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kaylanim:
They tackle a guy 50 pounds heavier without a thought to the amount of aspirin they will be popping later. They engage in such educational sports as tractor pulls, outrunning charging bulls, blowing up anything that looks like fun, and wrecking old cars. They will jump off a 50-foot cliff if their buddy dares them, repel down a mountain, and shoot Class 5 rapids while whooping at the top of their lungs. Who are they? Men. The same men, who when faced with asking a woman out for a date, turn to liquid Jello.

I asked over 2,000 men the same question. "How hard is it for a man to ask for a first date?" The answers were eye-opening. These brawny cave men of the 21st Century admitted they would rather get a root canal than cross a room and talk to a woman they found attractive. They would rather have a tooth extraction than ask her for a date.

Why? The fear of rejection. Based on how often that answer appeared, you may as well color it in neon and put a spotlight on it. If people were watching him get shot down, it was the equivalent of being fired from your job in front of the entire office.

"For a guy to get up the courage to approach an attractive woman and start up a conversation is really, really hard," said Jeff R. from Atlanta. "With one withering look, she can reduce a guy to a pile of sand. She holds in her hands at that moment every bit of a guy's ego. If she is receptive, he's on Cloud 9, but if she looks him up and down and judges him inferior, it's gonna take a whole lot of beers and your buddies saying, "You wasn't so hot, Dude. Don't worry about it," to get over it."

This same type of response came from 90% of the men I surveyed, and some were CEO's, actors, male models and men who, quite frankly, had "it all goin' on." Yet the fear of being judged by a beautiful woman and tossed back into the fish bowl sent shivers down them. There is an old adage that says the reason most men need a drink to approach a woman is to have the added element of "liquid courage." It seems the task of talking to a woman and asking for a date requires a little help. Basically, these men said it was a terrifying experience because it was so personal. "Your ego is on the line," was a statement that came up time and again.

It would appear that this carries as much weight as it does for a woman to hand over her phone number to a man who approaches her, and then never receive a phone call. Don't we then feel judged and deemed inferior? It's a vicious cycle. When it comes to the dating world, egos are fragile on both fronts. Just be aware that from a man's point of view, it took all he had to ask you out. Go easy on him. Women hold a lot more power in this tricky realm of romance than they know.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
This is the kind of topic we should see frequently on nairaland not all this babyish ones meant to insult women...

At least I hope the boys here will learn one or two..some might not contribute since it's not their regular..

HellVictorinho3:
Do you have access to sugar mummies between 30 and 40 or are you one?

FERNANDEZISBACK:

HellVictorinho3:
Where do you live in case you're female?

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Why on earth do you want to know that..?
Quite a disrespectful question to say..

HellVictorinho3:
I want us to be closer if you're female but not for something long-term.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
This is the kind of topic we should see frequently on nairaland not all this babyish ones meant to insult women...

At least I hope the boys here will learn one or two..some might not contribute since it's not their regular..

bidexdo:
Lol, Fernandez or what you call your self, first of all you be man u fans

I know na this kind of post you like, why not creating it everyday by yourself

@kaylan, that say why is it hard for a man to ask for a date, it's not hard for a man to ask but not worth it here in Nigeria, unless we are in Europe , because naija girls see it as a means to collect money from the guys, if you remember this post https://www.nairaland.com/6949673/he-gave-me-exactly-t-fare/2#109584754

And for the number, maybe a guys ask for a girl no
And he didn't call her, it may depend on how he respond to the guy when he ask for the number, even me collect one girl no yesterday, even when she said I should call her in the night that she is charging her phone I never call her, I have my reason, so don't quote me pls

Trust me those creature don't worth it here in Nigeria

FERNANDEZISBACK:
I am not understanding..

FERNANDEZISBACK:
And how is that my business?
Everyone one deserve respect stop justifying your misogynistic attitude..

bidexdo:
Lol

Did I tell you I hate women I mean Nigeria women don't worth it, as a guy you ask a woman out and you are still de one to spend on her, After that she still cheat on you so tell me now does it worth it,

No be woman you be if I hate them, I will include you now

FERNANDEZISBACK:
I understand your point..but you ain't sure they are gonna cheat on you so why conclude?

bidexdo:
Yeah some have cheat before, that is why we have ex.

But the one am with now, I can't say she never cheated, because I never get her, so woman cheat but not all, I never trust them, if my woman say anything I just say ok, but will never believe her

FERNANDEZISBACK:
That's a good way to go.. everyone has his /her flaws in a relationship..
Thanks for your wonderful contribution..