NwaAmaikpe:




I don't see the need for wanting to set boundaries with him; he is just concerned about your obsession with your car's neatness.

I know your type. I once had a tenant who'd wash his car at 5am, sometimes very late at night and even under the scorching sun.
It is obviously queer.

I think you should ignore him but if you really want to address it, next time he askes why you always wash your car,

Tell him that ever since you fvcked his wife inside the car, you've had to wash it daily to get rid of the smell of her kpekus from it.

This should either help you out or put you in more trouble.

guy you no be better person

Cokahot:
Its your first car,stop washing it like a foo l

You sef dey calm down

PointZerom:


It is wrong. I just greet and pass and pretend to be smiling when need be, nothing more.

No, you are the wrong one here, not him.
Why pretend?
That's a fake life. Keep it real, and stop being Mr. NICE GUY.
Smile to them because you want to smile, not pretend. Instead of pretending to smile when need be, be real and keep a neutral face.

DesChyko:
Just smile one second and focus on what you're doing the next second. At least you weren't rude but in the same vein, you don't have time for that bullshit.

If he doesn't stop the snide remarks, that means he lacks the mental capacity to understand your disinterest.

In that case you need to ignore him as you would ignore mad men who throw thoughtless words your way.

Lovely post especially the bold

Is it every nonsense issues nairaland would allow to be posted in this forum. I should guess the forum is for important issues n not for guestures. I remain to be corrected....

POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

But on a serious note, why do you value the car more than your life?

jeff1607:



First of all how often do you guys pump water and are the water tanks separated? My guess is your constant washing makes the tank empty.

Got one like that , we all wash ours from the tank that supplies our apartments water but this guy would leave his own and use ours and he wouldn’t pay for utility bill or contribute in filling the gen with fuel

@bold:

Interesting perspective.

Op
Calm down.
Sometimes, our ego makes us oversensitive. At least, you didn't consider him "not worthy" when he helped with the wedding drinks.

What will happen if you own your own mansion? Meaning, he dare not even greet you?
Call him as you approached him when you needed his assistance during your wedding. Sit him down, tell him you don't enjoy those jokes.He might stop it and even apologize. Don't assume people are just like how they sound.

And abeg, don't say someone "can't look you in the face" if not for...
If the guy catch you as one of those herdsmen, won't you comport yourself until you leave their den?

Solvelink:
Or, guy! i am not lazy like you na...

That one go hit em body wella.

Or I rather burn negative energy washing my car over and over than poke nose into another person biz #mindingmyownbiz.

wonder233:
If he tells you, that you wash your car too much, then you actually do! And need to reduce it. It is not everything that is a beef or bad belle. You're wasting water. In Nigeria, most people actually don't know water is a resource that needs to be consciously conserved. It gets depleted and can run out like other natural resources if not prudently utilized. One day, you will put on your pumping machine and nothing will come out from the borehole.
I have actually told a neighbour point blank to stop wasting water, everytime using hose to be splashing water on his car. We don't have any form of familiarity at all, so he respected

Hmmmmm

Kobojunkie:
Interesting claim there... so how exactly did you go about creating this kind of familiarity with him in the first place?

Um... why not do start by doing exactly what you would do to people who pose a nuisance here online... ignore? Why make it seem it all has to do with your ego and stuff?

It seems you don't know these evil people.

Bro let me see your car before i said anything

ExtremeDot:


No, you are the wrong one here, not him.
Why pretend?
That's a fake life. Keep it real, and stop being Mr. NICE GUY.
Smile to them because you want to smile, not pretend. Instead of pretending to smile when need be, be real and keep a neutral face.

When you dislike a neighbor do you tell him face to face that you dislike him or you pretend that you love him For peace to reign?

NwaAmaikpe:




I don't see the need for wanting to set boundaries with him; he is just concerned about your obsession with your car's neatness.

I know your type. I once had a tenant who'd wash his car at 5am, sometimes very late at night and even under the scorching sun.
It is obviously queer.

I think you should ignore him but if you really want to address it, next time he askes why you always wash your car,

Tell him that ever since you fvcked his wife inside the car, you've had to wash it daily to get rid of the smell of her kpekus from it.


This should either help you out or put you in more trouble.

I like that. Hit him back to back

Please, what's kpekus

NwaAmaikpe:




I don't see the need for wanting to set boundaries with him; he is just concerned about your obsession with your car's neatness.

I know your type. I once had a tenant who'd wash his car at 5am, sometimes very late at night and even under the scorching sun.
It is obviously queer.

I think you should ignore him but if you really want to address it, next time he askes why you always wash your car,

Tell him that ever since you fvcked his wife inside the car, you've had to wash it daily to get rid of the smell of her kpekus from it.

This should either help you out or put you in more trouble.

Jokkarm2:
Is simple, keep him where he belongs to. That kind of person na jealousy go kilam. Just start minding your business. If he talks trash, ask him to go and hug trasnfomer since he does not have job than to talk trash.

Almost same thing happened to me, my in-law brought in Benz in December for the family to use before they went back, so one day I drove the car to my counpound, everyone liked the car, my guy that shared flat with me opened his mouth and said " this my car na oppression ooo" I was like how ? Who am I oppressing? Since that day, I vowed not to Cruise with him because his mind is not good. Once a while I drive the GL450 4matic just to warming it around.

@bold:

How did you deduce his mind was not good from the bold?

Isn't it a compliment like 'babe you are a killer'; 'dude you are hot' bla bla bla

A few months ago 'press us, we are your neck' for a hot person was reigning online.

Not everything is fight or 'people's mind are not clean towards me'.

Monitor his timing when going out or coming in,wash ur Car very early before he wakes up, then always lock ur door when you are in

PointZerom:


When you dislike a neighbor do you tell him face to face that you dislike him or you pretend that you love him For peace to reign?

If I dislike a neighbor. Reasons best known to me.
I will never pretend that I dislike him, neither will I tell him.

I will just maintain my boundary, maintain my chosen frame.

Every other things will fall in place.

Next time he does that
Just drop the towel/sponge
Look him straight in the eyes
Your vex will surface
And tell him this simple 5 words
NA OGUN GO KEE YOU...

Go car wash for now .End of story.

POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

How i valued my car more than my Life.

POSmecrhant:

So I should leave my car dirty?

What if, just what if he’s right. Maybe you’re obsessed with your car. Reminds me of my former neighbor, lol. My wife and I secretly laughed at him sha. His obsession with that car was bewildering. I suggest you take his jabs in your stride cos he probably doesn’t mean evil.

POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

@bold:

When he helped you with wedding drinks, you did not think him unworthy?

Since it sounds like you just married, could he mean that you have shown more care towards your car than wife or even yourself?

Could it be that your frequent car washing causes shortage of water? If everyone in the compound shares the same storage tank, then your frequent car washing is wasting water and inconveniencing your neighbors

It could just be bants; I have a friend who says he cherishes his car more than his life because of the amount he spends maintaining & fixing it.

Some posters are already telling you to 'man up and not tolerate the rubbish'.

You need to CALM DOWN, assess the situation and best case ignore him.

I don't see reasons why we keep listening to what people think or talk about us in life. This people don't feed or provide anything to you. So such words from them shouldn't bother you. After some years you may relocate from the area and that familiarity with your neighbours will no longer be there, to extend of finding difficult to call them. For that your neighbour don't just keep quiet oh, tell him one on one to mind his business whenever he's see you doing what pleases you.

POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

Nawa for u ooo, u fit yab am back? Ask am weda him get bicycle.

This is one of the reasons I dislike talkatives, I don't get too familiar with everybody that comes my way. Some mistake it as pride but I don't give a damn! .........Wetin I hate for my life na see finish.



If you nor shine teeth with am from day1 he nor go open he gutter mouth to vomit trash.....A day will come when he will also make jest of your wife/girlfriend and see it as normal. Don't try to be a gentleman, give him a stern warning!
I don't tolerate nonsense!

No be everybody like dirtiness like you

bukatyne:


@bold:

When he helped you with wedding drinks, you did not think him unworthy?

Since it sounds like you just married, could he mean that you have shown more care towards your car than wife or even yourself?

Could it be that your frequent car washing causes shortage of water? If everyone in the compound shares the same storage tank, then your frequent car washing is wasting water and inconveniencing your neighbors

It could just be bants; I have a friend who says he cherishes his car more than his life because of the amount he spends maintaining & fixing it.

Some posters are already telling you to 'man up and not tolerate the rubbish'.

You need to CALM DOWN, assess the situation and best case ignore him.

Exactly my point. Some things we do can be quite irritating to others. I personally would feel same way if were the neighbor.

POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

Tell him you hate dirty and dirty people.

POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

Just call him and tell him to back off

SweetDipBenny:
Just call him and tell him to back off

Why? So he’ll continue to waste water all in the name of washing car everyday? Do you know how annoying that could be?