HenryIgwe01: My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.
Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.
I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.
I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.
Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.
I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.
My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.
My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.
I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.
God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.
Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.
HI bro, how you doing today, it would be a lie if i told you, i know how you are feeling. However,i do like to bring something to your awareness, Do you know that the legendary Steve Harvey also had similar issue(stutter),he overcame it, and you would not know, he once had that,he has gone on to become a successful/Legendary comedian and a T.V show host.. Do not give up on yourself, Kindly use the search button to check one of the episode he talked about it, when a guest(lady) as about stuttering. He gave some drills on how to stop stuttering. Kindly check it out, i have feeling it will help a great help for you, i am rooting for you, do not give up on yourself....
Y'all learn the hard way. Y'all will ignore the medical care and opt for other options till your health get deteriorated, then you start running back to the clinic when its too late. Y'all will then blame the health-care system for your misfortune.
Pathetic!!!
Until science comes and tells you that a substance is inside the drink that could cure it? Remember how we were using herbs to treat malaria, science comes and tell us that it is because of quinn at the bark of thr tree that cures the malaria. Now, drugs are made out of tree barks.
Maybe the solution isn't far fetched, nature could have answers to our problems. Most scientific innovations are gotten from nature if not all.
Bro, I cant only imagine your situation right now but I also have a similar one. I am S factor i.e I talk with my tongue and have difficulties pronouncing some words. It really did use to kill my self esteem back then but I stood my ground and built my self confidence. You can only have self esteem when you are self confident. Nobody is perfect bro, dont blame God for your plight and be grateful always. No matter how good you might be, not everybody can love you. You'll always find people that love you for who you are. Be happy bro, appreciate who you are.
HenryIgwe01: My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.
Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.
I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.
I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.
Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.
I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.
My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.
My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.
I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.
God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.
Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.
Sing out your words with style and you will be amazed how fluently you will communicate.
Brother I can feel your pain... But don't trivialise issue by trivialising issues... Don't bite d finger that feeds you... Pls do not dare God. He is the almighty, ever faithful ever sure, our ever present help in time of need... Pls use MATT 7:7 as your anchor scripture and believe God for a miracle... I see u testifying... Every of your issues of concern shall be turned testimony... U are lifted... Cheers...
No medical cure for Stammering. I traveled to Chicago, USA and China to get treatment, no treatment. My brother, take a cup of water every morning, take a breathing exercise 5 to 10 mins after drinking water in the morning. I took snail, charcoal and other bullshits, non worked.
HenryIgwe01: My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.
Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.
I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.
I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.
Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.
I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.
My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.
My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.
I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.
God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.
Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.
first forget this depression talk as far as your in Africa everyone is going through one thing or the other,
Two if you want to communicate next time or speak do not rush your words jejely say so gently i have a friend who stutters badly the way he was able to control it was when he want to say something he will not be in a rush slow and steady know hardly will u know he has that issue.
Three kill the impression of i cant communicate properly it limits your ability avoid been angry always okey stay fulfilled
I feel your plight bro, all u need is work on yourself. Use ur siblings as practice. Key point: before u say any word out, first say it to yourself like 3time. Don't be in a rush to say any word. Before u know it, you will be speaking more fluently. Don't beat yourself too much. Just follow this small rules DAT how to beat stammering.
HenryIgwe01: My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.
Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.
I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.
I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.
Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.
I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.
My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.
My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.
I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.
God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.
Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.
Lemme surprise you, do u know that Uncle Steve was worse than u, yet he is a talk show host. Look him up pls. But bfor u talk, take ur time to say ur sentence in ur mind bfo saying it aloud,ok? There are many ways online to curtail stuttering. Go make some research. Bless you.
HenryIgwe01: My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.
Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.
I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.
I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.
Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.
I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.
My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.
My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.
I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.
God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.
Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.
Henry, don't allow one setback in your life bring you down, my brother was a chronic stammerer but today he has overcame it. Take your time talking even if it means bringing out one word in many many seconds, also b calm and less apprehensive went talking. Current US president was chronic stammerer but today has defeated his impairment. As for searching for jobs try applying with foreign NGOS because they don't discriminate like our people. Wish the best and stay strong.
You have achieved nothing... but you are a graduate? If you can't cope with stammering why would you believe you'll be better off being dumb?.... and deaf? Stammering isn't even considered a handicap. What if you have lost the use of a hand?... a leg? ... sight? I suggest you go visit a hospital or some handicapped person ... and learn of the difficulties they face in this journey if life. Your slight disability can be overcome .... how fast depending on your determination. They have no choice. Have looked at You Tube to see others like you .... and how they overcome theirs? Your solution is at your fingertips. Stop pitying yourself and crying about the problem and begin to look at ways to solve it. Brace yourself for criticism .... take note of the harshest ones and who dished it out..... because one day when you become very fluent you can call them out ... and if possible stuff their words back in their mouth leaving them speechless... or stammering to respond. You need to build confidence in yourself. Sideline negative people... some people don't like to see others progress... misery loves company.
Wawelexy: OP don't be depressed, listen to those advice above and try this.
get like 30cl dry gin, the local one called ethanol(not schnapps) add alligator pepper and cayenne pepper(chillg pepper) mix vigorously before use take one tea spoonful and hold it in ur throat for seconds before spitting it out do this twice daily for two months and see ur stammering reduce gradually.
HenryIgwe01: My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.
Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.
I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.
I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.
Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.
I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.
My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.
My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.
I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.
God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.
Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.
Take this very seriously, coming from one chronic stammerer to another. One thing I have come to know is that stammering depends largely on one's emotions. If you can learn to control your emotions, fear anger, etc. you would have conquered stammering to an extent. Learn to stay calm when speaking. Take things slowly. You can search online for some helpful materials that would held in this regard. I beg you, put the tips to practice. They work with time.
One more thing, please never wish to be deaf and dumb. You don't know what it means to be deaf and dumb, as you're not one. Instead, be thankful that your disability is better than others.
I understand your pain because I’m also a stammerer as well ,now this are the things you need to avoid Stay far from anything that will get you upset Stay far from toxic people that will always red temper u Avoid talking too much but mind u it can never go away but it can be reduced to the minimum and all those people talking about working on your confidence are just jokers because u can’t be confident while stammering, first of all it has to be reduced before u can talk about confidence. Pick ur words one by one no matter how brilliant or intelligent u are Stammerers tend to have temper issues but if you can beat it at it’s own game then you’ve won by not getting provoked Learn the habit of drinking plenty wata,it’s helps .
HenryIgwe01: My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.
Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.
I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.
I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.
Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.
I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.
My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.
My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.
I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.
God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.
Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.
and also regarding depression in Nigeria its our new namesake.
my brother calm down, i was like this before to the extent of not been able to greet people. The solution is : Be slow when speaking Always calm down when angry Stop immediately if you watch porn Believe that you are the best. You can still achieve your goal, i had a lecturer like that( a chronic one) but we enjoyed his lectures because the man was too good. So you can make it.
I'm also a stammerer, the antidote to this is to always calm down whenever you want to talk, and I will implore you to believe in God, you saying God is not perfect is totally wrong, pls trust God, pray to Him to take over your tongue.
Freelane33: Go to general hospital . The accident and emergency departments. Go and feed your eyes and come back here to thank me . You’re healthy . Living fine , no health challenges , no court case and you’re complaining about …… . Bro don’t be an ingrate
Stop this shit!
The fact that there are people with bigger problems doesn't invalidates his problems.
@OP A close relative of mine stammers and she's the funniest person that is close to me, jovial and very extroverted. Although her stuttering is not chronic though, but she stutters even till tomorrow and she is jovial and friendlier than me wey no dey stutter.
You were on track until you started blaming God. Stop the blame game, accept yourself and learn to live your life the best way you can.
I think this helps: Stop forcing your speech or thinking about it. Before speaking, say it in your head before saying it aloud.
HenryIgwe01: My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.
Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.
I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.
I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.
Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.
I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.
My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.
My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.
I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.
God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.
The good news about your post is that... you have just Discovered yourself and I'm so happy for that. Now Listen to me.
While I was growing up, I have always wanted to be a lawyer because "I talk too much" But that wasn't God's plan for me. I discovered my purpose in life when I was in S.S.1 3rd term.
I went to command secondary school ipaja Lagos (boarding house). Your Junior Waec results determines if you belong to science, commercial or art class. When our results came out and the list were shuffled. I saw myself in science class but I purposely went to register myself in art class.
I was bored in my 1st & 2nd term in art class. no calculation courses apart from mathematics. I was tired of reading long notes without practicals or calculations. I wrote a letter to our commandant stating why I wanna go back to Sci class. Then he approved it.
Today I'm a medical laboratory technician in a prestigious hospital here in Lagos. And I also do business.
Now here is my point: YOU want to be a lecturer/teacher but is that God's plan for you?? Now that you have discovered yourself, kill that mentality of becoming a lecturer/teacher. That's not your purpose in life take it OR leave it. Else you will commit suicide and die for nothing.
@27 You're still young. Work on your confidence, Set a goal, ask yourself where do want to be in next 5 years. Think critically and research about businesses to learn and venture into.
ABOVE ALL, PRAY TO GOD FOR GUIDANCE. Ask God for forgiveness for the rubbish you wrote in your last paragraph.
People like you should never be allowed to speak in public. How do you know teaching and lecturing cannot be his dream? who the hell are you to say that trash to him? And what has God got to do with his struggle with stuttering? Reasons this country is damned. Even the brain God has given to you you have refused to use, you keep irritating God with issues you can solve only by making use of your head.
To the OP, See, you dont have any problem to make you depressed. My first advice to you is to go look for this movie "The King's Speech" You will learn first hand how to break free from your struggle. If you cant find the movie, send me a pm or respond to this comment. See, if you dont starmer when you speak in your mind, trust me, you can speak with your tongue without stuttering. Dont waste your time praying. God has already given us brains to use in solving this problem.
To the OP, See, you dont have any problem to make you depressed. My first advice to you is to go look for this movie "The King's Speech" You will learn first hand how to break free from your struggle. If you cant find the movie, send me a pm or respond to this comment. See, if you dont starmer when you speak in your mind, trust me, you can speak with your tongue without stuttering. Dont waste your time praying. God has already given us brains to use in solving this problem.
