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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by franchasng: 9:33am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Ladycewhy:forget oh. Marriage didn't change me oh. I have been a coded horseband material but una no see am before na because I enjoyed those gender war then as it kept one busy and out of boredom lol As for the Op, his head de spark like NGK plug lol The op is a potential gold digger |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Ilovelife4sure: 9:35am On Jan 04, 2022 |
bigpicture001:Op this is a step in the right direction. Kudos to you for having this discussion before marriage to avoid she changed or he changed after marriage. After all said and done, I hope the same way you shared the financial responsibility is the same way you shared other duties like domestic chores like cooking, caring for the children when the time comes. If not you are being selfish Mr man, I am all for sharing responsibility but it must cover all areas. You don't expect her to contribute financially but do all the chores/ caring for the children alone. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Gerrard59(m): 9:35am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Interesting and hilarious thread. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Nobody: 9:35am On Jan 04, 2022 |
@OP, please if that girl comes back begging, don't ever make the mistake of accepting her. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by aktolly54(m): 9:37am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Olatara:just know someone will treat your own son the way you treat your own husband. If you are the type that separate son(your husband) from his family ,same fate await your own son |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by BigBashiru: 9:38am On Jan 04, 2022 |
franchasng: If a woman is providing for her self and her needs and fulfills her statutory financial obligations to her home then no man cares about her finances or wat she does with her moni. Nepa bill water electricity - these are things she uses too.... The man pays rent/mortgage and other heavy stuff. Seems like a fair deal to me.... |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Biggie2000(m): 9:38am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Beautibae:Let me go by your logic. You, that believe in God, how come you believe Satan is the evil one, when you have not heard his own side of the story? 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Ladycewhy(f): 9:39am On Jan 04, 2022 |
franchasng:oh so na cruise you come dey use us catch for here before . Wetin dey vex me pass be say dem wan dey claim if na "abroad". Forgetting say with this kind plan na jackpot the lady go hit for divorce settlement.imagine say courts see say she dey contribute this much for the house before the marriage crash ,omo her divorce lawyer go just dey smile,e fit even take up the case probono cos na serious cash out for divorce court be this . But for here despite contributing all this , taking care of the house , cleaning and taking care of the kids ,this op fit just wake up one day for some petty reason throw her out and even the kids too. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Nobody: 9:42am On Jan 04, 2022 |
dmostcheerful: You did not make any sense either! That majority said something doesn’t make it right! So if 7 out of 10 persons tells me the earth is round, I should accept when I know it’s actually spherical in shape. You nay sayers have failed to answer a few basic questions, like I asked that Bishop which he also failed to answer, if her money is her money, and I use my money to take care of her and run the home, of what use is her money, of what use is her working? Of what economic benefit is her working status? Secondly, why only African women? How come western women don’t have such mentality? How come western women are more than willing to share in bills and these are same people you feminists copy emancipation and equality from, why did you guys fail to copy financial responsibility also? To answer your poser concerning domestic chores, I have said so unapologetically, only a wicked man will watch his wife handle domestic chores all by herself in a nuclear family setting with kids still young and unable to assist while he does nothing. Times have since changed. She is not a maid because she married you. And yes, a lot of men has since adjusted to that reality. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Ladycewhy(f): 9:42am On Jan 04, 2022 |
BigBashiru:water and NEPA bill for an 80k earner is different from that of a 300k earner's budget. If she was making her budget with 80k do you think she will have appliances or stay in an area for big men with big utility bills? . Na 300k earner utility bills she go dey pay o,have that in mind. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Ilovelife4sure: 9:43am On Jan 04, 2022 |
I love people that discuss things such as this before marriage to know where you stand with your spouse for future reference. Op you did well and I applaud your foresight and practicality. However, you left out the chores part. In as much as finance is important in a marriage so is other things. Did you both discuss how both parties will be involved in the day to day running of the home, like cooking, doing laundry/ dishes, school run, caring for the children when the time comes this includes waking up at night to feed your baby or babies as the case may be, helping with home work etc. If the answer is no, then you are not being fair to her or truthful to yourself. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Idamond: 9:43am On Jan 04, 2022 |
myfantasies:and u still dey suffer urself inside unfruitful work.. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by dmostcheerful(f): 9:44am On Jan 04, 2022 |
BigBashiru:If you need a peaceful home oga, first of all remove the mentality of a woman helping financial wise. Raising kids is no child's play, I have 2 already I dey hear am. Waking by 4:30am, while everyone else is sleeping is just enough sacrifice, coming back from work doing chores why your husband watches T.V is enough mental stress. I keep saying it, let a woman helping financially be voluntarily why a man helping at home be voluntarily. That is if you want a peaceful home which should be a man's number one priority in life if you want to live long. I have dropped my 2cent 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Biggie2000(m): 9:45am On Jan 04, 2022 |
blackpanda:I'm sure your wife didn't/doesn't have entitlement mentality. The issue with ladies nowadays is their entitlement mentality; it's disgusting. They don't bring much to the table, they don't support your dreams or care to be a good helper; all they care about is that the man must continue to bring bring bring. Look at the comments from the ladies on this thread, you'll realize that they ONLY talk about their own needs, their relatives, how to look good physically, etc None of them cares how the man will take care of his own needs or his own relatives. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by BigBashiru: 9:47am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Ladycewhy: An 80k earner should be able to use 30-40% of her income to take care of herself and meet her statutory financial obligations in the home.... |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by wirinet(m): 9:50am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Ladycewhy: Imagine comparing the standard of living of an 80k earner with a 300k earner. I am sure the OP's house will have an electric stove, an electric water heater, freezer and air con in every room, the electric bill alone might be over 30k a month. About water, I hope the OP wouod be ok drinking pure water instead of demanding water dispenser. 3 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by franchasng: 9:52am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Ladycewhy:he is not yet ready to marry jareh, na theory him de talk. When he settles down eh, he will change his mentality and approach, unless money no de him hand. Sometimes being broke or not having enough money de make we guys misyarn lol You ladies should pray for us to have money, once we have, forget all these long theory guys are writing here because every Nigerian guy I know doing well financially loves spending lavishly on his girlfriend and wife no be joke. No other men spend on women like Naija guys oh, forget internet theories here on Nairaland. Go out there and observe. Even you ladies are witnesses that Naija guys arent stingy to their lovers na. Naija guys de go to rob bank or join Yahoo Yahoo just to hammer money to carry chicks No mind our commente on Nairaland oh, some of them here de use your last kobo to take their girlfriends to shopping or Mr Biggs and when they log into Nairaland they automatically become stingy redpillers but go to malls everywhere full.with guys and.their hot babes catching fun Make una stop to de take most of the comments on romance and relationship threads too serious oh, dont let their comments stop u from meeting them oh, some na opposite of what they do in real life them de comment on Nairaland lol Who no like fine ghel 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by BigBashiru: 9:53am On Jan 04, 2022 |
dmostcheerful: Nobody said a woman must "help financial wise".... I'm saying: 1. A woman must use her own money to take care of her self. Because she has a degree and can work. 2. Make a reasonable financial contribution towards child care no matter how small for they are her children too.... I think N25,000 per month per child is reasonable regardless of her salary...0.I don't care if she makes N1million per month just make a statutory financial contribution dats all. 3. As the guy I help with childcare too... and chores no big deal... Bottom line is women don't like stress... I don't hv a problem with that.... but then again the guy must not be used or feel used.... same for the woman she must not be or feel used. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by franchasng: 9:54am On Jan 04, 2022 |
BigBashiru:Oga Bashiru, wait until you marry one fine chick with big ukwu, na you go even give her all your ATM and the PIN 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Ladycewhy(f): 9:54am On Jan 04, 2022 |
BigBashiru:While she uses the rest to fund her husband's 300k taste? |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by BigBashiru: 9:55am On Jan 04, 2022 |
franchasng: @ ur last sentence that's the big problem of men. They marry ukwu and legs and regret it all their life.... |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by blackpanda: 9:56am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Biggie2000: I agree with you, and its unfortunate. There are many women but very few wives. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by BigBashiru: 9:57am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Ladycewhy: No na what she does with her moni is her business.... I don't look to a woman's money and her money is her business.... but she just has to make a reasonable financial contribution to the house that's all.... its easy to do these days she can sell on Jumia from home or take an online work from job.. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by franchasng: 9:58am On Jan 04, 2022 |
BigBashiru:Regret ke, unless the ukwu got deflected na, and ukwu no de fall like big boobs. Bashi abeg go find some big ukwu make we go flex jareh |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Biggie2000(m): 9:58am On Jan 04, 2022 |
placeofallure:Well said, ma! Please, enjoy this cold juice. 1 Like
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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Ladycewhy(f): 9:58am On Jan 04, 2022 |
franchasng:lol. To think some ladies fit take the deal then change am for am after marriage. Anyway like you said ,they guy nor ready ,and e be like say the lady tick other aspects for the op, maybe na that one make am think say she go jump at the deal. Aunty nor just talk kuku jakpa no time for drama or protest. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by franchasng: 10:01am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Ladycewhy:His girlfriend must be a No nonsense chick, no time to deliberate or even argue, just japa 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Wumex91: 10:02am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Ladycewhy(f): 10:03am On Jan 04, 2022 |
BigBashiru:Lol guy nor be force na ,the lady say she nor want. Make op go type the proposal dey give every lady till e find who go jump at the deal. See,I will not want a son in-law like the op, that's on God.if she is alone she will make her expenses based on her 80k nor be say you go say make she dey save for vacation abroad with her 80k ,yet there is no guarantee that one day you will not throw her out with nothing but her wrapper on her waist. If na abroad where there is alimony and child support I will ask her to grab the deal ,but not in Nigeria. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by wirinet(m): 10:03am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Biggie2000: They don't bring much to the table? Ok let's analyse this table. Child bearing - You think bearing children that carries half your DNA and your family name is not bringing much to the table? If you go for surrogacy and pay women to carry your baby for 9 month and birth them. How much do you think you will pay a surrogate to give you 3 children? Sex - how much do you think paid sex with a commercial sex worker would cost you? If an all night casts N10k and you have sex an average of twice a week, how much will that cost you at the end of 10 years? Child care. - if you were to pay a house girl or child care services to take care of your children, how much do you think it will cost you per month? Cooking - how much will you pay a chef to cook food for you and your children on a monthly basis? I have not even added going to the market. What about house keeping and washing of cloths? 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by myfantasies(f): 10:05am On Jan 04, 2022 |
Idamond:Since you get connection, help me with better job, or borrow me loan make I start side hustle. |
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by BigBashiru: 10:05am On Jan 04, 2022 |
franchasng: That's because she's in her early/mid 20s and still has bargaining power with men (youthful appearance)... |
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