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CJEN:
If you've been satisfying her then she won't always be telling you she's tired....

You no know anything.

Are you married yet?

Bishop:
Waooo, where you at, let me confirm this kitty is bahd

heed the warnings

CJEN:
If you've been satisfying her then she won't always be telling you she's tired....

You are naive, very naive!

LIVINGICON:
Are you sure you are really turning her on? Do you do pre-intimacy? Or na to just dive dey enter the pussy like that,go dey jam am like porn star. To the best of my knowledge women crave sex often, most especially if the man is skillful. Na she go dey disturb you for am.

So, go back to the drawing board. There are books on giving good sex and making a woman squirt or orgasm.

How married man go dey masturbate? Na 4uck up.

Make we first ask am wether him get work? only an idle man do that. In fact my wife is the one that even complain about sex starve. Haba.

bjtinz:
Don't know why you folks keep using these stale lines.

She's soo tired. Really? Even if it means laying let him do the work?

What about the man's feelings too, doesn't it matter? Why must it be all about her?

Her less virtuous colleagues out there have no qualms servicing tens daily, yet wify is too tired for just once or twice a week with her betrothed.

She being manipulative, end of

The side chick you glorify today will turn out the same way when the man (you) refuses to reduce the level of stress she faces daily.

Try and marry your side chick na and wait for the result. If you don't deal with the root of the issue, you'll keep running around like a headless fearful chicken.

Only a foolish man will be sex starved


I fuvvvkk whoress everyday I am currently outside

She will beg me for it when she want it not me begging

Zao19:
More than 70% of married men face this type of problem including my self, if u are yet to married pls stop talking rubbish, u are yet to experience such.

You're right I do experience it too, though I don't mastubate even though I have done that before.
At time women get bored with age and other emotional issues

In that case, marry second wife.

Lorayne:
Shared custody.

That isn't our custom ,I wasn't brought up that way.

o boy e no dey easy same with me. na only prayers may God see us through but going outside is not the solution bro

My dear hustle well and I pray your finance change for better. God will pick Ur call. Side chick may be needed if she remains adamant. The only language ladies understand is MONEY,, Love is secondary. There are things beyond you, some ladies won't listen no matter talk unless they feel/get the consequences. Once, you are financially balance you are good to go.

JerryBizz:
You mean the colour of your hypocrisy and ignorance, right?
Like you don't know what you did.
SMH... it's final, [s][/s]Nothing will ever make marry an Akwa Ibom lady. No matter who her father is.[s][/s]
I swerve them here like it's nothing.

so how is that my business?
Asin whose business is it anyway?

I mind my business sir please do same and let me be

Seems we are in same shoe.
I started masturbating after constant denial of sex from my wife. She always complain of not into sex even after two kids. Sometimes I feel rejected and downcast. I find it difficult to cheat so I resolve to masturbating. Regrettably, Masturbation is quite draining and unhealthy. I am trying to quit, I hope you try to. I really understand how you feel......
and why you do what you do.

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

professore:
this is not fair.

life isn't fair nahh

Judgesledge:
Glad I did anyway, not easy to find a straight talking boss babe, you could do stuff with

complete your comments sir
Let me know what to do

Preshieben:
life isn't fair nahh

if every individual makes it fair, then it will be fair. Afterall, all the resources we need to survive such as food, water etc are available.

stinflame:
That isn't our custom ,I wasn't brought up that way.

You were brought up to cheat?

Preshieben:
just DM me your WhatsApp number... I'll take over

08030629184

We need women, yes, but not lazy sexually dead hags like u..

Shalommy:
Buhahaha... He's crying. After some lazy men will say they can survive without the help from women. Poor and helpless men.

Your problem is spiritual, not sexual.
You have indulged your genitals so much that they have become your masters, while you have surrendered your dignity to be their willing slave.
That's what you get when you squandered your youthful days exploring different female genitals, instead of learning self-control and knowing God.
So, what if your wife is sick for a year, you will cheat on her just because you are a slave to your genitals?
I know a man who lost his first wife and waited for five years to remarry, not fornicating around. So, you have a problem with self control.
First, seek God to grace you. Second, talk to your wife about your lack of self control and sinful masturbation to feed your sex addiction.
Joseph the foster father of Jesus took Mary to live with him probably in her first trimester, and DID NOT HAVE SEX WITH HER until after she gave birth to Jesus. Mary took probably three months to be healed and restored down there. So for about a year, Joseph lived with a woman he loved passionately, BUT did not see her unclothedness. That's a superman. That's what is dignity. No wonder God chose him to foster-father Jesus Christ.
Imitate such good and godly men.
Jesus can do it for you.
He did it for me.
Try Him. It works.
Shalom.

The solution to wives starving husbands of sex or weaponizing sex has always been "dread game". You must create dread in her, that is, a fear that she will lose your attention. How you choose to do this is something you can easily research. You don't have to cheat on your wife but if for instance she notices that you now keep late nights or you are now going to the gym while not bothering her for sex, she will up her game.

Of course, this goes out of the window if she just doesn't fancy you (married you as last option) or she is a lesbian (happens more often than people think).

HarunaWest:
If a man takes care of a woman and he asks nothing in return, she begins to feel guilty and offers sex freely to such dude. I am talking from experience.

This woman has been circumcised and doesn't enjoy sex. So there is nothing he can do. Circumcised women are very boring when it comes to sex. They don't feel anything and will just lie down like a log of wood and yell at you to finish quickly.

Lastic:
Seems we are in same shoe.
I started masturbating after constant denial of sex from my wife. She always complain of not into sex even after two kids. Sometimes I feel rejected and downcast. I find it difficult to cheat so I resolve to masturbating. Regrettably, Masturbation is quite draining and unhealthy. I am trying to quit, I hope you try to. I really understand how you feel......
and why you do what you do.

Sad, you married a genitally mutilated (circumcised) woman. You are not the only one because most of our women are circumcised except for some few young ones.
That is the situation we have in Nigeria and Africa in General

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

Have you ever made her orgasm? And are you sure of that?

Zao19:
More than 70% of married men face this type of problem including my self, if u are yet to married pls stop talking rubbish, u are yet to experience such.

Where do you people get your statistics from?

jaxxy:
Sex starvation isn’t good for any marriage bt why did u marry Sm1 ur not compatible with sexually??

These are issues u trash out of discover while dating. I’m not saying u must find Sm1 to fulfill all ur sexual fantasies bt u shudnt be starved. It’s unacceptable and a bad sign for any marriage.

Personally for me I will discuss is carefully with her so there can be a change or a correction on my part Incase the cause of lack of interest or tiredness is from me or her activities. After that with no changes I will let her know I’m going to get a gf and cheat of her bt it’s not cheating cos I will make sure she’s aware of the open marriage status she has created.

Note if she now uses that as her excuse to equally cheat after pushing me into the act of cheating I will end that sham of a marriage in a sec and move on with a decent humanbeing that knows what they want. This is however an extreme case.

Lastly sex shouldn’t be the main focus of a relationship or else it gets boring quickly and mechanical. Learn to know how to induce sex without even asking for it. U have to know her love language to achieve this.

If it was me, I will do this, I will do that. Marry first let them deny you the sex. Something you have no experience in na him you wan de dish out advice. Make we hear word abeg.

Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband

People from the village has arrived. Una welcome oo

JerryBizz:
Well....to me, I'll say if most people didn't just marry merely for sex (top of their list) then they won't see this deprivation of sex as a big of a deal. What happened to slow, sensual kisses?? Role-playing?? Massages? Laughs and cuddling?
What happened to tickling her, communicating as you're doing so? Be spontaneous. Let her and him see that sex is not that big of a deal for you, then watch how they soon try to give it to you alot just to make it feel like it needs to be a big of a deal. The fear of if you're getting it outside will make her start to adjust.

See, Nigerian men need to become spontaneous oh. Think deep and learn what you can do to make her feel so excited while you both lay in bed. It could be as simple as both sleeping naked, staring at the ceiling and pointing at it as you both playfully count the number of shadows of people, or cars that reflect as a result of cars passing by outside. Play games...use your brain. You have it and it is limitless.

Crack jokes before you fall asleep. Play the right kind of music as you both lay in bed with the curtains partially open. Don't just shut everywhere and make the room pitch black. The Feng Shui of the room matters....These little things can arouse the woman and the man and make the feel like little kids in love all over again. It innocently excites both parties. Setting the mood for a sensual, romantic session.

If you like don't experiment, don't be spontaneous and creative. You will be going to bed angry and unfulfilled. You both should lay in each other's arms even if no sex happens. The warmth of each other, the closeness, the feeling will make you both feel so good that you'll naturally want to start kissing and making out immediately.

Too much porn has ruined people's minds and their abilities to be creative, child-like sweet (which is what we all used to be at some point)
Don't just be the couple who gets into bed, you give her your D and she gives you a BJ, you give her a lick too, and you proceed to have rough sex and doing the stuff you mostly see in porn.
Make you own type of romance. Try new things. See what works. Most women like a creative man in the bedroom. Be sweet, speak slowly ( almost whispering) chuckle, tease her, complement her body even if you've been seeing it for the past 12 months.Keep it real..Say what you like about it (that's why it's always good to first go for the kind of body you desire in a wife).That way, you don't have to make lies up. But even if she falls slightly shot of being as hot as you'd like, still tell her how you like her curves, he ass, her thighs...and so on. People love words that raise their self-confidence.

..Be child-like in bed, but still macho and capable when the banging starts. It makes them see different shades of you, and it turns them on.
I remember when I was in year one, I'd be having sensual lovemaking with my then girl and I'll pause (still inside of her)occasionally to feed her juice from a glass , or water or whatever...The I'll kiss her and suck the taste of the juice from her lips..then I'll compliment her on how wild , but yet innocently sweet and sexy she is looking at the moment...Then put down the glass and continue dicking her down... It makes her drift away into la la land. Cloud 9. And I was just 19-20 yrs then oh. So, get creative and save your sexual life.

But don't forget, it doesn't always have to lead and end in sex..some nights just play and fall asleep in each other's arms. Solidify your friendship (yes, frienship) then send sensual text messages to each other's phones before coming home. Or even while she is in the kitchen and you are in the bathroom...make it look childish but creative and funny. She'll laugh.. she'll blush and she'll hurry to meet you over in the bedroom. Join her sometimes and cook at the kitchen...Wash dishes together (one person washing, the other wiping the dishes dry) it helps to foster more bonding and care. Play music you both mutually like while in the kitchen together. You'll be surprised the things all these and more can do for the two of you..
If you don't know how to be creative with words and expressions, then learn it anyway you can. Never let your marriage feel void of fun and tenderness. It's not just about providing all the financial needs...and also not about hard banging for one hour plus. You need to make love. Tickle her fantasy...know her love languages. Even invent new ones for her...

My wife will be so glad in me...I can't even begin to imagine all our moments. We'll be so playful and foolish inside the house, but when we come outside, we'll be as serious as every other couple you see. Always wanting to get done with whatever and head back home to each other....Just to bond and play. It can result in sex or not. We will however still be satisfied. Cuz we have each other around.

Try new things. Be less conventional, but if that works for your wife as a guy, then carry on. If it's not working, then try methods as I've said in more ways than none.

Omo, real love is sweet. Know who you a marrying before you marry them oh! It's harder to change them once you're already married. But there is still hope for those of you who already married that person. If communication fails you, then use you creative mind and make her feel you're irresistible. Even though you annoy her or she annoys you outside the house, when you are both alone, make the atmosphere comfortable and welcoming. You'll be less tempted to cheat outside.
Marry who you can be yourself with! And who is fluid. It cuts all these problems by half.

Hehehehe motivational speaker, try marry fess

JerryBizz:
Well....to me, I'll say if most people didn't just marry merely for sex (top of their list) then they won't see this deprivation of sex as a big of a deal. What happened to slow, sensual kisses?? Role-playing?? Massages? Laughs and cuddling?
What happened to tickling her, communicating as you're doing so? Be spontaneous. Let her and him see that sex is not that big of a deal for you, then watch how they soon try to give it to you alot just to make it feel like it needs to be a big of a deal. The fear of if you're getting it outside will make her start to adjust.

See, Nigerian men need to become spontaneous oh. Think deep and learn what you can do to make her feel so excited while you both lay in bed. It could be as simple as both sleeping naked, staring at the ceiling and pointing at it as you both playfully count the number of shadows of people, or cars that reflect as a result of cars passing by outside. Play games...use your brain. You have it and it is limitless.

Crack jokes before you fall asleep. Play the right kind of music as you both lay in bed with the curtains partially open. Don't just shut everywhere and make the room pitch black. The Feng Shui of the room matters....These little things can arouse the woman and the man and make the feel like little kids in love all over again. It innocently excites both parties. Setting the mood for a sensual, romantic session.

If you like don't experiment, don't be spontaneous and creative. You will be going to bed angry and unfulfilled. You both should lay in each other's arms even if no sex happens. The warmth of each other, the closeness, the feeling will make you both feel so good that you'll naturally want to start kissing and making out immediately.

Too much porn has ruined people's minds and their abilities to be creative, child-like sweet (which is what we all used to be at some point)
Don't just be the couple who gets into bed, you give her your D and she gives you a BJ, you give her a lick too, and you proceed to have rough sex and doing the stuff you mostly see in porn.
Make you own type of romance. Try new things. See what works. Most women like a creative man in the bedroom. Be sweet, speak slowly ( almost whispering) chuckle, tease her, complement her body even if you've been seeing it for the past 12 months.Keep it real..Say what you like about it (that's why it's always good to first go for the kind of body you desire in a wife).That way, you don't have to make lies up. But even if she falls slightly shot of being as hot as you'd like, still tell her how you like her curves, he ass, her thighs...and so on. People love words that raise their self-confidence.

..Be child-like in bed, but still macho and capable when the banging starts. It makes them see different shades of you, and it turns them on.
I remember when I was in year one, I'd be having sensual lovemaking with my then girl and I'll pause (still inside of her)occasionally to feed her juice from a glass , or water or whatever...The I'll kiss her and suck the taste of the juice from her lips..then I'll compliment her on how wild , but yet innocently sweet and sexy she is looking at the moment...Then put down the glass and continue dicking her down... It makes her drift away into la la land. Cloud 9. And I was just 19-20 yrs then oh. So, get creative and save your sexual life.

But don't forget, it doesn't always have to lead and end in sex..some nights just play and fall asleep in each other's arms. Solidify your friendship (yes, frienship) then send sensual text messages to each other's phones before coming home. Or even while she is in the kitchen and you are in the bathroom...make it look childish but creative and funny. She'll laugh.. she'll blush and she'll hurry to meet you over in the bedroom. Join her sometimes and cook at the kitchen...Wash dishes together (one person washing, the other wiping the dishes dry) it helps to foster more bonding and care. Play music you both mutually like while in the kitchen together. You'll be surprised the things all these and more can do for the two of you..
If you don't know how to be creative with words and expressions, then learn it anyway you can. Never let your marriage feel void of fun and tenderness. It's not just about providing all the financial needs...and also not about hard banging for one hour plus. You need to make love. Tickle her fantasy...know her love languages. Even invent new ones for her...

My wife will be so glad in me...I can't even begin to imagine all our moments. We'll be so playful and foolish inside the house, but when we come outside, we'll be as serious as every other couple you see. Always wanting to get done with whatever and head back home to each other....Just to bond and play. It can result in sex or not. We will however still be satisfied. Cuz we have each other around.

Try new things. Be less conventional, but if that works for your wife as a guy, then carry on. If it's not working, then try methods as I've said in more ways than none.

Omo, real love is sweet. Know who you a marrying before you marry them oh! It's harder to change them once you're already married. But there is still hope for those of you who already married that person. If communication fails you, then use you creative mind and make her feel you're irresistible. Even though you annoy her or she annoys you outside the house, when you are both alone, make the atmosphere comfortable and welcoming. You'll be less tempted to cheat outside.
Marry who you can be yourself with! And who is fluid. It cuts all these problems by half.

Shut up.

Gaggii:
We don talk tire, she go change then later go to status quo after some time

This one is true. You're not alone bro.

culf:
una no do marriage class?

Let her know the consequences of her actions, seat her down and talk sense into her.

some women no dey try at all, only if she knows what her actions could lead to.

Oga mi, this is what i have been advocating for: Marriage class. But most of these new churches wey no get branch for another place no dey take am serious. They just dey happy say wedding take place for their church.

I dey also pray to marry who never finish her sexual bundle before i marry her.

Hathor5:
Where do you people get your statistics from?

Nairaland Bureau of Statistics. Ask Poco, she knows where their headquarters is at.