Ojukwu007:
Words of WISDOM!

Tuale!!

If she's completely innocent, KARMA will do her job as a bitch. People get mind shaa..no matter what. Chai.

Wizywiz:
hope you are good

8stargeneral:
idiot

Wizywiz:
thank you bro...u get the scope....no be to dey cry he jilted me he broke my heart.....the koko be say is she entirely innocent?

quentin06:
Take heart , take a break from relationships, do something else with your life, it seems you potray yourself as being too desparate hence the guys use you and dump you, at 31 there is still hope.

Just work on yourself, the guy that values you will go after you, just dont transfer your frustrations and anger on the next guy, if not 45 go meet you as single.

dontrulee:
Cry cry Baby.
I hope you're wiser now

Johel:



Your mother is.

czarr:
That guy has been detaching himself emotionally from you little by little and you failed to notice it. It's not easy for a guy to move on to another lady if he is emotionally invested for up to 5 years.

Here is what I believe, he is paying you back for something you did to him in the course of your relationship, he felt hurt and betrayed, he may even have discovered something you did behind his back and chose not to confront you but just to waste your time as revenge. Did you cheat on him in the 5years period and thought he won't find out, after all what he doesn't know won't kill him.

It's easy to be an angel when you are 31 what about when you were 26 and you still had market value, did you do something that you thought he may have forgiven you because he can't do without your hot body.

Think hard and well, nobody is that terrible of a person,it's just that some people don't forgive betrayal.

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

DryMouth:

Exactly bro. My own cheated on me and broke up with me. Bow she is back to me and hoping i would marry her. I will graciously waste her time cos am obviously not in love with her anymore and marry another person.

bepositive11:
You're no different from her

DryMouth:
Lol!
The guy is a real niggar!

Send me location and date of the wedding make i go present am with very chilled red wine.

Am sure you did worse to guys when "time" was still on your side. Now you dey find emotional support for nairaland at your old age.

Parizz:
am planning to have a party with two lesbians. You get any contacts?

czarr:
That guy has been detaching himself emotionally from you little by little and you failed to notice it. It's not easy for a guy to move on to another lady if he is emotionally invested for up to 5 years.

Here is what I believe, he is paying you back for something you did to him in the course of your relationship, he felt hurt and betrayed, he may even have discovered something you did behind his back and chose not to confront you but just to waste your time as revenge. Did you cheat on him in the 5years period and thought he won't find out, after all what he doesn't know won't kill him.

It's easy to be an angel when you are 31 what about when you were 26 and you still had market value, did you do something that you thought he may have forgiven you because he can't do without your hot body.

Think hard and well, nobody is that terrible of a person,it's just that some people don't forgive betrayal.

CSTRR:
That is a very classless man.
Should be undateable

Unfortunately, that is the kind of guys that ladies want.

Once these men can dress well, talk well and look tall, nothing else matters.
He is their spec.

You cannot hide this kind of character.
You chose to ignore it because he is your spec.

Graceihotu:
Aswear with my life, I never cheated on him. As a matter of fact I tell him whenever any guy asked me out. If it's based on cheating then I am practically innocent

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

DoggoneDogg:
Hahahahahaha
Nothing sweet me pass d tears of a Nigerian female. Auntie when u were jumping from gbola to penis keeping like 3 options, you nor remember abi. You thought you were smart then, calling it "don't put your eggs in one basket".

Now ya eye don clear

seanwilliam:
as crazy as this might sound, it’s the reality.

Trust me, no man will leave an invaluable woman that adds positivity to his life. Also don’t forget there are two sides of a story. Some men would have seen the red flags in you but then will keep hitting the couchie if it’s sweet and will drop it like a hot yam when they see thd right person ..I don’t think any man will marry a woman out of pity.










5 years is too much though but then it’s what it is. Life is unfair. This same woman will dump him if she sees better offer

LilMissFavvy:
You will be fine, move on with your life, the right man will come to you. These days, majority of ladies are settling in their 30s, so you are not late. The most important thing I want to say is that, YOU SHOULD NEVER EVER LET A MAN TIE YOU DOWN FOR MANY YEARS IN THE NAME OF "RELATIONSHIP". If after dating for 6months and above, and a man doesn't state clearly where the relationship is heading to, then you know you should not put all your eggs in one basket.

Mccullum:


I think your conclusion on cheating could be the cause of disengagement by the guy in their relationship, some guys are not consistent in decision making, some doesn't have value for their pledges and some only closer to ladies for specific interest, conclusively, some could be dating without seeing that lady as wife at all, such guy usually using such lady for other social desires.

There's a relationship which the lady so humble and sincere to this guy, still the guy will be telling me that he can't marry her, when I asked why, he said she's too gentle, and always agreed on what ever he asked her to do without any question, He broke her heart by marrying another lady, but he regretted his decision because God used that lady he married to punished him beyond his thought.

The lady he left is now happily married, the guy first marriage ended in divorce, though he's remarried but still facing another challenges. Just be hopeful and move on, you'll get your own husband at ease.

FalseProphet1:
Let me use this opportunity to advice girls in general, but before I start, sorry for what he put you through.

You must know that any guy who isn't geninuely born again and is in a sexual relationship with you, definitely has other girls he's keeping.

As the time for him to settle down draws closer, he'll begin to narrow down his long list of girls until there's about 2 or 3 of you girls left.

Now he'll begin to check the characters of the 3 of you, he'll check the most generous, the one who doesn't get angry and forgives easily, the one who listens to him, the one who understands him better...etc..

If you're the type that's always quarreling with him him every now and then, or he suspects you are having contact with your ex, or agressive, or dominating, or stingy and demanding...you will be edited out of the list until it remains the last girl standing. Which will end up as his wife.

After marriage, he'll begin to contact you runners up one after the other, you'll become his auldtery partner while his wife will be his trophy.

This is the life cycle of the average worldly Nigerian male.

I see him contacting you before the end of this week to apologise and requesting to see you so as to make you his auldtery partner.

This I have seen.

henrimoto:
if only we knew what is ahead of us.... There are blessings behind heart- breaking dissappointments.