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Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

I hardly comment on post, but this one got my interest. my dear i must tell you that this is an advance psychological manipulation lies. be wise.

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Sonnobax15:

A man who truly wants to divorce his wife legally,that one no suppose to be stress na .

Unless he wanna add you to the list of one of his alphabet bitches .

I believe if you get to hear the HD version of the whole story from his wife's own perspective, you may end up running faster than Usain bolt,for your dear life

Would have advised the OP ... but that line “he’s doing well for himself (lives in a nice estate and has a good ride) makes me understand she’s still a baby.

Mature women would tell us his profession - to drive home the fact he’s doing well.

Baba don use “hello where you heading to? Mind if I drop you off” enter the babe lol

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

commission a private detective to get a first hand info on this man or visit a family gathering and get acquainted with a family member and clear your doubt. But he will always be somebody's husband. I have a sense he left the woman because she can't conceive. Don't break a childless woman's heart. Little wonder his mother looking for grand child is in support of the divorce.

ParpahSeventy:
At 26,the world ahead of you is larger and full of better options to be entangled in this mess, that thing that's making your thoughts go wild, if I were you, I would calm myself, you think he is everything because you chose to see "everything" in him.
Be wise my dear.

hahaha woman go tell you her real age she's probably 29-30

Rita005:
Even though I hate to say this, I've spoken with his mum on the phone. He's not a cheat and I'm a smart woman to know that. The issue is just about his marital status.

No, all I see is foolishness.
Leave that man alone until he is properly divorced.
Husband snatcher

Rita005:
Even though I hate to say this, I've spoken with his mum on the phone. He's not a cheat and I'm a smart woman to know that. The issue is just about his marital status.

Pls leave the man alone for his wife and mind your business. Go and look for your own husband. He's not divorced yet you're already in love with someone else's property. Idiot.

Rita005:
Even though I hate to say this, I've spoken with his mum on the phone. He's not a cheat and I'm a smart woman to know that. The issue is just about his marital status.

I swear Rita u are not a responsible lady...Your presence in that man's life makes it difficult for him to reconcile with his wife ...Leave a married man alone...Even if he divorce his wife and marry u do u know than u are commiting adultery with him And u will surely end up in hell except he didn't marry her in church..U want to be the reason for another woman's pains..U even said the wife is begging him to come back yet u still get mind dey Chuck head...It will never be well with u if u destroy that young man's marriage...There is no perfect marriage so allow them to sort their shits out...With all the single guys out there it's a married man u saw to fall in love with...U want to destroy ur fellow woman's home because of ur stupidity and useless feelings..leave that man alone to sort his marriage out or allow the wrath of God to fall upon u...I dey here dey find wife so as many young men while u are there falling for an already married man cos he drives a good car and lives in an estate...Ladies can be very shallow Sha!!!

As a young lady with promising future, you should learn better and shine your eyes, this is 21st century, and this is modern day naija, what is currently in vogue now is what's playing out between both of you, married man with an avenue to cheat on his wife. You think his cooked-up story is genuine? common! even a dumb knows there's no iota of truth in that narrative. Going by how you described him, he's a maradona, and has been in the game for so long, he knows how to get whatever he wants. He just wanted you to be his intimacy gadget, he has no good plan for you. The best thing you can do for him is to encourage him to go back to his wife, it's for better for worse, after all he weighed his options very well before taking the wife to the altar. Don't fall for the gimmicks.

helinues:
Another repeated lyrics line. The guy is probably working in one state while his family is in another state or another location

GBAM!

Rita005:
Thanks a lot. I really like him but his marital status is troubling. I sure will be careful about it. His mom is so interested in him getting another woman cuz she was never in support of his decision to marry his wife. I appreciate your advice.

persuade him to get a divorce please if he truly loves you. Just be smart about your relationship with him so that you don’t have a heart break

Pls go and collect gbola without allowance and assurance... He lives in a nice estate and with a nice ride..is your primary reason for attraction.. You want better life made possible by a man..

helinues:




Very popular lyrics line used by guys

Odogwu you are the baddest.

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

I pity for you if you ever fall for his antics.

Babe, it is obvious nothing they will tell you here that will suit you. Why? Your mind is made up already. Life itself is laced with landmines. If you escape many of them count yourself lucky. Please play your game and hope for the best. Cheers.

Double0h7:
I'm just laughing at the irony, he's having a (technical) affair with you but wants to convince you that he has never cheated on his wife. Lol! Continue, when it's your turn you'll understand the kinda man he is and the kinda woman you are.

Leave that woman's man alone until he is Divorced legally because the way you're going, you're walking into the mistress role with all this grammar. Life is simple it's people who complicate it. This is a married man and that's all you need to know.

Most sensible ans out here

The guy is calm and all that...you sound very naive I must admit...Now tell me a womanizer that doesn't know how to sway a woman?

Every womanizer knows how to wax lyrics and being caring at the initial stage untill they hit their targets...

⭕️ How come you yourself no get
relationship until you met this guy❓

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

Na format, the guy is an OG..

Go and find urs.

Gold digger.

He's hasn't divorced yet!
Na you know.

Candidlady:
Aunt rita/ritad


No sense for you ma... Same story he told bet he must have used it on so many mumu like you...


You have young men who are legit single but no you chose to fall in love with a married man ...cuz he rich has a ride.. Sure a regular hustling dude must have approached but you turned him down ...



Husband snatcher.... Keep Chasing Gold till you get swallowed in the mine.




Modified- so smellysperm get sense like this... This year must be nice

Go and return the phone to the owner!

RealistRedpiler:
An average Banker living his life on a loan:
Car loan
House loan
Money loan
Dorime loan
Has bleeped Many Nigeria ladies than other proffesion.

Ladies na the Neck Tire dey make una wet

I have banker friends who has countless of women.. I only advise them to Bleep the ladies merciless but avoid the Married one..

Last Friday, we went out.. Alex invited 3 girls and the one I was with thought I was a Banker, that's how I add free pussy though I gave her a little T-Fare
It's always good to a give a woman money after sex to cancel any spiritual connection.

I was like, what if she finds out I'm not a banker Lol

Your wrong in that assertion that giving a lady money after sex cancels any spiritual connection, sex is spiritual, there is always a transfer in the spirit when the act is done. You give her you own and collect hers that's why u hardly forget any gal you have slept with. There is a soul tie

Rita005:
Thanks guys... He is hardly perturbed about me not agreeing to his wishes.

"Nice ride and lives in a good estate"

Okay o

Depressed101:
hahaha woman go tell you her real age she's probably 29-30

She may be 26 actually but maybe not stable relationship and she never got close to any useful relationship and already feeling pressure like she is getting old, so she may not want to lose out on this.
Women pressured with age the moment they start hitting their twenties and I don't know why.

Madam banker, be careful and always think before you act. You have only heard his own part of the story but had no opportunity to hear from the enstranged wife. Do not allow your thoughts and feeling to push you into wrong decision that you will regret later.
Allow a sleeping dog to lie peacefully. Prayerfully look for your own husband and avoid a heartbreak in future. Let the wise hear and understand.

Lol. I dey laugh people wey dey give the op advice. Shishi the bae no go take. She just wants to be heard and supported to go ahead with her perceived plans. Who dey advice person wey dey in love.
Op go ahead o.
We're always hear to read another story of your consolation.

helinues:
Another repeated lyrics line. The guy is probably working in one state while his family is in another state or another location

Don't be surprised that the man has sent his wife abroad(and probably with their kids) and with serious plans on ground to join them there.

My two advice, either you chop him use him or you run away from that relationship
If he is really rich, play along with him,fuk together ,get closer but don't allow pregnant yet,before pregnant comes in be sure you already rich with his maney,just always have in mind that you are not staying permanent in that relationship, if he later turn out to be a good man or bad man,you don't lose ,getting you financially stable and a kid is a nice option, if you can't play the game that way then run away from him

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

Lol, some women and their milk brain.

Just imagine the format he is using to remote you.

When he smashes you front and back, left and right, he will come and apologize to you and tell you how sorry he is and that he and his wife has decided to make it work.

Aswearugaaad
Rita005 forget what everyone is saying about the man. Think: did he have to tell you about his wife? He's obviously living in another state and could have just lied about his marital status and you wouldn't know. Don't let anyone deceive you. That man is telling you the truth and he really likes you.

Find out if he really wants to divorce her. If he does then stand with him, else JAPA. Issa simpu sturvz.

Either his Intentions are good or bad, a married or once married man is never an option...At 26yrs old my dear sis run huh