franchasng:
Thousands of ladies have missed their true love as a result of this attitude common among Nigerian ladies.
I am replying to you because your story just brought back a memory like this.
That was shortly after my NYSC. I was working with a very small engineering firm. There was this pretty lady I was so admiring to the extent I confided in my closest colleagues cos we do always meet her at a restaurant during afternoon break when her own company was also on break.
I wasn't good with approaching ladies so i can admire a girl for years without making move. But colleagues encouraged me, gave me strong backing to try and talk to the girl to at least get her number.
After much procrastination, i summoned courage to make a move one faithful afternoon. This was a girl that always stared at me just like I do whenever we cross path at the restaurant. Everybody knew she liked me.
I was shocked this girl told me sorry I am in a hurry. I even begged her if she could give me her number but she walked away. I felt so ashamed of myself. I felt like the ground should open and swallow me. I felt so cold.
Because of her, i stopped going to that restaurant cos I never wanted to set my eyes on her ever again in life.
9 months later. I got a new job and that was going to be very far from my previous workplace. So on my last day of work, I decided to take my closest colleagues out as my own little treat for them. We went to that restaurant.
I was shocked when the restaurant owner came to me that where have I been, that na wa oh, that I just ran away. I told her it was work posting. She then jokingly said your wife from so so company have been asking after you. I and my colleagues were shocked. I just wished I could see her and let her make a move so I could humiliate her publicly.
I hated that girl eh lol
Dear single ladies, learn some courtesy. It's not easy for a guy to summon courage to approach you for friendship, it takes guts, respect a guy that respectfully approaches you. Not all guys fancy all those hard to get abi forming things. Playboys enjoy it, but most honorable guys on a good mission towards you hardly endure.
So op, forget about the guy cos what he now feels for you is dislike no longer likeness like before and any opportunity he have with you will be for pay back.

But learn from this when you meet other guys, try and observe courtesy and put yourself in their shoes unless the guy approached you rudely. There are several honorable ways to turn down an admirer and still make him feel like a man he is. Dont use your tacky attitude towards your male admirers to spoil guys for other good ladies cos your action may affect his orientation and perception for other ladies he may meet later.

Many guys became bad towards ladies just because of some ill mannered and bad girls they met in the past.

siofra:


He missed a wife. She didn't miss anything with that his useless behavior.

Nigerian men are useless sha.

Kobojunkie:
Linda4321, avoid boys who come to you telling these sob stories for for excuse why they missed out on the one they were too immature to go for.

These kind of people try to push their shortcomings on other instead of owning up to the fact that they acted childishly and still have a lot of growing up to do. The portion of his writeup above in bold reveals the psychology of this kind of person. They are unforgiving, and you don't want none of that.

siofra:


He missed a wife. She didn't miss anything with that his useless behavior.

Nigerian men are useless sha.

Kobojunkie:
You did absolutely nothing wrong my dear!

And you know what else, you dodged a bullet. If a guy would keep malice with you simply for that reason, imagine how much worse strait you'd be in if you were to offend him in relationship. Thank your lucky stars and move on.

promisedeco:

And from the guy's point she's rude. And he didn't want none of that

siofra:


He missed a wife. She didn't miss anything with that his useless behavior.

Nigerian men are useless sha.

Kobojunkie:
You did absolutely nothing wrong my dear!

And you know what else, you dodged a bullet. If a guy would keep malice with you simply for that reason, imagine how much worse strait you'd be in if you were to offend him in relationship. Thank your lucky stars and move on.

Favfables1:


You probably were rude to him .... Cause that's the only reason I think that will result in him avoiding you...

But if it's that important to you, just meet him when you know he's free and be like, "Hey! About the other day, sorry I was in a hurry to catch up with an appointment, but I'm here now, if you wanna talk about whatever it is you wanted to talk about that day" ((say this with a smile))...

I think you should know what to do from his response ....

fattprince:

What bullet are you talking about. The guy isn't keeping malice, he only got a rejection message from the I'm busy the OP told him so he's only being on his own so as not to embarrass himself. It's Op job to go meet him again so as to clarify things

Kobojunkie:
1. Rubbish!

2. Are you saying that as a grown up, You would have decided to keep malice with her if she hadn't apologized when she did?

Demigod22:
You did not actually do any wrong, but two minutes will not make you lose the appointment. You would have at least spare him the two minutes or inform him if you guys can talk the following day because you are enroute to somewhere.

There's a girl in my place of work. Although I just spent one month in the office but we are coming fast close. Yesterday she was angry and I asked if she wanted to talk about it, but she harshly told me no. Later after the work, she called me and started apologizing with plenty story. And today she was telling me how she likes my personality.

Tallesty1:
Make unah dey try tell people wey ask for help the truth.

He's not keeping malice with her. They OP didn't say that they used to talk, that was possibly his first attempt to have a conversation with her but she didn't handle it well.

All he asked for was for two minutes. She doesn't know what he wanted to talk, she doesn't know it was something that could wait or not.
......

Kobojunkie:
He didn't get a rejection... he instead chose to interpret that as a rejection and went as far as to keep malice with her for it essentially saying, "it has to be my way or no chance at all for you". That is childish.

Kobojunkie:
Gosh! I hate it when people choose to the liberty to insert their own personal delusions into a story as if the one telling the story no even know wetin she experience at all

Op announced that right after that incident, the guy no longer talks to her. What do you call that? Isn't that malice?

He only used to stare at her.

They never talked. Read the post again.


He asked if he could talk to her for two minutes and she said that he was in a haste and left him standing there like a fool so what exactly do you want him to say to her again? Hello, are you still in a haste?

The OP is expecting him to make another move but this is 2022. She should make the move or forget about him.

The OP is angry because he moved on too quickly


Unah never see anything.

Raggy:
Naija girls dey always act like dis. If you form the " I am in a hurry" type towards me, I will kuku mind my business which includes not talking to you again to avoid further embarassments. I no get that kind time.

Kobojunkie:
See, there is no rule against girls playing "hard to get" or taking their time to better access the potentials of a would be suitor. So perish that thought that the fault belongs to the girl in this.

If you are truly interested in a gal, then you should be willing to go out of your way - past your comfort zone - to woo her, or simply accept that you don't really have an true enough interest in the gal beyond those brain chemicals pushing you at her.

Same goes for the gal. She needs to be willing to go out of her comfort zone to woo or accept a man she really desires.

fattprince:
1. He isn't keeping malice. It's not like that always talk before the incident. I still maintain that he's just being on his own to avoid embarrassment.

2. For all he knows now Op isn't interested in him, so he's only being careful. If you are a guy, you are supposed to understand better.

Kobojunkie:
See, there is no rule against girls playing "hard to get" or taking their time to better access the potentials of a would be suitor. So perish that thought that the fault belongs to the girl in this.

If you are truly interested in a gal, then you should be willing to go out of your way - past your comfort zone - to woo her, or simply accept that you don't really have an true enough interest in the gal beyond those brain chemicals pushing you at her.

Same goes for the gal. She needs to be willing to go out of her comfort zone to woo or accept a man she really desires.

Linda4321:
I will quickly make this as quick as possible because this is actually my first time writing here,there is this new guy at my place of work who stares at me a lot and I really do like him.
After we were done with work for the day he called me while I was passing by because he was actually ahead of me,I turned back to look and I saw that he was actually the one that called my name and he said if he could talk to me for at least for 2minutes but I told him that am actually in a haste to attend to something so I left now he no longer talks to me,did I do something wrong by telling him am busy when he wanted to communicate with me

Wurld:


If you really do like him like you said, go ahead and talk to him, let him know you were really busy when he first approached you and you'd like to hear what he's got to say now, dude might be the shy type and it could have taken all of his courage to approach you the first time, you should talk to him during break or after y'all close from work.

franchasng:
Thousands of ladies have missed their true love as a result of this attitude common among Nigerian ladies.


I am replying to you because your story just brought back a memory like this.


That was shortly after my NYSC. I was working with a very small engineering firm. There was this pretty lady I was so admiring to the extent I confided in my closest colleagues cos we do always meet her at a restaurant during afternoon break when her own company was also on break.


I wasn't good with approaching ladies so i can admire a girl for years without making move. But colleagues encouraged me, gave me strong backing to try and talk to the girl to at least get her number.


After much procrastination, i summoned courage to make a move one faithful afternoon. This was a girl that always stared at me just like I do whenever we cross path at the restaurant. Everybody knew she liked me.


I was shocked this girl told me sorry I am in a hurry. I even begged her if she could give me her number but she walked away. I felt so ashamed of myself. I felt like the ground should open and swallow me. I felt so cold.


Because of her, i stopped going to that restaurant cos I never wanted to set my eyes on her ever again in life.


9 months later. I got a new job and that was going to be very far from my previous workplace. So on my last day of work, I decided to take my closest colleagues out as my own little treat for them. We went to that restaurant.


I was shocked when the restaurant owner came to me that where have I been, that na wa oh, that I just ran away. I told her it was work posting. She then jokingly said your wife from so so company have been asking after you. I and my colleagues were shocked. I just wished I could see her and let her make a move so I could humiliate her publicly.



I hated that girl eh lol.



Dear single ladies, learn some courtesy. It's not easy for a guy to summon courage to approach you for friendship, it takes guts, respect a guy that respectfully approaches you. Not all guys fancy all those hard to get abi forming things. Playboys enjoy it, but most honorable guys on a good mission towards you hardly endure.



So op, forget about the guy cos what he now feels for you is dislike no longer likeness like before and any opportunity he have with you will be for pay back.

But learn from this when you meet other guys, try and observe courtesy and put yourself in their shoes unless the guy approached you rudely. There are several honorable ways to turn down an admirer and still make him feel like a man he is. Dont use your tacky attitude towards your male admirers to spoil guys for other good ladies cos your action may affect his orientation and perception for other ladies he may meet later.



Many guys became bad towards ladies just because of some ill mannered and bad girls they met in the past.

Xantel:
Thanks for the advice

McEphiks:


Your father inclusive I guess my lady

Raggy:
Bro, I have got no time to stress myself over a lady. If you don't give me listening ears on my first approach, I MOVE. Its that simple.

LINTUNE:
continue deceiving yourself..how many guys have made out time to woo you like that currently?.are u dj cuppy or dangotes daughter...who are u?.....
Don't flatter yourself,men no longer have that time,infact....the world has changed,this is no longer the days of our fathers, where the man will write poems,or go and kill a lion in the forest just to please a woman..wake up,this is reality,it's not Korean movie or Bollywood...