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Magnoliaa:
This one that Naija men are suddenly in support of the modern age and equality on this thread, watin dey happen?

See all them craftily trying to slip out of the headship role. Head don dey pain una? LMAO!

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Magnoliaa:
Expectedly. What is doing my head in is traditional African men disagreeing with her. Ko tally rara.

Great0ne1:
So you want a woman to contribute equally financially with you, and you still expect her to clean, cook and nurse your children ?

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

AdaNri1:
When you get the surrogate will you not pay her? Or is surrogacy free? Then you do it 2-3x how much will it cost you? But you’ll marry a woman and expect her to pay 50% of the bills while you use her body as a free surrogate.
When you buy the food won’t you cook it? But when you want a special meal you’ll still go to a restaurant and pay to be fed the same quality of food a wife would have cooked for you.
One way or the other you will pay, wether in marriage or out of it you will pay. If you don’t pay it in your home you will pay it out of your home.

No woman will sit at home all day being unproductive , but no man should think his only job is to provide 50% of the money either but expects to be treated like a Lord.

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

jikins:
What is doing my head in is your lazy assumption that every man replying is a traditional African man.

Acidosis:


Head don dey shake

rickleye:
I'll be frank and not coy. You must be the dumbest woman on this forum.
However, my senses are also telling me that the nonsense you dropped is just to seek out attention.

You have no idea what feminist means - equal opportunity for male and female. To them there are no male only roles and female only roles in society. What a man can do , I can do better - My response - You CAN"T.

" we are not created to provide but to process " No feminist says this. This is where you lose your diatribe.
Then you quote the bible and mention Eve. Like she is the best example out there. Her husband gave her detailed instructions of what to do and not to do. Yet she couldn't keep and relay simple instructions.

You not subscribing women to bring anything is what makes women, illiterates - not being sent to school. if all they do is sit down at home waiting to be impregnated , or given money to make food , turn a house to a home.

I do not and will not be involved with a lady who doesn't think she can do more with her life than what you mentioned. She is to be a "helpmate" an assistant. Both contributing with their skills to the success of the union.

I can buy groceries and cook so why do I need you to process.
I can adopt a child or get one through surrogacy, so why do I need you to process.
I can stage a house and buy homely stuff, so why do I need you to process .
When I get frustrated, I will go see a therapist, so lady why do i need you to process?

I do more than " bring the money" and when I decide to settle down - She better do more than "process"

Anyways, If you want to escalate your backward thinking to a voice call , I may be available.

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Gospel2Day:
She raised valid points.
Please, let's stop this hostility we mete out to our females.
I know they have their faults and excesses, but we males are not without our own faults and foibles too.
My question is If you employ a maid, visit prostitutes and employ extra lessons teacher for your kids, calculate how much you will be spending monthly as their salaries.
Do those three jobs that people engage in to make ends meet deserve remuneration?
If you pay your wife the same amount you pay your maid and the lesson teacher and the oloshos you sin with every month, will you still accuse your wife of bringing NOTHING to the table?
You want a woman to do the duties of a maid, a lesson teacher and a mistress who helps you quench your urge to merge with the opposite sex and who carries your babies, often with the risks of dying during childbirth FOR FREE, non gratis, simply because she is a wife.
But you will gladly pay for such services as long as those who render such services are not legally married to you.
What every woman needs to bring to the table is her readiness to keep and manage your home businesses, to cook, clean, carry your babies, care for your babies and copulate with you and be your companion.
She can then secure a job or you help her to set up a small business that frees her to perform her homely duties well.
Pressuring your wife to work from 7 am to 7 pm like you do will expose your home front and your children to serious societal ills and social dysfunctions.
I know a lady that used to be abandoned by parents and granny. A lesbian neighbour began to have lesbian sex with her EVERYDAY from age 5 till when she turned 15, when they moved away from the place.
So, let's STOP harrasing our females. They're our grannies, mothers, wives, sisters, cousins, nieces and daughters.
We should rather love, care for them and protect them. But we should not spoil them by always granting their entitlement mentality.
The simple solution is: LEAVE WOMEN ALONE UNTIL YOU HAVE ENOUGH TO CATER FOR THEM AND THEIR CHILDREN.
No man who cannot control himself, who always needs to fornicate with women to quench his urge for sex should complain when the women demand that he provides for their financial needs.
Shalom.

Magnoliaa:
I don't care about every man. Assumption? Nah. I see these guys' comments and I 'know' them. On another thread, they'd be saying exactly the same thing the OP was saying here.

I referenced the patriarchal men disagreeing with her, duhh. I never said all the men disagreeing with her are patriarchal men.



Some of those guys are clowns, swears.

How are you?

Happy New Year. ✨✨ I don't think I've ever wished you directly or talked to you since the year started sef.

Gospel2Day:
She raised valid points.

Shalom.

Magnoliaa:
I don't care about every man. Assumption? Nah. I see these guys' comments and I 'know' them. On another thread, they'd be saying exactly the same thing the OP was saying here.

I mentioned patriarchal men disagreeing with her, duhh. I never said all the men disagreeing with her are patriarchal men.

Magnoliaa:
How much is your groom price, sire?

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Magnoliaa:
She's not a feminist and doesn't believe in equality and all that. She said it. She obviously thinks men and women have different roles. What's your point?


Oga, she's not a feminist. And she's just one person. Which ladies? What baseless assumptions? Are you saying that you disagree with her premise - that is a man is the provider and a woman is the helper?


I see. So when it comes to responsiblities, you like sharing 50/50, not so? If divorce happens now, assuming you're married to this lady, and based on the contributions you've said you made, if the court divides YOUR EQUAL properties 50/50, shey you will not cry?

So despite you claiming to have a partner that equally shares things with you, you're still bitter about Nigerian girls? How do they even correlate?

'Sides, you strike me as a redpiller. So in your white man's country, you share duties with your gf, she earns 3x more than you do, you were a baby daddy before you met her, and she has invested in you. Would you call yourself a simp or an alpha, kind sir, based on the conditions above?

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Abfinest007:
Entitlement mentality.good girls in the house please don't listen to this trash cuz d bible says woman be submissive to ur husband .it also say woman is a helpmate to the man

Workch:
You are stupid, maybe you are 19 Years and Nigerian girls never do you something.

GoodHardDick:
This is the most useless thread I have ever read on nairaland.

You weren't created to bring anything to the table, but you were created to take abi? Entitlement mentality kill you there. Mumu.

This is why they'll keep on using you girls to do rituals. Relax and be waiting for a SIMP man to come find you so he can be doing everything for you. I pity Simps!

I keep saying it,
Dating a Nigerian girl is a complete waste of time, energy and resources. They have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer a man in a relationship apart from their over used pussies.

Date a Nigeria girl at your own peril.

rickleye:
Madam Ada - But thats not what the OP is saying.
I am simply saying, I don't want the traditional wife who just goes to college get a BSc and plans only just to "Process" what I "provide". Like I am some magical unicorn that just provides and she just " processes"
I am not saying I wont provide, far from it but it must be joint or close 50/50 . The areas of provision may differ , let me give you an example with my live in gf.
I have an excel sheet which details our expenses
So rent for example 2.5M I contributed 60% she pays 40%
Food I pay 100%
Misc She pays 100%
Cars I contributed 70% she 30% . If we split we keep are separate vehicles
Outings We contribute to a savings account - Joint 2 signatory
Kids We contribute to a savings account
etc
The rational behind this - I wont spend what I dont have and It makes her feel like she is contributor to the success of the union . A co-owner. I have seen men work their ass of to provide for family all alone. He gets sick and dies and the woman's life is ruin - because she was just a processor and not both. Women can both provide and process.

Magnoliaa:
How much is your groom price, sire?

sparko1:
You are young, you are a little carried away with the attention you are getting from every male that find you appealing, I get it, you feel on top of the world, give it time, in every beginning there is an ending!

You are not ready for marriage, stick to your boyfriend chasing or better still yahoo boys chasing endeavor, if you are lucky, you might become a slave to one by the time you are 30.

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

elantraceey:
And truthfully, bringing money is actually the easiest job in a home.

jikins:
Right right, yet in many of your post on this thread your default settings is that the person you are replying to is a traditional man. It's why you asked questions like "I thought this is what you guys want?", "why is the money part paining you?".