Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

Just don't blame her through your body language because you can still talk without speaking.

Secondly, try to move forward.
Look for another Keke to ride on daily balance or hire purchase even as you try to own your own.

Life is tough and God bless your efforts.
Well done, brother

Where do you stay ?

Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

seriously, its not easy being a family man this days

Sell your bike and rely on someone's promise to lend you money? Oh my gosh, the most silly thing to do.


Damn see why communication is so important in all aspects.

My girlfriend and I have even agreed never to depend on friends or family for financial support so that would have been trashed out if we were both in such shoes.

Op just try and find money.. Buy the keke and see her happy again.. Na money wen no dey make madam dey feel somehow oga. Meet your church leader for help or any better person around when be human being ..

Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

can't you ride keke for deliver and save some money till you're able to get yours?

Since you said your people dont like your wife, can we see her face, yes, your wife's face.

Suspect1:
family members you said? You are no different from a noise maker, relatives and some family members only! Cares for you when you are dead.

FACT 100%

Some people are looking for someone to ride keke on hire purchase for them, but like woman do change when they get married, some good men usually change when money start coming.
Where is your location, where are you from?

I don't get why they are blaming your wife.

Maybe because it was her friend that promised you guys the money sha.

Next time understand that humans will always be humans, if someone promises you, it is when you get it that you can start budgeting on it.
I don't even blame the proposed borrower too, maybe she also had Intentioon to lend you guys but something else came up what you both should not have done is sell the bike before the loan came in, selling it was the wrong move.

Hope you recover soonest and get another means or a loan before you guys chook hand into the money to feed.

It is well.

Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

You have a good heart. You have to be very prayerful and hustle like no man's business cos your wife may not really forgive herself until things turn around for a better life for both of you. When life is good again she will forget the disappointment of yesterday. Just put your trust in God and work hard. Pray for God to give you good ideas of what you can do with the little you have. Stay blessed.

So what do you want? New bike, New Keke, old Keke? How much do you have now?

LadySarah:
So Npower was really a family mans main job?Npower,a temporary FG political tool.

Just imagine o

Today, he's looking for what to blame.

hahaha

oilmane:



Why do your family and friends see her as a woman who brought you down? Were you a millionaire b4 she came into your life? What type of car were you driving b4 you met her? Did you tongue lash her over her friends inability to give her the loan? Her you black mailing her emotionally? Won't don't you meet those family and friends to assist you or is it that the only thing they are good at is fault finding? I'll advice you go look for who to give you a bike/keke on hire purchase terms instead of you to sit at home and making your wife depressed, there are lots of organizations and MFBs that does that. It is not the responsibility of your wife to go get you a loan, so stop discussing her issues with your family and friends.

May God blessings locate you speedily[b][/b]

If the wife or mother of the home is unhappy everyone is unhappy.

Sit her down and encourage her to know she is not the cause.

Pray for her specially that God would speak to her. Is she into any job business? If not, encourage her to get something doing no matter how small, it will help to boost her self-esteem that she is also doing something for the family.

Look for an MFB, like someone said earlier, there are MFB that provide Keke on HP agreement.

Once a teacher, always a teacher, look at the possibility of part-time teaching jobs or even starting a coaching centre.

There is GOD who rewards those who diligently serve him. Don't stop PRAYING and SHOWING MERCY to those around you. GOD BLESS YOU.

oilmane:



Why do your family and friends see her as a woman who brought you down? Were you a millionaire b4 she came into your life? What type of car were you driving b4 you met her? Did you tongue lash her over her friends inability to give her the loan? Her you black mailing her emotionally? Won't don't you meet those family and friends to assist you or is it that the only thing they are good at is fault finding? I'll advice you go look for who to give you a bike/keke on hire purchase terms instead of you to sit at home and making your wife depressed, there are lots of organizations and MFBs that does that. It is not the responsibility of your wife to go get you a loan, so stop discussing her issues with your family and friends.

quit the noise,can't the wife get a job and support him instead of wallowing in self guilt and pity.
Is it a crime if the loan comes from her side. Look at how you increased the OP's depression as if you don't have a conscience
I hate emotional judgements!!!

Amza07:
I tried no one help all on promise because they don't really like her but I
Love her and friends are now happy am jobless see this life is something else.

let me tell you d truth. If your wife had developed good relationship with your family and friends. Nobody will blame or hate her. A wife that is friendly with your family and friends will always be loved even if she made mistake. The issue of this modern wife is they want to do me and my husband. They like to scare your family and friends away from you. With this, when u are faced with any problem, nobody nobody will come to help you financially due to your wife attitude. A friendly wife who accommodate husband family and friends no matter what will always be loved back. A man must be very wise to manage your his wife or a bad wife will turn u against all friends.

OscarJaden:
I rather die like this than to get married and be facing this kind of situation

Dear brethren, nobody should entice u into getting married all in the name of procreation and the end of the day u will be eating from hand to mouth

Don't be selfish,think about ur unborn kids will they be proud to have you as a father in this situation? Am sure at a stage his kids will regret why they were given birth and cannot be taken care of


Marriage is way beyond pussy,the responsibility that comes with it is quite much

So what about you lose all your fortune after getting married with children? Will you run away from your family?

Both of you are worrying on little thing.
Most important now is you have job to make money, go out to make money to pay your bills.
Go to those people that have okada or tricycle be their driver and deliver their money promptly daily.
From there you will also save some money to achieve your goal.

Bluezy13:
Poor planning...
You shouldn't have counted your eggs before they hatched by planning on money that you were yet to get as if it was already in your hand.

You and your wife need a physical councilor because it is obvious she reasons as you do and it is never healthy for a family.
You never mentioned reaching out to a family member for assistance; or have you tried ?

They had a plan it didn't work out and all you could say was thay they counted their egg before it hatched. Wow really, you are like someone that will blame the dead for dying on the day they did.

Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

Oga, carry your madam enter house lock door. Who family and friends help.
As dem get mouth to talk, why dem no lend you the money you need to start off again?. To even think say you dey ask dis kind question

Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

I feel your pain and i totally understand your situation, first, i must say that you must be in control of your self and emotions, study your situation and plan out to get out of it.

If your wife is the industrous type find out what she can do to increase your earnings with some of the cash at hand. Like selling food, minerals and snacks, anything that can increase her capital.

When that is sorted, because it will make her mind busy and also in that way she can find her self contributing to your success and ultimately your family's success.

The next is for you to get up dust your cloak and get to work instead of following your wife to live in self pity. Do whatever it is, legally to get on your feet.

It would have been a disaster if your wife didn't love you the way you loved her. As long as you have her support and you encourage yourselves , i tell you sir, you will definitely smile at the end.

Accept my good wishes.

Shalom

Wish I had big money..would have bought you tghe keke..

My heart if full of trying to assist people who are in real need for survival...but God know s best sha

Shelve the Keke Napep plan for now, go find job be it driving or security job, anything legit that will enable you support yourself and your family and help you raise capital.

Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

2kurupt:


So what about you lose all your fortune after getting married with children? Will you run away from your family?

it impossible for all your fortunes to vanish a day except if you acquired them through Rituals or unclean ways

I said it from the onset that this npower work is not a work for somebody to rely on. That kind of a temporary work and go into marriage I think that is very wrong it was the first step for mistakes you made