daifeanyi68844:


I want to cut every ties I have with her.

What you should have done since.

Move out go and look for your girl and apologise and ask for another chance. Even if u get a new girl your mum will still treat her like your ex. She does not want another woman to enjoy the marriage she does not have.

Go back and beg that girl... Your mom doesn't have issues with specifically her.. Your mum will have issues with any lady you bring.. You being an only son and your mum being separated makes it harder for her to simply let you go

Don't cut your mum off because of woman


Keep everyone at bay and play your cards right

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

This is so touching
Pls accept my sympathy.

However, your can still have your girl back without cutting off your mother... It's usually happen with wife's mother-in-law, so, it's not new.
If you re really sure you love her so well, fight for the relationship once again to come back to reality and better and stronger.
Separate from from your mother for while,
And it shall be well with u

I rest my case for now

Beremx:
very well my sister. Don’t mind that redpiller. Shameless boys that call their mothers despicable names.

Happy Sunday to you jare

Thanks beremx..
Great hearing from you as usual..
Enjoy your wonderful self..

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

Only a mother can love a man unconditionally!

Think about it!!!

If you know this, then you are no more a boy!

Guy man up, go and apologize to that girl, move out of ur mom's house and rent a self con. It was wrong to introduce her to ur mom while still staying with her. Start off ur life with her. If she really loves you, she will forgive you. Do it now. Good luck.

SandraIkuboR:

oneolajire:
Seems you have taken your mum too closer than your wife to be.

Your mum has maybe 20+ more years to live.

Your wife has maybe 50+ years to live with you and you alone.

Your mum is separated from your dad,so what kind of girl or home do you think she would want you to have, a peaceful one?

Beg your wife to be, do secret wedding without your pepper mummy.

Exclude her from your wedding and marriage/home, else any girl your home may not know peace and hypertension/ heart attack may knock you down soonest.

You where making sense until the last paragraph.
A mother in-law is what every daughter in-law should live with, it hasn't reached the extent of him disowning his mum.
Rather he should stand his ground, they are better ways he can make his point and his mum will understand.
I also have a mother in-law who loves her son so much, the first one year of our marriage was hellish not until baba made his stance known to his mum, right now she respects me alot and barely interfere in our affairs again.
I think the young man should call his mum to order, if really he has plans to marry this year then he isn't young again, he should let his mum knows his wife to be comes before anyone else by leaving the house for her and also lessen the communication between his wife to be and mum until she learns her place.
Shalom

My advice is for you to after reading this.... rush.... rush to your gf where ever she is ..... and apologize to her. Rush before she agrees to date someone. Apologize for allowing your mother to get involved and crash the relationship.... something you should've never allowed. That you are here begging for forgiveness and to resume the relationship. Your plan is to first find an apartment ... a home...for both of you which would be off limits to your mother period and so will be your place of business. That moving forward your priority will be her and your future ... plans for marriage and starting a family. That all you've just said is from a fire blazing in your heart.... that you swear such will never ever happen again. Then say no more.
On your reasoning.... you should see why your father left. What are you waiting for?... when you are not the husband? ... shouldn't you not cling to your parents and go find a wife?.... why keep hanging first son around your neck?... is first son husband? ... your father is responsible for your mother and siblings... not you. Doesn't mean you wouldn't help out ... saying you are not the one responsible... especially when your father is still alive. Your mother business is to recon Ile with her husband... not dive into yours. If she can wreck her own marriage ... why on earth would you be sooo naive to even entertain her to have any say in your relationship period? Bro... be a man.... build your own life.... doesn't mean to stop loving your mom... just keep her out of your business and decisions. Actions speak louder than words.... your mom will eventually know her place.

you are not a man thats why your mum is using you like remote control

Hmmm! You broke up with her because you are still a baby and not a man yet, it wasn't because of your mum, at this age and time, you still allow anyone to dictate who to marry to you? The fact that, you even know that your girl is a good person is enough for you to want to fight anyone for her sake. Enough said, you are not ready yet.

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

Go and Marry Your Mum

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Thanks beremx..
Great hearing from you as usual..
Enjoy your wonderful self..

you too sis

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

Op your story is incomplete. How do you expect help when you're not willing to divulge the reason for your breakup with your lady. Be open *if* you want solution.

@ Daifeanyi68844, just imagine that you are a cultists or a murderer caught in the act of killing and butchering a man.

You still have the knife in your hand with fresh blood drip down from the heart you just cut of the carcass.

Everybody knows you are guilty.
You definitely know that you are guilty!
God knows that you are guilty!!!

Do you know the one person on earth who is 100% certain that you are somehow innocent?

The one person in the universe that will go with your murderous ass to court and cry of your innocence?

The one person that will still not be ashamed or afraid to identify with you and support you?

*That is the one person some emotional psychos are telling you to dump and cut ties with, for a girl because of 200k, abi *

That girl, like every other girl on earth, is only with you because you are the very best she can get, AT THE MOMENT"

Just think about it!!

Thank you.

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

... If nothing happened because of your girlfriend like your mom claimed and alleged and you have prayed about your girlfriend... Marry the girl of course... You mum won't be married to you... The girl must be ready faithfully and with unwavering loyalty to journey with you regardless of upcoming and unforseen circumstances and challenges...

Send her back to village or her husband house bro

Hope your plan wasn’t to get married to that girl and move her in to live with your mother? Because I don’t see why you are still living in your mother’s house when you are already planning to get married.

Take your mum back to the village or get her separate apartment. I think if they didn't see each other, there will not be room for any conflict. If there's possibilities of your mum seeing her, let your wife's parent be there with her for the time being. I rest my case

Wo your mama AJE winchy winchy...

Na so dem dey do when they want to ruins one's life.

Meanwhile, is your GF humble enough ??
And if she too love you, your mama will never accept her because a lot of mom always feel insecure when they see some other lady loving their son more than them and to top it the lady is not succumbing to the mama wishes.

Pass her contact abeg.

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

you're not a man, you're a boy, mama's boy

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

continue being mummy's pet. So you cant caution your mum to stop calling your girlfriend for any reason, since she is making interference in your happiness.
Grow up mummy's pet.

dmostcheerful:

You where making sense until the last paragraph.
A mother in-law is what every daughter in-law should live with, it hasn't reached the extent of him disowning his mum.
Rather he should stand his ground, they are better ways he can make his point and his mum will understand.
I also have a mother in-law who loves her son so much, the first one year of our marriage was hellish not until baba made his stance known to his mum, right now she respects me alot and barely interfere in our affairs again.
I think the young man should call his mum to order, if really he has plans to marry this year then he isn't young again, he should let his mum knows his wife to be comes before anyone else by leaving the house for her and also lessen the communication between his wife to be and mum until she learns her place.
Shalom

I don't need you to accept my opinion, in which I made sense all through.

Give your own pieces of advice if you can.


Get a mother who is a witch and a sadist and make her your adviser, make her a regular part of your home and expect peace in your home.

You are a kind of person who come to cry adult cry on nairaland, after enjoying private premium tears.

TheWolfen:


You are not listening because you don't wanna listen. . .
Y'all keep forming stupid woke. Like I said before. There is no underestimating parental influence in their kids life.
That is my point. ..
It is only God that can help op. Not your yeye woke advice that will lead him to more problems

Why disturbing God for a simple problem. Like someone has tried many times to correct you, it is not everything your parents says is right! Don't ever forget it. Always remember they are human. If I had listened to all that my parents and grandparents says, in the name of me being obedient and respectful, I would have made some serious error of marriage.

When it comes to marriage, don't pander too much to opinions if you already have seen some good quality in the person. Reasonable and sound people are very scarce these days. Don't throw away such opportunity just to satisfy parents.

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

you broke up abi she get tired of your mom and called it off? and what are u still doing living with your mom? the babe can never be free with you in the first place



since the day my mom spoilt my parole of shifting the womb of this prettiest lady of unilag as an undergraduate, I've vow that immediately I graduated from school I'm leaving their house



staying with one parents at the due age of marriage can be so embarrassing, before looking for another babe, just leave her house and go rent a house even if na a room self contain

My parents don't have a say in my relationship. My father or mother cannot call my wife without my permission. They cannot try that nonsense

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

You used you own mouth to break your relationship not your mum. Stop looking for who yo blame for your inability to manage the situation

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

Wen you are ready to be a MAN, I mean A REAL MAN WIT A STRONG AND UNMOVABLE MIND let us know.

For now you're a mummy boy

daifeanyi68844:
I'm an only son and in relationship with a lady I love so much.

We started dating while we were students. Our relationship is 4 years and 8 months. Everything was going fine until she moved into Lagos and I introduced her to my mom.

Now, any issue I have with my mom, she calls the innocent girl and says it's because of her this thing happened.

My mom and I live in a three bedroom apartment. She and my father are separated.

One minute she's nice to the girl, the next she isn't. We broke up today because of this. I'm really hurt. This girl loves me unconditionally, she supports me, treats me so well. When I started my business she gave me her 200k savings to invest in it. I can't even believe my mom is doing all this. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt. We planned on getting married this year. I don't know if I would ever find a good person like her.

On the other hand, my mom doesn't even care. I want to cut every ties I have with her.

I know you you're hurt but she must have a reason. You want to get married, how settled are you financially to take care of your mother, you said she is a single mother or have you thought about how she raised you and your siblings.

You are a dunce. You don't deserve her love. You are not mature enough to get married. If you can't put her first, allow her to find her peace elsewhere. Stay single please.