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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by henrimoto(m): 3:40am On Mar 27, 2022
creepsyme:

Thanks so much, I sincerely appreciate.
But, different approach how?
I have prayed, fasted done uncountable deliverance from the age of 27.
I truly wish I know what else to do.
I am so worn out now, I need strength to even move on.
Dont be tired! Dont be tired!! (Igbeyin a'dun) - the latter part will be great!. Your case is not irredeemable ( It is not the worst of all). As long as you hold on to THE ALMIGHTY ONE - THE CREATOR of the universe and mankind, in HIS infinite mercy, HE will bring your utmost heart desire(s) to manifestation. Just be positive, confident and courageous about yourself....

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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by henrimoto(m): 3:58am On Mar 27, 2022
henrimoto:
Dont be tired! Dont be tired!! (Igbeyin a'dun) - the latter part will be great!. Your case is not irredeemable ( It is not the worst of all). As long as you hold on to THE ALMIGHTY ONE - THE CREATOR of the universe and mankind, in HIS infinite mercy, HE will bring your utmost heart desire(s) to manifestation. Just be positive, confident and courageous about yourself....
There are fine attributes about you, the GOODNESS OF GOD is all around you, let not the present difficulties cover your mind. Just work with other positive comments from this forum. The most important, is... put on a positive outlook about it all. Share smile, laugher, care, attention and love to those arround you. Remain strong.

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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 4:32am On Mar 27, 2022
henrimoto:
There are fine attributes about you, the GOODNESS OF GOD is all around you, let not the present difficulties cover your mind. Just work with other positive comments from this forum. The most important, is... put on a positive outlook about it all. Share smile, laugher, care, attention and love to those arround you. Remain strong.
What do you mean when you say the goodness of God is around her? undecided

Only the righteous have God's goodness around them and God's righteousness is not something to comes on one in the dark. lipsrsealed
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 4:49am On Mar 27, 2022
henrimoto:
Dont be tired! Dont be tired!! (Igbeyin a'dun) - the latter part will be great!. Your case is not irredeemable ( It is not the worst of all). As long as you hold on to THE ALMIGHTY ONE - THE CREATOR of the universe and mankind, in HIS infinite mercy, HE will bring your utmost heart desire(s) to manifestation. Just be positive, confident and courageous about yourself....
Jesus Christ made it abundantly clear to His followers that the only way to belong to Him, and have the Father on one's side is to continuously submit to and obey His teachings(and commandments), God's Truth and Law, there is no way around Jesus Christ. undecided

All those who wish to have the promises of Jesus Christ along with Heaven have to be willing to die to fear ego and submit wholly to doing it all His way.... not the ways of men. undecided
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by edoman2016: 5:17am On Mar 27, 2022
@kobojunkie @bratislava,

You guys have turned someone else thread to bible study classes. Continously making comments that are no longer relevant to the OP's subject. Its enough.

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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 5:32am On Mar 27, 2022
edoman2016:
@kobojunkie @bratislava,

You guys have turned someone else thread to bible study classes. Continously making comments that is no longer relevant to the OP's subject. Its enough.
How do you know it ain't relevant to OP? undecided

If you paid close attention to the scriptures indicated in my comments, you will find that they reference some of the same Teachings of Jesus Christ OP will find documented in the 4 Gospels should she decide go take God seriously as opposed to wasting many more years chasing after the doctrines and traditions of men(ans their churches). undecided
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by BRATISLAVA: 6:25am On Mar 27, 2022
edoman2016:
@kobojunkie @bratislava,

You guys have turned someone else thread to bible study classes. Continously making comments that are no longer relevant to the OP's subject. Its enough.

I won't comment past this.

I was trying to open up the OPs side when people expect her to keep platonic relationships and force herself to be happy to them. She has every justification to want what she's wants since it's in the Bible.

Sorry For derailing, OP.

May you get the husband and children you desire. You have used money to limit yourself. There are loads of happy people living in squalor with their families. Money doesn't make family. Neither does religion. Get what you want.
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:02am On Mar 27, 2022
OP, I don't know if your story is real or not. I'm confused. Sorry to ask, your account was opened since 2013, but has few contents, why? You are not too late to get married. God can do it at 47, It can even happen this year.

The woman they said is responsible for your situation, is she a close family member? The fact is that, most times people don't get answers to their prayers due to one reason or the other. Which church do you attend?

There is a genuine MOG, a Bishop, who I would like him to pray for you, but right now I don't know the location he has been transferred to, and I also do not know your location. He is an elderly man and is always transferred from place to place (i think on yearly basis). You should meet him on one of his counselling days, the counseling is usually fixed once month. Take note that he is extremely busy and doesn't spend more than 1-5mins per person, so you may travel to meet him from a far location only for him to spend 2miniutes with you grin . If his prayers didn't work for me, of course I wouldn't wish to get you connected to him. Answer my questions above first.

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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by henrimoto(m): 8:23am On Mar 27, 2022
Kobojunkie:
What do you mean when you say the goodness of God is around her? undecided

Only the righteous have God's goodness around them and God's righteousness is not something to comes on one in the dark. lipsrsealed
....The Blessings of the ALMIGHTY are HIS Goodness to mankind and his environment. What are these Blessings? - The gift of Life, Talent, Protection, his Mercy and Grace. If GOD's blessings is only for the righteous one, why are sinners and evil men still enjoying the benefits of Nature ? - the air, the water, ability to move around etcetera etcetera.
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by ozonechrome: 9:04am On Mar 27, 2022
creepsyme:
Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

Don't be hard on yourself sis.

Things can and will turn around for you if you believe. Try to have a deep relationship with the creator not religion.

You need to start think positively and stop saying all these negative things about yourself. See yourself as beautiful, intelligent, amazing, smart.

Every morning and night in sit a comfortable position and take in deep breaths concentrating on only your breaths and say below affirmation.
I am beautiful
I am smart
I am young
I am wanted
I am happily married to a spiritual, kind, loving and successful man.
I experience wealth as a key part of my life.
I have all the money I need.

Keep saying this every morning and at night before going to bed and your subconscious will believe it.

See yourself having a beautiful partner and the career of your dreams. Think about all the beautiful things you want in your life and how you'll feel when you have it every night before you go to bed.

The bible says whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Harland Sanders was 65 when he started KFC. Vera was was never into fashion until she turned 40 and started her business. Ray Kroc started McDonald at 52 I could go on and on.

What you need now to be honest is not a husband and kids but to learn how to love yourself and be who God has created you to be. He didn't make mistakes creating anyone of us.

That you are too old is a from the devil as God doesn't see limits we humans limit ourselves.

Below will help you have a relationship with God and yourself and not see yourself through the lens of the physical.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6v7us25uY8


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GihybX7JyG4
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by ozonechrome: 9:07am On Mar 27, 2022
creepsyme:

I am sincerely speechless by this question, I wish I have an answer to it.
However, I am now feeling stupid.

No one is responsible for your predicament but YOU. The sooner you accept that and stop running to churches and strangers to fix your problem the sooner you'll also realise no one can fix it too but YOU.

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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Klass99(f): 10:42am On Mar 27, 2022
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Klass99(f): 10:57am On Mar 27, 2022
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Nobody: 11:09am On Mar 27, 2022
inforesource:
@creepsyme, yes there is still hope for you. But when desperation set in to ones life, he/she will not be able to think straight.

What we usually missed about life is that we never knew it is seasonal. Like the Scripture says, there is time for everything. You have used up all your youthful season without achieving much, now you need the MASTER of TIME to help you redeem them and move it forward to where you are now. Please not, I am not saying you should go to deliverance. Deliverance is delivered through the WORD of GOD. You must make a firm decision to knowing GOD personally. I can tell you with all conviction that GOD is waiting to TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND.

I will not lie to you, it can get messy if you do not understand the right step and needed sacrifice you must make now to turn your life around. Stop going to Church for going sake and seek why you go to Church. If your reason for going to Church is not seeking to know GOD personally, then you need to pause!

Furthermore, you said in your post you have prayed and yet you are desperate. You said you have prayed and yet you are thinking of suicide. I can tell you that you do not understand what prayer is. I know we do it religiously. Unfortunately, that is wrong. Read Matt 6.

In conclusion, desperation in this season of your life will make things worst. Bear in mind, if you want God's solution, then you must understand God is not a magician. You must go through the the process. But one thing I know for SURE, you will never regret you did.

JESUS LOVES YOU!

I’m just curious. Biko what process are you talking about? How many “process” would she have to go through? She’s been going through different processes for 47 years!!!

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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Nobody: 11:16am On Mar 27, 2022
Kobojunkie:
She is not alone.... from her very own story she has never been alone. Instead she thinks that the only way to not be alone is to be married and maybe have kids, but that isn't true at all. Changing one's mentality can make one realize this and that is why I suggest she disconnect from thinking of marriage some of cure for what she is struggling with. undecided
Are you a Nigerian? cheesy Your comments seems not to reflect the Nigerian mentality. A country where they view marriage as the peak of a woman’s existence. Without marriage and children, women no go fit drink water drop cup. The earlier we all agree that there’s more(way more) to life than getting married and procreating, the better for us as a society.
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by oluwaseyi0: 11:45am On Mar 27, 2022
At10tion:
Many problems of men are either caused by them or from their parents. You need to search deep my sister. You've taken things for granted too long. When things doesn't look sane at 40, you should have seek God ceaselessly! You just need to take a different approach to life.

When you say you prayed and fasted, and do deliverance, did you do it for doing sake? Was there no revelation, no response, no reply from God to your problems? Then probably you didn't do it unto God to get an answer!

When you work in a bank, didn't you save or buy shares, didn't your connections enlighten you to self-productivity, you just enjoyed making money for the bank unmmh!!

What if all this has been done from her youthful age and it's God that is been stubborn, showing strong head and enjoys watching her basking in her miseries
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 1:55pm On Mar 27, 2022
Viking07:
Are you a Nigerian? cheesy Your comments seems not to reflect the Nigerian mentality. A country where they view marriage as the peak of a woman’s existence. Without marriage and children, women no go fit drink water drop cup. The earlier we all agree that there’s more(way more) to life than getting married and procreating, the better for us as a society.
And there is a reason for that. In Nigeria, the female child is born with the expectation that she will end up serving a man with her body for her life, so society trains her to, from the moment she is able to walk, to live for this very purpose. They are reared to believe their worth lies in how much they please the men in their reasoning, in their mannerisms, in their appearance and even in their body's outfit- gender of children they bear, when and for whom. Basically, society basis her worth on how well she pleases a man. undecided

So, next time you wonder why Nigerian women believe marriage and procreation an achievement, look at the Nigerian society and men for answers. undecided


Fortunately many are now waking up from that delusion and it is going to be a while before they finally get their feet down and the ground in the right direction like their counterparts in developed nations have been able to, before them. undecided

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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 1:58pm On Mar 27, 2022
oluwaseyi0:
What if all this has been done from her youthful age and it's God that is been stubborn, showing strong head and enjoys watching her basking in her miseries
According to her she has probably been doing it according to the doctrines and traditions of men(and their churches) for the past 20 years, giving you the biggest clue in all that she hasn't been doing it according to God but the standard set for her by men instead. undecided
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by oluwaseyi0: 2:06pm On Mar 27, 2022
Kobojunkie:
According to her she has probably been doing it according to the doctrines and traditions of men(and their churches) for the past 20 years, giving you the biggest clue in all that she hasn't been doing it according to God but the standard set for her by men instead. undecided
She has not been doing it according to god? Or according to your own definition of doctrine of God

Special assistant to God on doctrines ad tradition

So it her fault now that despite all she has done, God has been playing deaf and dump

When will god ever take responsibility? It has to be the victim fault

Must someone cry cry cry and cry after praying for years before having children and husband, or is god trying to claim he his not aware she desperately need those things?

Children that even mad woman that don't give a Bleep about god use to easily have

Nawa o, this life no truly balance
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 2:08pm On Mar 27, 2022
henrimoto:
....The Blessings of the ALMIGHTY are HIS Goodness to mankind and his environment. What are these Blessings? - The gift of Life, Talent, Protection, his Mercy and Grace. If GOD's blessings is only for the righteous one, why are sinners and evil men still enjoying the benefits of Nature ? - the air, the water, ability to move around etcetera etcetera.
What is God's MERCY is poured out to all mankind 24/7 - not uniquely on the OP. So don't deceive her by saying things like "I see God's mercy about you" - that is bullsheet. Even Hitler and the murders in jail also have God's mercy pouring down on them daily. It rains down on both the wicked and the righteous alike. undecided

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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Kobojunkie: 2:28pm On Mar 27, 2022
oluwaseyi0:
1. She has not been doing it according to god? Or according to your own definition of doctrine of God

2. Special assistant to God on doctrines ad tradition. So it her fault now that despite all she has done, God has been playing deaf and dump

3. When will god ever take responsibility? It has to be the victim fault.

4. Must someone cry cry cry and cry after praying for years before having children and husband, or is god trying to claim he his not aware she desperately need those things? Children that even mad woman that don't give a Bleep about god use to easily have. Nawa o, this life no truly balance
1. I don't have a personal definition of God this since the very definition of God I have is the same one every one who has a copy of the Bible has clear access to in the 4 Gospels which is God's New Covenant Law and Truth for all those who dwell in the Kingdom of God, the very same Gospel that Jesus Christ sent His followers out to teach to those in the world, this after vehemently warning them against adopting the doctrines and traditions of men, which He declared were lies, in addition to and in place of His Truth. undecided

2. Yes! undecided

3. God made it clear to all through His Law, Jesus Christ, that He is only responsible for those who accept and obey His teachings(and commandments) as given to men through Jesus Christ, His Law and Truth - John 8 vs 31 - 32 & Matthew 15 vs 1 - 14 & Mark 7 vs 1 - 13 & John 14 vs 15 - 25 & John 15 vs 7 - 11 & John 15 vs 14. undecided

God does not lie nor does He change His mind.. His standard is Jesus Christ. You either choose the terms and conditions as set by Him in this agreement you claim to have with Him, or you are better off abandoning God entirely as you only end up worse than those who never approached Him to begin with. undecided

4. LOL... if children and husband are simply that which you desire, you can get them the same way those who have nothing to do with God. Compromise your standards to achieving those for yourself. Like you rightly said, God doesn't keep the gate on that. There are women who have taken to marrying and nursing mentally challenged men out there all so they can claim them for husband and have children by them even. God won't stop anyone from doing that. undecided

However if what God has is what you desire, He actually demands that you let go of you in order to obtain it from Him. His standard is quote high above what many of you imagine. undecided
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Saintmary(f): 5:37am On Mar 28, 2022
Klass99:


Why are you so quick to tag a story as fake? I have seen you do this more than once.

The OP's account is an old one from 2013, she has stayed on her thread and participated in it, by engaging back, answering people's questions and providing more insight into her situation.

Yet, you say it's fake? Haba!




I don't need to explain myself to you.



I am free to adjudge any case as I see fit.




Please drop your opinions and focus.



Have a lovely day.
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by edoman2016: 6:03am On Mar 28, 2022
Saintmary:





I don't need to explain myself to you.



I am free to adjudge any case as I see fit.




Please drop your opinions and focus.



Have a lovely day.
@klass99 @saintmary

This is the second time I will read both of you showing aggression to each other on nairaland. Una dey share the same man ni?? #takeiteasy
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Klass99(f): 8:22am On Mar 28, 2022
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Saintmary(f): 8:40am On Mar 28, 2022
edoman2016:

@klass99 @saintmary

This is the second time I will read both of you showing aggression to each other on nairaland. Una dey share the same man ni?? #takeiteasy



Are you reading clearly?


Who is showing aggression to who?


What is the problem with you so called peace brokers sef. I made a simple comment and I don't where the reply is coming from, all of a sudden you came with your stories of imagined aggression.



If you have nothing better to do this Monday morning, go and collect broom from LAWMA.
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Saintmary(f): 8:53am On Mar 28, 2022
I find weaklings boring.

You want to be a pickmesha, be my guest.


You want to lick men's boots so they can 'glorify' you with the approval you desperately need, go right ahead.



But, look at my monicker well, note it very well.


I am self assured. I have enough self esteem. Even if it's not enough, I will not look to people, or suck up to anyone to compensate for what is missing.



Now, if my vibes are too 'negative' or strong for you, just stay clear.



I will not change me to suit you.


Muuuuuuah.
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by edoman2016: 9:06am On Mar 28, 2022
Saintmary:


Please and please,


I made a comment, make your own abeg


Don't put me in a triangle I didn't sign up for.


I was very sure this is the second time I will see your monicker. Check above and its almost same pattern of aggression.

This is last time I will respond
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by edoman2016: 9:11am On Mar 28, 2022
Klass99:


Hah, when? Please check again it is not me o! You have me mixed up with someone else.

This is the only occasion when I will quote this moniker first to direct a comment at her. The only other time I did so, was in response to her where she quoted me on a different thread and I engaged back politely.

You can see her posts on this thread, abi? She is generally in the habit of engaging with negative vibes/energy. I am aware of her moniker, I usually jump and pass. But, I couldn't ignore this one.

Sorry. It was to someone else.
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Saintmary(f): 9:14am On Mar 28, 2022
edoman2016:

Please and please,


I made a comment, make your own abeg


Don't put me in a triangle I didn't sign up for.

I was very sure this is the second time I will see your monicker. Check above an its almost same aggression.

This is last time I will respond




Like I said earlier, I don't need to explain myself, or my posts to you. My posts are neither meant to suit you nor to entertain you.


If you're not okay with them, stay clear.



Have a lovely day.
Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Klass99(f): 9:21am On Mar 28, 2022
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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Farfalla(f): 7:49pm On Mar 28, 2022
Klass99:

Hey apologies for the late response. Sadly, it will be neither of those countries. Some years ago I was in your +254 city, it was a group trip with two other girls and a very nice one too.

Wow! Glad you enjoyed yourself Klass, although it's the one city I've never really liked. I feel it's way too hyped.smiley Glad I moved away.
If you ever plan on another trip, I'd suggest you explore the Coastal region. It offers more tranquility and will also offer you a glimpse of the rich history influenced by the (mostly Omani) Arabs and Portuguese who had major dealings along the coast of East Africa, and even fought a territorial war. Or better still, hop across the border and tour Zanzibar. It's worth the hype. wink

Alternatively, if you're a wildlife fanatic, you'll be spoilt for choice. I think the beauty of +254 is far away from that mad city. Or you can just hop to Tanzania for a more diverse tourism experience.

Trader asked a question that makes me smile till this day.

He asked if I was really Nigerian or fronting as one, I said I was, then he goes you are too calm to be a Nigerian. We see them here every day and they are just loud, aggressive and obnoxious. grin

Hehehe. Oh yes. Trust me, I can relate to the trader. grin Your people though. Never a dull moment with them. They'll annoy you and make you laugh too.
You tend to be calm even here on Nairaland. I always find myself agitated by the uncouth mannerisms of some street urchins here, but they rarely seem to bother you. cheesy

....but it was inspired by my bible app (YouVersion). I am as pentecostal as you....
@ Creepsy.me, pls download that app if you can and try to follow through on one of their various plans. I think you will enjoy it or I hope you will, as much as I do.
YouVersion. It seems like an app worth downloading.

Sorry Creepsyme. Didn't mean to hijack your thread. I wish you well in your quest.

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Re: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Neptunium(m): 9:23pm On Mar 28, 2022
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