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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by goody2019: 5:39pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
fascia:A VERY UNPOPULAR OPINION . VERY UNWORKABLE ! |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by goody2019: 5:46pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
DoctorOlasDesk: NO REASON WHATSOEVER TO LEAVE THEM ALONE UNDER THE SAME HOUSE TOGETHER EVEN FOR A WEEK. NO PROS, ONLY CONS. IT IS VERY DANGEROUS |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by DoctorOlasDesk: 5:49pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
goody2019: I agree |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Goldie16(f): 5:50pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
cj1900: Just saw this on a Facebook private group. I hope it helps you be resolute on your decision 1 Like
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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by goody2019: 5:50pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
IT IS NEVER ADVISABLE. DO NOT TRY IT! You will put both of them in trouble, and yourself too. |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Africanna: 5:56pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
Well for me.. Leaving him in the same house isn't a big deal.. U trust ur wife and believe in her.. Remember that every house needs a man Sending him off and bring someone else is never a good solution.. At that age, trust me.. no man will be happy staying on his cousin roff.. Inside him self ,, he might be thinking of finding his way as u are thinking of solution |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by victons(m): 6:01pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
thisnaijaguy: The wife can still get the help from external sources if she wishes. But the presence of the cousin may be a check at least. To me what matters most is if the lady is discipline and trustworthy. |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by harmony75: 6:39pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
The world's bad now it was not like this 90s,80s,70s, why can't sister inlaw and brother inlaw stay in the house as a family!? � But I know if she's God fearing she won't cheat.. Things have changed well get him a place before you leave for your peace. |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by murmee: 7:06pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
frozen70:When I read the posts of some people suggesting that you get your brother another accommodation, I just laughed. See, if your wife and your brother are attracted to each other, separate accommodations will not stop the affairs. Infact, it may even make it sweeter because neighbors will not easily suspect anything when your brother comes visiting. But if your wife is disciplined and has respect for you, she will not encourage that sort of affair! |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Iseddy: 7:09pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
Op if your wife has a grown up brother and not really occupied with things, you can bring him in. Even if your brother get another apartment what makes you think he will not still be visiting time to time. & Is not really cool for ur wife to stay alone with ur little baby. Alternatively, your wife can go stay with her mum or Aunty that stays within the city. |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by nedekid: 7:24pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
Well done. You want to leave your wife with a man and go to obodo oyinbo Hmm, just know he will use her as "snacks". Better make other arrangements for your cousin. This one is not quarell matter, you cannot leave your wife with him, simple! |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by nedekid: 7:32pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
murmee:Bros, what will bring the familiarity and closeness is when both are left together under thesame roof. For now it has not reached that stage. To avoid such, let him move his cousin out of the house before travelling. Who does that even? Leave a man, with woman and travels? It's like giving chicken to cat for safe keeping. "But if your wife is disciplined and has respect for you, she will not encourage that sort of affair!" Blokos and kpekus matter does not have respect or discipline in close proximity. 1 Like |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Clinghton: 7:42pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
With what we see and read, I think it's not cool to leave your wife with another man. |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Nobody: 8:09pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
What has your cousin done for you since he has been with you? What is your wife's opinion? Personally tell him he needs to vacate, how is a man in his mid thirties unable to find his own feet? Housing him is doing him no favours , I sense he is just leeching off you. This type of entitlement just gets worst and worst so you need to tell him to find himself a room to rent by himself and tell him he needs to be out by 2 weeks before you depart. Does your wife not have any brothers she can trust? May be hire a maid and an experienced security who doesn't even need to be live in, but guards home when needed. You have done enough for your cousin that when you ask him to leave he shouldn't even have mind to ask for any assistance. If he does then he has that bad entitlement trait and you should consider good riddance. You cousin could be called upon if he is trustworthy to assist with security if needed. cj1900: |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by shege45: 8:28pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
Mooh247:the way una go dey talk this “pay rent for him” like 300 pounds is a walk in the park |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by shege45: 8:29pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
cj1900:Bro, your instincts are right |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Mooh247: 8:30pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
shege45: For someone who owns his 4 bedroom house, who could buy a British airways ticket economy, and who plans to fly in every 6 months... The. 200k isn't much to spend on his brother |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Roseey0(f): 8:36pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
Let your wife make the decision not you. If she says she can, then trust her to. If she says she can't, by all means get the cousin out of your house. Make sure you constantly communicate with your wife . Once you are there to speak to her often, she won't have the space to nuture feelings for another human. But if you leave a gap, and your nephew or anybody at all becomes her go to person, then feeling will begin to crowd her judgement. But again whether she will act on those feelings or not depends on her belief system 1 Like |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Nobody: 9:29pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
cj1900:Person wey go cheat go cheat , discuss with your wife to see how things will work out. |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by frozen70(f): 9:44pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
murmee: This was what I had in mind when I posted my advice on the issue |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by frozen70(f): 9:45pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
koning: Once you remove a cat and bring a dog into the house You are still having a domestic animal at home |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Ambber(f): 10:12pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
cj1900:and you shouldn't! |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by obiora198(m): 11:06pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
My brother, your fears are very valid, but like most people here already pointed out, if your wife is going to cheat, she will, cousin or no cousin, now these are some things i would consider 1 what if wifey isn't really into your cousin under any circumstance, and having him around will prevent her from seeing other people, like an ex for instance or some new guy checking out a lonely married woman. 2 having your cousin around might also be beneficial like others have pointed out earlier, he could help your wife around the house, a four bedroom duplex is a lot of space to leave a young woman alone in, she'll eventually seek out company, good or bad, so unless you are also thinking of a way to fix that, leaving her alone is not advicable. now what i would advise get a third party, someone who can check the relationship between them and also be honest with you if there is any issue at home that your wife or cousin might not open up to you about. I would also strongly advise discussing the matter with your wife, you dont want her feeling like you only want to keep her in check while you go and do whatever, also assure her that you'll be faithful too and make plans on how to keep in touch constantly cuz i think thats the only way maintain a long distance relationship. Lastly, and i dare say most importantly, try and understand that mistakes can happen, no body is perfect so just encourage each other and make room in your heart to forgive if an honest mistake occurs as am sure you would expect her to do so if the mistake is from your end. I wish you the best, and hopefully everything works out for both of you in the end |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by 123papas(m): 11:26pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
Your cousin na agbaya. Shameless 40yrs old |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Johninfantry: 11:54pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
Ur wife go collect woto woto |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by akinsmyk(m): 4:17am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Katcall: Every man isn't as loosed as you. For the fact that you had no control over your third leg doesn't mean every other men will do the same. Your type is really why I'm starting to think some cousins can be unpredictable and untrustworthy coz I was initially feeling OP is just being unsecured. If you think you would fail and disappoint yourself and cousin, if you were in that shoe, then you're not fit to be called a responsible man People should keep an eye on you and never leave a woman or girl of any age lonely with you. You're a potential rapist. |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by ikezudon(m): 5:28am On Apr 16, 2022 |
Whether you leave him in the property or not, anything that wants to happen can still happen. As long as you are not around. In other news, no let all these telecom 3rd parties registering sim cards scam you oo... Here is how to check phone numbers linked to your NIN that are not yours. https://billzonthestreets.com/check-numbers-linked-to-nin/ Thank me later. |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Unrated900(m): 7:21am On Apr 16, 2022 |
We4all: Small boy like u On a faceless forum Sorry for u |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Smithwilliams826: 9:30am On Apr 16, 2022 |
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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by realsemaj: 9:52am On Apr 16, 2022 |
I think the problem here is that you don't trust your wife will be strong enough to be faithful. If you like go and rent a duplex for your cousin in another state as some suggested. An unfaithful woman will still carry the thing go visit him. My brother, who tells you they are not even doing it as you're around now |
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Cazzim(m): 11:20am On Apr 16, 2022 |
cj1900: your cousin is also your family infact brother, why did u want to send him out because of that haba baba,,,,look the issue is your wife not your cousin, your wife can still Bleep outside if she wants to, or even still meet up with your cousin if they want to, if u can't trust your wife with your cousin brother, then what about outsider,,, if I be your cousin and I found out that you are renting me another apartment or sending me out because you don't trust me with your wife, aswear I will discoursing u, thus u don't have to trust anyone Sha, but for my traditions is a big taboo to sleep with your brother or any of your relatives wife |
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