Kobojunkie:
What is the essence of this yammering abeg?

Tallesty1:
He only used to stare at her.

1. They never talked. Read the post again.
He asked if he could talk to her for two minutes and she said that he was in a haste and left him standing there like a fool so what exactly do you want him to say to her again? Hello, are you still in a haste?

2. The OP is expecting him to make another move but this is 2022. She should make the move or forget about him.The OP is angry because he moved on too quickly

Unah never see anything.

Dizzyyish:
There's something most people here are seemingly unaware of...

Never take a woman's word at face value. Always get both sides of the story before you decided what is what.

A woman's defence is her presumption of innocence, so she'll naturally try to preserve this presumption--this is also another reason for their tendency to avoid accountability.

She would most likely omit the some parts of the story that paints her in a bad light. It may be her tone, behavior, what she said may be different from what she's writing, etc.

LINTUNE:
for u to wake up to reality, nobody gives a Bleep about you,u aren't special,so don't expect any guy to waste time wooing u while u act silly to boost your self esteem..

Linda4321:
I will quickly make this as quick as possible because this is actually my first time writing here,there is this new guy at my place of work who stares at me a lot and I really do like him.
After we were done with work for the day he called me while I was passing by because he was actually ahead of me,I turned back to look and I saw that he was actually the one that called my name and he said if he could talk to me for at least for 2minutes but I told him that am actually in a haste to attend to something so I left now he no longer talks to me,did I do something wrong by telling him am busy when he wanted to communicate with me

Kobojunkie:
Huh?

Silentgroper:
can you take a break PUSSY!!!

cowardafonja:


Her mother couldn't correctly tell which of her numerous customers that fathered her. In a nutshell, she doesn't have a father.

Linda4321:
I will quickly make this as quick as possible because this is actually my first time writing here,there is this new guy at my place of work who stares at me a lot and I really do like him.
After we were done with work for the day he called me while I was passing by because he was actually ahead of me,I turned back to look and I saw that he was actually the one that called my name and he said if he could talk to me for at least for 2minutes but I told him that am actually in a haste to attend to something so I left now he no longer talks to me,did I do something wrong by telling him am busy when he wanted to communicate with me

Linda4321:
I will quickly make this as quick as possible because this is actually my first time writing here,there is this new guy at my place of work who stares at me a lot and I really do like him.
After we were done with work for the day he called me while I was passing by because he was actually ahead of me,I turned back to look and I saw that he was actually the one that called my name and he said if he could talk to me for at least for 2minutes but I told him that am actually in a haste to attend to something so I left now he no longer talks to me,did I do something wrong by telling him am busy when he wanted to communicate with me

Kobojunkie:
There was nothing rude about what she did. She said she was busy.... you are allowed to say or do that when you suddenly loose your composure. Adults know this and understand these things.

If it all has to happen according to your way and plan, without much consideration for the other, then it can't be healthy, can't it?

samtol4:
Many women have missed their husbands because of " forming too busy "

promisedeco:

Yes "I'm busy" is not rude but as my grandmum would say "goodnight is not a curse/rude but it depends on the mouth (tone) of the person"

siofra:


He missed a wife. She didn't miss anything with that his useless behavior.

Nigerian men are useless sha.

Kobojunkie:
That na lie... fabu wey particularly pastors and mogs use to deceieve their gullible into regretting what never was.

Kobojunkie:
That doesn't make any sense to me. If you choose to read your private delusions into my words, what has that got to do with me?

"goodnight" remains just that, "goodnight" until proven, not assumed, otherwise.

Linda4321:
I will quickly make this as quick as possible because this is actually my first time writing here,there is this new guy at my place of work who stares at me a lot and I really do like him.

promisedeco:
J
I know you want to sound smart... nice try but let me educate you a little.

In linguistics, there are things known as connotative and denotative meaning.

Let me give you an instance. When you're laughing with a friend and then say "guy you be idiot oo". Does he pick offense? However call him an idiot while discussing something serious and see his reaction.

Another example... In our society we often you "bad" to describe someone who is good. As in, Ronaldo scores a classic goal, Kobojunkie goes "omoh! Ronaldo bad oo". Does that mean bad is good?

Kobojunkie:
That doesn't make any sense to me. If you choose to read your private delusions into my words, what has that got to do with me?

"goodnight" remains just that, "goodnight" until proven, not assumed, otherwise.

richie3384:
1.@kobojunkie, wake up.

2. Op if u really like the guy, subtly go for him. You can try to be friendly. Nowadays it must not be the guy that makes the first move but he already did, so reciprocate "subtly" enough for him to get the msg. Not all those shallow green light that are hard to understand. If u like him enough to come to NL , also find a way to reconnect with him. He may never approach u again, this is guy's attitude these days.

3. Some of us prefer to simply go for girls that like us than taking the unnecessary stress wooing someone. Those days are gone. Girls are really upgrading, some approach guys for their numbers and strike off a good friendship from there. Just go for what u want, who cares; what a man can do, women can do better. Girls have approached me in Nigeria not just abroad and it's a worthy experience. I really value such women. Op make your move!

Kobojunkie:
um.. I wasn't trying to be smart, but literal , here.

Also, I fail to see how any of what you posted above relates to this topic or my comment to you. Again... If we are to instead assume that a previous bond exists between my person and the one who uttered the word "goodnight", then and only then can we begin to consider such things as whether the word was spoken in connotative voice or not. However, in the OP'S case, it isn't indicated that a bond existed prior to that fateful encounter so it makes no sense to suggest possible connotations where there really isn't evidence for it.

Kobojunkie:
um.. I wasn't trying to be smart, but literal , here.

Also, I fail to see how any of what you posted above relates to this topic or my comment to you. Again... If we are to instead assume that a previous bond exists between my person and the one who uttered the word "goodnight", then and only then can we begin to consider such things as whether the word was spoken in connotative voice or not. However, in the OP'S case, it isn't indicated that a bond existed prior to that fateful encounter so it makes no sense to suggest possible connotations where there really isn't evidence for it.

Shegzdave:

You love meaningless arguments.
In a bid to sound smart, you end up sounding otherwise.

Kobojunkie:
Waka pass if this is a win or die affair for you abeg!

promisedeco:

@bolded Too bad
However, let me try one last time.
1. The the guy was offended by what OP said - which by the way is literary not a bad response from her. However, what I'm taking into account here is HOW SHE SAID IT. which is why I brought in my grandmum's cliche.

2. Could be her body language, could be her tone that got him upset. That's why I mentioned connotative and denotative meanings.

If you don't get it now then I can't help you

Kobojunkie:
1. And i have already severally state that there is absolutely no reason given in the story by the Op for the guy to have been offended by what she claimed she said.

2. I no dey engage in coulda-woulda-shoulda debates abeg.

McEphiks:


Comrade lower your voice... you're shouting, the people at the back will hear you

siofra:


He missed a wife. She didn't miss anything with that his useless behavior.

Nigerian men are useless sha.

Linda4321:
I will quickly make this as quick as possible because this is actually my first time writing here,there is this new guy at my place of work who stares at me a lot and I really do like him.
After we were done with work for the day he called me while I was passing by because he was actually ahead of me,I turned back to look and I saw that he was actually the one that called my name and he said if he could talk to me for at least for 2minutes but I told him that am actually in a haste to attend to something so I left now he no longer talks to me,did I do something wrong by telling him am busy when he wanted to communicate with me