₦airaland Forum

sisisioge:
Hmmmmm....omoge, getting what you want in this life takes deliberate efforts. Yes pray, but the bulk of it should surround your personal development. How can you be crying on the shoulders of sellers in the market when you perceive yourself being cheated? Who would want to team up their life with you when you sound like you couldn't get a hold of your life as a grownup?It is well o.....you sound like a slow person who is satisfied with little, happens to a lot of bankers and government workers. They spend their most fruitful years on jobs that arent so desirable outside their section....once they outgrow that routine, they become unemployable to other sectors. Biko take time to look for a life coach for some personal and career advice. God will lift you but you must show that you are ready to be lifted.

As for husband....you will find a good one once you get yourself to the point of being good too. No one wants a mature woman whose maturity is without substance. Beauty alone cant cut it. Work on being of substance and all other good things will follow. Good luck baby

Drfernandez:
She sounds like a slow person, you said. Since you are in the same condition like her, even though she about 5 years older than you, I hope you will heed to your own advice. Stop being a hypocrite.

creepsyme:
Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

Buziness101:
I'm 40 and ready to marry you if you say yes and I'm not joking about it... I won't write my story here but there's something about you.

Chat me up please
07044943661

creepsyme:
Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

creepsyme:
Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

faithfull18:
Write your story please, we love to read them

At10tion:
Many problems of men are either caused by them or from their parents. You need to search deep my sister. You've taken things for granted too long. When things doesn't look sane at 40, you should have seek God ceaselessly! You just need to take a different approach to life.

creepsyme:
Thanks so much, I sincerely appreciate.
But, different approach how?
I have prayed, fasted done uncountable deliverance from the age of 27.
I truly wish I know what else to do.
I am so worn out now, I need strength to even move on.

Ajibade123:
I am really touched by this story
I will advice you to freeze your eggs if you can, I don't think it is very expensive you can always get a sperm donor to fertilize it when you have money to raise a child
and you can still get husband
might not be a young guy maybe a widower or divorcée
but he will surely come your way

Mikeeytools:
If only you would believe sha. If only you would believe.

creepsyme:
Thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement.
I will do my best.

creepsyme:
Thanks so much, I sincerely appreciate.
But, different approach how?
I have prayed, fasted done uncountable deliverance from the age of 27.
I truly wish I know what else to do.
I am so worn out now, I need strength to even move on.

sisisioge:
Honestly, I and your mother are more like in the same position.....you absolutely lack respect for your elders! When do you intend to have sense? Sicko disrespectful SOB ! I told your mother to be careful with you fa! Look what you've become! Omo oshi banza

creepsyme:
Thank you so much.
I sincerely appreciate.

Buziness101:
I'm 40 and ready to marry you if you say yes and I'm not joking about it... I won't write my story here but there's something about you.

Chat me up please
07044943661

At10tion:
When you say you prayed and fasted, and do deliverance uncountable, did you do it for doing sake? Was there no revelation, no response, no reply from God to your problems? Then probably you didn't do it unto God to get an answer!

You've not gotten to that point where nothing else matters until you get that desired response from God.

I can't tell you to do something God won't like, you would have to start from the scratch. Write down what you want, itemize them, describe them, give them time-frame, then seek God in fasting and prayer.

dannex4adx:
It's a pleasure sis! If you don't mind, There is a marital program called Gen218 done in MFM. It's coming up this Saturday. You can view it online.

At10tion:
When you say you prayed and fasted, and do deliverance uncountable, did you do it for doing sake? Was there no revelation, no response, no reply from God to your problems? Then probably you didn't do it unto God to get an answer!

You've not gotten to that point where nothing else matters until you get that desired response from God.

I can't tell you to do something God won't like, you would have to start from the scratch. Write down what you want, itemize them, describe them, give them time-frame, then seek God in fasting and prayer.

Kobojunkie:
What you need is necessarily prayer but instead direction to help you get over your mentality and help you figure out where you best fit at this point in your life. And it is to that end that I recommend you please go see a professional mental health counselor at this point in time. And when I say professional, I mean the kind of help that excludes the mention of God. You are already battling depression, and low sense of self, so you really have nothing to loose.

You are not Hanah, neither are you Sarah. You are you and you need to first figure out who you are as an individual instead of constantly comparing yourself with others including your siblings. Even God never said you are called to live as Hannah did or as Sarah..instead He called you to become like Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ alone. But enough of that stuff.... what you need is to figure out who you are as an individual and only then will you truly be happy. Getting professional mental health counseling can help you achieve that goal.

As for your understanding and hence relationship with God. You have him all wrong since your understanding seems founded on the doctrines and traditions of your mogs and pastors... that is never a good thing. If a relationship with God is what you desire, you need to abandon all you have ever heard or been told of Him, and get back instead of establishing a direct connection with Him by paying attention to what God said and commanded of you.

---

Marriage and kids, both of them optional, aren't meant to define you as a person, even though society lies to people that they do. They are meant instead as accessories in life, not definers.

Klass99:
If you see the way my eyes widened like a carton character at the bolded ehn! Since 27 kwa? Do you see why I said I am not a fan of excessive prayers and deliverance programmes?

Some of these religious activities are often man made activities, we erroneously think will move God to do our will.

When a lot of us embark on a fasting and prayer programme it is usually about what we want from God. The focus is hardly ever on God, his person, his truths, time and companionship with him......etcetera

As we are in Lent now please know that lent (fasting/prayers) is not about how to "better" our lives. It is about God's presence and his sacrificial love for us. Let's try to switch our focus from us to him (individually) and see what happens.

I am not condemning you for trying or doing all the things you did, but nothing changed. Perhaps it's time for a new and different approach altogether (but still within godly bounds) I will not advise you to look for a man and get pregnant, like older woman are often told to do.

creepsyme:
Basically, what I got to discover during the prayers and deliverance was the revelation that a woman was behind my predicament, I also grew up to discover even my cousins that were females had issues with getting married.
I have 5 younger sisters from the same mother , they only succeeded in getting married just between 2016 to 2017.
Inshort the story is long.
Like you said, I wish I know what to do differently.

descarado:
Very well detailed.
@op, your answer lies here.
Discover yourself first and the rest will follow

At10tion:
okay! Its one thing to pray and see where the problem is coming from, its another thing to pray and get a solution to the problem. You've done the first phase, the second phase is to get a solution.
There was a certain lady that has desame issue, she went to the mountain twice, and the second time having known where the problem is coming from, she rain fire of prayer on the wicked woman which happens to be her own mother, it was on the mountain there that she received a call of her demise, she has not even gotten home when her husband located her.
Forget about being beautiful you need to seek God aggressively for you to enter the door of your marital breakthrough. If you have a small job or business you can be managing keep at it to keep yourself together.

Sirqt5:
u, mercychen dey same boat . dat one na use n dump use n dump no husband , like u . only difference she 42 . u see, ur own case mild . plenty jobless , unaccomplished ,, use n dump evening newspapers on Nairaland like una . kobojunkie wey dey advice u 4 thread na another . dat one claim she dey abroad 4 over 40 years buh she get notin to show , no husbandd no job only welfare payments . make she no deceive u wit useless advice for thread . aunty , u own case mild , u for thank God

creepsyme:
Basically, what I got to discover during the prayers and deliverance was the revelation that a woman was behind my predicament, ....
Inshort the story is long.
Like you said, I wish I know what to do differently.