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Honestly my wife seems to be lucky oh


I have no secret, no skeleton to hide, no nothing



My only little secret is that I love fine girls a lot, especially the ones with big bombom and flat tummy and my wife knows about this and it cracks her up a lot



I just keep wondering where Naija ladies de meet all these yeye boyfriends cos I know a lot of quality guys, quality as in financially loaded, success focused, well behaved, no sexual baggage except one or few flings.



And funny enough, most of these type of quality guys full online but our chicks sometimes dont recognize them cos they wanna see Graig David's kind of profile pictures and rich looking environment to measure how successful the guy is before replying his casual DM, but not knowing that truly loaded guys no de too.post pictures online unless posting such pictures brings him more money or more business.


Ladies make una wise up small....even Nairaland is a good place to hook up better guys who have less baggage, i know waaramsayin oh lol, cos when I been de completely single, I full ground here oh de observe lol, so dear ladies dont neglect any location or platform, correct guys are mostly found in strangest places lol



Op pele oh, take heart, better guys full ground, if to say my wife for gree make I marry more wives I for cast my net on Nairaland lol



I see polygamy solving Nigeria's marriage and dating challenges, I see Churches encouraging well to do men to take up more wives to close the gap of our brothers that refused to have sense, I see Nigerian ladies gladly accepting polygamy, this I have seen

MY sister.. thank your God..it was only he who showed this to you..

He didn't want you to enter one chance..

Techguy96:
Some yrs back two gay men were buried in Enugu alive, with the way Nigerians treat queer people, I wouldn't blame them. Unless we change our mentality from conservative to progressive things like this will continue to happen.

Yea, you are so right but still, society literally pushes this trope but still that's no excuse. That's just pure deception and seeing women like things to calm society's anger but i'm quite sure change is on the way

franchasng:
And funny enough, most of these type of quality guys full online but our chicks sometimes dont recognize them cos they wanna see Graig David's kind of profile pictures and rich looking environment to measure how successful the guy is before replying his casual DM, but not knowing that truly loaded guys no de too.post pictures online unless posting such pictures brings him more money or more business.

Craig David we know, but who in Oluwaseun Osewa's green world is Graig David?

Eviana:
Wow,
This OP really hit home for me.
The most devastating thing, I believe, that can happen to a woman in a perceived heterosexual relationship, is finding out that you are living a lie. That the man whom you shared your heart with (and perhaps even conceived children with) is not heterosexual at all.
Awhile ago I had a conversation with a friend about what she thought would be more devastating: A. finding out that her significant other (male) has been cheating with a woman OR B. finding out that her significant other (male) has been cheating with a man?
She said A.
I was shocked cause I couldn't believe that she chose "A".
Her rationale was that she has no chance when it comes to the man being gay and cheating with a man...but if cheating with a woman, she would always wonder what the woman whom he cheated with had, that was better than her.

I, vehemently, disagreed with her....and she had to remind me that it was her opinion and choice.
The conversation ended.

Looking at this from a purely secular/non-religious viewpoint, I would have to say that both parties are victims.
Victims in the sense that because of societal, cultural dictates, (especially in a "religious" country such as Nigeria), there is no safe place for those whom believe that they are homosexual, to openly practice and live their lives.
So because the practice of homosexuality is forbidden and allegedly punished by law in Nigeria (and many black African countries), the only way the homosexual person can live is through underground/hiding. So the homosexual, in turn, marries a heterosexual in order to keep up appearances and the expected cultural norm.
So now an innocent person is brought into the deception and even conception of children.
It becomes such a tangled web of lies....until it finally bursts open (because the homosexual can no longer hide his true feelings) and all is exposed...leaving emotional devastation so deep and hearts so broken and feelings so embittered that it almost becomes irreparable.

I am a born and raised Christian and have commented on many threads in the Religion room pertaining to homosexuality and the Bible.
This OP happens within the church as well. In fact, a large homosexual population exists in the church, but it is kept "hush-hush."
I cannot condone the act, simply because God condemns the act.....as He condemns a plethora of other sins.
I don't personally believe that same-sex attraction is just as cut and dry as saying a person was "born that way." So many other reasons have been cited as reasons why the attraction has developed.
Clearly and most importantly, the Bible cannot be contradictory, and it is impossible for God to be a liar---so the answer is plain for those who are confused and sincerely pray for the truth.

I do, however, believe in freedom of choice.
I believe that people should not be ostracized, beaten or killed because of their choice of lifestyle.
For me as a Christian, heterosexual woman, I can support the freedom of choice YET disagree with that person's choice and NOT harm, discriminate against or ostracize him/her.
I happen to live in a country where homosexuality is not only celebrated, but rewarded...which is a gazing-stock and shunned by the majority of developing nations such as Nigeria. Also which is probably why Bobrisky is such a phenomenon there.

I think, however, where the majority of African countries have a big issue is how they choose to address the issue. Is it a governmental right to exact certain laws which are extremely harmful to individuals who clearly aren't physically causing harm to another person, but whose lifestyles aren't the norm? Is homosexuality on the same level as murder, robbery, kidnapping etc., in a governmental sense?
Clearly, in many black African nations, it seems to be.
Every human being should be regarded as a human being...complete with freedom of choice and rights.
Until Nigeria is ready to truly address the issue in mature, serious manner, these types of stories will continue to forever be the narrative.

So many layers to this issue...so many.
I'm sorry for delving off of the topic in a sense.

My prayer is for the OP (if this is a true story) and anyone going through this type of situation (cause I guarantee that there is someone else reading this thread who is) to heal by going to God in prayer---first and foremost.
If not a spiritual person, I would suggest that you call out to Him anyhow. Yell and scream if necessary,
Tell Him you're not sure He exists and then dump your cares on Him.....cry it out.
Then perhaps seek Christian counseling as a practical way to help you through the devastating crisis.
I cannot NOT suggest some form of religion because it really is the only way to get true healing.

This is by far the best and most constructive take to this.. God bless you real good

Walkee:
at least his gay purple skinny jeans lover will not complain about his small pencil unlike you borehole carriers

They are the ones that complain the most but not all though, Ever heard of the term "size queens"? They made it up

I feel really sorry you had to go through this.
The guy did not try at all but then i wouldn't blame him because he had to do what he had to do.
The Nigerian society ain't so accepting of his kind and its not helping matters.
This kinda scenario would always happen because they tryn save face.

I also feel sad for the guy because he might be on suicidal thought now

The entire story sounds made up. I am very very sure if your partner is gay or a bisexual male, you cannot spend 2yrs with him without picking up on very strong hints

To accidentally run into 2 expose within hours as this, is almost incredible and fantastic. It's very unlikely she didn't call, text or WhatsApp him that she is on the way to his house. She simply made this decision to go to his place from work without as much as a call or message even though she knew he is closing later. It's normal for couples to discuss during the hours and as she is going to his place it is expected in d course of her stat there she must have mentioned a hint she was at his place cos one would expect them to have talked within those hours from 2pm to 10pm

A critical look at this story would give more reasons for doubt. Few woman would stay with a four minute man, without complaints and steps for medical assistance. She would also want us to believe his sexual orientation is linked to his poor bedroom performance. This is what fictional stories always try to stereotype. Truth is that most gay men or MSM would not even be turned on by women at all and when they do get turned on, it isn't difficult for the woman to know that the entire pre-intimacy and act repells him which is why I said that 2yrs is a lot for her not to already know

AfroKnight:
This doesn’t make sense. Are you slow or something?

abeg go wail elsewhere.no dey lament for my mention

Sister I felt ur pain.All I can say is that God loves u so much which is why he made u look into the file. I believe he doesn't want u to marry the wrong person. This is an opportunity for you to appreciate God by going closer to him and he will direct the right person to locate u.

Ishilove:
Craig David we know, but who in Oluwaseun Osewa's green world is Graig David?

lolz, na Craig I wan type oh

Show that same bed una de knack na him dey knack him boyfriend too Tueh God forbid bad thing.

Sorry my friend, just keep away from relationship at least for 6months and you should attend therapy cause this is one hell of a trumatic experience even for the most strongest of all.

siofra:
This is what these redpillers do. 80% of the redpillers on this forum are homosexuals. Yeessss they are.


I'm sorry dear. Men are scum and useless. Disgrace him and tell all his friends. For two years he deceived you.

Since you're a very emotional woman I suggest you go to therapy because the months to come will not be easy for you at all.

But you'll heal and you'll be fine. Men areee scuuuummmm.

When u get married if u ever will.. Look into ur husband's eyes or ur dad's eyes and call him a scum..

Walkee:
at least his gay purple skinny jeans lover will not complain about his small pencil unlike you borehole carriers

You meant the one who wears pampers to augment his leaky anus? The one who gives hiv out to his partners like Tom Tom? I'm pretty sure you fit the description.

manontree:
The entire story sounds made up. I am very very sure if your partner is gay or a bisexual male, you cannot spend 2yrs with him without picking up on very strong hints

To accidentally run into 2 expose within hours as this, is almost incredible and fantastic. It's very unlikely she didn't call, text or WhatsApp him that she is on the way to his house. She simply made this decision to go to his place from work without as much as a call or message even though she knew he is closing later. It's normal for couples to discuss during the hours and as she is going to his place it is expected in d course of her stat there she must have mentioned a hint she was at his place cos one would expect them to have talked within those hours from 2pm to 10pm

A critical look at this story would give more reasons for doubt. Few woman would stay with a four minute man, without complaints and steps for medical assistance. She would also want us to believe his sexual orientation is linked to his poor bedroom performance. This is what fictional stories always try to stereotype. Truth is that most gay men or MSM would not even be turned on by women at all and when they do get turned on, it isn't difficult for the woman to know that the entire pre-intimacy and act repells him which is why I said that 2yrs is a lot for her not to already know

You've simply exposed the fact that you know nothing about a relationship between a man and a woman. People surprise their loved ones by showing up unexpectedly sometimes and yes it's possible for you stinky gays to hide your sexual preference and frustrate straight people into thinking you're straight.

GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.

Sorry for what happened and it's entirely not your fault. No one deserves such. The problem is that the society you live in doesn't make it suitable or conducive for people like your husband to live in peace. His friends will castigate him, his family and everyone around him will begin to treat him like he has a serious disease if he dares open up to them. So I guess he'll rather hide and pretend to be what he's not. Things like this will always be an issue as long as society doesn't accept them. This also applies to lesbians. I'm not gay before you might think I'm being bias or unreasonable.

irunoko:
abeg go wail elsewhere.no dey lament for my mention

This is why I don’t like replying slow people.

Nonsense!!! When I met my ex with another lady and proceeded to have nothing to do with her anymore, people were saying I wasn't smart, that I could have a threèsome with the two of them. The fools didn't know how it hurt. Hahahahahahahaha.

Eviana:
Wow,
This OP really hit home for me.
The most devastating thing, I believe, that can happen to a woman in a perceived heterosexual relationship, is finding out that you are living a lie. That the man whom you shared your heart with (and perhaps even conceived children with) is not heterosexual at all.
Awhile ago I had a conversation with a friend about what she thought would be more devastating: A. finding out that her significant other (male) has been cheating with a woman OR B. finding out that her significant other (male) has been cheating with a man?
She said A.
I was shocked cause I couldn't believe that she chose "A".
Her rationale was that she has no chance when it comes to the man being gay and cheating with a man...but if cheating with a woman, she would always wonder what the woman whom he cheated with had, that was better than her.

I, vehemently, disagreed with her....and she had to remind me that it was her opinion and choice.
The conversation ended.

Looking at this from a purely secular/non-religious viewpoint, I would have to say that both parties are victims.
Victims in the sense that because of societal, cultural dictates, (especially in a "religious" country such as Nigeria), there is no safe place for those whom believe that they are homosexual, to openly practice and live their lives.
So because the practice of homosexuality is forbidden and allegedly punished by law in Nigeria (and many black African countries), the only way the homosexual person can live is through underground/hiding. So the homosexual, in turn, marries a heterosexual in order to keep up appearances and the expected cultural norm.
So now an innocent person is brought into the deception and even conception of children.
It becomes such a tangled web of lies....until it finally bursts open (because the homosexual can no longer hide his true feelings) and all is exposed...leaving emotional devastation so deep and hearts so broken and feelings so embittered that it almost becomes irreparable.

I am a born and raised Christian and have commented on many threads in the Religion room pertaining to homosexuality and the Bible.
This OP happens within the church as well. In fact, a large homosexual population exists in the church, but it is kept "hush-hush."
I cannot condone the act, simply because God condemns the act.....as He condemns a plethora of other sins.
I don't personally believe that same-sex attraction is just as cut and dry as saying a person was "born that way." So many other reasons have been cited as reasons why the attraction has developed.
Clearly and most importantly, the Bible cannot be contradictory, and it is impossible for God to be a liar---so the answer is plain for those who are confused and sincerely pray for the truth.

I do, however, believe in freedom of choice.
I believe that people should not be ostracized, beaten or killed because of their choice of lifestyle.
For me as a Christian, heterosexual woman, I can support the freedom of choice YET disagree with that person's choice and NOT harm, discriminate against or ostracize him/her.
I happen to live in a country where homosexuality is not only celebrated, but rewarded...which is a gazing-stock and shunned by the majority of developing nations such as Nigeria. Also which is probably why Bobrisky is such a phenomenon there.

I think, however, where the majority of African countries have a big issue is how they choose to address the issue. Is it a governmental right to exact certain laws which are extremely harmful to individuals who clearly aren't physically causing harm to another person, but whose lifestyles aren't the norm? Is homosexuality on the same level as murder, robbery, kidnapping etc., in a governmental sense?
Clearly, in many black African nations, it seems to be.
Every human being should be regarded as a human being...complete with freedom of choice and rights.
Until Nigeria is ready to truly address the issue in mature, serious manner, these types of stories will continue to forever be the narrative.

So many layers to this issue...so many.
I'm sorry for delving off of the topic in a sense.

My prayer is for the OP (if this is a true story) and anyone going through this type of situation (cause I guarantee that there is someone else reading this thread who is) to heal by going to God in prayer---first and foremost.
If not a spiritual person, I would suggest that you call out to Him anyhow. Yell and scream if necessary,
Tell Him you're not sure He exists and then dump your cares on Him.....cry it out.
Then perhaps seek Christian counseling as a practical way to help you through the devastating crisis.
I cannot NOT suggest some form of religion because it really is the only way to get true healing.

You've given your own lengthy opinion. Now I ask, what will be your opinion if op was a lady? Will you not say 3some is set??

AfroKnight:
This is why I don’t like replying slow people.

abeg getat

You should be glad you got to know early and not while you are married to him. Just move on

Ishilove:
Craig David we know, but who in Oluwaseun Osewa's green world is Graig David?

what happens to discretion smh

Well....u won't blame him!! But i think u hav to expose him ooo for toiling with your emotions like that!! And also he should hav told u la if u were okay with it then u guys can continue ur relationship!! There are some guys that are naturally bi-sexual no matter how many women they get married to!! But in all it's well

.

Lol.. they don show this one pepper
This is what these redpillers do. 80% of the redpillers on this forum are homosexuals. Yeessss they are.


I'm sorry dear. Men are scum and useless. Disgrace him and tell all his friends. For two years he deceived you.

Since you're a very emotional woman I suggest you go to therapy because the months to come will not be easy for you at all.

But you'll heal and you'll be fine. Men areee scuuuummmm. >:

Wait ooo i have a question?? Is the guy really my name sake or u just made the name up!

GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.

Girl it's unfortunate you weren't lucky with your choice of man simple, Let's have a private conversation if you don't mind

irunoko:
abeg getat

See my point? Someone was unfortunate enough to pay this one’s school fees.