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It's called self control.

Being in a relationship doesn't automatically kill having feelings for others, hence to be in a relationship is both a thing of the mind (logic, decision, faithfulness ), and of the heart (feelings, emotions, attractions).

If your friend is married for example, will she divorce and chase any new man she finds attractive? Of course not. Hence, commitment is a fundamental principle of a relationship.

Sammy101111:
But girls don't shame you let two friends Bleep you .

Hm. Having feelings doesn't mean ‘fucking’.

Lorayne:
Lol.. she ain't serious.

Does the boyfriend's friend know of her feelings?

I doubt. But I feel the guy has feelings for her cause of how he does.

pansophist:
It's called self control.

Being in a relationship doesn't automatically kill having feelings for others, hence to be in a relationship is both a thing of the mind (logic, decision, faithfulness ), and of the heart (feelings, emotions, attractions).

If your friend is married for example, will she divorce and chase any new man she finds attractive? Of course not. Hence, commitment is a fundamental principle of a relationship.

Commitment. It's really hard being committed to one guy if you guys ain't married.

And that's one reason I don't fancy relationships. Cause I see it as something that never lasts

...and also bcx I don't believe in love

pansophist:
It's called self control.

Being in a relationship doesn't automatically kill having feelings for others, hence to be in a relationship is both a thing of the mind (logic, decision, faithfulness ), and of the heart (feelings, emotions, attractions).

If your friend is married for example, will she divorce and chase any new man she finds attractive? Of course not. Hence, commitment is a fundamental principle of a relationship.

And you're right. Commitment is fundamental... for those who are the relationship kind Thanks for this ❣

You have feelings will the feelings not later result to 'fucking'
Feelings that as not involved 'fucking' never complete

Jaylynn:
Hm. Having feelings doesn't mean ‘fucking’.

Jaylynn:
I doubt. But I feel the guy has feelings for her cause of how he does.

She should just limit her interactions with him.


Really, the best thing is just for her to quit that relationship kawai.

Jaylynn:
Commitment. It's really hard being committed to one guy if you guys ain't married.

And that's one reason I don't fancy relationships. Cause I see it as something that never lasts

...and also bcx I don't believe in love

me too!.... Can we be fwbs?

Most times we know the answer to our questions yet we put it out to see if many others will validate it.

No matter the answers we give, you will choose what your heart tells you because it's the only organ in the body that if not controlled falls for every shiny thing and every diamond plated object.

The only thing I will say is go into yourself, ask what you prefer most- your current bf, your friendship or the other guy. Therein lies your answer that you "already have".

enirock:
Most times we know the answer to our questions yet we put it out to see if many others will validate it.

No matter the answers we give, you will choose what your heart tells you because it's the only organ in the body that if not controlled falls for every shiny thing and every diamond plated object.

The only thing I will say is go into yourself, ask what you prefer most- your current bf, your friendship or the other guy. Therein lies your answer that you "already have".

Wow. Thanks for this

Lorayne:
She should just limit her interactions with him.


Really, the best thing is just for her to quit that relationship kawai.

You're right

Lorayne:
me too!.... Can we be fwbs?

Lol...

Innobee99:

See this one

Ladies and gentlemen, you're here witnessing the making of a feminist.

Jaylynn:
Oh, I have a whole lot of problem with guys. But that's a story for another day

stab the feelings with a knife if its disturbing u

Jaylynn:
Okay, I know I'm gonna get a whole lot from you guys. But y'all take it easy. My best friend's the one in this situation. And I can't even answer her question cx I know how much she loves them.

Roast with the feeling.. u are sick..

By ignoring him or going ahead to fuccck the hell outta him

Jaylynn:
Lol. Do boys pour acid?

Yes they do. I assure you it will end in premium tears the way you are lusting for your boyfriend's friend.

Asawooooo

Jaylynn:
And you see... his friend... gives her everything. The love. The attention. Even showers her with gifts, though she turns them down. In my opinion, I don't blame her for falling in love with him, since the blockhead (her boyfriend), doesn't give her the attention she seeks

Did she discuss with her bf
Communication does a lot

She's not in love, she's infatuated, I guess she has 3 some in view, truly she needs fasting and prayer

helinues:
That love triangle is just a mischievous term used by those who don't know what they want yet

See, me as a guy, that's one of the reasons I don't get involved in any of my friends Relationship. Friends girlfriends sometimes get attracted to me ( charisma), not all the time love but likeness..

I don't tolerate such at all, cos whether you like it or not, there would be consequency.

As for the lady, for her to be entangled with 2 friends, If she met a new guy who posseses much about her love map list, she would drop the 2 friends.

Such kind of ladies are yet to understand what love is, who to love, when to love.

Well your point is view is nice but also consider feeling aren't things we generally can control, seeing a beautiful woman with everything you want interms of character, charisma and physical build is something that comes naturally and you can't help it.

Maturity is controlling one self and turning away from distractions but even at that it is way complicated than just being matured. The above scenario of the OP could also mean to breakaway from the two friends and go her way because She would keep seeing this so called Friend of her boyfriend more often than she sees a random guy. So that is where complexity and entanglement comes in.

I had once advise someone to break away from his girlfriend when he noticed he has some undying love her younger sister that he can't control for more than six month. fact is there is no escaping the feeling and it is just right he lives and walk away than reck havoc. Things get so complicated

That you are in a relationship with a great person that loves you and you also love this person, does not mean you can't be attracted to someone else. There are many theories why this happens. It is sometimes bewildering because on a normal day the person is not your spec nevertheless there is attraction between you two.


It is best to aknowledge the feeling first (because denying it only makes the attraction stronger), try to look at the situation with a logical mind and then craft out ways to avoid the being in the same space with the person. It could take a long time to kill feelings e.g up to a year or more. So your friend should be patient with herself.

In general it is the practice self control. It could start with small things like denying yourself ice cream, soft drinks or whatever it is you crave or like doing and then you'll see that you don't die from not satisfying yourself.

This one no suppose get bf . Na Ashawo fit her

It happens to me. My girlfriend which is in love with my best friend to the extent she received his kongi....but las las she lost both of us...tell that your friend not to try it all, she should find a way to kill the feelings.

She is evolving and manifesting the spirit of olosho, every girl have this spirit some manifest at an earlier age than others,but they all evolve. Sprinkle some salt at her windows and let her place a clove of garlic in her vagina each night for 3 months. It won't do anything but it may distract her for a little while.