descarado:
Wonder if seun pay these people for these stories.

Or the mods use diff usernames to chun out shaming threads.

And we will rush to comment as long as its the gender we hate.

Mtcheew

E be things.

Why did she refuse you sex? Are you sure she wasn't seeing another person? The only mistake you made is hitting her.


It is well

Maybe she even liked it.

She manipulated you by crying and you also showed weakness by begging her. So stupid of you.

When you get home, bath...eat, call her and fvck her from behind so hard. Tell her she's free to walk away, if she can't perform her duties...spank her ass and then pump her harder. Ask her, if she likes being forced? If she says no, handle her breasts and tell her to be a good lady. That way no need to force enter her.

In the morning, before going to work, kiss her & let her know how beautiful she is..play with her.


Men, if you are getting married because of sex, forget it. In fact when you get married, your sex life gon be fvcked up.


Men, stay toxic!

Daxyd4realzy:
Why did she refuse you sex? Are you sure she wasn't seeing another person? The only mistake you made is hitting her.


It is well

It normal for most women to stop or even hate sex, after the get married.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.


Please Help Me.

Ova ur faithful wife is fucking outside. Period

Christinaog:

Men are scum

And you call yourself Xtiana

InTheCloudySky:
You didn't bother asking her/finding out what was going on with her or in your marriage (you obviously had pre-existing issues that may have caused her to withdraw from you) to have refused you, but you resorted to violence.

As if slapping her wasn't bad enough, slapping her to the extent of her bleeding in the mouth meant you did it with a lot of force, not to mention the force you obviously used to rape her. The act of rape in itself is an act of violence. Sorry (not sorry): you're a beast. After being violent towards her x2, what do you expect?

Get on your knees, plead with her and ask for her forgiveness, then let her know you won't ever repeat such violent actions towards her again. Secondly, you're selfish if you're expecting her to cook for you after what you've done. You should be the one cooking for her during this time ―to appease her. Things should fall back into place if you start doing that and catering more to her, then you two can go see a sound marriage Therapist to work out your issues. Otherwise keep eating the indomie you've been eating.

My Guy Messed up Big time.
But I wish to Read the Lady's Side of the Story.
Why Should the Man ask her, whether She has Issues with him?
Is the Man a Magician to figure it Out?
She Should let him know the issue, She has with him.
When you Visit a Doctor, You are expected to let the Doctor know your issues, Simple.
" There is No Smoke Without Fire"
She Committed a Sin by Denying her Husband his Conjugal Rights.
And The Husband Also Committed a Sin, by Taking The Law into his Hands.
So in My Opinion, Both of Them Should Sit on a Round Table and Iron The Issue Squarely, Without Any Third Party Support.
They Can,and Should Overcome This Test ,in Their Home!!!

Tallesty1:
I am going to be an ass on this thread and I don't care.


I hate to hear people telling a man to work on his anger issues when the simplest solution is telling the wife to work on her pissing him off attitude.

A man who has been a good husband and father going for weeks and sometimes months without sex with his wife and you don't think his anger is justified? No, he doesn't need a professional help on his anger, the wife should stop denying him sex. It's that simple.

What the op did is wrong and he deserves several punches on his face but let us also address what triggered his action.

Why in fvck's sake would he have to beg for sex from his wife? Something that teenagers are getting anyhow and everywhere. Do you women even know how frustrating that is?

If he wronged his wife knowingly or unknowingly, do you think weaponizing sex is the best approach? What happens to communication?

@OP, what you did is very very wrong, first violent and then rape. Two solid grounds for divorce imprisonment in one night.... What were you thinking? Thank you stars that she's not suing.

She's still shocked and will be traumatized for a while so stop forcing her to get over it quickly because as it is now, you irritate her.

Let her be, but keep doing what you do. Treat her right, shower her with love and all. These are annoying to her right now but it will count for something when she starts to consider you, if she starts to consider you.

Thank you for being bold enough to spill the truth from both angles. We see a lot of herd mentality everyday. Rape as a capital offense is horrible in all its colorations. Denying your spouse conjugal rights for weeks and months, be it a man/woman is as bad also. Both are just wrong. As a man, I would wonder if she is even still attracted to me or she is having an affair. It will even make some men go outside. What kind of unsubmissive wife is that? Oga rape is bad, but you have a bigger elephant outside pleading your wife. If her low libido is not psychological, then forget her pretense, something is wrong.

Rapist

Christinaog:

Men are scum

I don't support her actions but why will she deny him sex? His rights

gfon:
Why didn't you get a side chick outside instead of raping your wife? You really messed up man.If my wife ever hoards sex from me,i wouldn't even beg her,would just get one babe outside to cure my konji or i refuse eating her food.by the time you do that consistently for two weeks,she would be the one to even beg you.Rape is never an option,either you are married or not.Masturbation would have saved you from this stress too.Just beg her very well,maybe take her out too,but don't involve any third-party in the matter.

OK

If your wife is not sleeping with you then she is getting it outside.

You collect what rightfully belong to you. What you paid for.

Report her to her family of they support her send her back to them.

If a woman stop giving you s** for no r ason be very careful because she can poison you.

According to some people what you did was not rape since you guys are married.

How can a healthy woman deny her husband sex for one month? Very bad, you hate sex yet you marry. Ndi uchu.

Oga, it is possible that you irritate her, your smell, eating habits, laughter or your sex style. It's possible she is yet to experience orgasms from you perhaps, she experiences pain.

Meanwhile, you have been a rapist, this is not your first time. She must be wondering how many women you might have raped before.
For you to go ahead despite her bleeding mouth, cry, tears to rape her and ejaculate means you are a pro.

She will forgive you with time.

You should have had a serious talk with her nau. Even if she was at fault for withholding sex, your actions have made her right.

It would have been better if you had reported her to a family member. Now you can't even afford to involve anyone because of the shame.

I think at this point if you cannot get through to her, you should report yourself to someone she respects. And please, don't ever do that again.

Your wife needs to divorce you. Unfortunately she’s not here to read the advice. It would be thoroughly disgusting being married to a rapist. Excuse me while I puke

Graxie:
How can a healthy woman deny her husband sex for one month? Very bad, you hate sex yet you marry. Ndi uchu.

Oga, it is possible that you irritate her, your smell, eating habits, laughter or your sex style. It's possible she is yet to experience orgasms from you perhaps, she experiences pain.

Meanwhile, you have been a rapist, this is not your first time. She must be wondering how many women you might have raped before.
For you to go ahead despite her bleeding mouth, cry, tears to rape her and ejaculate means you are a pro.

She will forgive you with time.

You read my thought fellow psychologist

If I ask my wife for see and she dey form,I go just leave and cover myself with duvet and sleep.These days all this sex stuff nor dey move me.

I feel so sorry for your wife and how you just messed up your relationship further.

Things can never be the same again between you two.

God please save that poor woman from this man. This is how chronic abusers start. Tueh.

Why would you force yourself on anybody, talk more of someone you claim you love. How can you even enjoy it when your partner is feeling disgusted. She bled and you still forced her like that. You're an animal.

Now you're buying her gifts. What stopped you from buying her a gift before or trying to convince, cajol and tease her into having sex. Instead of you to investigate what her problem with frequent sex is or how to find her buttons you assaulted and molested her. You should be in jail please.

I pray for the day Nigeria would start working properly so that you'll be in jail by now instead of coming online to rant and say rubbish. Atleast that way there won't be a next time.

Mtchewwww

Your problem is even that people will notice you have issues and you can't explain.

In Sha Allah, God no go let me marry your type

Op in as much as I will say you are very wrong but I must also say that your wife is a highly manipulative wicked soul... The worst part of it is that you don't even know she is heartless that is why you keep painting her like a saint....


Your story is a lesson to all men that we should learn to handle issues with our women without violence or rape because the woman will have something to hold on to use against the man in the future...

This woman already has you where she wants and you will keep apologizing foolishly... Unfortunately, even if I tell you to let her be and give her space , I know you can't keep to that because you are already under high level manipulation.... It would have been better for you to even have a side chick than to be violent towards that manipulative soul looking for excuse to perpetually keep you under her spell...


I will not be surprised if she is already gathering evidence of rape that she will use to make your life useless both in your community and on social platforms like Nairaland etc... You married a bitter feminist ... Unfortunately, she has succeeded in manipulating you to do what you may regret for the rest of your life...

cococandy:
Your wife needs to divorce you. Unfortunately she’s not here to read the advice. It would be thoroughly disgusting being married to a rapist. Excuse me while I puke

Yeah, hopefully she does, in the best interest of everyone. She can proceed to meet other men who will tolerate her selfish, sex denying asssss while op can get other women who will wanna fuuuck him.

*funny how you make it look like a woman divorcing a man whom she denies sex will be the man's loss*

Una funny, I swear. Happy puking.

Arsenate:

Yeah, hopefully she does, in the best interest of everyone. She can proceed to meet other men who will tolerate her selfish, sex denying asssss while op can get other women who will wanna fuuuck him.

*funny how you make it look like a woman divorcing a man whom she denies sex will be the man's lost*

It may not be his loss because unfortunately, he can always find someone to rape but it would be her gain. To be free from her rapist.

He’s of no benefit to anyone. No one has anything to gain from living with a rapist.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

you didn't rape her, it's your right, you paid a lot for her head so you deserve it.
see her as your sex slave

cococandy:
Your wife needs to divorce you. Unfortunately she’s not here to read the advice. It would be thoroughly disgusting being married to a rapist. Excuse me while I puke

you be idiot, why would she deny him sex in the first place when her bride price was paid for?
OP don't feel any guilty abeg, it's your right, you deserve it, next time she denies you sex you rape her over and over again before kicking her cheating ass out of your matrimonial home

AntiMCU:
Seems like marriages these days is synonymous with sexual starvation.

At least, our forefathers had polygamy (options) for issues like this.

Wahala for man wey don go marry.

cococandy:

It may not be his loss because unfortunately, he can always find someone to rape but it would be her gain. To be free from her rapist.

He’s of no benefit to anyone. No one has anything to gain from living with a rapist.

Kinda love how you are about to burst an artery on this issue but always happily troll men who open threads on paternity fraud.

Not news that you've always been bias towards women so your opinions and labels of men don't hold any weight to me, tbh. Hopefully op sees it that way and doesn't feel guilty by your words.

PlentyMonikers:
you be idiot, why would she deny him sex in the first place when her bride price was paid for?
OP don't feel any guilty abeg, it's your right, you deserve it, next time she denies you sex you rape her over and over again before kicking her cheating ass out of your matrimonial home

Right.Are women even humans to you people?

@truthsayer009 you’re not interested in coming to tell me how I’m bitter and what have issues today?

Arsenate:

Kinda love how you are about to burst an artery on this issue but always happily troll men who open threads on paternity fraud.

Not news that you've always been bias towards women so your opinions and labels of men don't hold any weight to me, tbh. Hopefully op sees it that way and doesn't feel guilty by your words.

I know. How awful that I have a problem with rape