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Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:11pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
heniford2:it will well with you jigolo 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by socialmediaman: 5:12pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
@ellaV Madam, husband and wife matters can be really complicated… the part I missed in your story was the part where you spoke to him about the situation and he said what? Why do he and his mother not want you to have financial means? Why does your husband want you to be suffering? Let’s get to the root of the matter first |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:14pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
socialmediaman:I have asked him but I don't get any answer |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by heniford2: 5:17pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
ellaV:quite complain start something little u have fridge in ur house start iceblock business your waiting for him to give you millions so u can go and dash dat ur boyfriend why can't you start something make the money and cook a nice meal without asking him money for a week start akara business you will be shock as how he will support u,madam housewife |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:17pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:I don't know what to do that's why am here |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by heniford2: 5:19pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
socialmediaman:the husband understands the kind of wife his married to QED |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:19pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
heniford2:thanks |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by socialmediaman: 5:20pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
ellaV: Ok. I’m just trying to understand what’s going on here. You mentioned that he goes about talking to other people. He doesn’t have a reason why he doesn’t want you to have your own income? That’s strange. Does he give you money for personal upkeep? Do you both have kids? Are there insubordination, infidelity or trust issues in the marriage? Do you have issues with his mother? |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by Kobojunkie: 5:20pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
ellaV:Have you considered separating from what you describe as a toxic marriage for a time, move back home to village or with relatives, so you can reboot or reset your own life afresh? Maybe get a job, get your life back on track so you are no longer a slave in your marriage? It's 2022 and stories like yours ellicit some amount of disgust, if you don't know, as I assume I am speaking here to an intelligent being. 4 Likes |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by heniford2: 5:21pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
ellaV:ur thanking dat jigolo man u where insulting |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by grafixdon: 5:22pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
ibechris: Becareful how you judge one sided story... Very dangerous thing to do. Some women will never appreciate even if you cut your head for them. 1 Like |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:22pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
I want to learn software development and work remotely with it...if your into that and ur I'm ph and willing to teach me pls PM me tnxs |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by grafixdon: 5:25pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
Another single mother in making. God have mercy! |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:25pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
socialmediaman:he doesn't give me money for upkeep, we have 2 kids?the mother doesn't like me because we ain't same tribe, I feel their is trust issues |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by Kobojunkie: 5:27pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
grafixdon:You would rather she remain in what she describes as a toxic marriage, why? More than half of Nigerians today where raised by single mothers, many of them abandoned in marriage, are the children worse off for it? Or do you think children raised in toxic environments grow up better individuals or something?? 5 Likes |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by grafixdon: 5:27pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
ellaV: Software development? Lol. Its not an easy thing to learn easily just like that, do you have time to code? |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:29pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
grafixdon:am not those your kind of women am appreciative |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by grafixdon: 5:29pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Hear from the man first, don't judge one sided story especially when it's coming from a woman... Some women will never appreciate even if you cut your head for them. |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:29pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
grafixdon:I will learn sir |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:30pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
grafixdon:it's well |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by socialmediaman: 5:33pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
ellaV: Ok, when you say there may be trust issues, what do you mean? Who doesn’t trust who, and what don’t they trust them about? Secondly, just to clarify, are you trying to become financially independent of him, or fix your marriage, or both? |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:34pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
grafixdon:I don't have 1 wrapper for myself as a married woman my mother that did omogwo for me was not given the things meant for her..you will not understand |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:35pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
socialmediaman:I want to fix my marriage and give back to my people who trained me |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by grafixdon: 5:39pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
ellaV: He doesn't pay school fees, hospital bills, foods, house rent...? |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:40pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
grafixdon:he does all that comfortable but I want to start something for myself 1 Like |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by Acidosis(m): 5:42pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
To change that man, you have to get someone in your family to speak with him. If there's no one to call on, I am sorry, you may have to endure for as long as possible. A trouble-filled inter-tribal marriage like this without anyone on your side, may leave you devastated for a long time. His mother tied him up so bad that he listens to whatever she tells him, right? Then, get someone in your family to tie you up and get you the benefits/rights that you seek in that marriage. It is that simple. I suspect that man is taking advantage of you because you have nobody to "fight" for you. If this is the situation, then you should have been extra extra careful with your spousal decision. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:43pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
Acidosis:it's well |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by eazzzy1(m): 5:48pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
Klass99: I knew that was the point you were trying to buttress, my comment on that post was about meddling, not spiritual manipulation . This koto aye issue is on a different level. I do agree with you about the evil times we live in today. The OP is trying to go Ijebu. |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:49pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
I am also suspecting that he is a gay but I have got no evidence yet, sometimes he goes out and when he come back he is smelling shit shit I will ask him did you poo he will say no..he will go bath n the odours will go away...I don't just know...God should just help me, name Marry I marry I no kee person 2 Likes |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by ellaV(m): 5:54pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
Acidosis:i know but that's wickedness that he will reap if he doesn't change |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by Kobojunkie: 5:57pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
grafixdon:The woman said her marriage is toxic for her. Hearing from the man won't change how she feels about the marriage now, will it? And you didn't answer any of the questions I asked you earlier... You would rather she remain in what she describes as a toxic marriage, why? More than half of Nigerians today where raised by single mothers, many of them abandoned in marriage, are the children worse off for it? Or do you think children raised in toxic environments grow up better individuals or something?? 5 Likes |
Re: Married To A Man Who Doesn't Want Me To Grow by Klass99(f): 5:58pm On Apr 08, 2022 |
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