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Muscovy:
Don't loose hope my Brother. The day I realised that we men have ability to approached any lady as many as possible, my tension in searching for who to marry relax. Approach many ladies and pray to GOD to give you divine direction to choose among the available one that said yes to your offer. Note: Not all the one that say YES to your offer are your wife to be but one. Best of Luck.

Jesterinjay:
Chill bro,sometime in the future u would want to be single or feel single. Relax

FOJEM:
'Settle down'! That is one hell of a phrase. I wonder how many married men have actually settled down. You need to pray, fast and allow yourself to be led by The Spirit of God. Any man who marries the wrong woman has already sentenced himself to life in hell!

EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

Boss13:
Taking care of a family is a MAN's job. That is why I said you are acting as a man. Your job is to nest what the man has provided. I am not saying getting a job is a bad thing, but I am saying putting off marriage proposals for a job is not the ideal thing a woman should be doing. You are not going to be the leader of the family or is that your intention - to be the leader and breadwinner of your home. If this is the case, then you are not a wife and I will strongly advise men to avoid you.

You have prioritise a job above marriage yet wondering why you are single.

nkemdi89:
Na so ! So a man should die early because he has to provide for his family, I don't belong to that school of thought, I believe in sharing responsibilities for happiness and wellbeing of all, that doesn't mean I will disrespect or disregard my man , two of us will put our head together to build our family . Don't blame me , my growing up contributes a lot to me having that sense of financial independence, I have never demand money from any of my boyfriend, neither do I believe in " make I chop man money " . It gives me joy when I assist or render assistance to people, I don't want to be redundant in my relationship.

Boss13:
What Readiness do you need? You keep thinking and acting like a man. Unfortunately, you are a woman. A woman is ready for marriage immediately she comes of age. What you are actually saying is that you are not woman enough to be a wife. What part don't you understand.

What stops you from getting married and then getting a job. Except your plan is to get an average man and by average I mean a man who is not a good earner. If you have the eyes and head to pick a good earner why should you be bother about the financial concerns - that's a man's job.

You are going to remain single for a long time because you are yet to understand a woman's role in a marriage. If you truly do - you would be able to spot a potential provider male and get married. You are either looking for an average man to control.

I am speaking based on my life long experience on earth and the social dynamics that exist between men and women. I wonder why women are now concerned about the affairs of men. Feminism has truly destroyed women.

Boss13:
At 23 she had a marriage proposal. What happened? Why was the proposal declined.

Now that she is 30 and her eggs are old. Why would a reasonable man avoid younger women to marry an older one. What is so special about her than compensates her youth and the youth of alternative choices for men.

VEE2010:
I always advise people not to be so conscious about settling down, just live your life as if you are not looking for a wife while you try to mingle and make friends. The right person will come your way when you are less concerned about quitting bachelorhood. Importantly, be sensitive, the right person that will emerge will come so naturally and your instinct will prove it. I met my wife when I was so relaxed about the thought of getting married. While we dated, the instinct was so strong from both of us even when I tried very hard to resist it citing several failed attempts. I was so freaking about just continuing with the dating only until I was totally convinced that it was actually the right chemistry between both of us. We are happily married for 7 years now and have no regret even when we have a little misunderstanding, we still find ourselves attuned to each other.
Meanwhile, these are the little secrets traits that mustn't be ignored while dating:
1. Be free as if you are living your normal life - avoid drama and fake life
2. Be sincere to her in virtually everything, you may not disclose your intention even in the next 6 months
3. Study and understand her background
4. Get involved in her personal affairs to know if you can cope with her
5. Let her know your close relatives on time so that, they can as well observe her. Mind you, do not disclose your intention even to your relatives and friends.
6. Do not be too emotionally attached to her because doing so might keep lots of things away from you. You may not know when you start making decisions based on your emotion or sentiments
7. Learn to create little issues to know if you can manage her temperament
8. Do not judge her but rather let her know her little weaknesses and see if she will take correction
9. Do not be too perfect to a fault, she will also need to understudy your attitude to know if she can cope with you
10. Avoid what you will not like in the future...if you are not an outgoing type, make it known to her except you are willing to change to suit her person
11. Be fervent in your prayers and also, observe her spiritual life
12. Church dating most times is full of deceit and pretense because both of you may want to look good to each other courtesy of the message you hear in church
13. Try to understand the essence of a win-win situation in every argument that ensues between you both.
14. Be open in your finances on both sides
15. Focus more on what the future holds for you both even when you have not made your intention known to her
16. Be courageous to accept your faults and take responsibility when reflecting on remote causes of your little issues
17. Be caring and observe if she will reciprocate the same
18. Do not be too circulated around her while it is important you step back at times to assess her urge for you
19. Build friendship instead of lust for her
20. Don't pay so much attention to her shape but focus more on her inner beauty which is what will stand the test of time

EkehPraise:
Wallet and Earbuds

nkemdi89:
What thing you are not getting my happiness and fulfillment should come first before other things , you want me to go into a marriage when I am not ready based on those reasons. I should live for me first.

Boss13:
You're looking for a wife in Lagos and worse still in Ajah/Lekki? What are you smoking and drinking again?

Virusvetty:
ahah
Are u deeper lifer at home too?

oke2018:
I don't attend deeper life again

Virusvetty:
pls come back na

oke2018:
ok no problem

Virusvetty:
ok
We promise to marry u. Come back

oke2018:
Hahahaha you're funny ,so you think coming back to Deeper life is for me to marry you got it all wrong . I believe God has the best for me in stock in no time He will surely answer me .

Virusvetty:
Only joking I’m not a member myself.
Sure, Keeping praying to God and believe.

Juliearth:
This is what happens when you are quite desperate. Don't work yourself up nor give yourself a deadline. Focus on building friendship with the opposite gender for now before moving to the next phase.

EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

Kirkman:
Better enter Depper Life church go look for wife there and upgrade her to your specs afterwards. Cos this thing wey I dey read about your church girls dey give me cause for concern.

Elporo:
This thing dey work. The babes get boobs and ass at all.

MsCassano:
None sense
if this is how ladies do it won't you term them oloshos?