by doing that, it foolishness.. If u doing it for Goodwill, it blessings
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by juniorstar(m): 10:13am On Dec 07, 2021
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
A similar thing once happened to my elder bro friend...Na once the guy arrange some of him fellow close nigha men to track her reach her mama house......The luck wey the guy get na be say he dey keep all the tellerd wey he dey use send her money all those while for school......Na once she knee down and begin shed tears,dey beg...But the guy no gree forgive her..

Wetin pain the guy na be say she even send the guy invitation via WhatsApp......Las las,her mum gats raise money to settle the guy...

If I dey kind to you,no think say I be fool....just that,I dey naturally nice..

No body be mugu undecided
Hope he collect interest join..na compound interest i go collect and na based on exchange rate when i drop the money..i no fit give u 50k in 2010 you con dey give me 50k in 2021 omo u go covert am to dollars as at 2010 con make am 50percent interest per annum..if you fit pay no lele...i go send my aza.
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Jacksparrow7(m): 10:13am On Dec 07, 2021
Real food for thought...God please deliver me from any SIMPishness and animal thought
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by blackgold2018(m): 10:15am On Dec 07, 2021
God1000:
You are right bro, my niece own is still paining me, but thank God she's a family member.
Me and my brothers assisted her in uni from 100-400 level, one stupid boyfriend later hijacked her and she forgot her entire family, we didn't even get a thank you from her
shut tha hell up.
She’s your niece and your responsibility. I have a niece too. I’m not after her appreciating but I’m after her happiness.
Evil man
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Solofresh2: 10:16am On Dec 07, 2021
larryking540:
bro or miss ,no man who is eligible for marriage sends a lady to school for free ,there is already a mutual agreement already put in place ,most of these ladies know that already ,why prolong the issue ,then why can't the lady also ask ,the way ladies go to river with egg to swear for a guy because of marriage way no work ,are you aware a guy can also walk to a river and swear for her like that ,,,..date with purpose
Sending a lady to school so that you can marry her is foolishness bro.
If you want to help someone,help with no strings attached
Like I said earlier I can never send a lady to School so that I can marry her.
I don't help females for free because I know I will be sexually attached to them.
If a lady wants anything from me,she must work for it
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Akano55: 10:22am On Dec 07, 2021
for me to sponsor girl in school I will rather use my money play 2odd if he cut, he cut... Guys if you are a student in Nigeria you will understand Nigeria girl... some that are married self dey run school package not to talk of single one.... ole te obinrin Lorun, won ma do

some of these ladies collect money from these guys to pay our bills in school.... ,Hmmm may God forgive us our University days....
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by larryking540: 10:23am On Dec 07, 2021
Solofresh2:
Sending a lady to school so that you can marry her is foolishness bro.
If you want to help someone,help with no strings attached
Like I said earlier I can never send a lady to School so that I can marry her.
I don't help females for free because I know I will be sexually attached to them.
If a lady wants anything from me,she must work for it
bro we lack transperacy in our society let me be frank with u ,it's not the mattero f been smart ,,let me shock you ,even after wedding a ladyshe can still leave you even after birthing kids for you ,we mostly in Africa don't have truth in our lips ,,why let a man spend money on you when you both know u have agreed to get married after you graduate abi the guy no fit go school....
why go on a date with a man when u know he will find you sexually attractive and sex will come next ,,we in Africa lack transperacy even to our various homes
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Shaev7(m): 10:23am On Dec 07, 2021
Whether we like it or not, either we are medium to peoples success or someone else is a medium to our success, its vice versa, so, whatever it is, its a cross. He has paid the price. Let him move on.
Me I stopped looking at those things years ago. Even though I don't have much, learn to understand life principles.
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by vickydevoka(m): 10:24am On Dec 07, 2021
Men are they most foolish gender in de world
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by vislabraye(m): 10:25am On Dec 07, 2021
God1000:
I just came across a story on Facebook today, a man was lamenting and seeking for advice on what to do, he's at his wit's end.
Here's the story, the man lost his wife at child's birth and after awhile he met another lady that assisted him in raising the child, he eventually had a soft spot for her and sent her to university with the hope of marrying the girl the moment she finishes from school.

The problem now is that the lady doesn't pick his calls like before, she hardly calls him and the man is nonplussed.

Why are ladies giving guys every justifiable reason not to help them
again?
Is this smartness or turpitude?
Training a lady you're not married to most at times do not end well.
Marry her first and train her later.
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Billygee2u: 10:25am On Dec 07, 2021
Bigredmachine:
The man is a fool...

Why not marry the lady before sending her to school, or who don marry no dey go school...

At times some men behaves like they don't have choices in this life which is bad...

Always read the end from the beginning, now they have left u behind, u are lamenting
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Billygee2u: 10:27am On Dec 07, 2021
brightisodje:
how will a sane man sponsor a lady at school and expecting her to marry him. Nigeria ladies don't play with opportunity. they believe they have pay you with sex in as much a higher bidder proposed to her she won't think twice. focus on your family members even if they won't appreciate your good do it more the happiness will definitely still remine in your family. Nigeria girls are scammers just like our politicians.
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Gracess: 10:27am On Dec 07, 2021
Hard luck it turned out this way for your guy.

But sponsoring the education of a girl is no guarantee that she would or should marry him especially when there was no prior amorous relationship between both of them. Kindness is not always reciprocated. We should know and keep this fact at the back of our minds in order to lessen the hurt that comes with unreciprocated kindness.

Not that I'm in support of her change of attitude towards him, but remember this story is one-sided for now.

A lot of things may have accounted for the girl's new attitude; age, maturity, meeting someone that is open with his feelings towards her, new aspirations etc. Also the guy may not have told all there is to his story. Most of us love to tell our stories the way it suits us best rather than being objective and appreciating our errors, making corrections and then move forward.

If eventually she doesn't want him for a husband he just should take it that he has settled her for helping out in taking care of his child when he actually needed help himself.

Life's not that bad and shit happens!
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by vislabraye(m): 10:30am On Dec 07, 2021
Brushstrokes20:
Bullocks undecided... An elderly friend of mine sent his wife who bore him 4 kids to the University, guess what?

She still left the man for another sugar boy!

ONLY give/invest in a woman what you can afford to LET GO or lose without grudge.
That's a rare case but the guy wouldn't be that pained if he had trained her before marrying.
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Boss13: 10:31am On Dec 07, 2021
This thread is part of the numerous mistakes men make in selecting their wives.

I have written a thread on how to pick a wife. For those still confused, go and read it. Picking a wife is one of the most important decision a man can ever make.

Be guarded.
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by vislabraye(m): 10:31am On Dec 07, 2021
God1000:
You are right bro, my niece own is still paining me, but thank God she's a family member.
Me and my brothers assisted her in uni from 100-400 level, one stupid boyfriend later hijacked her and she forgot her entire family, we didn't even get a thank you from her
That's life.
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by periphetes: 10:31am On Dec 07, 2021
If a guy feels so generous in sponsoring his girlfriend through school . There's no obligation that states the lady must marry the sponsor unless base on agreement terms.

Otherwise such investment should be placed on legal binding, incase the relationship no longer suits the lady . She must be ready to payback every cent therefore no one feels cheated.

Common guys , why do you think the rich white signs prenup agreement its because of such liabilities .

Also ladies that offer only sex to a guy as a compensation to your care & love to them. This should be an indication to the guy he is on the bidding table . So if a highest bidder comes around she is free to switch .

Smart guys don't date liabilities unless you are ready for whatever outcome. Relationship should be a balance investment to both party . If she has got nothing to bring to the future table except sex just appreciate her short services without complain. Whenever she decides to finally move bid her good luck without you ever regretting.

Sponsor your internal family member rather than a lady that could leave you anytime she feels like it.

Ps. For those saying make her pregnant or marry her and then sponsor her. I am laughing hard grin�. you really don't know women at all . [b]You can't tame a wild cat to become a domesticated kitten . [/b]Kolework!!!
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Solofresh2: 10:33am On Dec 07, 2021
larryking540:
bro we lack transperacy in our society let me be frank with u ,it's not the mattero f been smart ,,let me shock you ,even after wedding a ladyshe can still leave you even after birthing kids for you ,we mostly in Africa don't have truth in our lips ,,why let a man spend money on you when you both know u have agreed to get married after you graduate abi the guy no fit go school....
why go on a date with a man when u know he will find you sexually attractive and sex will come next ,,we in Africa lack transperacy even to our various homes
And that is the reason why I said earlier on that these women are not straight forward.They are like snakes.
So as a man you need to use your head very well when dealing with a woman because no matter how beautiful or innocent she might look, She will manipulate you to the core if you are not wise enough
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Akrilla: 10:34am On Dec 07, 2021
These kind of stories are no longer news. It's time to be wise. The man should marry the lady before sponsorship, and if he wants to play a good Samaritan then he should sponsor her out of a pure mind without expecting anything in return, to avoid heart break.

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Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by larryking540: 10:36am On Dec 07, 2021
Solofresh2:
And that is the reason why I said earlier on that these women are not straight forward.They are like snakes.
So as a man you need to use your head very well when dealing with a woman because no matter how beautiful or innocent she might look, She will manipulate you to the core if you are not wise enough
man these ladies are ready to milk out a man last money just to satisfy their temporary pleasure,and the funny thing is most people don't even use their degree go study again ,, even over sea
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by ashawopikin(m): 10:36am On Dec 07, 2021
Why not marry d girl first, like pay small thing for her head or do trad, then u know say ma your wife u dey sponsor
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by ashawopikin(m): 10:39am On Dec 07, 2021
brightisodje:
how will a sane man sponsor a lady at school and expecting her to marry him. Nigeria ladies don't play with opportunity. they believe they have pay you with sex in as much a higher bidder proposed to her she won't think twice. focus on your family members even if they won't appreciate your good do it more the happiness will definitely still remine in your family. Nigeria girls are scammers just like our politicians.
for her mind she has paid the guy back with sex
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by Olam09(m): 10:39am On Dec 07, 2021
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
A similar thing once happened to my elder bro friend...Na once the guy arrange some of him fellow close nigha men to track her reach her mama house......The luck wey the guy get na be say he dey keep all the tellerd wey he dey use send her money all those while for school......Na once she knee down and begin shed tears,dey beg...But the guy no gree forgive her..

Wetin pain the guy na be say she even send the guy invitation via WhatsApp......Las las,her mum gats raise money to settle the guy...

If I dey kind to you,no think say I be fool....just that,I dey naturally nice..

No body be mugu undecided
E happen to one of my guy man too, em dey sponsor one fine girl like that for close to 3 years.. you no go believe me say the guy don spend more than a million naira ontop this ungrateful girl.. they guy pay em waec money, neco money, jamb fee and many other stuff em dey always give her feeding money i think 700 or 1k a day.. Meanwhile the girl don turn olosho now dey give my guy man attitude. That my guy man self just dump we com dey tell am say make em drop the motherfucker e talk say e just wan dey yansh am omo.. some guys are just very foolish. Her parent knows about their relationship and how the guy has been helping her since all this years dem no even fit talk sense to her daughter. huh
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by tollyboy5(m): 10:41am On Dec 07, 2021
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
A similar thing once happened to my elder bro friend...Na once the guy arrange some of him fellow close nigha men to track her reach her mama house......The luck wey the guy get na be say he dey keep all the tellerd wey he dey use send her money all those while for school......Na once she knee down and begin shed tears,dey beg...But the guy no gree forgive her..

Wetin pain the guy na be say she even send the guy invitation via WhatsApp......Las las,her mum gats raise money to settle the guy...

If I dey kind to you,no think say I be fool....just that,I dey naturally nice..

No body be mugu undecided
That type no be kindness, na foolishness
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by ashawopikin(m): 10:43am On Dec 07, 2021
OloshoMan:
It is still the stupidest thing ever, but simps will always lose
as we are typing this, thousands of simps are still sponsoring girls and they'll never learn
Re: Training A Lady That Isn't Your Wife In School. by tollyboy5(m): 10:45am On Dec 07, 2021
OLDESTWARRIBOY:
One Yahoo boy dn dey bend the girl for school na....some men no go ever learn


Your bro friend?? Abi you??
You dey mind am
Him dey talk am like the real victim lol
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