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SmartyPants:
It's like you didn;t notice no one asked for advice

I swear, there is no "I am confuse i don't know what to do "
This is once in a blue moon nairaland kinda thread

I guess she will now rant to her father, now she will understand the wickedness of these world when useless men will bang her and dump her , some ladies thinking they have equal right with a man should go and marry there own man, any resourceful lady that is submissive and respect her man will always enjoy marriage to the fullest, forget all these dummies that is fighting for her right does not even know her right

Proudpolygamist:
My first wife got pregnant for me when she was in the university and i had just newly secured a job with a high paying firm. She was the daughter of a big businessman at the time and we were from a conservative society, so we had to sharply perform the marriage rites and settle her family handsomely because they accused me of impregnating their daughter before marriage and sought compensations.
Fast-forward to our marriage life, she started making life hell for me after the birth of our first son.
Hadiza was a real trouble maker and I was beginning to think I made a mistake marrying her, she would nag all day when she was pregnant and won't cook meals at home or do domestic chores. In fact I spent most of the nights on empty stomach, my consolation being that she would put to bed one day. She would only have sex when she felt like doing it and it must have been after a good treat.

Things got worse after she put to bed. She complains that she spends the whole day caring for our young son that she can barely think about anything else.
She prefers to watch TV all day and spend her whole time on social media instead of cooking, doing dishes, , domestic chores or getting a job. She once asked me to prepare breakfast in bed for her on a Monday morning when I was supposed to get to work early for an appointment. I returned home that day hungry but she had refused to prepare food because I didn't make her breakfast in bed. She was so engrossed in telemundo fantasies that she thought she could dictate what direction our marriage swings.
I got tired and decided to teach her a lesson
On this fateful night, she snored irritatingly like a pig in my room and accused me of snoring like a pig, stressing that I need urgent medical check up . I told her she would know who was snoring like a pig, and who needs medical checkup after i'm done with her.I left my room and went to sleep in the guest room.
The following day i left home for work without taking breakfast afterwhich i went to see my lawyer. I issued a court summon to my wife through a court clerk.
I was told, She couldn't believe her eyes after she read through and discovered that i was seeking a divorce
She Refused to sign the papers and told the court clerk that i should kom and tell her with my mouth, stressing that she didn't marry me through a letter. She said i should kom and give her the papers myself if I was man enough.
The court clerk said he tried cajoling her into signing the papers peacefully but she screamed "He is my husband, I can't divorce him" and ran away with hot tears rolling down her cheek.
You know what happened next, i went straight to area command where my good friend works and left for home with 5 armed policemen.
In quick strides we searched for her and found her in her bedroom upstairs. She sat in the bed looking morose and jumped up fearfully when she saw us.
I pointed to her and told the men to escort her out of my house. Before she could say pim, one of the policeman a corporal, clamped handcuffs on her hand and told her to be cooperative as to follow them to the station. She protested very loudly and struggled to free herself, but it was too late, my mind was already made up. She ended up in tears making strong appeals to me but I kept a stony face. The policemen dragged my wife into the waiting van.

One of them came to me and asked to take her things along with her. I was shocked, because I bought everything in the house with my money. The sergeant kept his mouth shut when he saw the look on my face.
I gave him an address and asked him to drop my former wife in that address where her father lives.
Then I locked up the bungalow I bought for my 1st wife and joined my second wife in the estate.

I suspect u must also have big issues.
You already have a second wife?
Please gettat

siofra:
Who is this one

I'll not be surprised if it's one stupid redpiller fantasising his future life.

Siofra, you are full of pain and women activism. Why didn't you mention the fact that that lady behaved badly but had to tag it to redpill.

Nacoss25:
My brother, we are the same boat.
My wife deserve this method and am going to apply this.
We don't have any child yet but this woman is making my home a hell for me.

You want to sort out your marital issues using the tales by moonlight the OP told....OP that's still a student, asking for advice on how to relate with women in another thread?

That woman only needs retraining from you as her husband. I think she came from a family where she was mostly pampered. You can mold her behavior to your taste but you were not patient enough. Everything no be by gragra. In my opinion, all you have stated she did is not enough for you to take that drastic and cold-hearted decision on her.

Even my own wife I dey try mold her small small and she can be adamant, telling me how I cannot tell her what to do but she's taking note. And little by little your kind of woman starts sprouting slowly. It takes time but you'll surely get there.

tmoneyu:
I guess she will now rant to her father, now she will understand the wickedness of these world when useless men will bang her and dump her , some ladies thinking they have equal right with a man should go and marry there own man, any resourceful lady that is submissive and respect her man will always enjoy marriage to the fullest, forget all these dummies that is fighting for her right does not even know her right

Lol. Please don't take this serious. U can see d lies in this post from miles away.

underpinna:
Not questioning your decisions or intruding on your private life but do you mind sharing the reason for marrying a second wife?

Hmm I don't think he have any better reason for doing that, other than their religion allow them to do so. Can you imagine

Dear

Proudpolygamist:
Thank you, I have peace of mind now ah swear.
As for my second wife, she saw how my first wife left and she knows if she misbehaves I will show her the way out too.
But shes down to earth, humble, feminine and submissive.
This is how I like them to be, not the ones that are confused about gender roles

Proudpolygamist:
My first wife got pregnant for me when she was in the university and i had just newly secured a job with a high paying firm. She was the daughter of a big businessman at the time and we were from a conservative society, so we had to sharply perform the marriage rites and settle her family handsomely because they accused me of impregnating their daughter before marriage and sought compensations.
Fast-forward to our marriage life, she started making life hell for me after the birth of our first son.
Hadiza was a real trouble maker and I was beginning to think I made a mistake marrying her, she would nag all day when she was pregnant and won't cook meals at home or do domestic chores. In fact I spent most of the nights on empty stomach, my consolation being that she would put to bed one day. She would only have sex when she felt like doing it and it must have been after a good treat.

Things got worse after she put to bed. She complains that she spends the whole day caring for our young son that she can barely think about anything else.
She prefers to watch TV all day and spend her whole time on social media instead of cooking, doing dishes, , domestic chores or getting a job. She once asked me to prepare breakfast in bed for her on a Monday morning when I was supposed to get to work early for an appointment. I returned home that day hungry but she had refused to prepare food because I didn't make her breakfast in bed. She was so engrossed in telemundo fantasies that she thought she could dictate what direction our marriage swings.
I got tired and decided to teach her a lesson
On this fateful night, she snored irritatingly like a pig in my room and accused me of snoring like a pig, stressing that I need urgent medical check up . I told her she would know who was snoring like a pig, and who needs medical checkup after i'm done with her.I left my room and went to sleep in the guest room.
The following day i left home for work without taking breakfast afterwhich i went to see my lawyer. I issued a court summon to my wife through a court clerk.
I was told, She couldn't believe her eyes after she read through and discovered that i was seeking a divorce
She Refused to sign the papers and told the court clerk that i should kom and tell her with my mouth, stressing that she didn't marry me through a letter. She said i should kom and give her the papers myself if I was man enough.
The court clerk said he tried cajoling her into signing the papers peacefully but she screamed "He is my husband, I can't divorce him" and ran away with hot tears rolling down her cheek.
You know what happened next, i went straight to area command where my good friend works and left for home with 5 armed policemen.
In quick strides we searched for her and found her in her bedroom upstairs. She sat in the bed looking morose and jumped up fearfully when she saw us.
I pointed to her and told the men to escort her out of my house. Before she could say pim, one of the policeman a corporal, clamped handcuffs on her hand and told her to be cooperative as to follow them to the station. She protested very loudly and struggled to free herself, but it was too late, my mind was already made up. She ended up in tears making strong appeals to me but I kept a stony face. The policemen dragged my wife into the waiting van.

One of them came to me and asked to take her things along with her. I was shocked, because I bought everything in the house with my money. The sergeant kept his mouth shut when he saw the look on my face.
I gave him an address and asked him to drop my former wife in that address where her father lives.
Then I locked up the bungalow I bought for my 1st wife and joined my second wife in the estate.

( My first wife got pregnant for me when she was in the university and i had just newly secured a job with a high paying firm. She was the daughter of a big businessman at the time and we were from a conservative) you are big liar . You said your wife came from a rich family and her father is a big business man m, and you are from a conservative one. How do you want me to believe this is not fiction stories you just made up from your mind

Nadeol:
"...My first wife got pregnant for me when she was in the university and i had..."

"...left for home with 5 armed policemen.
In quick strides we searched for her and found her in her bedroom upstairs. She sat in the bed..."

"...Then I locked up the bungalow I bought for my 1st wife..."

I don't understand, please clarify.

Your first wife got pregnant.....she was in her bedroom upstairs.....you locked up the bungalow you bought for your first wife....

Does a bungalow has a bedroom upstairs?

this guy can lie. So many contradictory words in his post

Hmmmm, the issue was that you made a mistake by pregnating her before marriage which her people took advantage of, assuming you took time to study her well, you should have found out some negative traits in her, for you to divorce and remarry is not a good idea.

phkka1:
You did not do well. You made no effort to talk sense into her. The summary of it all is that you paid them back with their own coin just because they were not happy you put their daughter in the family way when she was not yet married with you.

He can only do that with an Hausa woman ,otherwise by now he will be in court. You know the rest.

I THINK YOU WENT A LITTLE TOO FAR, YOU WOULD HAVE THREATENED TO DIVORCE HER, SHE WOULD HAVE CHANGED.
I THINK THE REASON YOU ACTED THAT WAY IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE ALTERNATIVE (SECOND WIFE)

Proudpolygamist:
My first wife got pregnant for me when she was in the university and i had just newly secured a job with a high paying firm. She was the daughter of a big businessman at the time and we were from a conservative society, so we had to sharply perform the marriage rites and settle her family handsomely because they accused me of impregnating their daughter before marriage and sought compensations.
Fast-forward to our marriage life, she started making life hell for me after the birth of our first son.
Hadiza was a real trouble maker and I was beginning to think I made a mistake marrying her, she would nag all day when she was pregnant and won't cook meals at home or do domestic chores. In fact I spent most of the nights on empty stomach, my consolation being that she would put to bed one day. She would only have sex when she felt like doing it and it must have been after a good treat.

Things got worse after she put to bed. She complains that she spends the whole day caring for our young son that she can barely think about anything else.
She prefers to watch TV all day and spend her whole time on social media instead of cooking, doing dishes, , domestic chores or getting a job. She once asked me to prepare breakfast in bed for her on a Monday morning when I was supposed to get to work early for an appointment. I returned home that day hungry but she had refused to prepare food because I didn't make her breakfast in bed. She was so engrossed in telemundo fantasies that she thought she could dictate what direction our marriage swings.
I got tired and decided to teach her a lesson
On this fateful night, she snored irritatingly like a pig in my room and accused me of snoring like a pig, stressing that I need urgent medical check up . I told her she would know who was snoring like a pig, and who needs medical checkup after i'm done with her.I left my room and went to sleep in the guest room.
The following day i left home for work without taking breakfast afterwhich i went to see my lawyer. I issued a court summon to my wife through a court clerk.
I was told, She couldn't believe her eyes after she read through and discovered that i was seeking a divorce
She Refused to sign the papers and told the court clerk that i should kom and tell her with my mouth, stressing that she didn't marry me through a letter. She said i should kom and give her the papers myself if I was man enough.
The court clerk said he tried cajoling her into signing the papers peacefully but she screamed "He is my husband, I can't divorce him" and ran away with hot tears rolling down her cheek.
You know what happened next, i went straight to area command where my good friend works and left for home with 5 armed policemen.
In quick strides we searched for her and found her in her bedroom upstairs. She sat in the bed looking morose and jumped up fearfully when she saw us.
I pointed to her and told the men to escort her out of my house. Before she could say pim, one of the policeman a corporal, clamped handcuffs on her hand and told her to be cooperative as to follow them to the station. She protested very loudly and struggled to free herself, but it was too late, my mind was already made up. She ended up in tears making strong appeals to me but I kept a stony face. The policemen dragged my wife into the waiting van.

One of them came to me and asked to take her things along with her. I was shocked, because I bought everything in the house with my money. The sergeant kept his mouth shut when he saw the look on my face.
I gave him an address and asked him to drop my former wife in that address where her father lives.
Then I locked up the bungalow I bought for my 1st wife and joined my second wife in the estate.

thank God you made that bold step, if not one day we would have heard on news that you've been stabbed to death.........Sha you for inform her parents about her behavior first.

Proudpolygamist:
My first wife got pregnant for me when she was in the university and i had just newly secured a job with a high paying firm. She was the daughter of a big businessman at the time and we were from a conservative society, so we had to sharply perform the marriage rites and settle her family handsomely because they accused me of impregnating their daughter before marriage and sought compensations.
Fast-forward to our marriage life, she started making life hell for me after the birth of our first son.
Hadiza was a real trouble maker and I was beginning to think I made a mistake marrying her, she would nag all day when she was pregnant and won't cook meals at home or do domestic chores. In fact I spent most of the nights on empty stomach, my consolation being that she would put to bed one day. She would only have sex when she felt like doing it and it must have been after a good treat.

Things got worse after she put to bed. She complains that she spends the whole day caring for our young son that she can barely think about anything else.
She prefers to watch TV all day and spend her whole time on social media instead of cooking, doing dishes, , domestic chores or getting a job. She once asked me to prepare breakfast in bed for her on a Monday morning when I was supposed to get to work early for an appointment. I returned home that day hungry but she had refused to prepare food because I didn't make her breakfast in bed. She was so engrossed in telemundo fantasies that she thought she could dictate what direction our marriage swings.
I got tired and decided to teach her a lesson
On this fateful night, she snored irritatingly like a pig in my room and accused me of snoring like a pig, stressing that I need urgent medical check up . I told her she would know who was snoring like a pig, and who needs medical checkup after i'm done with her.I left my room and went to sleep in the guest room.
The following day i left home for work without taking breakfast afterwhich i went to see my lawyer. I issued a court summon to my wife through a court clerk.
I was told, She couldn't believe her eyes after she read through and discovered that i was seeking a divorce
She Refused to sign the papers and told the court clerk that i should kom and tell her with my mouth, stressing that she didn't marry me through a letter. She said i should kom and give her the papers myself if I was man enough.
The court clerk said he tried cajoling her into signing the papers peacefully but she screamed "He is my husband, I can't divorce him" and ran away with hot tears rolling down her cheek.
You know what happened next, i went straight to area command where my good friend works and left for home with 5 armed policemen.
In quick strides we searched for her and found her in her bedroom upstairs. She sat in the bed looking morose and jumped up fearfully when she saw us.
I pointed to her and told the men to escort her out of my house. Before she could say pim, one of the policeman a corporal, clamped handcuffs on her hand and told her to be cooperative as to follow them to the station. She protested very loudly and struggled to free herself, but it was too late, my mind was already made up. She ended up in tears making strong appeals to me but I kept a stony face. The policemen dragged my wife into the waiting van.

One of them came to me and asked to take her things along with her. I was shocked, because I bought everything in the house with my money. The sergeant kept his mouth shut when he saw the look on my face.
I gave him an address and asked him to drop my former wife in that address where her father lives.
Then I locked up the bungalow I bought for my 1st wife and joined my second wife in the estate.

I smell pride and lies.

Proudpolygamist:
My first wife got pregnant for me when she was in the university and i had just newly secured a job with a high paying firm. She was the daughter of a big businessman at the time and we were from a conservative society, so we had to sharply perform the marriage rites and settle her family handsomely because they accused me of impregnating their daughter before marriage and sought compensations.
Fast-forward to our marriage life, she started making life hell for me after the birth of our first son.
Hadiza was a real trouble maker and I was beginning to think I made a mistake marrying her, she would nag all day when she was pregnant and won't cook meals at home or do domestic chores. In fact I spent most of the nights on empty stomach, my consolation being that she would put to bed one day. She would only have sex when she felt like doing it and it must have been after a good treat.

Things got worse after she put to bed. She complains that she spends the whole day caring for our young son that she can barely think about anything else.
She prefers to watch TV all day and spend her whole time on social media instead of cooking, doing dishes, , domestic chores or getting a job. She once asked me to prepare breakfast in bed for her on a Monday morning when I was supposed to get to work early for an appointment. I returned home that day hungry but she had refused to prepare food because I didn't make her breakfast in bed. She was so engrossed in telemundo fantasies that she thought she could dictate what direction our marriage swings.
I got tired and decided to teach her a lesson
On this fateful night, she snored irritatingly like a pig in my room and accused me of snoring like a pig, stressing that I need urgent medical check up . I told her she would know who was snoring like a pig, and who needs medical checkup after i'm done with her.I left my room and went to sleep in the guest room.
The following day i left home for work without taking breakfast afterwhich i went to see my lawyer. I issued a court summon to my wife through a court clerk.
I was told, She couldn't believe her eyes after she read through and discovered that i was seeking a divorce
She Refused to sign the papers and told the court clerk that i should kom and tell her with my mouth, stressing that she didn't marry me through a letter. She said i should kom and give her the papers myself if I was man enough.
The court clerk said he tried cajoling her into signing the papers peacefully but she screamed "He is my husband, I can't divorce him" and ran away with hot tears rolling down her cheek.
You know what happened next, i went straight to area command where my good friend works and left for home with 5 armed policemen.
In quick strides we searched for her and found her in her bedroom upstairs. She sat in the bed looking morose and jumped up fearfully when she saw us.
I pointed to her and told the men to escort her out of my house. Before she could say pim, one of the policeman a corporal, clamped handcuffs on her hand and told her to be cooperative as to follow them to the station. She protested very loudly and struggled to free herself, but it was too late, my mind was already made up. She ended up in tears making strong appeals to me but I kept a stony face. The policemen dragged my wife into the waiting van.

One of them came to me and asked to take her things along with her. I was shocked, because I bought everything in the house with my money. The sergeant kept his mouth shut when he saw the look on my face.
I gave him an address and asked him to drop my former wife in that address where her father lives.
Then I locked up the bungalow I bought for my 1st wife and joined my second wife in the estate.

Hmmmm, can this be done to your own daughter?

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illicit:
What did the police arrest her for tho

She was arrested for nagging at her husband. Believe you me she can only do that with an Hausa woman otherwise he won't go Scot free. I know he is a police man.

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Fantasies of a foolish teenager. You silly redpillers that think demonizing women make you real men are not different from your feminist counterparts. You think you can marry someone's daughter and decide to divorce her overnight without involving both families or trying to resolve your differences amicably? Just keep dreaming till reality hits you.

Nadeol:
"...My first wife got pregnant for me when she was in the university and i had..."

"...left for home with 5 armed policemen.
In quick strides we searched for her and found her in her bedroom upstairs. She sat in the bed..."

"...Then I locked up the bungalow I bought for my 1st wife..."

I don't understand, please clarify.

Your first wife got pregnant.....she was in her bedroom upstairs.....you locked up the bungalow you bought for your first wife....

Does a bungalow has a bedroom upstairs?

Oil dey your head

ashawopikin:
Pure friction, it doesn't work that way, na small children u dey follow talk? Go and check what the law say about divorce process in nigeria

Which Nigeria? You better wake-up.

What is this one feeling like sef
The woman would be sooo stupid if she comes back
All this north people and their stupidity

Proudpolygamist:
I hosted a few of her family members plus my own family members that came to my crib for dialogue unannounced. I asked them to give us 3months to reflect on whether or not we want to be together, they tried to cajole me to take her back immediately but I refused.
When that 3months expires, I won't call anybody for reconciliation. If her family returns then, I'll accept her back with conditions.
Topmost on the list being that
She won't move into my house immediately, I will rent a self contain apartment for her outside for the main time

Princewell2012:
She was arrested for nagging at her husband. Believe you me she can only do that with an Hausa woman otherwise he won't go Scot free. I know he is a police man.

He is not a policeman but still a student! Go to some of his former posts of this month, asking for redpill mentorship on relating with females in his university.

APOPTOSIS:
DIVORCE is your right, just like hers too, especially when a partner feels threatened.
The only issue I have with your statement is " HANDCUFFING" her.
4me, that wasn't necessary at all.
Police coming to ask her to leave your house, of which you acknowledged the apartment to be yours solely, is understandable.
You did that in the interest of a peaceful resolution.
But HANDCUFFING was completely unprofessional of the police, that's if they actually did that. Even Abba Kyari was never handcuffed!
So, you story isn't really adding up.

Believe me our police men or do I say Nigerian police are very very unprofessional . This is family affair for crying out loud. I know the man is a police officer so his boys was trying to make him happy. They even waned to carry the woman load along with them haba is it their business? Are they not supposed to be a peace maker? Honestly to slap this man they hungry me.

organicfoods:
Hmmmm, can this be done to your own daughter?

If you raise a stupid daughter. Worse will be done to her.

Proudpolygamist:
Thank you, I have peace of mind now ah swear.
As for my second wife, she saw how my first wife left and she knows if she misbehaves I will show her the way out too.
But shes down to earth, humble, feminine and submissive.
This is how I like them to be, not the ones that are confused about gender roles

You have done well. You use police pursue the mother of your child out of her home. Where was your son when all this was taking place?

You already know you will regret this act so no need to tell you this.

Bedroom upstairs
You locked the bungalow
This is so contradicting

TheWolfen:
I swear, there is no "I am confuse i don't know what to do "
This is once in a blue moon nairaland kinda thread

That’s why they deal with your kinds in diaspora. You called useless armed men to throw her out on what grounds? Bunch of bullies.

Same way you will chase the next woman you marry.