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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by mizz2posh: 12:25pm On Dec 23, 2021
IceColdVeins:
I need no holy spirit to murmur to me that these thoughts of yours were borne out of your bruised ego and utter disdain for the couple.
Claiming paternity will do you no good neither will it do your acclaimed daughter any good (I'm sure your propensity to readily steadily disburse funds is not that solid, the fact that the lady took to her heels said it all). Furthermore, this filthy thoughts of yours is just for the sole purpose of throwing chaos into their sparkling new family. When you were iteratively ramming your grubby banana against her Labia minora , did you make your intentions known to the lady that you were ready to have a baby with her? The lady was clever enough to outmaneuver you.

If I were the yahooboy, I'll sue your ass for defamation and damages at your first attempt to gaslight my wife out of her marriage.

Please leave them the fvck alone.
Thanks

Its your type they give another persons child then when u find out later u will want to kill yourself, gaslight which wife? any reasonable man should do a dna for his kids especially if he got the woman pregnant before marriage, thats not to say some married women are not worse.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:25pm On Dec 23, 2021
OhiOfIhima:
You can imagine the rubbish, every actions have equal reaction. The man should not let the matter die. Let him seek for legal mean to tackle the issue.

imagine the madness!

thats why i said that the dude should 1st approach her quietly and have this done undercover, as to not mess with her own life/marriage....but if she refuses?! let all hell loose.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Theresamay: 12:26pm On Dec 23, 2021
T0T0fucker:
good day all,

I really do need your mature opinions on this issue, I'm a young man in my early 30s. due to my personality am the kind of guy that flex alot. night life parties, clubbing and the rest.sometime last year I happened to be at the club, just like any other day..I took a girl home. (one night stand) we had sex and in the morning she left after I sorted her out.

She took my number though and from there we started chatting, due to how we clicked easily.. just like every other guy..I decided turn her to a friend with benefits...from friend with benefits....she started acting all up like a girlfriend. (coming to my house to pass the night and she can decide to leave whenever she wants) during this period, we had consexual sex raw because I was beginning to trust her a little.... that she wasn't really that bad.

Fast forward to the ending March this year, one issue led to another...and she stopped coming to my house...though we still talked sometimes on phone... later I got to know she got hooked with one rich yahoo boy.( which I didn't Care, because me na block on my own)

Next thing I saw on her whatsapp status was her traditional introduction rights, inviting her friends and well wishers, I congratulated her and moved on. after some time I saw her upload a pics of her baby bump.

Na wa o, na so it dey quick, fast forward to yesterday evening she just put to birth... which she also sent on her whatsapp status. retweeting her friends who congratulated her on her status.

Now, I haven't congratulated her yet, this has got me worried.. thinking.... "WHAT IF THIS CHILD IS MINE" I have every reason to believe it's mine.

1) calculating the month we broke up and had sex last to this December she gave birth is like few days pass 9 months.

2) the way she acted on the issue that made her stop coming to my place again... showed she already had this planned out (picked the yahoo boy over me because she knows am not going wife her...due to how we met )


3) the baby she uploaded is quite fair, and I also am fair in complexion. (her man is black)

With this I have every reason to believe that child might be mine.... but am really confused don't know what to do... have been thinking ever since yesterday night.

Can I fight this now or I should wait till the baby is grown?


Moving on when I know I have a child somewhere, my offsprings is not an option.. because I feel scammed already.
If u value your life stay away from the child. She was not sleeping with only you. U wouldn't have married her now, u want to go & destroy her marriage. If u know what clubbers can do, try to destroy the marriage in the name of claiming paternity. I move

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by OhiOfIhima: 12:26pm On Dec 23, 2021
gunners160:
shut the Bleep up. Stop acting like you are a Saint. She is olosho but she is married,so respect her for that. I Dont Even belief the guy she is married to his a yahoo guy . So Dont just spew rubbish

You call that rubbish bcoz you don't know the value of kids, if you're, you should fight to get what belong to you.

It really appalling, now her marriage is more valued that her wayward life.. You deserve Buhari in 10 years to come.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Wazobia2216: 12:30pm On Dec 23, 2021
T0T0fucker:

disdain for a girl I met in the club? she was the one who got attached in the first place and I welcomed her..she thought she can tame me... like I said before... I flex alot... you ought to know what cause our issue...I was never going to wife her... then tell me why do you think am trying to scatter her marriage.

bros talk well.

I don't hate her, I wished her well when she stops coming to my place...all this your saying makes no sense



those saying I should leave the baby and move on, I can't.
I will like to know if that child is mine or not..(infact am 100% sure it could be mine) because we did spend alot of time together.

am not a simp, .it's the baby am after... besides she's married already.
She used you to get what she want (pregnancy)!

How does it feel to be used by a girl

You can't marry her cause you met her in a club, yet you live such lifestyle!!!

How hypocritical can you be

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:30pm On Dec 23, 2021
TypicallyBrunt:
No misplaced priority chief.
OP's story is lacking a great deal of credibility with his switching around dates.
You had a lot of time planning a post yet mess up the most important aspect of the post, The dates. How can you post February and then switch it to March only after you have been called out to the impossibility of your claims?
The child is obviously with his rightful and biological father now.

yeah but anyone can be wrong... and here is something better: if the baby aint his, HE will be the only one looking like a damn fool.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Ungodly: 12:31pm On Dec 23, 2021
T0T0fucker:
good day all,

I really do need your mature opinions on this issue, I'm a young man in my early 30s. due to my personality am the kind of guy that flex alot. night life parties, clubbing and the rest.sometime last year I happened to be at the club, just like any other day..I took a girl home. (one night stand) we had sex and in the morning she left after I sorted her out.

She took my number though and from there we started chatting, due to how we clicked easily.. just like every other guy..I decided turn her to a friend with benefits...from friend with benefits....she started acting all up like a girlfriend. (coming to my house to pass the night and she can decide to leave whenever she wants) during this period, we had consexual sex raw because I was beginning to trust her a little.... that she wasn't really that bad.

Fast forward to the ending March this year, one issue led to another...and she stopped coming to my house...though we still talked sometimes on phone... later I got to know she got hooked with one rich yahoo boy.( which I didn't Care, because me na block on my own)

Next thing I saw on her whatsapp status was her traditional introduction rights, inviting her friends and well wishers, I congratulated her and moved on. after some time I saw her upload a pics of her baby bump.

Na wa o, na so it dey quick, fast forward to yesterday evening she just put to birth... which she also sent on her whatsapp status. retweeting her friends who congratulated her on her status.

Now, I haven't congratulated her yet, this has got me worried.. thinking.... "WHAT IF THIS CHILD IS MINE" I have every reason to believe it's mine.

1) calculating the month we broke up and had sex last to this December she gave birth is like few days pass 9 months.

2) the way she acted on the issue that made her stop coming to my place again... showed she already had this planned out (picked the yahoo boy over me because she knows am not going wife her...due to how we met )


3) the baby she uploaded is quite fair, and I also am fair in complexion. (her man is black)

With this I have every reason to believe that child might be mine.... but am really confused don't know what to do... have been thinking ever since yesterday night.

Can I fight this now or I should wait till the baby is grown?


Moving on when I know I have a child somewhere, my offsprings is not an option.. because I feel scammed already.
baba olosho don win you 1:0.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by gunners160(m): 12:31pm On Dec 23, 2021
OhiOfIhima:


You call that rubbish bcoz you don't know the value of kids, if you're, you should fight to get what belong to you.

It really appalling, now her marriage is more valued that her wayward life.. You deserve Buhari in 10 years to come.
what value of kids are you talking about?last time I checked he does not have any; put just Wants to fustrate another person's family. Would you takes such rubbish if u were the husband of that woman?

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by getrich4life: 12:32pm On Dec 23, 2021
Oga face front no go scatter person Marriage. She went for a better option. Heaven knows if I be the girl and you use this your attitude scatter my marriage, I swear on everything I have, I am coming to kill you. That’s the fact. Why not allow the girl enjoy her marriage and stop assuming

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by gunners160(m): 12:32pm On Dec 23, 2021
Wazobia2216:

She used you to get what she want (pregnancy)!

How does it feel to be used by a girl

You can't marry her cause you met her in a club, yet you live such lifestyle!!!

How hypocritical can you be
habi ask ham oo. Now she don japa the guy won dey do I am not a simp challenge

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Noblex2011(m): 12:33pm On Dec 23, 2021
Well done op
If I am in your situation, I will also like to find out whether the child is mine or not.
You are free to ask for DNA test in order to be sure. Even, that will also be good for the other guy she married. But you need to be sure that you carry out this thing in way that will not ruined this woman marriage. I don't know how you are going to do that. Not ruining her marriage is very important if you want to carry out the DNA test.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Onyiiobi7735(m): 12:34pm On Dec 23, 2021
T0T0fucker:
good day all,

I really do need your mature opinions on this issue, I'm a young man in my early 30s. due to my personality am the kind of guy that flex alot. night life parties, clubbing and the rest.sometime last year I happened to be at the club, just like any other day..I took a girl home. (one night stand) we had sex and in the morning she left after I sorted her out.

She took my number though and from there we started chatting, due to how we clicked easily.. just like every other guy..I decided turn her to a friend with benefits...from friend with benefits....she started acting all up like a girlfriend. (coming to my house to pass the night and she can decide to leave whenever she wants) during this period, we had consexual sex raw because I was beginning to trust her a little.... that she wasn't really that bad.

Fast forward to the ending March this year, one issue led to another...and she stopped coming to my house...though we still talked sometimes on phone... later I got to know she got hooked with one rich yahoo boy.( which I didn't Care, because me na block on my own)

Next thing I saw on her whatsapp status was her traditional introduction rights, inviting her friends and well wishers, I congratulated her and moved on. after some time I saw her upload a pics of her baby bump.

Na wa o, na so it dey quick, fast forward to yesterday evening she just put to birth... which she also sent on her whatsapp status. retweeting her friends who congratulated her on her status.

Now, I haven't congratulated her yet, this has got me worried.. thinking.... "WHAT IF THIS CHILD IS MINE" I have every reason to believe it's mine.

1) calculating the month we broke up and had sex last to this December she gave birth is like few days pass 9 months.

2) the way she acted on the issue that made her stop coming to my place again... showed she already had this planned out (picked the yahoo boy over me because she knows am not going wife her...due to how we met )


3) the baby she uploaded is quite fair, and I also am fair in complexion. (her man is black)

With this I have every reason to believe that child might be mine.... but am really confused don't know what to do... have been thinking ever since yesterday night.

Can I fight this now or I should wait till the baby is grown?


Moving on when I know I have a child somewhere, my offsprings is not an option.. because I feel scammed already.
Oga,the baby is not yours.How did you know that? Did the girl tell you she was pregnant for you before you both separated?
You said the baby is fair but what if the girl in question had a fair complexion gene in her family blood line or the husband and the baby inherited the trait.
You have absolutely no evidence to prove the baby is yours,no valid one at all.
Besides only a woman knows the father of her unborn child,and you can't go anywhere with this your ridiculous assumptions.
Moreover wait for a few years till the baby is grown,because children's complexion change as they grow.Keep a close tab on the woman and child,and see whether he or she bears a resemblance to you.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Dreytonisback(m): 12:35pm On Dec 23, 2021
Like you said , she's a hoe
Hoes bleep both fair and dark guys who's willing to pay

You're not the only fair guy she bleeps
In this life anything that involves stress I don't get myself involved
MOVE ON

Lights up my kpoli in peace

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by WillyDave: 12:36pm On Dec 23, 2021
thesicilian:
From your story you don't strike me as a very smart fellow

This Op is very annoying with his poor way of reasoning.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by IvarDboneless: 12:36pm On Dec 23, 2021
You all sound pathetic so because he was not ready to wife her he should forget about clearing his curiosity and saving another nig*** from the devilish gender...mumu youths...spits

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by chyzoo4u(m): 12:36pm On Dec 23, 2021
IceColdVeins:
I need no holy spirit to murmur to me that these thoughts of yours were borne out of your bruised ego and utter disdain for the couple.
Claiming paternity will do you no good neither will it do your acclaimed daughter any good (I'm sure your propensity to readily steadily disburse funds is not that solid, the fact that the lady took to her heels said it all). Furthermore, this filthy thoughts of yours is just for the sole purpose of throwing chaos into their sparkling new family. When you were iteratively ramming your grubby banana against her Labia minora , did you make your intentions known to the lady that you were ready to have a baby with her? The lady was clever enough to outmaneuver you.

If I were the yahooboy, I'll sue your ass for defamation and damages at your first attempt to gaslight my wife out of her marriage.

Please leave them the fvck alone.
Thanks

Dear sir,

I humbly apply to learn English Language.

I anticipate my request will be granted.

Sincerely,
Chyzoo4u

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by joeking2222: 12:37pm On Dec 23, 2021
T0T0fucker:

I can never marry her, she knows that.

if that child is mine, I will like to take full responsibility for it....full custody....if she agrees.
it's my offsprings....
probably we can do court agreements or arrangements in respect to the child.( I think they is something in our constitution that says something like that)

she can go ahead with her life and marriage...
Baba, go calm down o!!! Coz i never see any concrete evidence u don drop to really compel us to bliv say na u get dat CHILD apart frm ur CALCULATION of d period wey u slept wit her. Bro, if u go wit dis ur mind set, and later it dawn on u say no b u truly get dat CHILD, just b ready to get ur ASS sued by d LADY and HUSBAND, while they watch u loosing everything u have on EARTH, wic can in turn make u loose ur SANITY, if not ur LIFE sef!!! Coz i never see PIKIN wey dem just born some days ago to be havin BLACK SKIN!!!

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Nobody: 12:37pm On Dec 23, 2021
The problem u have is that you like this girl, forget that matter of you trying to be cool and saying you will never wife her.
You like her but your problem is your pride, you feel you met her in a hotel so you can't get married to her but you enjoyed her company and her staying with you performing wife duties.
But now she has choose someone else over you and a probably a richer person, you become very jealous.
The stone the builder refuse is now the cornerstone.
All this "the baby might be mine" is just an excuse to destroy her happiness as she is hurt you, even if it's turns out the child wasn't yours, you want the satisfaction of the husband finding out that the wife was cheating when they were dating each other.

And I am sure as petty as you might be you will even announce how you meet her in an hotel.

Just move on, many guys forming I don't care attitude are usually the ones that falls so hard in love

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Ikpeabujo(m): 12:37pm On Dec 23, 2021
You want to use one stone and kill two birds.. I'm trying to advice you but I want you to answer this question honestly...... what if the child turns out not to be your child how do you intend to repair the damages you will cause to the young family because if it's me I will make sure it's cost your life ..... sometimes we let go because we can't have everything

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by IceColdVeins(m): 12:38pm On Dec 23, 2021
mizz2posh:


Its your type they give another persons child then when u find out later u will want to kill yourself, gaslight which wife? any reasonable man should do a dna for his kids especially if he got the woman pregnant before marriage, thats not to say some married women are not worse.


The idea of DNA should come from the husband.
Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Onyiiobi7735(m): 12:38pm On Dec 23, 2021
T0T0fucker:

I will only leave them when I confirm the child is not mine.
And how are you going to do that?
Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by dettolgel: 12:39pm On Dec 23, 2021
Op if you are Igbo and the lady is, you have no case ooh. Even if that baby looks like you talk like you and walk like you as long as that man has paid her bride price you have no case.

Your only option is to pray and wait for the baby to grow up and maybe if you confront them then the baby might chose to have something to do with you.

Other than that na to cause unnecessary wahala.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by ksly24(m): 12:40pm On Dec 23, 2021
The speed in which the other guy used in wifing her tho.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by jasminer: 12:40pm On Dec 23, 2021
T0T0fucker:
good day all,

I really do need your mature opinions on this issue, I'm a young man in my early 30s. due to my personality am the kind of guy that flex
Moving on when I know I have a child somewhere, my offsprings is not an option.. because I feel scammed already.

I can see you have made up your mind already but one thing I must say is: Let's assume you are right and you're the father of the child, she definitely won't agree to do a DNA test, secondly if you force her to do that through a court case and it comes out positive, and you manage to get visitation rights (you can't get even shared custody till the baby is a bit older, you can only get visitation rights), would she still have a marriage?

So now she's a bitter divorcee who you won't marry but scattered her marriage. Do you think she will be happy with you? She'll sue your for child support (half of your monthly salary, accomodation and anything else), then she will make sure she poisons that child against you and may even interefer in any attempt to marry.

In the end, you may end up with a brainwashed child and a bitter babymama, a permanent drain inyour finances.

Is this what you want?

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by ZBUGZY: 12:40pm On Dec 23, 2021
Oga when you no pay bride price, you wan use short court collect pikin.
If you wan spoil person own, na you own go spoil.
All the sperm wey you dey flush for toilet didn't matter to you. Come to think of it. Do you want a hoe you be the mother of ur child. That's if the child is yours.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by biggz82: 12:43pm On Dec 23, 2021
My guy no go full yourself, u think say the time wen you dey calculate na only you dey piss inside.

Bros comot your eye for soldier man salary.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by sofiscatedmoron: 12:45pm On Dec 23, 2021
T0T0fucker:

yes, I shouldn't have housed a hóe.. she will always be a hóe I Know that.

that's why when she left, I didn't give a hoot. but the recent happenings Is what's getting me worried.
Leave matter for Mathias, leave them and move on

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by gassbee: 12:45pm On Dec 23, 2021
T0T0fucker:


yes I can take care of the child, am not a kid.
thanks
bros forget dat child n move on. If u r so desperate for a child, get another lady, settle down n start raising your family . You are playing with fire if d guy is a rugged man

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by oshaosha2014(m): 12:46pm On Dec 23, 2021
That baby could even be for another customer she was seeing; not you or the Yahoo boy. Don't disturb your head over this.

T0T0fucker:

disdain for a girl I met in the club? she was the one who got attached in the first place and I welcomed her..she thought she can tame me... like I said before... I flex alot... you ought to know what cause our issue...I was never going to wife her... then tell me why do you think am trying to scatter her marriage.

bros talk well.

I don't hate her, I wished her well when she stops coming to my place...all this your saying makes no sense



those saying I should leave the baby and move on, I can't.
I will like to know if that child is mine or not..(infact am 100% sure it could be mine) because we did spend alot of time together.

am not a simp, .it's the baby am after... besides she's married already.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by josh6633: 12:47pm On Dec 23, 2021
LilMissFavvy:
You had all the time in the world to make that lady your wife, yet you refused. According to you, you preferred to keep her as a "friend with benefits", and use her as long as she would have foolishly allowed. Luckily for her, another man took her, loved her enough to wife her speedily, now you want to ruin what she has. Oga pls, carry your evil' mind away from that young marriage. You can always marry and have children, leave your ex alone. What will you gain if you destroy their marriage? Nothing. So don't do that.

Just imagine the kind of rubbish that is coming out of your mouth.
So because the guy won't marry her now justify her actions right? If truely that pregnancy belongs to her ex why will she do that in the first place. Some of u ladies are evil. So u are justifying her actions by giving another man baby to her husband. Do u even know the psychological truama this may cause her husband in the future knowing fully well that the child he have trained and called his own is actually not his.

In short, the guy made the right decision not to marry that lady because she is desperate and wicked. Why can't she tell the guy she is pregnant, and if the guy loves her he can still marry her than this wickedness she has done. And u think if her so called husband find out, the marriage won't end.

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Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by Nyanabo(m): 12:47pm On Dec 23, 2021
Wahala no de finish oh undecided

Re: Can I Fight This Now Or Wait Till The Baby Is Grown? by BestRicePlug28(f): 12:48pm On Dec 23, 2021
Baby daddy na your name funny me pass this your wahala

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