VicM6:
everyone shouting ''learn to control ur anger''like say dem too dey control their anger.....mtcheew, u think say to control anger na like bread nd butter bah...

ATTemi:
Boys 4 neighborhood suppose join hands give u neighborhood beating!

Iyaebe:
How old are you?please learn to listen to the voice of the elders as it will do you plenty good.Its possible this hitting isn’t just starting with him but he can break that yoke by refusing to thread that path,and if it’s starting with him then he should do everything possible to stop it now,you children of these days knows nothing about life and it’s rules.Anyways you’ll grow up and when you do you’ll begin to understand things better.Have a nice day my child and stay out of trouble

Nocommonsense:
Life, I wish I have a mother that could even slap me right now. People don't value what they have until they lose them. Go back and beg your mother and have meaningful conversation with her like mother and son.

jimmychang:


You are a fool.If you grew up with normal parents and not toxic parents you should shut the Bleep up.If you have never been in his shoes my dear rest.

Nocommonsense:
Life, I wish I have a mother that could even slap me right now. People don't value what they have until they lose them. Go back and beg your mother and have meaningful conversation with her like mother and son.

Fahdiga:
You try. kudos. May your children lift you 8ft above the ground and leave you to fall yakata in future in Jesus name amen

Mavor:
You are a demon. People like you who hit their parents are the worst kind of person on earth. You rank on the same category as a child molester. No amount of excuses or long story justifies you hitting your own mother. Abomination!!! If her abuses were too much, then why not cut her off from your life? May God help your soul.

Moz22:
he was away when it happened... And he's yet to make a comment nor call me since yesterday

Reference:


This is very uncharitable towards the young man.
So who else or what else could have brought up the man differently.
You heard him. He is essentially grounded so everything his knows and is comes from her.

Yes, the other side of the story is not known but if there was wanton abuse in that family, honestly the mum had it coming.
There is a reward for good parenting and bad parenting.
The mum just cannot have it both ways.

She should thank her stars that the boy is remorseful and the dad must be responsible for that genetic trait, if not matters could have gone much worse.

I will always look at the underlying reasons for every occurrence and in this report it is clear the mum is entirely responsible for the incident.
Sorry but qualitative parenting has its reasons and you simply cannot reap where you do not sow.
The mum caused this tragedy.
It is she who should apologise for leading the lad into a dark place.

Spherical77:
guy forget talk, all these Karma of a thing na scam. Some parents are BAD and they deserve whatever they got from their kids. I know of a father who was in support of his son doing Yahoo. They both enjoyed the proceed realised. Sadly, the son had been apprehended. He had spent close to 8 years in prison. Could you believe the useless father moved on easily as if nothing happened? Why? Because he has other children. He hasn't set his eyes on his so called good son since then o. I learnt he claimed he can't be alive again. You can imagine? This is someone who was engineering the son all because of money. Two of the other son's talked to him concerning what he's doing but the useless father used to shut them up because they don't have money still hustling legitimately. This was a poor father who failed in giving his 5 children at least an average life o. He couldn't send any of the children to school. Now one of his son hate him with passion for destroying his brother's life and abandoning him in prison claiming he's long dead. Are you directly or indirectly saying that good for nothing father do not deserve even more than that from his other children? Are you telling me when his other children grow up and have a family their children too will dispise/hate them? What his own parents didn't do to him, he does it to his own children. Can you imagine this father advising his eldest son to look at his younger brother then doing fine, building a house and taking good care of the family while him (the eldest son) is just like a living dead. He was indirectly encouraging his eldest son to go into crime like his younger brother just to make money and be spending for him. Money the useless father couldn't make before bringing those innocent children to this miserable world. The last son hate him with passion and he always fight him whenever he pissed him off. The last son always wish he could see his brother for once and tell him how his accomplice (their father) moved on so easily as if nothing happened after eating and enjoying all his money then, how his father claimed he's dead and never bothered to visit or look for him because he has other children.

Some parents deserves more than that

Fahdiga:
You try. kudos. May your children lift you 8ft above the ground and leave you to fall yakata in future in Jesus name amen

Iyaebe:
Hmmmm,you need to seriously beg for her forgiveness else your future kids will hit you too and it becomes a thing in the family, you should have simply left the scene rather than exchanging words with her but she pushed you to it which is bad on her side but she’s your mom and has some edge over you.Learn to keep some distance from people who can easily trigger you be it parents and whatever.Go and redeem this messy situation and never allow such to happen again,also ask God to forgive you after your mom has finally forgiven you.Good luck

kkins25:
What about the abusive mother? vecause he slid out of the walls of her uterus does that mean she isn't to blame? Its no wonder the lot of us in this nation get hidden trauma...

kkins25:
What about the abusive mother? vecause he slid out of the walls of her uterus does that mean she isn't to blame? Its no wonder the lot of us in this nation get hidden trauma...

Mavor:
If her mother is as abusive as she claims, then why doesn't she cut off the woman from her life so she can have peace. Only a drug addict hits the parent. What she has done is an abomination unto the Lord. And she and you who are justifying her rubbish are the fools before God, not I. Be there deceiving yourself. So her mum is an abusive person, she should beat her up abi? You clowns always like the easy way in life.

dettolgel:


Demon calling someone else name.

Hope accepted that he was wrong.

What are your words for the toxic mom?

Your mentality is the reason why we can't even talk to our elderly even when they are wrong.

Both the op and his mom are wrong and both needs to be caution.

Prettygirl200:
Am so sorry about your mother's attitude, some mother's are like that, mine almost has the same characteristics of your mother. Though she pushed u to do that, I won't blame u for hitting her shaaa but will advise next time, just walk away please. What did your dad say?

jimmychang:


You wish you have a mother that could slap you.You are a big fool.A mother that would Bleep you up mentally. Omo you no need mother my dear.

Mothers don't do that ,mothers don't nag their children to anger.Stop saying trash.

You get mind hit mumsy wey give you life shey?

You are doing well o..

jimmychang:


You will never understand .He didn't beat her up.My own is try to be very toxic towards your children and see the outcome.Nonsense,if you are not good to your children try to be good now ooh.

Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.

My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!

However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her

Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...

I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...

Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..

I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect

Pls ignore my typo errors abeg

Mavor:
Your words mean nothing to me. There is nothing in this life that will ever justify a man or a woman hitting his parent. Your parents are the symbol on earth of God's authority over you. Rebel against them and you rebel against God. Jokers like yourself forget that this life is very short and brief but the next life is eternity. But your type are so desperate to live this short life in enjoyment that you are willing and eager to break God's word. If her mother is abusive, why did she not cut off the woman permanently so she could know peace? If an elder messes up, yes you can caution the person. Hitting the elder is another thing entirely. God has commanded that we respect our elders and take care of the frail elderly. If you don't like his commandment, take it up with God Himself.