MadamVanessa:




Inasmuch as I kick strongly against domestic violence on women. But if we want to be objective and look critically into most of domestic violence carried out by men on women, we'll see that about 68% of it are caused by women.

The way and Manner wives talk at their husbands is always sad, and it's enough to make a sane man go insane immediately and unleashed his anger on the wife through beating.

Men should learn how to control their anger, because when you lay your hands on a woman, the society don't want to know the level of insults the woman gave you, all the blame will be on you and almost everybody including your fellow men would see you as a very irresponsible person.

You have absolutely no qualms about women abusing their husbands and the only solution is that men should learn to control their anger.

Hassanmaye:
Have you shag one before?

Never!

dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.
But the truth is that, I'm a very emotional person and I'm easily angered. Infact my hubby is the most annoying human being on planet Earth...
He has a way of getting at you and he does that on a daily basis .
So when he does that, I try to hold in the anger for days but when I can't hold it anymore, I explode... When I'm done telling him all those things, I feel better.
So you see , Venting is my coping mechanism.
We women we DNT do that intentionally, that is just our own way of expressing the anger that we have held for so long.
May God help each and everyone one of us Sha.

Modified: to all those he goats that are killing themselves on my post.... Feel free to hit your head on the wall
I'm still with my hubby and we are still in peace ... If you DNT like that fact, feel free to go home and beat up your wives that's if you have one.

You are demented person. You need help

VictorUSA:
The reason why I hate women is the rate at which I see married women flirting with me.Could you believe that imam wife was just casting seductive looks at me? She does things I don't understand, saying somethings that tells me clearly that she's interested in me.Imam's wife.Women are all useless regardless of their origin.

Bro, I was once at this point in life aside my mum and sisters have nothing but intense hate towards women.

I think it goes beyond married women seducing you. There is something aside your story women had done which triggered this level of hatred towards them but I am assuring you, you will be fine and still get married to a wonderful lady that will make you forget the regrets. Forgive and forget

ManOfSon:


Any man who cannot hold it together, cannot maintain sanity in the face of even the vilest provocation; if he thinks anger from a woman's verbal abuse is sufficient justification for physical violence - he should enjoy his life by himself, unmarried. Not everyone is mature enough for marriage. And marriage is not by force.

U never marry. Pray hard.. as i dey so, i done tire, u can never understand.

emekachief:
Women are highly promiscuous, irritating and annoying. I had lost count of the number of married women I slept with. I'm married with kids now, I wouldn't have married if not because of children. I hate women with passion

There is a New married woman in my area if you see the way she looks at me you will be shocked. I respect her husband and he is a good man I can't do such to a good man

Referring to her husband as d worst on earth, tells a lot about her

ChoCho54:
The man in question is her husband. She said he's the worst in the world. And he does his thing everyday.

The one I'm with is already bad enough, what should I do with the worst of them all?

VictorUSA:
Never!

Why? Because the way you talk I taught you do before

Hell no get fury like that of woman when them scorn. And it's very easy for some women to feel scorned apart from the fact that maybe the man fcked up. Also once a woman is irritated by her man, maybe bcuz of one failure or inadequacy, men it is finished oh.

VeeVeeMyLuv:

Hahaha correct

It should be inserted as a clause or precondition into the marital vows.

U talk about leave leave as if its a pot of beans, u have kids and u dont want divorce.. its so complicated, can the unmarried stay off this conversation. Please make una try understand men truly dey suffer.

Dynamicboss:


Bro, I was once at this point in life aside my mum and sisters have nothing but intense hate towards women.

I think it goes beyond married women seducing you. There is something aside your story women had done which triggered this level of hatred towards them but I am assuring you, you will be fine and still get married to a wonderful lady that will make you forget the regrets. Forgive and forget

What made me hate women is the fact that they are married but still flirt with other men.

Dybala11:

Really??
Please where did she made the comment that her husband is the worst in the world??
Also, why can't she divorce him if that's true instead of putting up with the worst man on Earth since there are better men all around her.
Why not do away with men altogether since only women are good and all men are bad??
Why manage something that is not good to start with??
You're a joker ma'am.

It's a beautiful combination man and woman is.
The gods are wise.

Anyone who actually thinks that no matter the circumstances or problems, a man or a woman should not opt out of a toxic marriage is living in a fool's paradise.

royalfly:


U talk about leave leave as if its a pot of beans, u have kids and u dont want divorce.. its so complicated, can the unmarried stay off this conversation. Please make una try understand men truly dey suffer.

Yea when children come into the picture, it is difficult to just walk away. One is usually caught up in a twisted nexus of intricate complex.

ChoCho54:
It's a beautiful combination man and woman is.
The gods are wise.

They truly are. Finding the true balance between both gender is a big issue these days sha. Las las, let everybody go for whatever works for each of us.
Some guys like me hates been subjected to emotional abuse same way as we hate subjecting others to such.

dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.
But the truth is that, I'm a very emotional person and I'm easily angered. Infact my hubby is the most annoying human being on planet Earth...
He has a way of getting at you and he does that on a daily basis .
So when he does that, I try to hold in the anger for days but when I can't hold it anymore, I explode... When I'm done telling him all those things, I feel better.
So you see , Venting is my coping mechanism.
We women we DNT do that intentionally, that is just our own way of expressing the anger that we have held for so long.
May God help each and everyone one of us Sha.

Modified: to all those he goats that are killing themselves on my post.... Feel free to hit your head on the wall
I'm still with my hubby and we are still in peace ... If you DNT like that fact, feel free to go home and beat up your wives that's if you have one.

See the trash this one is saying, Coping Mechanism my foot. It is your children I pity because I can't imagine the magnitude of emotional abuse they will suffer at your hand. You better change for good before your husband throws you out.

luminouz:


Feed your husband Easter chicken and pounded yam jare. It's late

Because I be chef or im mama?

alfarouq:
Anyone who actually thinks that no matter the circumstances or problems, a man or a woman should not opt out of a toxic marriage is living in a fool's paradise.

Most man and woman don't want to keep their vow whether in good or bad times.

Verbal abuse & physical abuse should not mean for better for worse,
But sadly this what most couples feel it is.

Dynamicboss:


The strength of men lies in their muscle while women lies in their tongue. Recall in biblical era when women caused increased envy between Saul and David which propelled the unexplainable anger between these men because of their mouth.

Women had realised the way to kill a man faster is verbal violence as they capitalize it with full gears to shatter our emotions. There is no woman, whether virtuous or not who doesn't possess this act just that the level differs. We got no choice than to manage them but kudos to the calm and positive vocal women out there

Calm I don't know, but the positive it is for me.

Double0h7:
I honestly believe verbal and emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. If you notice in society we accept it when a woman complains about being verbally and emotionally abused by her man and we rally around her. When men say they are being verbally abused we tell them that that's just what women do, women are emotional and they say things they don't mean, etc etc.

We women need to control our tongue because our mouth is the equivalence of our muscles. We attack verbally which is still an attack and a form of abuse.

I am guilty of running my mouth and I speak to myself first

I made the point in a previous thread on this issue.

Dybala11:

Another woman just made a comment that this lady said that her husband is the worst on Earth. What some people won't do to get cheap likes from people who doesn't give 2 shits about their life does not exist sha.

Did my post imply that I supported or was against what she said? All I wanted you to get was that, I have no reason to doubt her description because who feels it knows it.

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Domestic violence can only end when both genders accept their culpabilities.
But as long as women believe that verbal abuse is nothing,then we will still be experiencing it.

Very very true

Hassanmaye:

You nailed it when you mentioned men sexual thirst, Many Many can do anything to please a woman when the urge rise, many come back to their senses when they cum

I wish I knew men like these and married one.

donleo92:

Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

The most insulting and abusive people, even on this forum, are men. Men also give a lot of verbal abuse and get away with it due to the lies that only women nag.

Tell us why.

IamAsiri:


This thread is making it seem that only men are verbally abused as against majority of women being domestically abused and that was what I tried to correct.

I didn't see it this way... I read it as an awareness for men who are verbally abused by their wives. Unless you're claiming that such cases don't exist then there's nothing to correct here. IMHO!

Pastorsmile:
Women are good and well behaved only when they haven't got into your home. Once you get married to them,you will begin to see their real colour. My advice to young men is that they should be very careful not to rush into a fruitless journey in the name of marriage.
Women respect you when you haven't committed that much. Once you do, forget about it.

True o

ChoCho54:
Did my post imply that I supported or was against what she said? All I wanted you to get was that, I have no reason to doubt her description because who feels it knows it.

I understand your approach then, although I think that it's still a little bit biased. Biased because she just admitted to being EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE to her husband and you're ready to give her a pass because she said that she's trying to change (however good it is for her to change). Whether she's trying to change or not does not erase those moments of abuse and insults that she has meted out to her husband.
Also, you've totally castigated the husband even though the wife never gave a reason for her subjecting him to emotional abuse, or do you think that her husband is beyond emotional breakdown because he's a man and that he should continue to take those abuse from her till eternity??
I'm not saying the woman's husband is a good person or that he's a bad person, but the fact is that how do you acquit an abusive person on the basis that she's trying to change and condemn the victim of such an abuse??
It's like acquitting a wife beater of his wrong-doings because he said that it's his wife that is always causing the messy/ugly situations because she always insults him. You don't talk down on the personality of a child sef, not to talk of the person you profess to love except if the person decides to tow the line of stupidity at least.

MadamVanessa:




Inasmuch as I kick strongly against domestic violence on women. But if we want to be objective and look critically into most of domestic violence carried out by men on women, we'll see that about 68% of it are caused by women.

The way and Manner wives talk at their husbands is always sad, and it's enough to make a sane man go insane immediately and unleashed his anger on the wife through beating.

Men should learn how to control their anger, because when you lay your hands on a woman, the society don't want to know the level of insults the woman gave you, all the blame will be on you and almost everybody including your fellow men would see you as a very irresponsible person.

Madam u spoke very well but you are still somehow biased.
You should have use this medium to tell women to try as much as possible to control their mouth too.
Telling men to try and control their anger is what lead to those pictures up there.

Bottom line is both partners should respect and, above all LOVE, each other.

The toxic, wicked narrative that wives are free to run thier mouth ("because you know women are emotional beings"), while the man 'walks away' (since he's made of wood, apparently) should be thrown to the trash can.

Either partner who derives sadistic joy inflicting pain (verbal, mental, physical) on the other need to clearly identify it for what it is: a problem, and seek counselling, rather than try to justify it.

Elporo:


A miserable man, in a miserable marriage. An emotional punching bag for a mentally unstable and abusive wife.

Come on, Comrade!
The man offend you?

Imbecilicsamuel:


They can't take what they dish out.

Do you know the verbal abuse women face from men on a daily basis?

Use nairaland as an example. Look at the insults males here hurl at females and they are not married oo. The moment they see (f) close to your moniker, your opinion no longer matters.

Go to Facebook, the same thing. One inventless bat even tried bullying me on quora. I insulted the fool and he ran to the admin. My comment was deleted.

It's what you teach that the women practice so
Oga remove your d1ck from your mouth and just shut up!!!!

Remove his D but it's D one lady is begging me now

ChoCho54:
I wish I knew men like these and married one.

It's not late