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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Krexpah(m): 10:34am On Apr 15, 2022

I no fit laugh abeg

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by seanwilliam(m): 10:35am On Apr 15, 2022

I see you’re trying to play safe. Unfortunately women are not meant to be trusted . That’s the bitter fact. Weather you rent house outside for your cousin or he stays under same roof with her, believe me if dem go kpansh, dem go kpansh..

But then you should play your own part, rent apartment for him and hope for the best .. take your mind off it..

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by iramure(m): 10:35am On Apr 15, 2022

Hmmm
No try am ooooo
This is temptation
It can lead into confusion.
I tell u ooo
Even if you rent an apartment far away for him, that still guarantee something can't happen let alone under same roof.
Bros, be wise oooo.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by oodua1stson: 10:35am On Apr 15, 2022

don't leave your wife with anybody oooo.

My former landlord who left his wife in Nigeria na every night man de come sleep with her for the house

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by iramure(m): 10:36am On Apr 15, 2022

trust wetin?
Na wah for u oooo

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by JimmySwaggart(m): 10:37am On Apr 15, 2022*

Just bring in a smart and younger female domestic staff. This staff will be the one to update you on WhatsApp, of everything going on behind the curtain in your home while you are away.

If your woman rejects the proposal, just know that's a red flag, and she definitely has something up her sleeves she's up to. Plz never trust any NIGERIAN lady, not even your own mother. You should be able to vouch for only your self not any other person born of a woman...but you know what, you don't need to worry your self.its not worth it.. Dem no born your cousin well to make dat first move to woo her, if he tries it den she will report him to you. Bt infidelity will only arise if it's your own wife that decides to mess up your matrimonial home by given him the needed green light he needs to come have her all to him self...so if you trust her, leave her to God, if you don't, den get a domestic staff..my 2 cent.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Detailfix: 10:37am On Apr 15, 2022

This seems the best advice , as we are only thinking of the negative side, he can protect the family on ur behalf so just get another of ur wife’s relative, and you will be more comfortable while away

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Eagba(m): 10:38am On Apr 15, 2022

I wouldn't even like my Friend to leave me at home with wife, even tho I know myself.

I hate complicating things. the cousin is a fool if he wants to be left alone with the wife. moreso with fact that he's waiting for Japa without having anything doing. when a serious person wants to Japa, they allow the said country to come for them, they allow the said country to woe them.
while others just stroll into the said country. if you're loitering and expecting to Japa, you've gotten not my respect.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by DeRay98(m): 10:38am On Apr 15, 2022

Bros, back in the days when there was sanity and respect in our society and families, such was no issue but today?
Don't try it.
Don't be sentimental with it.
You can assist him find somewhere else to stay while your wife stay alone.
2 of them under one roof for weeks and months in your absence?
Bros, life and people of today no be like in the 1980s again ooo.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Mypeople2(m): 10:39am On Apr 15, 2022

Lol.Don't flatter yourself .Not everyone sleep with people's wives .Your cousin may not be interested in women so forget that trash and do your thing

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by objobj: 10:39am On Apr 15, 2022

Nice one but you and your cousin are like sibling. Growing up together makes u hv very close feelings. But not one cousin coming out one day.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by kokomilala(m): 10:39am On Apr 15, 2022

Without preempting anything,I think you're playing with a cobra's tail,literarily. In the same abode? What happens when hormones rage? Hmm!
Nic Cage said in one of his movies that the devil exploits our power of consent. Once you give the devil your consent,he exploits it. What you're doing unwittingly is you're giving the devil the licence to strike. Tell your cousin to stay somewhere else.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by greypencils: 10:41am On Apr 15, 2022

Get him out of your house. If you have means get him a one bedroom. Avoid stories that touch.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Miracle2022: 10:41am On Apr 15, 2022

don't try it.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Ikea81: 10:41am On Apr 15, 2022

It's either him or the neighbours. Choose one

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Olam09(m): 10:42am On Apr 15, 2022

Get your said brother another apartment far away from yours bro.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by objobj: 10:42am On Apr 15, 2022

Oga go bring your sister or immediate brother to stay with your wife simple.
If you rent a house for him. They can still see.
Rent a house for him and also bring your own brother or sister to stay with your wife. Simple

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Egypt209: 10:42am On Apr 15, 2022

It's easy Bros
Ask your wife who is she comfortable staying with between your mom and hers.
Make the arrangements to get her there and instruct huncle to check on them once in a while.
Finish!

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by fmonigent(m): 10:45am On Apr 15, 2022

Your type dey always wicked. No feelings. Upon that I know say you no ma get shi shi

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by diplomat058(m): 10:45am On Apr 15, 2022

You think everyone is normal like you? In a World where even some hornny Fathers make do with their daughters, it's better to institute risk assessment safeguards, rather than entertain stories thereafter.

Besides, your case is not exactly similar. You have been with them for too long and you have been socialized as a family. Except you had always had mischievous intention, 6 months is too short for a sudden change of approach. Two, your Girlfriend coming into play also redefines the whole equation as it has become a "Every boo get a boo" case. Breaking the boundaries wouldn't be easily consensual.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by girlygirlyMain: 10:45am On Apr 15, 2022

For you to come out here and ask us, YOU ALREADY know the answer...

IF YOU LIKE GIVE YOU COUSIN "FREE MEAT"
May the spirit of wisdom locate you & may you receive sense in Jesus name. Amen!!!

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Datikwerreboi(m): 10:46am On Apr 15, 2022

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Truvelisback(m): 10:49am On Apr 15, 2022

U don't trust ur wife, if u do, u won't think this way. Note: Whether ur cousin lives with her or not, if she wan fvck outside, she go fvck.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by yeks: 10:49am On Apr 15, 2022

I think you should discuss with your wife. Ask her if its ok for your cousin to stay in the house. If she says she is not comfortable with him staying, then you can assist your cousin to get a place. Remember that if a lady is interested in cheating, she will always have a way of going about it. If she is interested in your cousin even if you rent an apartment for him, he can still come around and do whatever he likes with her. Looking at it from another perspective, if you trust your cousin, it is even better for him to stay in the house to protect her. Some women cheat out of boredom and loneliness.. So i think you should weigh both option from trust level.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Nobody: 10:49am On Apr 15, 2022

Even today we are afraid to leave females together not to talk of male and female, is simply NO but if u trust ur male cousin then y not otherwise NO

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by addexx: 10:52am On Apr 15, 2022

Get an apartment for him. Ensure He has settled in before you leave. When you leave always call your wife for long hours and ensure she doesn't start feeling lonely. Check on your cousin regularly too and get updated on his Visa processing and other movements.
Finally relax and do not overthink.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by We4all: 10:52am On Apr 15, 2022

Then why did he marry her if she cannot be trusted?

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Gentledizzle: 10:53am On Apr 15, 2022*

Nairaland wicked. See as them plant bad thought for this op. No matter what anybody say, you already have that thought and. Nothing will change that.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by GistFullGround: 10:53am On Apr 15, 2022

You may regret this decision later.
This world is not as good as it was again before, people betray trust...

SHINE YOUR EYES!

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by fashrola(m): 10:54am On Apr 15, 2022

Dear OP.... Kindly take this advice

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Onyeziokwu(m): 10:54am On Apr 15, 2022

Hello mate,

Tbh, is something to do with your wife's lifestyle and likewise your cousin too! And then again, you've got free your mind on women cheating to avoid dying before your time bud.

However concerning your post above prior to my own experience, two things are bound to happen: either they turn best friends for life , genuinely or worse enemies for life.

I lived with my uncle's wife in Lagos for about a year plus under same roof whilst my uncle lives in Canada and a similar case like your cousin because I was actually looking forward to my visa then, too!

As a fresh graduate then without a job after my NYSC whilst she's with one of the banks there in Lagos. Omo you need to see hatred, started treating me like a poo as if I won't amount to anything in life, always complaining unnecessarily to my uncle just to build up hatred from him towards me too because I was looking forward to him in sorting my travel expenses. She completely changed as if I was dragging her husband's wealth with her but I am glad my uncle having spent 30yrs+ abroad, didn't give in. But I'm glad today, the abroad waka worked out and favoured me too! We're worse enemies for life. I don't give a Bleep about her and she knows that. I earn her monthly salary just on a 12hrs shift down here.

Moral lesson:

Naija women/ladies including my sisters, are terrible when it comes to their husbands immediate or distant families.

For peace and probably, averting a lifetime enmity between both parties, get your cousin a single room as suggested, if you can afford one please.

Cheers bud!

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by diplomat058(m): 10:55am On Apr 15, 2022

There is absolutely no need to lie. He should tell the Cousin, "Brother, I am sorry, but you will need to get another place due to some considerations. I am willing to help in the best way I can" period! When He later finds out the reason, He will understand too, being a man.

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