To the married men and women in the house , let's give them some, not on papers experience which you will never be told before marriage...


Some of these I learnt through a friend....


A) If you (husband) have 5k and the woman has 3k , sum it together in marriage arithmetic , total cash available in that house is 5k, thanks.

B) As a man be prepared to enter kitchen, expecially those early morning cooking, or else be ready to visit mama put..

Keep it rolling......

U will realize that you've been scammed, cos believe it or not, your partner won't show you all her/his bad habits during courtship.... Wait until after wedding

Some singles think they will just be knacking like say na food. Give yourself some time, na you go tire. Even sometimes, family wahala no go allow u get 'election' 😆

No matter how many years the dating lasted, you will still be learning new things about your partner every now and then.😆

As man u fit go raise another person pikin' if u no go for DNA.
My 2cent
The ones way they always think of knacking' sometimes ur gbola no go even stand to thrust.

Marriage is never a bed of roses

Marriage is not a resting place but fundamentally it is full of hard work.

That marriage is created to be enjoyed not endured. It's supposed to be a continuous love journey not constant battle and misery.

Jjj

One:

That female fertility is affected by age


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3a3jkN-6dOw




Two

That men are judged largely by their utility

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6oC3rgEhMI

There are no laid down rules for a successful marriage.
Just marry your best friend, someone you can go the extra mile for, someone you can confide in, someone whom you can tolerate his or her bullsh*t.

A man who is not prepared to cook should wait for death

Word on the street is that intimacy will tiya you and when responsibilities start hitting you left, right, front and back the only time you will remember you have D is when you want to pee and that this is when friendship with your spouse will survive the marriage and this is also when you realise that beauty is not everything.


Another word on the street is that 90% of marital problem are problems finance/money can solve and the problem(s) money can't solve more money will solve it. In marital calculation the remaining 10% preponderate the 90% but the 90% are the frequent cause of marital problems.

Another word on the street is that the first 5 to 6 years expecially first 2 years are the years in marriage that have the greatest trial/confrontation/issue it is then that you will likely realise that what you ordered was nor what was delivered to you. You start to see the other spouse true character and behaviour (I don't want to sound gender specific) but you will wonder if you both actually did courtship for 10 years and why you didn't see their true character.

Lol

Looking back at how my dad and mom of blessed memory fared in marriage,one major lesson I learned was that:"He who finds a good wife has got a direct blessing from heaven"

Mainly mumu men dey marry sha 😂

Chai..


Is there any generally applicable formulae in marriage?

NO!

Sometimes I dey forget say I must marry ;Dbut then I'm a tolerant person,I fit still forgive everything for marriage but infidelity...you are gone 4 life

Are we to marry or not?

Omo , I'm not married o but wetin my eye don see for married people matter in this my twenties eehnn., I don't think I'll enter into that contract

1... A woman's money is her money, but a man's money is the money for the house/family

2... A woman will almost always chose her siblings and her children over you.

3... A woman will always be comfortable with her family members staying around, but will never be all happy if it's the other way round.

4... Never tell your wife about all the money you have, because her demand will increase.

5... As a man, be ready to spend and double your hustle because you must provide ooo, whether nah Tinubu or Obi wey be president.

6... Be ready to always tolerate and forgive, never allow any issue with your spouse to cross 24hrs, irrespective of who was wrong, peace is paramount.

7... You will be considered lucky if the both of you are ready to learn, relearn and take corrections , because in marriage, you will keep seeing new things from both parties.

I think if people should just be behaving the way they were during Dating/courtship, there won't be much issues.


NB: There can be 1% exception.

nobody should come and feed us with anecdotes. Provide scientific evidence and data to back up your claims, otherwise what u say is just how u see it

Tolerance

Marriage is definition of task force.

Men pay and pay and keep paying. Often times they are short changed by women.

She can tell you this costs #50 000 while it's #35000.

When you run out of funds na that time you'll see finish.

Marriage is propaganda. They only show us smiling pictures. They never show us the deteriorating looks of their wives, and the increasing yearly bills she and her kids (whose paternity is always in doubt) continue to incur. There is nothing more unfortunate than to be a married man. You end up paying more for a product (woman) that keeps deteriorating every year. Woman is the biggest tax men pay.

Don't scare us, what is happening in your home might be differ.

1. You can marry the most beautiful, understanding woman on earth....But on some bad days, both of you are going to wonder how and why you ended up with each other.

2. Women have a different perspective of love. They see tolerance of their BS, PDA, and allowing them make important choices for the home as love. To us Men, love is simply protecting and providing for your family.

3. In marriage, you the man will work your ass off to make sure your family never lacks the basic necessities of life and some luxury if you can afford it; and your wife, who is the number one beneficiary of your provision will wake up one day and complain that you are always working too hard and never having time for her.

Never ever fall for this emotional blackmail by taking your hands off the plough. The respect, love and showers of praise you will receive in marriage depends on your ability to do your Number Job as a Husband; which is protect and provide for your family.

4. Expect see finish....You can be a powerful politician or a successful businessman outside your home. At home, you are just an ordinary man that walks around with his bare bumbum

When a man is young , he tries to please his parents,

When he gets married, he tries to please his spouse

When he becomes a father, he tries to please his children,

When he grows old, he tries to please God.

One day, he comes to discover that his life had never been his own.

You will realise that marriage is more of a task to provide for your family than knacking