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Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by ZIMDRILL(m): 6:10pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
hayzed1090: the issue is not about as you think, its about giving women right to access to things eg to drive, vote or owning land etc that are blocked by men, eg in UK women started to be allowed to vote in 1928 for them during that time that was their feminism, the in Saudi Arabia women granted the right to drive in 2018, in simply terms those are some on fiminism rights women fought for in their respective countries Most men dont understand feminism becoz women abuse it eg 1 minute she wants to be treated eqaully the next minute she wasnt to be treated like a lady then the other is men dont want the set-up to change becoz we benefit more from it |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by ZIMDRILL(m): 6:12pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Proudlyngwa: i dont dispute your views an neither am saying your wrong and am right, we are just sharing views etc 1 Like |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by Hiq0: 6:51pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Hmmmm |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by Don27tiky(m): 7:01pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL:what the Bible said is a fact. God configured man to be different in every aspect. That’s why you hardly see women inventors. Women are naturally created to depend on men. |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by MNDY(m): 7:23pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Simran94: This wrong feminism practised by you Nigerian females go destroy una las las. Feminism is limited to equal rights in the society and workplace only. Una dey drag am into marriage. The man came to carry you from your Father's house to marry you into his house for God's sake. You both cannot be equal. He is superior and you have to let him have the final say in the family. Even God approves it that way. Even if you are working, it doesn't mean you should not let your husband the Head of your home or make you become toxic towards men in the society/workplace. 1 Like |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by smile11s(m): 7:42pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
WhatCanIsay: You know the truth so why bother? |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by nervorum: 7:53pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Too many broken marriages, and will get worse cos we all disregarded God's simple instruction, as contained in the Bible, guiding marriage. Rather than work hard towards alignment, we put concerted effort towards deliberately questioning it and then making our own rules. The results are obvious to us. Our uneducated parents were wiser and happier. |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by Nobody: 7:59pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
MNDY: I don’t see how my post is related to feminism in the first place 1 Like |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by Nobody: 8:13pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Don27tiky: Lol so if women are naturally created to depend on men, why are you men complaining about spending money on women? Why are you men always complaining that women don’t want to contribute financially to the household? LOL, make una no confuse una self abeg 4 Likes |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by ZIMDRILL(m): 8:22pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Don27tiky: it doesnt matter what the bible says Not everyone use the bible a guidance like you who dont judge people using the bible 1st know what principles do they use and judge them according to thier principles than yours |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by Neerich1512(m): 8:28pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
What about women of olden days that were educated and they were able to stay in their marriage. To be sincere wit you the way God design marriage irrespective of race or religion is for women to be in absolute submissions to men but nowadays things have change no women want to be control again hence high rate of divorce |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by rosey11: 8:43pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Get married when you are TRULY ready and not because it’s the next item on your checklist. Date well, fall in love and get married. Simple but a lot of people can’t follow this. Marriage is better when you marry the right person who you’re compatible with physically, emotionally, personality wise, communication wise and spiritually. That is why you must date for a while regardless of your age. It’s even best when you marry someone who was a good friend and then things turn romantic later on. That is because you know the ins and out of the person both the good and the bad. No matter what, don’t be rushed into getting married. Especially for ladies, don’t let any man rush you. It’s a red flag. When you see a red flag, run, marriage won’t make it better. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by Don27tiky(m): 8:54pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL:okay let’s leave the Bible then. Men make this world comfortable for us to leave in. We will start seeing them as equals with the men when they start contributing to development of this world. They must not wait to be given opportunities before they make impact. Many men do against all odds |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by WhatCanIsay(m): 9:03pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
smile11s: My dear, you will understand something about your website very soon. If you are not intelligent enough to develop your contents, it's necessary you learn the hard way. Vermins like you need lessons once awhile. |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by jimmynauty: 9:06pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Marriage is not for mere men.. It's for gods... |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by ZIMDRILL(m): 10:20pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Don27tiky: You are missing the picture, its not like women are saying they want to like physical like men or taking over men in what they do there are point out at things that disadvantage them(things men you to sideline women) therefore women dont progress to the highest level like their male counterpart for a example, i gave the Saudi Arabia women started to be allowed to drive recently as 2018, or an employer wouldnt hire a woman becoz at one point to give birth and be on maternity leave. Eg a woman not being promoted simply becoz she is married (one having a self belief that a married woman wont the able to meet the job requirement eg travelling and spending time away from her family). One has to decide for herself and not give a chance based on one's self belief or culture or tradition. Eg is it fair, your parents build their home together then your father dies, this relatives grab the house from your mother becoz a woman is not entitled to her husband's property. All those examples are rights women are fighting for in different parts of the world So when they say equal rights they simply mean give us the same opportunities just like men aka dont say a woman shouldnt do this becoz of her gender 1 Like |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by BigBashiru: 10:27pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
rosey11: One of my biggest regrets is that I felt dating was a sin..... that dating was a sin. That dating isn't found in the bible..... that only outright marriage is found in the bible..... I regret it. |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by Don27tiky(m): 10:48pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL:exactly my point. Women should not have equal rights with men. The world was a better place when women were playing their role as women and now that they want and are playing the role of men, things are going bad. Believe me that’s what will end up destroying this world |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:04pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Don27tiky: well we see the world differently lets agree on that |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by smile11s(m): 11:07pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
WhatCanIsay: No wahala |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by luvme0702: 6:39am On Feb 02, 2022 |
Exactly. You've said it all. No addition nor subtraction. ZIMDRILL: |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by bepositive11: 6:53pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL: Big round of applause for you! Very well said! |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by bepositive11: 7:03pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL: I'll explain it like this There are generally 2 kinds of women who evolve from these kind of situations where their mother was abused - the one who works hard and the one who looks for shortcuts The hardworking woman saw her mother go through control and abuse from her father, and she promised herself that she'll never go through what her mother went through. She knows that her mother was powerless because she depended on her father for money. So she works hard and earns a living for herself. Any man who dare tries to control or abuse her gets cut off instantly The other woman who looks for shortcuts saw her mother get abused but still, she looks for men who are controlling and abusive. She's repeating the cycle of abuse. Maybe because she feels she doesn't deserve any better. Maybe because she doesn't know how to work hard and earn. Maybe because those abusive and controlling men feel familiar and comfortable. Either way, she goes after bad boys and rich men with money and doesn't mind the abuse and control 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:23pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
bepositive11: You nailed it 1 Like |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by bepositive11: 3:47am On Feb 03, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL: I wonder though why some women choose to work hard and prevent abuse while other women choose to walk the same path of their mothers and end up getting abused Do you have any thoughts on this? |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by ZIMDRILL(m): 10:14am On Feb 03, 2022 |
bepositive11: there is no clear answer as every woman's journey to marriage is different and how she was raised play a part in how the thinks sees life and finally how she adpots to the new life |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by Spanki(f): 5:22pm On Feb 03, 2022 |
BigBashiru: It does cage a man financially. |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by bepositive11: 1:54am On Feb 04, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL: Yes, I get that. I'm saying that those women who see their mothers get abused by their fathers, I wonder why some daughters promise themselves not to go through the same while other daughters repeat the abuse cycle by getting married to abusive men like their fathers I guess you don't see a clear answer like myself Even men, some end up becoming abusive like their fathers while others promise themselves to never abuse their wives like their father abused their mom I guess there really is no clear answer.. |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by cococandy(f): 5:07am On Feb 04, 2022 |
Simran94: Lmao 1 Like |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by ZIMDRILL(m): 4:33pm On Feb 04, 2022 |
bepositive11: Some become like their mothers and fathers becoz thats only way they know (remember we learn alot from parents than what we think) hence you find both men and women we always want our wives/husbands to be like our parents. You here someone saying i want you do it this way becoz thats how my mother does it |
Re: Why Too Many Broken Marriage? Any Way Around It? by bepositive11: 8:02pm On Feb 04, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL: That's true. Men and women who grew up with abusive mothers or fathers need to consciously avoid people who are like their parents, if not they'll end up with partners like their parents. Since people like their parents feel familiar, they're subconsciously attracted to them. It takes conscious effort to recognise and break that attachment They themselves also need to change the bad behaviours that they learned from their parents. That too takes conscious effort |
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