Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she starts blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening.

This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time....

But share your views anyways

When I hear u say woman, I thought u re referring to ur wife.

But on opening the thread, I discovered it was just ur Gf and u re disturbing us? Abeg disturb us when you've wife her only then will I give advice.

Well for now, I have nothing to say to u as u re SIMPly the best.

Your girl no get respect and she's impatient.

Red flag but if you wan continue who am I to stop a moving train?

I think you should understand her and let her understand you also.

I also don't like when my conversations are one-sided but I tend to be reasonable with things.

Why not transfer your Dick to her when she is explaining.
Just imagine pulling off and squizing it into her aggressive mouth. Woof wroof wroof mmmh mmmh mmmh wroof. Only that sound alone will drive away both aggressive and aggressed into a steamy gumy situation

Scientists:
Why not transfer your Dick to her when she is explaining.

comrade be serious for once na.

@op fr that's a red flag. These little things shouldn't be overlooked unless you got no intentions to go far with her

All those ladies dating guys in their 20's abeg where una gather strength from?

You will see signs but will now enter marriage that you won't let us hear word

Iyaebe:
All those ladies dating guys in their 20's abeg where una gather strength from?

You're always off-track.

Iyaebe:
All those ladies dating guys in their 20's abeg where una gather strength from?

I don't understand the necessity of this comment but I'll let you know I'm not in my twenties.. You clearly had nothing to say you for just chill

waziri4biz:

I don't understand the necessity of this comment but I'll let you know I'm not in my twenties.. You clearly had nothing to say you for just chill

Carry your Biro cover penis komot for my front.At least I've said something now.Good night

Iyaebe:
Carry your Biro cover penis komot for my front.At least I've said something now.Good night

Stupid girl

Iyaebe:
Carry your Biro cover penis komot for my front.At least I've said something now.Good night

My penis go reach babe chest no talk wetin you no know

brosom:
When I hear u say woman, I thought u re referring to ur wife.

But on opening the thread, I discovered it was just ur Gf and u re disturbing us? Abeg disturb us when you've wife her only then will I give advice.

Well for now, I have nothing to say to u as u re SIMPly the best.

Savage .take it easy

There are a lot of stupid people in the Romance section I've come to discover.

Silence isn't listening it's Silence. Active listening requires cues like "ahem, yeah, ok, I understand." Then you respond with something like "ok I heard xy and z." If you're just silent then that could be interpreted as passive aggressive.

P*ssy Ass niggaz everywhere

Women & Impatience are inseparable.
Women & Spontaneous Anger are inseparable.
In Summary;
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Double0h7:
Silence isn't listening it's Silence. Active listening requires cues like "ahem, yeah, ok, I understand." Then you respond with something like "ok I heard xy and z." If you're just silent then that could be interpreted as passive aggressive.

That still does not give her the right to hang up on him

My personal belief is that the ONLY reason I get into a relationship is to be happier than I would have been on my own. Once that relationship makes me feel unhappier than I would have been on my own, it is time for difficult but necessary conversations.

Is your girl a learning individual? i.e someone who is able to pay attention when you respectably point out her behavioral deficit? Is she someone who is capable of changing her habits for the better? If that's the case, you need to have what we call difficult conversations with her. Tell her exactly what you told us and how her behavior made you feel. Get her to agree to let you know repectfully when she feels you are ignoring her or when she feels you've done something she's not comfortable with. If she's agreeable to doing that, you'd have your relationship back. If she's the type of Nigerian woman who will tell you " This is who I am . Accept it or leave it" : then you will know what time it is.

Africans, particularly Nigerians, are not taught emotional intelligence, whether at school , home or during social interactions. We react to things based on instinct and the way we see others react. So if she's willing to learn, then you should be able to work things out. You also need to learn the art of effective listening. It does not appear that you've been listening to her. There is also nothing wrong with telling her if she's the type who goes on and on about something. I particular do not have the stomach for such.

You will do well to google and learn how to give effective feedback and also effective listening. Every black man/woman on the surface of this planet should read/study these two things. Our lives will be much more better for them.

waziri4biz:
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she start blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening. This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time.... But share your views anyways

Don't be dead silent when talking to someone over the phone.

Respond with;

Uh hun
Yes
Okay
Alright

Also, from time to time, repeat what they've said in form of question.

If she said she's going to market to get things, then after a while respond with, you said you are going to get things from the market right? Why don't you get me something too.

No be everything be gender war joor.

I hope you aren't planning on staying with this kinda woman though

I go transfer am give am sharp sharp.

NemoDatQuod:
My personal belief is that the ONLY reason I get into a relationship is to be happier than I would have been on my own. Once that relationship makes me feel unhappier than I would have been on my own, it is time for difficult but necessary conversations.

Is your girl a learning individual? i.e someone who is able to pay attention when you respectably point out her behavioral deficit? Is she someone who is capable of changing her habits for the better? If that's the case, you need to have what we call difficult conversations with her. Tell her exactly what you told us and how her behavior made you feel. Get her to agree to let you know repectfully when she feels you are ignoring her or when she feels you've done something she's not comfortable with. If she's agreeable to doing that, you'd have your relationship back. If she's the type of Nigerian woman who will tell you " This is who I am . Accept it or leave it" : then you will know what time it is.

Africans, particularly Nigerians, are not taught emotional intelligence, whether at school , home or during social interactions. We react to things based on instinct and the way we see others react. So if she's willing to learn, then you should be able to work things out. You also need to learn the art of effective listening. It does not appear that you've been listening to her. There is also nothing wrong with telling her if she's the type who goes on and on about something. I particular do not have the stomach for such.

You will do well to google and learn how to give effective feedback and also effective listening. Every black man/woman on the surface of this planet should read/study these two things. Our lives will be much more better for them.

Thanks

waziri4biz:
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she start blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening. This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time.... But share your views anyways

She is already showing some anger issues, you won't put her in her place now. You they form gentle man, until when you finally get married and she goes out of control.

Kobicove:


That still does not give her the right to hang up on him

Did I say it gave her the right?

I'm just pointing out the importance of actually listening and making the other person feel heard. This could be why she is being aggressive, she doesn't feel heard.

OP, you seem like all these nice and gentle guys what nonsense!!

As a guy, Once a girl starts giving you attitude..know that she has seen another guy who's constantly draining her pussy. It's time to dump her immediately and move on.

OP, that girl has another nigga she's dating. You're just dating yourself bro. she started yelling at you and even ended the call. oga, that girl don see you finish I swear! You have lost your values and respect. You better forget that girl and move on. Pussy ass niggas everywhere!!!

waziri4biz:
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she start blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening. This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time.... But share your views anyways

U weren't replying her when she wanted. U were just listening as if u weren't interested in what she was saying. U were just like, talk make u hang up or u don talk finish?

waziri4biz:
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she start blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening. This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time.... But share your views anyways

She wants You to Flare Up. Common with Hot Tempered(Aggressive) ladies.

E.g. if she is reporting someone/Situation to You, Just start helping Fight the person and na she go dey tell You "it's OK, It's ok" it's settled.

She wants you to take the fight and fight not just listening ....

The way you controlled hot tempered ladies is to take the fight away from them and Assume the flare then when you guys are together Train Her on conflict management. She will listen to you then settled out the craze away from her head with Good s.x.

That Fire is needed to nurture your home not Fighting everywhere. Next time, she will tell you how she was calm in the face of storm.

Then you have a controlled fire meant for cooking not burning the house.

I initially thought you are a kid or some teen out there until I saw your dp, so with your age and dis your beards, you still lack common sense , Very SIMPle man , I pray she beat you soonest mumu

Age doesn’t guarantee wisdom abeg

fikayormi:
I initially thought you are a kid or some teen out there until I saw your dp, so with your age and dis your beards, you still lack common sense , Very SIMPle man , I pray she beat you soonest mumu

Age doesn’t guarantee wisdom abeg

What is the meaning of this?
Is this how bitter your life is that you go to my profile to express this level of bitterness. If you're so mature how come you have the time to be this petty.... Go and get a life. You are the type who reign insults on people for asking for advise.... Nothing you said was a valid point but a perfect reflection of a sad life.... Go and get a life sir... If you have no intelligent response simply keep mute... Oloriburuku..