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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Proudpolygamist: 10:18pm On Mar 31
JJSAYO:
You are a strong man as people said. Congratulations! May I ask you, how many wives do you plan to marry? Hope you are prepared for the third wife soon. This is your problem. You are dating someone outside your marriage. You already have an alternative. You believe you have money and can do anything you like. You went to the extent of embarrassing your wife. You handcuffed her, sent her back home and you are glad. You think you have moved on. You are inexperienced in marriage. Be rest assure that this second wife will teach you more sense very soon. Go and write it down.
There is only one solution left, quickly run and apologise to the family. This is the last grace you have before it is too late. You can't have a side chick and expect your marriage to work.

First off, I wouldn't have gotten married to hadiza if she hadn't gotten pregnant.
And the woman you call my sidechick, who's now my second wife was whom I planned on getting married to.
Lastly, I can't put all my eggs in one basket. So once a lady starts giving me endless attitudes, I marry another one immediately. And if she continues to display symptoms of madness in my house she should be ready to go on a long vacation in her father's house.
I am a northerner, not an over Westernized m.oron

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Proudpolygamist: 10:38pm On Mar 31
AdaNri1:
Story is filled with so many inconsistency and lies. I can’t be bothered to point all of them out but I’ve put in bold the most ridiculous.
You got her pregnant in school yet you wanted her to get a job while nursing an infant.
You are either learning to write or just a blatant liar. Either way, get it right, this is amateur. I can’t believe the amount of id1ots that fell for it. Tells you the level of people on this forum
Like someone pointed out earlier
You know nothing about construction...
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by finishmatter: 10:48pm On Mar 31
TheWolfen:
Lol
Congrats!
You didn't give room for women manipulations. When she ask that you come give her the divorce paper cheesy..
That is a trap a lot of men falls for. cheesy


But I think you should forgive her if she comes begging with a promise that she will improve on herself.
She didn't cheat on you.
It is only when a woman cheat that i advice men not to haven't anything to do with her anymore

With the rate women murder their husbands, he shouldn't allow her back. Gone for good.
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Nobody: 10:57pm On Mar 31
finishmatter:


With the rate women murder their husbands, he shouldn't allow her back. Gone for good.
if you believe that story then you’ll believe anything. He said she was in school when she got preg. But he expected her to be working while she was nursing.
He states that she was upstairs when the police came, but he locked up the bungalow when they left.
Poster has cooked up a story.

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Nobody: 10:58pm On Mar 31
Proudpolygamist:

Like someone pointed out earlier
You know nothing about construction...
Your story is fiction! A poor attempt at that. End of!

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by djon78(m): 11:01pm On Mar 31
oshaosha2014:
That woman only needs retraining from you as her husband. I think she came from a family where she was mostly pampered. You can mold her behavior to your taste but you were not patient enough. Everything no be by gragra. In my opinion, all you have stated she did is not enough for you to take that drastic and cold-hearted decision on her.

Even my own wife I dey try mold her small small and she can be adamant, telling me how I cannot tell her what to do but she's taking note. And little by little your kind of woman starts sprouting slowly. It takes time but you'll surely get there.



What you are saying requires complete patience on the man's side.

But most times the women, takes your patience as weakness, honestly.

Many women nowadays are very very stubborn.
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Proudpolygamist: 11:02pm On Mar 31
AdaNri1:
Your story is fiction! A poor attempt at that. End of!

Your cup of tea..

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by finishmatter: 11:05pm On Mar 31
AdaNri1:
if you believe that story then you’ll believe anything. He said she was in school when she got preg. But he expected her to be working while she was nursing.
He states that she was upstairs when the police came, but he locked up the bungalow when they left.
Poster has cooked up a story.

Oh ok
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Angieeeh: 11:18pm On Mar 31
Your mental health remains your most cherished priority!
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by SouthernTaliban(m): 11:21pm On Mar 31
AdaNri1:
if you believe that story then you’ll believe anything. He said she was in school when she got preg. But he expected her to be working while she was nursing.
He states that she was upstairs when the police came, but he locked up the bungalow when they left.
Poster has cooked up a story.

Agreed that the story has a couple of holes. Is this not plausible in Nigeria?

Or are you people saying that a rich man cant remove anybody (including wife, children or family members) from their premises in that manner?

In fact one can get this done with100k Naira or less.

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by djon78(m): 11:22pm On Mar 31
jamesbridget13:
Hmmm op! I can see u are celebrating your ego. Remember what goes around, comes around.

It's not about celebrating ego
Many modern women are very big problems in marriages now

So stubborn, won't give men peace of mind.

Go through the page and see the comments of many married men to this story and you will see that many homes there is no peace at all

I'm begging to see men may start going polygamous again. Because these one man one wife is causing a lot of issues.

Our forefathers were polygamous, my maternal grandfather had three wives while my paternal grandfather had two wives.

It's just from our parents generations, men started marrying one wife.

But the modern women are not appreciating that.
They have no iota of respect for there husband's

Men may revert back to doing what there forefathers were doing, because the modern women are quite a handful.

They were never like our mothers at all.
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by zed7: 1:15am On Apr 01
Proudpolygamist:


found her in her bedroom upstairs. She sat in the bed looking morose and jumped up fearfully when she saw us.
I pointed to her and told the men to escort her out of my house. Before she could say pim, one of the policeman a corporal, clamped handcuffs on her hand and told her to be cooperative as to follow them to the station. She protested very loudly and struggled to free herself, but it was too late, my mind was already made up. She ended up in tears making strong appeals to me but I kept a stony face. The policemen dragged my wife into the waiting van.

One of them came to me and asked to take her things along with her. I was shocked, because I bought everything in the house with my money. The sergeant kept his mouth shut when he saw the look on my face.
I gave him an address and asked him to drop my former wife in that address where her father lives.
Then I locked up the bungalow I bought for my 1st wife and joined my second wife in the estate.
What a story. Upstairs amd bungalow? That's how you spot liars.

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by cococandy(f): 2:07am On Apr 01
siofra:
Who is this one

I'll not be surprised if it's one stupid redpiller fantasising his future life.
grin

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by aalangel(f): 2:31am On Apr 01
First of all, this is a stupid and fake story.
Secondly, it's a foolish fictitious story with many loopholes.
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by bepositive11: 2:46am On Apr 01
I think you both pretended to be someone you were not when dating, then after marriage, you both showed your true colors and realized that you were both incompatible

As for the woman, she is very immature. She doesn't know how to take responsibility and take care of herself, let alone children and a husband

As for you, you don't know how to communicate and resolve issues. You're also passive aggressive and seemingly insecure

Anyway, I'm glad you found a woman who's compatible with you. She's doing exactly what you want because she's dependent on you financially. I won't advise any of my sisters or friends to marry a man like you though

Proudpolygamist:
My first wife got pregnant for me when she was in the university and i had just newly secured a job with a high paying firm. She was the daughter of a big businessman at the time and we were from a conservative society, so we had to sharply perform the marriage rites and settle her family handsomely because they accused me of impregnating their daughter before marriage and sought compensations.
Fast-forward to our marriage life, she started making life hell for me after the birth of our first son.
Hadiza was a real trouble maker and I was beginning to think I made a mistake marrying her, she would nag all day when she was pregnant and won't cook meals at home or do domestic chores. In fact I spent most of the nights on empty stomach, my consolation being that she would put to bed one day. She would only have sex when she felt like doing it and it must have been after a good treat.

Things got worse after she put to bed. She complains that she spends the whole day caring for our young son that she can barely think about anything else.
She prefers to watch TV all day and spend her whole time on social media instead of cooking, doing dishes, , domestic chores or getting a job. She once asked me to prepare breakfast in bed for her on a Monday morning when I was supposed to get to work early for an appointment. I returned home that day hungry but she had refused to prepare food because I didn't make her breakfast in bed. She was so engrossed in telemundo fantasies that she thought she could dictate what direction our marriage swings.
I got tired and decided to teach her a lesson
On this fateful night, she snored irritatingly like a pig in my room and accused me of snoring like a pig, stressing that I need urgent medical check up . I told her she would know who was snoring like a pig, and who needs medical checkup after i'm done with her.I left my room and went to sleep in the guest room.
The following day i left home for work without taking breakfast afterwhich i went to see my lawyer. I issued a court summon to my wife through a court clerk.
I was told, She couldn't believe her eyes after she read through and discovered that i was seeking a divorce
She Refused to sign the papers and told the court clerk that i should kom and tell her with my mouth, stressing that she didn't marry me through a letter. She said i should kom and give her the papers myself if I was man enough.
The court clerk said he tried cajoling her into signing the papers peacefully but she screamed "He is my husband, I can't divorce him" and ran away with hot tears rolling down her cheek.
You know what happened next, i went straight to area command where my good friend works and left for home with 5 armed policemen.
In quick strides we searched for her and found her in her bedroom upstairs. She sat in the bed looking morose and jumped up fearfully when she saw us.
I pointed to her and told the men to escort her out of my house. Before she could say pim, one of the policeman a corporal, clamped handcuffs on her hand and told her to be cooperative as to follow them to the station. She protested very loudly and struggled to free herself, but it was too late, my mind was already made up. She ended up in tears making strong appeals to me but I kept a stony face. The policemen dragged my wife into the waiting van.

One of them came to me and asked to take her things along with her. I was shocked, because I bought everything in the house with my money. The sergeant kept his mouth shut when he saw the look on my face.
I gave him an address and asked him to drop my former wife in that address where her father lives.
Then I locked up the bungalow I bought for my 1st wife and joined my second wife in the estate.
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Memyselfu2009(m): 3:15am On Apr 01
Nice story for Nollywood
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Juliearth(f): 3:22am On Apr 01
Is there a possibility for reconciliation assuming she wants to genuinely turn a new leaf? Are you still in love with her or just tired of her For the sale of your baby, if she has turned a new leaf, please take her back. Its well!
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Mindlog: 3:39am On Apr 01
Proudpolygamist:


I don't see how you have a case for your proposition

From your previous posts! Coming with up lies to seek validation is a clear reflection you have "issues" related to childhood fixations that you need to seek resolution.

A therapist grounded in Psychoanalysis would be of a great help to you.

Your fiction can serve as a case study for first year counselling psychologiy students to dissect.....yours lies are glaring!
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by yemmie(m): 3:46am On Apr 01
The dude might have taken the hard route and damning consequences.

My take when a woman behaves out of place in marriage, just take a closer look at the women who raised her .. wisdom from
Elders

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Jaapu: 4:14am On Apr 01
ashawopikin:
go arrest your wife because u wan divorce am, then you go know which nigeria

Boy, wake-up. you are in deep slumber.
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by showafrica(m): 4:34am On Apr 01
TheWolfen:
Lol
Congrats!
You didn't give room for women manipulations. When she ask that you come give her the divorce paper cheesy..
That is a trap a lot of men falls for. cheesy


But I think you should forgive her if she comes begging with a promise that she will improve on herself.

She didn't cheat on you.
It is only when a woman cheat that i advice men not to haven't anything to do with her anymore

Exactly, but it depends on the wickedness level. If you allow Jezebell in your life for the second time, na finishing

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by showafrica(m): 4:38am On Apr 01
Proudpolygamist:


Thank you, I have peace of mind now ah swear.
As for my second wife, she saw how my first wife left and she knows if she misbehaves I will show her the way out too.
But shes down to earth, humble, feminine and submissive.
This is how I like them to be, not the ones that are confused about gender roles

That gender role na him dey deceive them. Don't be surprised her dad is not surprised to see her back. Most dads know the character of their daughter.
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Hathor5(f): 6:55am On Apr 01
Only a teenage boy who has never had a newborn under his care could come up with this kind of a story.

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by ashawopikin(m): 7:17am On Apr 01
Jaapu:


Boy, wake-up. you are in deep slumber.
who be your boy? E be like say u don high
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by layzie: 7:22am On Apr 01
InsanePsycho:


He disappeared from the story undecided

Story is obviously made up. Once u start hearing Hadiza, know u re reading a novel.

Plus upstairs turned to bungalow grin

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by killfear(m): 8:36am On Apr 01
This story is not only fake, it is also unintelligent. Assuming, though not conceding that it is true, for what offence was your wife arrested and handcuffed? For refusing to leave the husband's house?

For your information, in Nigeria, you can't end a marriage or obtain divorce by the signing of court papers. That ignorance has been popularised by nollywood who copy Hollywood senselessly.

So in summary, your story is a lie. The law is operational in Nigeria, I am a lawyer and I read this with a pinch of salt.
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Proudpolygamist: 8:37am On Apr 01
zed7:

What a story. Upstairs amd bungalow? That's how you spot liars.
A quick Google search would have saved you the embarrassment
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Proudpolygamist: 8:39am On Apr 01
Mindlog:


From your previous posts! Coming with up lies to seek validation is a clear reflection you have "issues" related to childhood fixations that you need to seek resolution.

A therapist grounded in Psychoanalysis would be of a great help to you.

Your fiction can serve as a case study for first year counselling psychologiy students to dissect.....yours lies are glaring!


Thanks for the compliments and goodbye
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Proudpolygamist: 8:47am On Apr 01
SouthernTaliban:


Agreed that the story has a couple of holes. Is this not plausible in Nigeria?

Or are you people saying that a rich man cant remove anybody (including wife, children or family members) from their premises in that manner?

In fact one can get this done with100k Naira or less.


100k? When I can forge a statement to the police that my wife is being a life threat to me? That she attacked me with a knife and that I only managed to escape? Such women should be rehabilitated in psychiatrist homes shouldn't they?
Less than 100k would do the job.
See, I got this case covered even if she decides to go to court.
Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by oshaosha2014(m): 10:25am On Apr 01
My wife too is stubborn. And I keep repeating what I don't want until she gives in.

djon78:




What you are saying requires complete patience on the man's side.

But most times the women, takes your patience as weakness, honestly.

Many women nowadays are very very stubborn.

Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by Mindlog: 11:42am On Apr 01
Proudpolygamist:


100k? When I can forge a statement to the police that my wife is being a life threat to me? That she attacked me with a knife and that I only managed to escape? Such women should be rehabilitated in psychiatrist homes shouldn't they?
Less than 100k would do the job.
See, I got this case covered even if she decides to go to court.

You should be the one rehabilitated in a psychiatric facility like in the one I work in because you are the mentally disordered one not your fictitious wife!

Continue to be out of touch with your reality.

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Re: How I Sent My Troublesome First Wife Packing Peacefully by zed7: 3:49pm On Apr 01
Proudpolygamist:

A quick Google search would have saved you the embarrassment
Don't further make a fool of yourself son. All these are a figment of your imagination.

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