larrypappyy:

Another friend of mine caught my best friend kiss my girlfriend or maybe caught my girlfriend kiss him and he didn't refrain her. I ended the relationship with both and at the end they even couldn't date because she later realized that the grass is not always greener on the other side.

Whoo. Intense. Really intense. So, now, you married?

Jaylynn:

Nah, she's just the emotional type. Even I can relate.

ok. una suit unaselves be that nah.

Jaylynn:


And you can tell from here?

Most times, I have read cheating cases,na like this e dey start.The friend is always available emotionally sometimes it doesn't have to involve gifts because the boyfriend or husband is always away.

You are not in love with any of them.There is no love in confusion .

You said the boyfriend is not making her feel like a woman abi e no dey Bleep am well


What if the boyfriend and his friend planned it. .

Raphaelda1st:
If a girl is satisfied with a guy's relationship except from attention and she is distracted because of another guy who she THINKS will give her all the attention, then she's not ready for anything....
What is this Attention sef that ladies want??
If truly the guy is busy with things, there are ways you would start making him change tho...
But sincerely, what do you guys use attention for??....
It's not that the guy doesn't call, text or hangout oo, just that you need more..
SACRIFICE AND COMMITMENT IS KEY

Sacrifice? Hohoho. That's the very least I can do for a guy. I'm not even sure he's gonna sacrifice anything to be with me.
...and commitment? Like I really want to understand this commitment of a thing, cause from the hundred guys I've been with, they all shown nothing. Really. I feel commitment is just a word that doesn't exist in Nigeria.

Emotional??
What do you mean by emotional?
Everybody is f**king emotional...
But how do you guys do these things?
Personally, I can't even have feelings for my friend's ex ( that's if I'm aware they dated) talk more of falling in love with his current babe...
I'm maniacally bewildered..I give up on some people Sha...

Jaylynn:


Nah, she's just the emotional type. Even I can relate.

jaxxy:


Giving Attention shouldn’t be judged without full and proper knowledge of the situation and scenarios.

One might be supposedly giving cos he’s jobless stvthe time or less busy or just cos he wants to taste the pudding.

Attention can be deceitful and even manipulative.

Well, I really can tell who's giving the ‘real’ attention when it comes to the whole attention giving. Some dawgs are just proud and feel if they start being there... the girl might actually mess up

DrayZee:

“The love”
He’s actively trying to win her over?

But he's not gonna

Raphaelda1st:
Emotional??
What do you mean by emotional?
Everybody is f**king emotional...
But how do you guys do these things?
Personally, I can't even have feelings for my friend's ex ( that's if I'm aware they dated) talk more of falling in love with his current babe...
I'm maniacally bewildered..I give up on some people Sha...

Lol. You asking me?

Jaylynn:
Okay, I know I'm gonna get a whole lot from you guys. But y'all take it easy. My best friend's the one in this situation. And I can't even answer her question cx I know how much she loves them.

She doesn't LOVE them, she only has feelings for them, she's deceiving herself.

Stop making fallacy of generalization...
You've been dating the wrong guys babe....
Quite all right, you don't get all you want from people, but you have to learn how to live that or you help them develop what's missing..
What if you see your MR perfect but you don't have what he also wants....

Jaylynn:


Sacrifice? Hohoho. That's the very least I can do for a guy. I'm not even sure he's gonna sacrifice anything to be with me.
...and commitment? Like I really want to understand this commitment of a thing, cause from the hundred guys I've been with, they all shown nothing. Really. I feel commitment is just a word that doesn't exist in Nigeria.

Jaylynn:


Comrade, no dey conclude nah

Hahahaha....why u com dey call me comrade na?
Women sha......they don't know what they want most times.

jimmychang:


Most times, I have read cheating cases,na like this e dey start.The friend is always available emotionally sometimes it doesn't have to involve gifts because the boyfriend or husband is always away.

You are not in love with any of them.There is no love in confusion .

You said the boyfriend is not making her feel like a woman abi e no dey Bleep am well

Lolzzz. My girl's still intact That I can vouch for.

Yes na, you said you definitely understand your friend being an emotional person....I still don't understand what type of emotion puts one in this kind of mess

Jaylynn:


Lol. You asking me?

Jaylynn:
Okay, I know I'm gonna get a whole lot from you guys. But y'all take it easy. My best friend's the one in this situation. And I can't even answer her question cx I know how much she loves them.

are you your friend mouth piece. If she wants to do the needful let her come by herself. In any case, let her tell(either with her mouth or in writing letter) her man about her commitment, then let him decide whether to leave her or not. No SIMPishness. If she love him, there won't be another man.

Jaylynn:


Exactly what I'm talking about. If you don't want to be there for the one you said you love, then don't go tying her and keeping her in one place.

If she's seeing this I pray she makes the right decision before it is too late.
Guys stop treating ladies badly, you should know that you have sisters and you'll also give birth to Female children.

I don't believe in that saying that says "ALL MEN ARE THE SAME or SCUM" they're good Men out there so as good Ladies so we shouldn't treat Ladies badly just because we had a failed relationship.

Jaylynn:


Well, I really can tell who's giving the ‘real’ attention when it comes to the whole attention giving. Some dawgs are just proud and feel if they start being there... the girl might actually mess up

True and some just want the kitty cat then it drops to same as ur bf. I’m just saying read the whole attention situation properly.

Jaylynn:


Wonderful

No be wife material na! You do anyhow you see anyhow!

Jaylynn:
Okay, I know I'm gonna get a whole lot from you guys. But y'all take it easy. My best friend's the one in this situation. And I can't even answer her question cx I know how much she loves them.

tell your friend not to put herself in an awkward situation. Better still let her avoid any form of meeting or having any physical contact with the said friend. When the friend is coming around, let her look for an excuse to escape to avoid these kinds of things.

See, this is how ladies are wired, the friend has something she likes and I can't blame her bit if she goes further then she wants it and she will def lose out big time. Tell her to use her head and let her not be caught in her feelings.

Btw, Have you ever felt like this around your own BF's friend?

Jaylynn:


The signs... hm. Well, that's one reason I never date. I see dating as something that's... can't even explain.

good to bleep on the low than get yourself messed up in the name love/dating. Just bleep & face your front

Jaylynn:


Lol. Me... I go for guys with the muscles and abs. Don't really put my mind in the voice. But your voice must be deep Like there's this feeling it gives You know what I'm saying?

I know

Jaylynn:


Lolzzz. My girl's still intact That I can vouch for.

You see emotions and feelings can ruin all the beautiful things you have.Emotions are important but not necessary.Once I see say I dey get feelings for the wrong person I dey run .

How do you know the best friend will continue treating her right . when they finally get together. I guess before she agreed to date the boyfriend he was also giving her attention.

How did u even get to that point..Ashewo de ur eyes..

A friend's girlfriend actually said I toasted her and wanted to have her in my bed, I became so angry with my friend when he told other people except me about it, I later realized it wasn't her fault, she was or is still in love with me, since then I don't give her face.
This kind of thing happens it's normal
For Africa na big deal

Munzy14:
Some women are purely confused in nature

She wants Emeka with the body of Adamu, the pocket of Segun and intelligence of Obinna..

Ara!

Somebody is dating you with his pure heart, And you are lusting after his friend...In the end you will succeed in scattering that friendship that can make both future billionaires just for few minutes of pleasure and selfish gains...That might even lead to regrets in life..

I pray the assumed boyfriend see the signs sooner.. And do the needful...

Don't men do it? Will you call a man who is in love with two women confused? In Delta men are marrying two women at once these days. Some marry two sisters or close friends. It's human nature. We just have to learn how to tame it. Especially women. If it was a man in this predicament now, people will say marry both of them'

Why is this common with women and hardly with men? The men I knew for sleeping with people’s girlfriends were not more than one finger meanwhile I heard many stories of females engaging in threesomes and shared relationships. I guess for women having a boyfriend is their only form of identity while men are satisfied with exploring life alone.

Jaylynn:


I don't do boys anyway. Relationship's not my thing... after so many heartbreaks your kind's caused

A lesbian spotted.

fluffybaby:


Don't men do it? Will you call a man who is in love with two women confused? In Delta men are marrying two women at once these days. Some marry two sisters or close friends. It's human nature. We just have to learn how to tame it. Especially women. If it was a man in this predicament now, people will say marry both of them'

If it was a man in the picture, I won't support him dating a lady and hitting on her friend as well...

Very disrespectful.

If you are with one, enjoy and explore life with her...All this chop chioma, chop funke , chop Amina...nothing dey there biko...

Jaylynn:


Cause you dey inside me nah

Lol you fit don feel me inside you in the past, hope you get bah

Jaylynn:


Really? Why are you in a relationship then if you can never give the girl attention and make her wanting you?

Now, you see why I've got a problem with guys. Y'all just the same

Relationship is an agreement not one person feeling too important .

After all when money come na both go enjoy am.

fluffybaby:


Don't men do it? Will you call a man who is in love with two women confused? In Delta men are marrying two women at once these days. Some marry two sisters or close friends. It's human nature. We just have to learn how to tame it. Especially women. If it was a man in this predicament now, people will say marry both of them'

That is why both gender are not equal tho.

Jaylynn:


Whoo. Intense. Really intense. So, now, you married?

sure married to a wonderful woman and with a beautiful daughter. Funny enough, my friend and I settled our difference and he is also married with daughters while the lady isn't married yet.

Munzy14:

If it was a man in the picture, I won't support him dating a lady and hitting on her friend as well...

Very disrespectful.

If you are with one, enjoy and explore life with her...All this chop chioma, chop funke , chop Amina...nothing dey there biko...

Fair enough