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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Banhammy717: 11:50pm On Apr 16, 2022
Only foolish parents buy Android phone for a child who is not yet in the university.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by olu77(m): 11:51pm On Apr 16, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
The two parties are to be blamed, both d adult male and d girl child.
If d girl child is not enjoying d conversation, she would hv informed d mum long time ago than hiding it and also passwording her phone.
Or d girl child would hv reported to her teacher on school, imagine adult offering her gifts and money and she accepted them without fear.
When I talk about female, dem go cum for my head,

The blame should go to the paedophile and the girl's parent who gave an underage girl a personal phone with right to privacy

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Basheer22: 11:51pm On Apr 16, 2022
OriOko88:

Don't mistake me for coward fool like you. Effing simp. Boda ode.

Look here, you cursed slave. You talk like a child molester and abuser and I guarantee you that you will die a painful, shameful death.
Some people have the means, contact and resources to make sure you spend the rest of your life in prison and that is not a joke. You will be picked up in a 'random' raid and kept in the coolers. No case file for you. Your family will run around but there won't be records of you in jail, so they won't be able to reach you. Be very careful, that's what I'll say.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by pocohantas(f): 11:54pm On Apr 16, 2022
Vinnie2000:
To all the pple Bashing emmanuelbrown, a 15yr old Girl is NOT a kid! Lets stop the pretence! She should have rejected the man's advances! I have seen 12 Yr old girls rebuff toasting from randy teenage boys! D girl and mostly her parents take some blame here!

E good say your money to get passport and leave Nigeria no fit ever complete. A 15yrs old is not a kid indeed.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by GloriousGbola: 11:55pm On Apr 16, 2022
OriOko88:

Its you Father's brain that's empty.. Its my opinion so get d fvxk off. Omo otee

Oh I see, your opinion, not actual facts. No wonder. Better not carry your diseased prick to obodo oyibo. Your opinion will carry no weight before the law.

Your honour it is my opinion that 8 year old vagina is supposed to be knacked. Therefore I am not guilty

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by olu77(m): 11:55pm On Apr 16, 2022
Adek15:
to have a girl child is so terrifying. It's only God that can save them. Anyone that can train a girl child properly till she gets married without blemish should be given a national award, e no easy

Whether girl child or boy child, I believe underage children should just be treated as underage children to avoid bringing shame to their parents

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by sgtponzihater1(m): 11:55pm On Apr 16, 2022
Very useful story. Sad how men destroy other people's children, when they will not allow anyone touch theirs.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by DontBullshitMe: 11:59pm On Apr 16, 2022
FAKE STORY from the pit of hell.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by TawTaw: 12:00am On Apr 17, 2022
pocohantas:


Yea right, as usual, make it about my age and claim I am jealous. Soon you would start peeling diapers off the bum of babies, because toto must be harvested ASAP. When I talk, you, in your record-breaking-stoopidity, would once again claim it is because I am old and jealous.

Did I at any point tell you I want to be younger and target of miscreants like you? You need a new brain. The problem is who is willing to donate to someone that would never use it.
Shut up!

You generalised when you said " men can't wait..."

Funny I had attacked same poster who said legal age for girls is 16


Uncommonly burlapped in ignorance, ypu couldn't correct him to know it's still 18 in Nigeria, instead you went on your well documented bitter , all-consuming man-hate .

You've always been such an insufferable witling.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Itzlinda(f): 12:00am On Apr 17, 2022
mysticgal:

You should apply good reasoning before speaking/typing now you are sounding not just dumb but very slow. How can you bloody say a 15 year old is/was enjoying a sexual conversation, a 15 year old is a child, male or female dumbo, that's a child. Every blame goes to the paedophile.
So you mean if sex had happened, the minor would be blamed for enjoying it?
She is a child and that's why the government proscribed 18 as consent age.
Slowpoke

In my place na 16 years. Ain’t 16 years old having sex?
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Vinnie2000(m): 12:00am On Apr 17, 2022
LadyRosa:



Your father's married 15 years old according to traditional rites,am sure it doesn't include raping the first. undecided

You want to compare the old age of female early marriage grooming to a civilized age where girls are becoming even more educated than the men?!
You and Pocohantas re arguing with sentiments or gender bias! Honestly, a 15yr old IS NOT a kid! @dat age, a girl is supposed to have learnt how to say NO to a guy/man and also have SENSE. One Tailor guy sew a cloth for a girl and when she came to collect it one nite when he had closed, he said she should then come pick it@his house! D girl gave him a big No! So u get it, right? Pls u guys should cut d pretence!

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by OriOko88(m): 12:01am On Apr 17, 2022
Basheer22:


Look here, you cursed slave. You talk like a child molester and abuser and I guarantee you that you will die a painful, shameful death.
Some people have the means, contact and resources to make sure you spend the rest of your life in prison and that is not a joke. You will be picked up in a 'random' raid and kept in the coolers. No case file for you. Your family will run around but there won't be records of you in jail, so they won't be able to reach you. Be very careful, that's what I'll say.
Its your fore fathers that re cursed slaves. And its you gangan who's gonna die a miserable death.. Ogun strike u dead
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by pocohantas(f): 12:05am On Apr 17, 2022

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by iykejohnson(m): 12:05am On Apr 17, 2022
babajeje123:

You guys should stop being miserable by blaming the girl. She is a teen who is not fortunate to have responsible parents. I can bet it that the parents had no or limited time for the girl before the incident. All blames should go to the parents and the old paedophile.
Which one is being miserable.
Oga, some 15 in the north are married.
I blame the parents, I blame the bastard man and the girl has some blame as well.
I am still saying it, the girl deserves resetting slap

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by LadyRosa(f): 12:09am On Apr 17, 2022
Vinnie2000:
You and Pocohantas re arguing with sentiments or gender bias! Honestly, a 15yr old IS NOT a kid! @dat age, a girl is supposed to have learnt how to say NO to a guy/man and also have SENSE. One Tailor guy sew a cloth for a girl and when she came to collect it one nite when he had closed, he said she should then come pick it@his house! D girl gave him a big No! So u get it, right? Pls u guys should cut d pretence!

There's no sentiment to this.People are wired differently as even a 30 year old woman still say they "accidentally" got pregnant.

PEOPLE ARE WIRED DIFFERENTLY,and for this there are rules/laws when it involves a minor.An ADULT ought to know better.DONT TALK INTIMACY with teenagers,don't tell them they are beautiful,don't buy them stuffs without their parents availability if they are not your kids!


A girl child with low esteem can easily fall for a man who keeps praising her.ITS THE POPULAR WAY YOU MEN SLEEP WITH THIS MINORS!

They should stick with the matured ones and leave the kids the heck ALONE!

Give them the opportunity to grow a little bit more damn it!

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by TawTaw: 12:10am On Apr 17, 2022
pocohantas:


And you are what? How exactly is men generalization? Did I say ALL men. Men is a generic word. If you are one of the said men, that is fine and definitely not surprising.

Yes, I hate men. Is there anything new you want to tell this honourable forum in 2022? Because you are beginning to come off like the insufferable wilting you accuse someone else to be. Please stop being stoopid. I chose to indulge you because you think anyone is scared of you. Dumb modafucker that thinks himself a wordsmith. Your mates are in Investment section empowering younger minds. At over 40, you are still priding in being an e-bully. Nnewi based cretin! Don’t go and sleep early so that you would be the first to fetch water from your neighbours house tomorrow morning.

If the tawtaw wey born you well still tight, enter night bus and come shut me up in my house. Make I see whether you no go collect.
I stopped at the second paragraph.....

Stop courting likes by calling this forum honourable. It is everything but honourable. you're such a people -pleasing snowflake!

And yes you said "men can't wait to start smashing vagina." That's bleeding generalisation and if you deny it's not , then you're a cowardly 21st century digital Pharisee!

Or your brain needs to be donated for the study of autism.

Need to know how you fake it and deny it.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by abbey621(m): 12:10am On Apr 17, 2022
Vinnie2000:
You and Pocohantas re arguing with sentiments or gender bias! Honestly, a 15yr old IS NOT a kid! @dat age, a girl is supposed to have learnt how to say NO to a guy/man and also have SENSE. One Tailor guy sew a cloth for a girl and when she came to collect it one nite when he had closed, he said she should then come pick it@his house! D girl gave him a big No! So u get it, right? Pls u guys should cut d pretence!

This isn't about sense or maturity, it is about the LAW! If kid behaves foolishly must an adult behave the same way? A 15 year old might not be a kid in your eyes but the law considers them underage hence you do anyhow, you go see anyhow!

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Grandmeister(m): 12:10am On Apr 17, 2022
pocohantas:


And you are what? How exactly is men generalization? Did I say ALL men. Men is a generic word. If you are one of the said men, that is fine and definitely not surprising.

Yes, I hate men. Is there anything new you want to tell this honourable forum in 2022? Because you are beginning to come off like the insufferable wilting you accuse someone else to be. Please stop being stoopid. I chose to indulge you because you think anyone is scared of you. Dumb modafucker that thinks himself a wordsmith. Your mates are in Investment section empowering younger minds. At over 40, you are still priding in being an e-bully. Nnewi based cretin! Don’t go and sleep early so that you would be the first to fetch water from your neighbours house tomorrow morning.

If the tawtaw wey born you well still tight, enter night bus and come shut me up in my house. Make I see whether you no go collect.
He cussed you and you cussed him out draw game, but you felt you needed to land an imaginary e-knockout and then resorted to including his mother's private part. You women never fail to amaze me.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by mrdino(m): 12:12am On Apr 17, 2022
mysticgal:

You should apply good reasoning before speaking/typing now you are sounding not just dumb but very slow. How can you bloody say a 15 year old is/was enjoying a sexual conversation, a 15 year old is a child, male or female dumbo, that's a child. Every blame goes to the paedophile.
So you mean if sex had happened, the minor would be blamed for enjoying it?
She is a child and that's why the government proscribed 18 as consent age.
Slowpoke

There's no point in arguing with this person, from his stance (and of course reasoning) you should know by now that you are arguing with a potential (or active) paedophile.

This is a faceless forum, but there's a saying that goes thus: to see a person's true face (i.e., true character) give him a mask.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Vinnie2000(m): 12:12am On Apr 17, 2022
pocohantas:


E good say your money to get passport and leave Nigeria no fit ever complete. A 15yrs old is not a kid indeed.
See really, a 15 yr old Girl is NOT a kid! @dat age, my Elder sister was cooking, baking, frying garri, etc. And most especially was rebuffing Men/guys! Dat Girl could have acted better! Y do u tink her father angrily wanted to send her to d Village?? She shud take some blame but the bigger blame should be on the parents who didnt give her sex education and d Evil paedophile!
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by pocohantas(f): 12:13am On Apr 17, 2022

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by rimijoshua(m): 12:13am On Apr 17, 2022
I blame your daughter.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Grandmeister(m): 12:13am On Apr 17, 2022
LadyRosa:


There's no sentiment to this.People are wired differently as even a 30 year old woman still say they "accidentally" got pregnant.

PEOPLE ARE WIRED DIFFERENTLY,and for this there are rules/laws when it involves a minor.An ADULT ought to know better.DONT TALK INTIMACY with teenagers,don't tell them they are beautiful,don't buy them stuffs without their parents availability if they are not your kids!


A girl child with low esteem can easily fall for a man who keeps praising her.ITS THE POPULAR WAY YOU MEN SLEEP WITH THIS MINORS!

They should stick with the matured ones and leave the kids the heck ALONE!

Give them the opportunity to grow a little bit more damn it!
Valid points devoid of mudslinging and irate slurs.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by bayogbite(m): 12:14am On Apr 17, 2022
The man did not do enough,the man deserved to be jailed for few years! Although shaming him is very good but not enough!!
QuinModah:
*DON’T LOSE GUARD WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS*

You can't be too sure...

I watched a skit a few minutes ago and I remembered an incident that happened last year. I have her permission to share without revealing names or locations. Also some details have been changed.

A mother asked to use her fifteen year old daughter’s phone for some days while her own phone was being repaired.

WhatsApp messages dropped on the phone. Her daughter had passworded her WhatsApp so she couldn’t see the messages.

Out of curiosity, she tried some passwords and her daughter’s birthday was the password. She opened the WhatsApp and almost died, with the shock of what she saw.

A man in the next building had been chatting with her daughter. He had made several sexual advances towards her, which the daughter refused. He was adamant. He pursued her. He sent her recharge cards, came to her school to give her gifts and money.

He asked her if she had a boyfriend or have ever had intimacy, she said no. He pursued her some more.

He requested for her pictures, almost unclad, which she initially refused to send him but when he sent his, she sent hers. It was nothing too revealing as she was in her bra and underwear.

He taught her how to password her WhatsApp.

Then he pushed for more. He wanted to see her completely nude. She couldn’t take such a picture because she shared a room with her siblings.

He asked her to lock herself in the bathroom for them to have a video call.

She saw messages like “Did you like what you saw?” “ Stop being shy around me.” “Why are you afraid? Nobody will see you.” He sent a picture of his nudity to her. A girl of fifteen!

It became terrifying when her daughter sent a chat saying she saw him with his wife the other night and he ignored her. She knew her daughter had fallen and it was a matter of time before the guy had his way.

She contacted me and asked me for advice. I have helped her in the past so she felt she could confide in me.

The truth is, when such a thing happens, you have to get someone who will treat the man’s Bleep-up very well. Who is the person who will be angry enough to do that No other person than her father.

She was scared her husband will dump the blame on her. She was looking for another way to handle it without him.

I told her, “If you handle it quietly, the man will be wiser and will ensure he won’t be caught since he is obsessed with your daughter that he patiently groomed her. It is best he is disgraced and only her father will do that unless he is a useless man that’s when he will keep quiet.” I told her she is lucky the girl hadn’t agreed to be alone with the man anywhere. It was getting close to that.

Her husband didn’t disappoint me. Immediately he read the chats and saw the ‘manhood’ he took off to the man’s house that night. The wife ran after him. He banged continuously on the gate.

Well, the man got what was coming to him. He was disgraced. The evidence of their chats were there. His neighbours were shocked because he portrayed a picture of a saint but he was the devil and also a paedophile.

The husband wanted to take the matter to the Police but everyone begged. The landlord of their house and the man’s house also appealed to him not to escalate the matter. They begged him not to expose his chats on social media as his wife, my friend, had promised to do.

The culprit’s wife left him. He eventually had to move out of the house immediately the rent was due. The disgrace was too much for them to handle. Everywhere he went in the neighborhood, mothers were wary of him around their daughters.

They have collected the phones from their children. If you are not in university, no more phones.

How did they handle the girl? I asked them not to beat her. But the father refused to listen. He said she had brought disgrace to the household. He wanted to send her to the village but I stopped him. She needed therapy not to be shamed. I told the mother to take her to see a psychologist at Yaba left. It worked!

Older men groom very young girls and turn them into sex slaves. It was what this man was doing. The kind of chats they had was irritating coming from a grown man. He was able to make her do some of the things he wanted by doing them first.

That phone your daughter holds very dear to her heart, please once in a while, check it. Make sure she is not being groomed for someone’s perversion. Check what she is doing and advise her. Anyone younger than sixteen shouldn’t be on social media. Anyone still in secondary school shouldn’t be there too, regardless of their age.

Girls have been lured to travel abroad to be sex slaves, all by grooming or greed. They make them hate their families and believe they are the only ones that love them . They give them attention and say sweet things to them often. It is easy to fall for such.

Teach your children these signs and also do not expose them unnecessarily to these men. Paedophiles are evolving. They are getting smarter. We have to keep our girls safe.

I love you all.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by sript: 12:15am On Apr 17, 2022
A stupendous callaps of parenting....

If a daughter of that age find it difficult to even tell her mother the advances of an he-goats in human form, I mean what does that tells you??

Both parents has failed..

Lets not pretend like these things started yesterday,and as painful as it is, is not going anytime soon ....as people will say "e don tey".. Things like this has happened and will continue to happen,as parents leave lapses in the lives of their projeny unfurnately it's here to stay, especially at least not with way the world is going. As a woman you supposed to be smarter and calculative in intercepting danger from afar with regards to training our children especially the females...such occurrences are preventable... people are getting wild like the beast of the forest with thier stupid sexual fantasies and all sorts...

I don't get somethings... As a parent especially the mother, what do you discuss with a girl teenager of that age... Give your child a reason to trust you with anything, build sound relationship with them,.it's your duty
Don't you ask questions if any idiot is approaching her.??

Are u supposed to feign ignorance and asummed that she won't be getting attention from the opposite sex?


Like I said, it is PREVENTED. Restrict the usage of smart phones until a certain age when you must have done your part in telling them the dangers of XYZ..


My two cents

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by pocohantas(f): 12:15am On Apr 17, 2022
Grandmeister:

He cussed you and you cussed him out draw game, but you felt you needed to land an imaginary e-knockout and then resorted to including his mother's private part. You women never fail to amaze me.

Yes, women will not cease to amaze you because in your false sensibility and civility, you have failed to realize that some of the ladies that you guys insult here are people’s mothers too. It seems you sef wan collect.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by TawTaw: 12:17am On Apr 17, 2022
pocohantas:


They no born you well!!! The person wey born you no reach to born person wey go successfully take me down. Her tawtaw na gold?!!

You think because I just dey behave these days, I don’t know how to put ediots like you in place again?You look monikers to bully and you picked Pocohantas? You are mistaking my recent gentle strides for cowardice?

Look at this unaccomplished old man. Your mates have gone on to build careers and homes. But here you, are over 40, trying to increase my age and console your pathetic state. I will give you something to think about this night. You are the old one. Not me!
I just got you where I needed you....angry and out of control in front page and in front of the strangers you draw your life's worth from..

I have totally out-manoeuvred, out-witted and out-classed and out-fact you.

A pig can't resist the mud grin grin grin

I give you pocohantas as bitter and sad and frustrated as can ever be. cool
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Grandmeister(m): 12:19am On Apr 17, 2022
pocohantas:


Yes, women will not cease to amaze you because in your false sensibility and civility, you have failed to realize that some of the ladies that you guys insult here are people’s mothers too. It seems you sef wan collect.
I won't even give you the e-satisfaction of rolling in the mud with you. If you are a mother you will appreciate even his mother and not throwing vulgar slurs at a woman you know nothing about. Face the person you're exchanging inanities with and leave his mum out.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by 30naira: 12:19am On Apr 17, 2022
mysticgal:


Why should we talk about a girl that is been coerced by a grown man to give her numbers, her nudes to him. Oh please cry your tears about irritational cases mr clear judgement.

A 15 year old lacks sexual consent. You can smell and see a minor regardless of the body stature. Don’t be stewpid in a public forum. She is 15 slowpoke

You are actually making a very sound argument, but it would be easier to educate and enlighten if you just leave out the name calling and insult.

Alot of men do not understand what statutory rape is. That is the reason why they defend this sort of crime.

If instead of educating and enlightening, you choose to attack and insult, the ignorant person will never receive an enlightenment, and society, expecially the females you want to protect will be worse off for it.

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by pocohantas(f): 12:19am On Apr 17, 2022

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by pocohantas(f): 12:21am On Apr 17, 2022

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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Basheer22: 12:21am On Apr 17, 2022
OriOko88:

Its your fore fathers that re cursed slaves. And its you gangan who's gonna die a miserable death.. Ogun strike u dead

You're the one here, right? You will see. Others will learn from your ordeal.

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