heniford2:
you used ur mouth push ur husband comot 4 hus naw ur telling us here abi to go find him 4 u again so u can start nagging 4ram wia u stop nii

depression most hit this dude badly that's his thinking if he marry a demon or a human woman no dey reason at all, e get easy and smart way to engage ur husband and her lover and ur home is secure, as u see the lady picture u 4 track her make her ur friend the piece the bitch in a process she will never notice ur coming b4 she understands the game u most have made her useless and home in other everything nobi gargar small sense no cost

You no just well.

ibechris:
Madam u see this fight is worth every stress.

Every married woman should fight for what belongs to them. Because this kind of woman is ready to tear your home apart and can do any thing possible to destroy good families out there.

As far as u are not ready to fight the lady,it is very good u fight to get your husband back,because as it is,your husband is about crossing to the other side. And do not also forget,that some of these ladies usually charmed married men and after which u see such men behaving like mumu and spending their life savings on such a LovePeddler.

Continue the fight after all,if anything happens to him tomorrow,people will not speak well of u. Now is the time to get your husband and his senses to order.

Good luck to u.

please fight for what's yours, cus whatever happens your husband will still come back to you when his ice clear.

Amazingbaby:


No never,I am no fuul.
I told him that he must explain why a girl he deny talking with ever was sending him a message on when he is leaving the house at that time of the morning,if he likes he should stay away for a year.

Auntie put a call to his parent or any elder he respect so much.

Forget the arguments with u, all is just to get u angered and use that as an avenue to Snick out to the comfort of that olosho. If they ask him why he left home now he LL say it's because ure making him uncomfortable with rant.

Na man Code. No mind am.
Chai why we men self dey like this

ibechris:
Madam u see this fight is worth every stress.

Every married woman should fight for what belongs to them. Because this kind of woman is ready to tear your home apart and can do any thing possible to destroy good families out there.

As far as u are not ready to fight the lady,it is very good u fight to get your husband back,because as it is,your husband is about crossing to the other side. And do not also forget,that some of these ladies usually charmed married men and after which u see such men behaving like mumu and spending their life savings on such a LovePeddler.

Continue the fight after all,if anything happens to him tomorrow,people will not speak well of u. Now is the time to get your husband and his senses to order.

Good luck to u.

Lol, women have suffered in this life. With all the troubles in this world. It's to add fighting for a whole human being to it. God abeg oh.

The funny and sad thing here is that, a lot of Nigerian girls commenting on this topic are also sleeping with married men.
If you are reading this and you are sleeping with a married man, it will not be well with you. You will suffer for 600 years for making yourself a tool of breaking homes cos of money.

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

Why acting surprised? So many men cheat naw you should know this and quit disturbing yourself. Simply put it all in prayers

oldienavie:
The funny and sad thing here is that, a lot of Nigerian girls commenting on this topic are also sleeping with married men.
If you are reading this and you are sleeping with a married man, it will not be well with you. You will suffer for 600 years for making yourself a tool of breaking homes cos of money.

Lol. Some wives push their men out sha

Amazingbaby:


No never,I am no fuul.
I told him that he must explain why a girl he deny talking with ever was sending him a message on when he is leaving the house at that time of the morning,if he likes he should stay away for a year.

Keep calm and act like he don't exist so his conscience will prick him.

Amazingbaby:
I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

1. Do not call the girl or think it your plan to warn her off your husband or whatever other ridiculous ideas like that that may be swimming through your mind. That NEVER works. Your husband is a grown adult and as such he is to blame for whatever his actions are, no third parties..

2. If you no get work or business or life of your own at this point in your existence , is suggest you find a good source of income, for yourself, your family and whatever future lies ahead. Double your "hustle" if you have to at this point so you can keep your mind busy and engaged in other equally valuable tasks.

3. The man left the house and unless he comes back, there isn't much you can do. He is a grown up and so should be left to make his choices. All you can do is react and in order to do so, you need to keep sane. So, please try to adopt a patient pose, while you prepare yourself in the best possible way for whatever is to come of this.

AutoChick4U:
Why acting surprised? So many men cheat naw you should know this and quit disturbing yourself. Simply put it all in prayers

Let me rephrase the prayer.
If you are reading this, and have at one time had an affair with a married man and you know he is married, it shall not be well with you .
Let me see the percentage of those who will say amen.
All our young girls don turn Olosho finish, so where are the women that we will marry ?

oldienavie:

Let me rephrase the prayer.
If you are reading this, and have at one time had an affair with a married man and you know he is married, it shall not be well with you .
Let me see the percentage of those who will say amen.
All our young girls don turn Olosho finish, so where are the women that we will marry ?

Wash. The problem will those ladies who get too attached to these men

oldienavie:

Let me rephrase the prayer.
If you are reading this, and have at one time had an affair with a married man and you know he is married, it shall not be well with you .
Let me see the percentage of those who will say amen.
All our young girls don turn Olosho finish, so where are the women that we will marry ?

Are you yourself better than an Olosho that you feel you deserve better?

ibechris:
Madam u see this fight is worth every stress.

1. Every married woman should fight for what belongs to them. Because this kind of woman is ready to tear your home apart and can do any thing possible to destroy good families out there.

2. As far as u are not ready to fight the lady,it is very good u fight to get your husband back,because as it is,your husband is about crossing to the other side. And do not also forget,that some of these ladies usually charmed married men and after which u see such men behaving like mumu and spending their life savings on such a LovePeddler.

3. Continue the fight after all,if anything happens to him tomorrow,people will not speak well of u. Now is the time to get your husband and his senses to order.

1. What exactly would she be fighting for, why and how? A grown arse man decided of his own to walk out of his marriage, so what exactly does his wife need to stress herself fighting?

2. You claim ladies usually charmed married men, would you also buy that excuse if your wife were to wall out on your marriage with another man?

3. What exactly does it matter what people think as far as her marriage is concerned? Where were those people when her husband decided to drag the marriage out in the mud?

Make we begin to dey properly reason these things out abeg! The only thing this woman should be fighting is to keep her sanity and her family going for as long as she needs to whether this man chooses to returns or not.

Amazingbaby:
He hardly wants to have a conversation,he prefers leaving any place I am trying to have the conversation,this is the first time he left the house.he was such in a rage that I refuse him hiring the girl.

Nagging him will likely get you nowhere with him and I can bet that each time you try to broach the issue, you get aggravated and tied up in stressful emotions.

What I would recommend is you write him a detailed email/letter/text , listing all your grudges and send it to him via email, letter and text message. Once you are done doing that, you move on to focusing your attention on other more meaningful endeavors which would taking care of your kids, maintaining your sanity and working on your other individual goals.

ojotobiloba1:

Did I just heard you right when you said you can't fight fellow lady because of a man.. Excuse me madam, he isn't ordinary toaster or fwend with benefit man..He is your rightful husband, fight for your marriage, fight for your home, fight for your children before one stupid unfortunate lady will take all what u labored for down the years. Peace

So, how exactly does a wife fight another woman for a husband who up and left her of his own accord?

What is the sense in fighting for a filandering husband? I mean what exactly does this entail?

Mariangeles:
Both the husband and the lady are the problem.
Let’s call a spade what it is please.

I think she should deal with the situation how best she feels like.

I disagree! The one who disrespected the OP is her husband...the outsider is simply that, an outsider as far as her marriage is concerned and willl remain so no matter how this turns out.

The cause of this problem is her husband and he is not a child.

ojotobiloba1:

Did I just heard you right when you said you can't fight fellow lady because of a man.. Excuse me madam, he isn't ordinary toaster or fwend with benefit man..He is your rightful husband, fight for your marriage, fight for your home, fight for your children before one stupid unfortunate lady will take all what u labored for down the years. Peace

Would encourage a man to do exactly what you are telling her to do ... Bros be honest o

Fejimummy:

Would encourage a man to do exactly what you are telling her to do ... Bros be honest o

Fight for ur home.. It is not physical fighting.. I mean do anything to make sure she isn't dislodged either by that lady either by talking to someone who could talk to her husband either his pastor or his uncle or any

ojotobiloba1:

Fight for ur home.. It is not physical fighting.. I mean do anything to make sure she isn't dislodged either by that lady either by talking to someone who could talk to her husband either his pastor or his uncle or any

How exactly does she make sure she isn't "dislodged" by the other woman?

How does bringing in a third-party in to talk to her husband guarantee he will stop seeing the other woman?

The uncles and pastors she go call no get dem own marital attachment situation wey dem don resolve finish?

AutoChick4U:
Wash. The problem will those ladies who get too attached to these men

good morning beautiful how is your night?

Kobojunkie:
How exactly does she make sure she isn't "dislodged" by the other woman?

How does bringing in a third-party in to talk to her husband guarantee he will stop seeing the other woman?

The uncles and pastors she go call no get dem own marital attachment situation wey dem don resolve finish?

Wahala no dey finish.. Make she dey look as her marriage dey sink den by folding her hands without doing anything

ojotobiloba1:

Wahala no dey finish.. Make she dey look as her marriage dey sink den by folding her hands without doing anything

Try to put yourself in her shoes.... if your wife walked out of your marriage kind of like the OP described her husband doing, please enlighten us as to how you would go about making sure you are not "dislodged" by the other man?

How does bringing in third-parties in that case in fact stop or guarantee your wife will come back to you on your own schedule?

Explain to us how the outcome of your attempts to fight will be better than in a case where you wait patiently instead for the runaway partner to come back to his senses or you decide it is time to move on on your own?

Kobojunkie:
Try to put yourself in her shoes.... if your wife walked out of your marriage kind of like the OP described her husband doing, please enlighten us as to how you would go about making sure you are not "dislodged" by the other man?

How does bringing in third-parties in that case in fact stop or guarantee your wife will come back to you on your own schedule?

Explain to us how the outcome of your attempts to fight will be better than in a case where you wait patiently instead for the runaway partner to come back to his senses or you decide it is time to move on on your own?

Are u suggesting she should fold her hand and do absolutely nothing

Echoban:


Auntie put a call to his parent or any elder he respect so much.

Forget the arguments with u, all is just to get u angered and use that as an avenue to Snick out to the comfort of that olosho. If they ask him why he left home now he LL say it's because ure making him uncomfortable with rant.

Na man Code. No mind am.
Chai why we men self dey like this

You are so right,when he called yesterday I asked him why he left literally wanted to spin it that I asked him to leave,I wasn't even in the same room when he packed his stuff and left.....lol

ojotobiloba1:

Are u suggesting she should fold her hand and do absolutely nothing

I will do something but only when he is ready for the truth,I can't live a lie and I hate lies with passion.

Amazingbaby:


I will do something but only when he is ready for the truth,I can't live a lie and I hate lies with passion.

Good. You will do the something.. I am interested in that something

ojotobiloba1:

Are u suggesting she should fold her hand and do absolutely nothing

She has her kids and her life to focus her attention on, which is what she ought to do In a situation such as this. I mean we are not here discussing a child running away from home but a grown up man walking out of his own marriage. So why should the wife chase after him?

Animegirl:
If this story is true, I feel sorry for you. But don't stress yourself over a man. My advice you report this issue to his family and yours.

Pray he return but if your husband is coming back with STD or problems back to your life, rebuke it.

Reason why ladies should have their own money before marriage. If your husband decides to misbehave, you don't have to stress or overthink yourself over him. Just go on a vacation and enjoy yourself.

You get sense

Kobojunkie:
She has her kids and her life to focus her attention on, which is what she ought to do In a situation such as this. I mean we are not here discussing a child running away from home but a grown up man walking out of his own marriage. So why should the wife chase after him?

Chase after him isn't the point here.... Some women don't like broken home or house conflict brouhaha for the sake of their children. Effect of broken home at times do have a psychological effect on the upbringing kids. If not for kids, I am very sure she won't be moved at all

Go spiritual how? I don't want to believe it's what I'm thinking. Very bad suggestion.

NaBanga:
Ma just let him go his way. He has the smell of a new flower and it usually takes about 2 years for it to wear off. No amount of pulling and tugging is going to bring him back, unless he falls sick. That is when the woman will run away and he will come back asking for forgiveness. Otherwise you might have to go spiritual...

ojotobiloba1:

Chase after him isn't the point here.... Some women don't like broken home or house conflict brouhaha for the sake of their children. Effect of broken home at times do have a psychological effect on the upbringing kids. If not for kids, I am very sure she won't be moved at all

Some women don't like broken home or house conflict.... but what can those some women do when a husband walks out of the marriage? Does it matter then that they don't like broken home and house conflict?

Again, you asked the OP to ensure she is not dislodged by this other woman, yet you haven't come out to explain exactly how she can go about preventing that from happening given her grown-arse husband walked out on his marriage.

How does she keep this husband that you claim is rightly hers when he walked out on his own marriage?

LilMissFavvy:
Go spiritual how? I don't want to believe it's what I'm thinking. Very bad suggestion.

It can be prayers and fasting or fetish tinz