Damn n*ggah !!! I believe this guy's story to that of her ogbanje wife..quote me or wail..

LilMissFavvy:
Does this guy look like someone who can open a pharmacy and poultry business for his babe? Plus plenty other financial commitments? Liar*

This guy in his frustration* of being dumped*, is out to ruin the girls chances of ever finding a suitor that's why he lays emphasis on the "abortion* accusations". According to him she's a pharmacist. Which health practitioner would expose her womb to 3abortions* within 3years when her bride price was paid, introduction done and fiance available?. Since this man is very rich*, why did they date for 8yrs, and wedding plans dragged since 2020 till 2022. There is no truth or correlation in his side of the story.

Both ruined each other. I don't see a problem with that. If you believed the girl's side of the story without reservations, you should believe this too. Besides, the guy mentioned "witnesses like mother in law". You skipped that on purpose?

Since, according to the op, his mother in law knows about her daughter's abortions, I don't see why we have to judge one and exonerate the other.

hmmmmm woman woman woman what i am going true with my wife knawn only God know, if i hite her with my hand people will say domestic violence

THE SILENT PAINS OF A HUSBAND
Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

sholatech:
Kai.
Always two sides to every story

There are actually three sides to every story, but sadly, we only hear two sides.

Ethically, I've learnt not to dabble into matters of this nature again.

A lot is amiss and emotions is not a great tool while hearing people out this days.

dozieo:
THE SILENT PAINS OF A HUSBAND
Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

You need to create a thread for this bro, people need to read this, our society is so messed up today, everyone is talking about women issues, what about we men, its sickening and so pathetic.

SIMP got just what he deserved
Aborting without your knowledge should be the right time to take your leave. For the case to even get to a Medical Center means She had a Complication in the process.
Dumb ass loving nigga

dozieo:
THE SILENT PAINS OF A HUSBAND
Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

..... Good. Someone is getting my gist.

When we are ready to solve this issue of domestic violence,we know exactly where to start but from the comments I'm reading from here. It shows we are not ready yet.

seniorgozman:

I didn’t take sides with anyone, I just pointed out lies in his statement and I stand to be challenged, no government hospital will conduct abortion on you unless it's life threatening. I know the hospital in question.

In nigeria anything can happen forget protocols, sometimes patient are admitted without following due process, if she knows one high staff there anything can happen besides many things happen in govt hospital that are off records @least that one i get 1st hand experience. only vouch for weytin you use ur eye confirm

jrusky:
Oga biko keep quiet we are tired of men with no brain disgracing fellow men all the time.

Are you going to come out before I say you beat her? Even the beast called Peter Ochinahi demonic husband still denying touching her after so much evidence against him.

This is not the right time to go on defense in abuse case the death of Ochinachi still boiling people up so keep your explanation till later biko.

Your trap won't work she had dumped you and the is final go and marry your sister and turn her to punching bag.

Nonsense!!!

The most useless comment ever on this post. What a beautiful nonsense comment. So full of sentiment, emotions and hatred and no iota of good sense of judgment at all. Tufiakwa!

The foolish idiots on this platform will believe this nonsense story now.
This one that can't open small small biscuits and sweet shop for himself, is the one that will open pharmacy for somebody.
Ogbeni getat there.

This post reeks of fabricated lies lies. There's no ill thing he pinpointed the girl did to him, hence his abortion episode. Who does abortion in a federal hospital.
Oloriburuku somebody.

sharone21:
Oga, we know u didn't come to give any side of your story but to come spoil market for her so that she will be unmarriageable.

Y can't some people take NO when the other person is tired of their behaviour?

Na was o.

U are still unrepentant and still showing your evil side.

Coming out to denounce the wedding is NOT necessarily to expose your animalistic side but to tell people that she is officially not going to be married to u.

the lady in question brought their dirty linen outside, the guy only joined in the washing. If really the guy was abusing her, why wait for eight years? I know of a lady who dated a guy just to get iPhone from him. Women are users.

BRATISLAVA:


is that you, spurned not good-looking ex-husband?

Yeah, just checking to see if havent lost whats left of ur womb, abortion freak ex wife

Skidee:
The foolish idiots on this platform will believe this nonsense story now.
This one that can't open small small biscuits and sweet shop for himself, is the one that will open pharmacy for somebody.
Ogbeni getat there.

This post reeks of fabricated lies lies. There's no ill thing he pinpointed the girl did to him, hence his abortion episode. Who does abortion in a federal hospital.
Oloriburuku somebody.

people buy medical reports from this hospital's without undergoing any test. What are you saying? This is Nigeria.

dominique:


Couldn't have said it better

Quite a number of loopholes in his story some of which have been highlighted by other posters. He's definitely being economical with the truth. The lady might be lying too

between a man and woman, one would go the extra mile to get empathy ..

seniorgozman:

Exactly my point.

right

I said it but u people won't listen.always trying to post 1st oya naaa e don chatger

Some women are Evil. She lives with the man for 8 years, have 3 abortions and others not declared, postponed wedding 4 times. If what this man is saying is true she might remain single for the rest of her life. The man has save his life for letting her go. Whoever marry this woman Las Las will suffer like the sole of a shoe.

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Daniel7543:
Never you judge by your emotions. One need to hear from both sides.

There was a thread a man was declared wanted for beating his wife... The wife said so many ill things about her husband.

My comment was like "we need to hear from her husband's side of the story before we judge"

You need to see the way funmicoconuts, Kobojunkie, Jennyclay and Mariangeles dragged me like I fvck them for a night and refused to pay them.

Folks, stop judging by your emotions. That gender who bleeds in between their legs are dangerous.

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For you to remember the accurate spelling of my moniker, it means I left an imprint on your memory.

While you were at it, you should have told nairalanders that the BEAST YOU EXCUSED BEAT UP HIS HEAVILY PREGNANT WIFE!
For you to even not have found that disturbing says a lot about you.
Do you beat up pregnant women?
Don't let toxic likes from nairaland lead you astray. Watch yourself!

There’s a trend that appears to be brewing lately and this is not to say there isn’t equally a trend of physical abuse by so many old school husbands who are stuck in the past.

These days, a lady seeing her relationship about to end comes out to accuse her man of physical assault after deliberately assaulting him. That way she can disgrace or even make the man a criminal suspect or pariah to prevent other women from ever taking interest in him. More like putting a stain on him.

Who else saw that video of a Nigerian lady in Russia trying to provoke the man through physical assault? Guys be wise. Once you notice that a lady is toxic or full of vengeance, run first, and only engage in discussion from afar. Very scary stuff indeed.

Guys be wise- thread carefully with these women!

CryptoClub2018:
I believe this man. Most ladies are VERY wicked and evil. They know the society will believe them because they are women. They provoke you and push you to the wall and when you say pem, they start to play victim. Most of them are snakes and the society isn't fair to men at all. See the way people were condemning the man when the story broke out without listening to the man. See the rubbish false alarm made by that bastard Toyosi girl yesterday and without verification, foolish people started calling the number and raising curses on him until she issued a disclaimer. I wonder how the stupid people that believed that story will look at themselves and see how foolish they are.
The funny thing is that something like that will happen again and the stupid people will rush to believe because it's coming from a lady but if it were a man, they will laugh over it.
Thank God I am not God, I would have wiped out 70% of Nigerian girls

KingOfAllIgbos:


Yes I agree... to birth you.

Like I said...
You are a tribalistic slowpoke...
If e pain you go and fall on a cutlass

You said a lot... And said absolutely nothing at the same time. She is not marrying you again. Deal with it and stop addressing yourself as her husband! She has chosen a broken engagement to a broken marriage and possible violent death! She was not yet your lawful wife yet you made it a point of impregnating her 3 whole times even though you knew her stand about pregnancy and childbirth before marriage and then you come here to try to slander her about abortion or no abortion... Maybe she chose abortion to giving birth to the child of a serial abuser and manipulator... She is sha not doing again! Go and collect the bribes you gave her mother to keep supporting you at the detriment of her own child's safety and happiness. Tueh! See his face...

Harddiskng:


Some e-diots would say a lady’s past doesn’t matter yen yen yen.

I pity the man that would finally marry this one and call her wife.

In case you don't know, abortion is a criminal act in Nigeria and a federal government hospital will never carry out one except in cases where the woman's life is at risk. He clearly didn't think that through before writing it, only God knows what else he's lying about. The woman might not be a saint herself but the man is definitely lying.

Jung:
Don't need to sound like anything to an empty brain like you bro. Take am or leave am. Come beat me if e sure you

Do wise people suggest a fight because of an argument?

Mariangeles:
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For you to remember the accurate spelling of my moniker, it means I left an imprint on your memory.

While you were at it, you should have told nairalanders that the BEAST YOU EXCUSED BEAT UP HIS HEAVILY PREGNANT WIFE!
For you to even not have found that disturbing says a lot about you.
Do you beat up pregnant women?
Don't let toxic likes from nairaland lead you astray. Watch yourself!

Madam, I still stand by my word, I need to hear from both sides before judging.

Whether she's heavily pregnant or not is non of my business. I need to hear from her husband's side of the story.

seniorgozman:

Exactly my point.

You're a very mumu Simps.

Women never do you strong thing na why you dey defend them. Mumu Simpson.

Death to all simps.

His stories look fabricated.
1. She had numerous identities yet he wasn't bothered.
2. She had series of Abortions which he was in the know but he still wanted her because of the love he has.
3. Because of her condition, there was not going to a proper holy matrimony but a marriage blessing. The card showed holy matrimony which was slated today for LFC.
Why has he not laid all these complaints before now?
4.And he said she has called off the wedding on three occasions. Na by force to marry her if you no get any skeleton for ya cupboard.
Abeg abeg.

I don't know which one to believe oh but all the same, it's better it ended now u ppl hv not gone far.

immortalcrown:

I said in my previous comment that she was probably in the relationship for material and sexual benefits. Otherwise, why did she date a highly abusive man for more than a year? Are there no men she dated for less than a year? Why didn't she give those ones more than a year to see if they would change?

Fools who reason with their anus attacked me. Now, the man says she terminated pregnancies many times and squandered his money.

It is surprising that despite all the man wrote about the lady and the clear red flags, he was still willing to go ahead and marry her. Was he under juju or there are still other sides to the stories that we are yet to know?
Somebody doesn't want children outside wedlock but is postponing wedding and terminating pregnancies? Something is wrong somewhere.

cococandy:

He’s a dumb liar. Abortions are still illegal in Nigeria hence no federal hospital will partake in it.
If he’s saying the truth, let him name the doctor that did it. Ode

When will nairalanders learn to express themselves without vulgarity?

If the lady also claimed the guy beats her with knife and cutlass then let her show us the bruises. If she can't then she's a pathological lair.

Daniel7543:
Madam, I still stand by my word, I need to hear from both sides before judging.

Whether she's heavily pregnant or not is non of my business. I need to hear from her husband's side of the story.

Why would it be your business you uncompassionate soul?
You only care to be right right?
I repeat, don't allow nairaland toxic likes to lead you astray!

Let me also warn you; never ever associate my moniker with dirty words again, if you don't want to be unfortunate.