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sojisenai:
Smh. You obviously don't want a solution.

CandyOps:
Boss I'm not ready for marriage now. Na Vision 2025 I get. I need to grow my financial base to like 5 to 10m before I engagae person pikin.

Besides, men who are ready usually travel down to the East or village and marry a girl that fits their specs and set her up in town when she's your wife. I can marry her and get her a job.

I'm not just ready for it now. I don't want it to be a move I make because she's with me and has accomodation issues

CandyOps:
This story is funny sha.. but I'll be brief.

So I met my current babe 4 months ago. She's cute and fine asf. Let's just say she's a spec

The only issue we have is she's homeless and broke and I'm not looking at settling down at the moment. To put it mildly, we like to say she's having accomodation issues.

I'm not so sure but I think she came from the east to Lagos with a guy she wanted to marry but it didn't work out. So she left the guy's house and have been working sales-girl jobs that offer accomodation alongside.

She quit her job and had to vacate the room.
Now she wants to keep her luggage in my place while she figures out herself. The thing is, there's no time limit on how long it'll take her to find a place because she's short on cash and I don't have spare cash to help her rent a room with.

Now here's the 2nd problem,

She has always told me from Day 1 that she's looking for a man to get married to. And she don't believe she is with me. She says I'm not serious. She says it indirectly at times and I think it's because her Ex bought her a car and opened a store for her while they were together.

She's a great person and someone I would have loved to settle with if I was financially capable.

She moved in and stayed with me for 2 weeks sometimes last December when she had issues with her female friend where she was squatting but I had to send her packing because she was rationing the sex with me.

She will give me today and remind me we're not married the next time. We always have a fight about that because I don't like to be sex-starved.

I mean, I'm providing almost everything for her. She has no reason to.

She left my place to her male friend's place who had 2 rooms and stay alone but she had to leave the guy because she said he was too possessive. And the guy was ready to settle down I think.

Luckily for her, she got accomodation at her new job but the place is not manageable. Too much mosquitoes. No fan and no mattress.

She even begged me to stop calling her so she can move on but we couldn't stay apart from each other.

Once again, she had to quit the job.

Now she is looking for where to lay head while she finds an accomodation. She got a new job too 45k. It's poor and she can't get a house with that salary in Lagos.

I stay in a mini flat so no spare rooms. Besides, I don't want a repeat of what happened the last time when she had to pack out of my house angrily and created a scene.

I believe she already lost that privilege.

I found a place for her to keep her luggage while she sleeps in my place but she's feeling bad because I didn't let her to keep it in my place. So she said we should move on..

As we speak, she has refused to come into the room. She insists on sleeping in the sitting room because she's trying to break things off with me and wants to cut off some things that will spring up more emotions.

I understand but it's tiring. I just tire!

Me, I don't want to keep someone in my house who's homeless. I mean, it's just like marriage na

Besides, she no de even give me BJ she say she will only do that when married. She doesn't have relatives in Lagos and don't want to go back to the East.

I just weak!
My guys no dey even make matter any better by calling her 'our wife' anytime she's around.

I never buy car yet and my business is young. This is my 3rd year in Lagos. My buisness revenue is roughly around 2.5 million monthly (net) not enough to buy a car pay rent and stay afloat

How do I end this? and still be friends with her?

Is any girl looking for a female roommate?
Location- Okota, Lagos?
Budget- 100k

JustPowerApps:
Lagos people be dating each other for years and they won't even know each other's name not to talk of where the partner came from The city of roamers

CandyOps:
Lol she fit no gree based on say na me recommend you bro. But like I said she's a complete spec. It's unfortunate she has this accomodation issue

odinson1:
Op That girl is nothing but A Parasite with Bad luck on her side. She has a lot of problems, moving from one house or job to the other.

You'd be a Fool to get married to such a person.

gift0123:
.... The boy is nice but too mumu ..

Eben91:
Na so we de run am here oo if by mistake the bebe die for him house, na for ikoyi prison he go just relocate to

Harddiskng:
Bruh thank you for speaking my mind.

I usually ask “At what point would you say other people are not your problem and know that you are your own problem?”

She has issues with her ex, she had issues with her friend, she has issues with @OP, she just dey get issue with everyone wey just wan try for am. I get the strong vibe she is very selfish.

She just want to get everything while contributing nonsense. Please if you staying with someone, you too would comport yourself and do everything in your power to be useful not this babe in question. @OP don’t allow her stay with you if you no like to talk too much, help her anywhich way you can; make she carry her remaining wahala go front.

Doesn’t she have a family? Besides can a babe wey be complete spec have accommodation issues in this Lagos



Guys hope you can learn. If you like be forming nice guy. “Nice” is a weakness, you go be mumu. If the tables turn she won’t help you in any way. Always the straight with what you want from the beginning and get it up-front except you feel like helping for free.

Cc: TheGidRedpiller

CandyOps:
This story is funny sha.. but I'll be brief.

So I met my current babe 4 months ago. She's cute and fine asf. Let's just say she's a spec

The only issue we have is she's homeless and broke and I'm not looking at settling down at the moment. To put it mildly, we like to say she's having accomodation issues.

I'm not so sure but I think she came from the east to Lagos with a guy she wanted to marry but it didn't work out. So she left the guy's house and have been working sales-girl jobs that offer accomodation alongside.

She quit her job and had to vacate the room.
Now she wants to keep her luggage in my place while she figures out herself. The thing is, there's no time limit on how long it'll take her to find a place because she's short on cash and I don't have spare cash to help her rent a room with.

Now here's the 2nd problem,

She has always told me from Day 1 that she's looking for a man to get married to. And she don't believe she is with me. She says I'm not serious. She says it indirectly at times and I think it's because her Ex bought her a car and opened a store for her while they were together.

She's a great person and someone I would have loved to settle with if I was financially capable.

She moved in and stayed with me for 2 weeks sometimes last December when she had issues with her female friend where she was squatting but I had to send her packing because she was rationing the sex with me.

She will give me today and remind me we're not married the next time. We always have a fight about that because I don't like to be sex-starved.

I mean, I'm providing almost everything for her. She has no reason to.

She left my place to her male friend's place who had 2 rooms and stay alone but she had to leave the guy because she said he was too possessive. And the guy was ready to settle down I think.

Luckily for her, she got accomodation at her new job but the place is not manageable. Too much mosquitoes. No fan and no mattress.

She even begged me to stop calling her so she can move on but we couldn't stay apart from each other.

Once again, she had to quit the job.

Now she is looking for where to lay head while she finds an accomodation. She got a new job too 45k. It's poor and she can't get a house with that salary in Lagos.

I stay in a mini flat so no spare rooms. Besides, I don't want a repeat of what happened the last time when she had to pack out of my house angrily and created a scene.

I believe she already lost that privilege.

I found a place for her to keep her luggage while she sleeps in my place but she's feeling bad because I didn't let her to keep it in my place. So she said we should move on..

As we speak, she has refused to come into the room. She insists on sleeping in the sitting room because she's trying to break things off with me and wants to cut off some things that will spring up more emotions.

I understand but it's tiring. I just tire!

Me, I don't want to keep someone in my house who's homeless. I mean, it's just like marriage na

Besides, she no de even give me BJ she say she will only do that when married. She doesn't have relatives in Lagos and don't want to go back to the East.

I just weak!
My guys no dey even make matter any better by calling her 'our wife' anytime she's around.

I never buy car yet and my business is young. This is my 3rd year in Lagos. My buisness revenue is roughly around 2.5 million monthly (net) not enough to buy a car pay rent and stay afloat

How do I end this? and still be friends with her?

CandyOps:
I been dey even advice am to travel go back East but her friend go tell am say I be wicked person to give her that kind of advice.

Nna men this kin cross tire me .. wetin be ojukokoro abeg? I think I understand sha this no be laffing matter abeg.

soundOsonic:
Your business revenue is 2.5 million per month and you said you are not financially bouyant?
So you can't rent a room for her for just 150k since she is your spec?
I no even understand you self.
Person dey earn 2.5 million for naija still dey struggle

soundOsonic:
Your business revenue is 2.5 million per month and you said you are not financially bouyant?
So you can't rent a room for her for just 150k since she is your spec?
I no even understand you self.
Person dey earn 2.5 million for naija still dey struggle

Eben91:
Na so we de run am here oo if by mistake the bebe die for him house, na for ikoyi prison he go just relocate to

CandyOps:
Revenue not profits bro. It's different.
Besides I don't think you can find an accomodation below 300k total package here

CandyOps:
Ok how do I discharge her? That's the question

CandyOps:
If anybody dies in your house you go still write statement for station so nothing de shele

Besides na like my main babe for now.

Lucrativress:
Whoever you are,then it's done.
Don't come all full spec bullshit
No sympathy given...
Don't start what you can't finish..

CandyOps:
Lol Wetin this one dey talk? Lol . You're talking out of context. I've told her I'm not ready for marriage. In fact, na she de even tell me say she no fit dey with me.

Besides, people wey get money pass me dey chase her so she's free to leave. I made it clear to her. I spend on her, change her wardrope as much as I can... gave her a place to lay her head, bang her well. I de cook as much as she can sef so I do the dishes if she's not in the mood. I don't have side chicks currently. She's my main

I'm not just ready for marriage and we have an agreement on that. So what's your p?

In fact, the accommodation na me go still pay so how exactly is that being self-centered?

Na till I marry am abi

CandyOps:
This story is funny sha.. but I'll be brief.

So I met my current babe 4 months ago. She's cute and fine asf. Let's just say she's a spec

The only issue we have is she's homeless and broke and I'm not looking at settling down at the moment. To put it mildly, we like to say she's having accomodation issues.

she came for NYSC in After which she started squatting with friends and got with a guy she wanted to marry but it didn't work out. So she left the guy's house and have been working sales-girl jobs that offer accomodation alongside.

She quit her job & had to vacate the room.

Now she wants to keep her luggage in my place while she figures out herself. The thing is, there's no time limit on how long it'll take her to find a place because she's short on cash and I don't have spare cash to help her rent a room with.

Now here's the 2nd problem,

She has always told me from Day 1 that she's looking for a man to get married to. And she don't believe she is with me. She says I'm not serious. She says it indirectly at times and I think it's because her Ex bought her a car and opened a store for her while they were together.

She's a great person and someone I would have loved to settle with if I was financially capable.

She moved in and stayed with me for 2 weeks sometimes last December when she had issues with her female friend where she was squatting but I had to send her packing because she was rationing the sex with me.

She will give me today and remind me we're not married the next time. We always have a fight about that because I don't like to be sex-starved.

I mean, I'm providing almost everything for her. She has no reason to.

She left my place to her male friend's place who had 2 rooms and stay alone but she had to leave the guy because she said he was too possessive. And the guy was ready to settle down I think.

Luckily for her, she got accomodation at her new job but the place is not manageable. Too much mosquitoes. No fan and no mattress.

She even begged me to stop calling her so she can move on but we couldn't stay apart from each other.

Once again, she had to quit the job.

Now she is looking for where to lay head while she finds an accomodation. She got a new job too 45k. It's poor and she can't get a house with that salary in Lagos.

I stay in a mini flat so no spare rooms. Besides, I don't want a repeat of what happened the last time when she had to pack out of my house angrily and created a scene.

I believe she already lost that privilege.

I found a place for her to keep her luggage while she sleeps in my place but she's feeling bad because I didn't let her to keep it in my place. So she said we should move on..

As we speak, she has refused to come into the room. She insists on sleeping in the sitting room because she's trying to break things off with me and wants to cut off some things that will spring up more emotions.

I understand but it's tiring. I just tire!

Me, I don't want to keep someone in my house who's homeless. I mean, it's just like marriage na

Besides, she no de even give me BJ she say she will only do that when married. She doesn't have relatives in Lagos and don't want to go back to the East.

I just weak!
My guys no dey even make matter any better by calling her 'our wife' anytime she's around.

I never buy car yet and my business is young. This is my 3rd year in Lagos. My buisness revenue is roughly around 2.5 million monthly (net) not enough to buy a car pay rent and stay afloat

How do I end this? and still be friends with her?