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hotwax:
i dont think she is into hookup. She just wanted to have a fling..one night stand...most ladies do..even the decent and faithful ones...

one guy will just come from nowhere and he will bang them...

I never saw any sign of infidelity in her...

I didnt disvirgin her, but she was well kept...I dont want to reveal everything

Holywizard:
all these things are making it difficult for me to be committed to a relationship, knowing how easy it has been for me to be sleeping with people's lovers

franchasng:
I am not saying its good or that it doesn't hurt. What I am saying is, Nigerian men should tone down on how they demonize Nigerian women over sexual promiscuity while sparing the men who are usually the initiators of promiscuity. We ought to tone down on how we overblow it and make it seem like Nigerian ladies are the worst set of women on earth just because of cheating.



I used to scream like you some years back too, but with time and exposure I have come to realize that these things are natural occurrences that can never stop. So whenever such happens to you, just smile and move on, and learn to play and act smarter. Life is a movie, the better actors always get the best roles, so try and be the best actor of life so you will always get the lead roles lol.



Can the op swear with his life that he hasn't fvcked one or two girls aside this his girlfriend before this incident? Ladies will catch their boyfriends in worst scenarios than this and they still forgive and move on without making a headline news from it but when we guys experience just small of the things we throw at our Nigerian ladies, we start to cry blood and call them all sorts of names as if we ourselves are saints, lol

Realmi:
anu or anus

Shellsploit:
No mind the Op, that lady dey into hookup. Someone fit done share her nnudes on nairaland ashawo telegram group

KarinaLove:
Are you married?

Why are you having sex when you are not married?

Don't you know you are Fornicating and committing a very big and terrible SIN Mr Man!!!

Well, I think that's pay back for your sins.

Bye

Dybala11:
God help us o.

BlaqJosh:
Hmmmm, This is un _ *believable*,
your babe won fvck another client inside the same hotel, now imagine what she will be doing at your back.
but you supposed dey happy that it ended if not for your wedding day her ex alone go full one canopy dey order your rice and beer any how...

hotwax:
i dont think she is into hookup. She just wanted to have a fling..one night stand...most ladies do..even the decent and faithful ones...

one guy will just come from nowhere and he will bang them...

I never saw any sign of infidelity in her...

I didnt disvirgin her, but she was well kept...I dont want to reveal everything

advanceDNA:
What you are failing to realize and admit is the world isn’t what it used to be 20years ago....

When did our girls start becoming prostitutes
Students, wives, working class young girls, all for greed...

It’s more rampant.. and more men now have more experience.... so how can you expect them not to talk about..... ur call for toning down on narrating their experiences is irritating...
If you don’t like it... may b u should speak the women about upping their morality bar

Shellsploit:
Wait, are u sure ahe was actually having her menstrual flow?
Op, u for check under her skirt to confirm na.

But wait oo, wetin she wan go do for the guy hotel room




This kain gender sef!

VTJN:
My concern is why do we Men feel women are cheat generally? Men had made it look lawful if we cheat than the female folks

The reality is that we Men are the worst when it comes to infidelity. Nigerian men in particular. We had no regards for marriage. Nigerian Men would have 2/3 wives and still sleep around

The guy Op girlfriend intend cheating with would probably had a girfriend somewhere believing she got a responsible guy

We men believes once we have money, then we automatically had 70% of what will make girls crawl around us. A man who had once cheated on his wife/girlfriend has no right referring to a girl as prostitute

Nigerian men who will cheat and still rubb it on their wives face believing she can't do nothing. Nigerian men who probably had slept with different women then turn out looking for a virgin girl to settle down with no be juju be that kwa

If we men chose to be responsible, stop that dirty African mentality of "I am a Man, i can sleep around and marry more waives, you're a woman, where is your dignity" and don't allow money control us believing we got money to have girls at our disposal. There would definitely be less weeping of infidelity

Even poor men in Nigeria cheat. They cheat despite their financial predicament. A man's wife would die and he'd moved on so quickly unlike the women. We men are truly dogs to be candid. We can sleep with anything under skirt. I mean any fvcking thing

Reason why we have fathers sleeping with their biological daughters, domestic staff, office staff, their wife sisters amongst many others. We even had paedophile, rapist chai

The problem with Nigerian men is the law. We know what we're doing is absolutely wrong but chose to indulge in it. When we get to the western world we became much more responsible even more than the ladies. Why? Because we know what's at stake. Our law in this climes is so absurd seriously

Some men would be claiming they are Africans. It's in our culture to sleep around and marry as much as many wives and same culture prohibit women from doing that. Then why are we men still complaining, calling girls all sorts of derogatory names? Was it not someone that'd marry some of those numerous girls we sleep with? Or we expect them to become virgin back having slept with them?

I'm even tired sef. I so much hate the way Nigerian men behaves no offence

hotwax:
i dont think she is into hookup. She just wanted to have a fling..one night stand...most ladies do..even the decent and faithful ones...

one guy will just come from nowhere and he will bang them...

I never saw any sign of infidelity in her...

I didnt disvirgin her, but she was well kept...I dont want to reveal everything

Holywizard:
the worst is being in a long distance relationship

Holywizard:
the worst is being in a long distance relationship

Dybala11:
Omo, I still remember the first and only time that I've made a conscious effort to start a relationship this year. I met the girl via a crypto currency WhatsApp group. Immediately I saw that the girl is in Delta State and I'm in South West, I didn't even bother again sef. I just let the so called relationship die a natural death within few weeks. I don't intend to cheat on my partner when I eventually decide to start a relationship and I don't want to be cheated upon too.

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

henrimoto:
....she is not into hookups ?...and she was so fast to strike a companionship deal with a man she is not familiar with at your own expence. According to you... She hasn't tried calling your phone no, no single text message to you. .... And you said, you didnt see any sign of infidelity in her ? How can you see that one?, when you are in lagos and she is in ibadan.

ivolt:
Talk true.
You are looking for someone to bail you from poverty.
There is nothing wrong with that but you don't need hate and lies to justify your decision.

Holywizard:
some guys know that their partners can't stay 4 days without having sex and they still be doing long distance relationship. Lol.

Nat404:
When her mom began to ask about me through my sister, I knew something was going on.

Her mother told my sister that her daughter really loves me.

MPESA:
Are you looking for LIKES & SHARES or been stup.d? , Why generalizing, if your father, son or Brothers are BROSTITUDE should not be a case for everyone....at least not me and the sane one's.

BlaqJosh:
Hmmmm, This is un _ *believable*,
your babe won fvck another client inside the same hotel, now imagine what she will be doing at your back.
but you supposed dey happy that it ended if not for your wedding day her ex alone go full one canopy dey order your rice and beer any how...