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BISHOPCHARLIE:
Good evening friendlies,

Please I need your advice on a matter of heart that concerns me.

A while ago, my brother introduced a lady to me. We hit it off immediately, began dating and with time, found reasons to start planning a future together even though things are still sketchy because we don't reside in the same city yet, even though we have plans to sort that out soon.

A few months ago, on my girl's birthday, I saw a few comments on her social media space that unsettled me greatly.
A man made a comment on her birthday post and mentioned her big breasts; she laughed at the comment and replied "thanks boss". Another guy made a video celebrating her birthday and mentioned her breasts again, she also laughed and thanked the bloke.

In response, I didn't contact her for five days and she also was quiet. I broke the silence by sending her a breakup chat.
I mentioned her lukewarm attitude of late and her flirtatious tendencies with other men, citing the instances I saw and the possibility of others that I haven't seen.
She smiled at my chat and told me no hard feelings. I took it that it's over between us and moved on.

A few days afterwards, my brother contacted me, that my girl called him to complain of my breakup with her, that she was so sad at my attitude, that I overreacted.
That she had great plans for us, that she was so pained she couldn't even go to work... That the comments on her social media space by other men mean nothing, that she's not the type to mess around and so on. So he encouraged us to reconcile and continue, told me to avoid her social media space if I'm not so comfortable with the stuffs I see there.

I am reluctant to reconcile with this lady, to do that will be to please my brother and take her back out of pity. A big no for me.

She made her sisters contact me and they are trying to resolve issues between us, saying its devils work trying to destroy a good relationship. Lady is in her 30s and this careless, I can't deal.

Please I need advice on how best to stonewall. I want out completely.

shawnfamous:
Bros if u don't show me how big her breast is I will seize the vital and important information I have for u.

chatinent:
If I hadn't met a girl who also behaved this way but really had nothing with them, I'd have suspected your woman.

In my own case, the girl in question was just a friend...and naive that she will also say thanks to people who sext with her unbeknownst to her. Many of her circle of friends...perverts, flirts...name it. She was a white in black.

It was until I started reprimanding her against her abysmal attitude of accepting sex talks did she realise it was a total disrespect that people should talk about her body in such way.

Before, she took it as mere gags to be laughed over from friends..or colleagues. But now, she takes it as more of a serious issue and would tell anyone off who talks about her body flirtatiously....even friends and colleagues.

I don't know your woman...but in mine, she was just naive and too absorbing (a crime to me) ....but a simple tutelage did the u-turn.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
Many thanks for bringing this perspective to the discourse.
I assume your girl was younger, a tweener maybe, now she knows better. What shall we say if a "thirtyish" still acting like a teenager?

Before taking the decision to leave her, I sampled opinion just so I wouldn't be overreacting but no body took her side. I spoke with counsellors and made the story anonymous to have independent views, she's too old not to know.

I appreciate your views though and every contributor to this topic.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
Good evening friendlies,

Please I need your advice on a matter of heart that concerns me.

A while ago, my brother introduced a lady to me. We hit it off immediately, began dating and with time, found reasons to start planning a future together even though things are still sketchy because we don't reside in the same city yet, even though we have plans to sort that out soon.

A few months ago, on my girl's birthday, I saw a few comments on her social media space that unsettled me greatly.
A man made a comment on her birthday post and mentioned her big breasts; she laughed at the comment and replied "thanks boss". Another guy made a video celebrating her birthday and mentioned her breasts again, she also laughed and thanked the bloke.

In response, I didn't contact her for five days and she also was quiet. I broke the silence by sending her a breakup chat.
I mentioned her lukewarm attitude of late and her flirtatious tendencies with other men, citing the instances I saw and the possibility of others that I haven't seen.
She smiled at my chat and told me no hard feelings. I took it that it's over between us and moved on.

A few days afterwards, my brother contacted me, that my girl called him to complain of my breakup with her, that she was so sad at my attitude, that I overreacted.
That she had great plans for us, that she was so pained she couldn't even go to work... That the comments on her social media space by other men mean nothing, that she's not the type to mess around and so on. So he encouraged us to reconcile and continue, told me to avoid her social media space if I'm not so comfortable with the stuffs I see there.

I am reluctant to reconcile with this lady, to do that will be to please my brother and take her back out of pity. A big no for me.

She made her sisters contact me and they are trying to resolve issues between us, saying its devils work trying to destroy a good relationship. Lady is in her 30s and this careless, I can't deal.

Please I need advice on how best to stonewall. I want out completely.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
Good evening friendlies,

Please I need your advice on a matter of heart that concerns me.

A while ago, my brother introduced a lady to me. We hit it off immediately, began dating and with time, found reasons to start planning a future together even though things are still sketchy because we don't reside in the same city yet, even though we have plans to sort that out soon.

A few months ago, on my girl's birthday, I saw a few comments on her social media space that unsettled me greatly.
A man made a comment on her birthday post and mentioned her big breasts; she laughed at the comment and replied "thanks boss". Another guy made a video celebrating her birthday and mentioned her breasts again, she also laughed and thanked the bloke.

In response, I didn't contact her for five days and she also was quiet. I broke the silence by sending her a breakup chat.
I mentioned her lukewarm attitude of late and her flirtatious tendencies with other men, citing the instances I saw and the possibility of others that I haven't seen.
She smiled at my chat and told me no hard feelings. I took it that it's over between us and moved on.

A few days afterwards, my brother contacted me, that my girl called him to complain of my breakup with her, that she was so sad at my attitude, that I overreacted.
That she had great plans for us, that she was so pained she couldn't even go to work... That the comments on her social media space by other men mean nothing, that she's not the type to mess around and so on. So he encouraged us to reconcile and continue, told me to avoid her social media space if I'm not so comfortable with the stuffs I see there.

I am reluctant to reconcile with this lady, to do that will be to please my brother and take her back out of pity. A big no for me.

She made her sisters contact me and they are trying to resolve issues between us, saying its devils work trying to destroy a good relationship. Lady is in her 30s and this careless, I can't deal.

Please I need advice on how best to stonewall. I want out completely.

Please I need advice on how best to stonewall. I want out completely.

Pumpumking:
^^story
bro did u smash or u dint smash am?(no oofense)

citywal:
OP relax, the question is do u want her back? N from the way ur story is, seems she's financially better than u are ( no hard feeling).

I've been in a similar case n I choose to walk away so that future will we save.

So ask ur self DO YOU WANT HER BACK think about it

Sonnobax15:

Both woman phone and all her social media platforms just be like Onion..... Anytime you venture slice am,you must shed by-force tears

Op,sorry oh........But I think that lady of yours is too simple for my liking . I know many ladies wey go instantly bash and even delete such comments from their post because it's so suspicious . It clearly means those men have already had a taste and squeeze of her boobs . Because how can somebody describe the exact size of a ladies boobs perfectly when he hasn't tasted it?

Op, . It is well cha

luizpippo:
You chop ban before?

You been scarce o

BISHOPCHARLIE:
My girl is doing fine. Doing better? I don't know, we've never discussed her net worth before.

I don't want her back, I've been under pressure lately to take her back but even that too is coming from my brother and my girl's sisters, not from her. Not like it would have changed anything even if it's coming from her.

Like I ended my post with, "I need advice on how best to stonewall."

BISHOPCHARLIE:
My girl is doing fine. Doing better? I don't know, we've never discussed her net worth before.

I don't want her back, I've been under pressure lately to take her back but even that too is coming from my brother and my girl's sisters, not from her. Not like it would have changed anything even if it's coming from her.

Like I ended my post with, "I need advice on how best to stonewall."