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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by luluman: 4:51pm On Apr 23, 2022
odinson1:
Women Basically want 3 things
1. the Power and Authority of a man
2. The Privileges of Being a Woman
3. The Accountability of A child.

I pity those ignorant, naive men who are fighting for Equality for women. Those idiots don't realize that they are being cheated,the woman you are fighting for,is trying to overthrow your power. She will expect you to man up and fight for her,or Provide when times are hard. But when times are good,they will drag equality with you. Take the Russian/Ukraine war as a case study. The women are allowed to leave,but the men are mandated to stay. Not a single feminist came out to say women were being Relegated (because they are weak,which is true).
You know why? It is because times are hard,it is war,so they don't have the luxury to be fighting for equality now.
I concur
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 4:51pm On Apr 23, 2022
phemmyfour:
Eph 5:22-25

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
But Jesus Christ never taught submission, instead He taught equality among all those in His Kingdom. - Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10 undecided

Submission which is mentioned in Ephesians instead comes from God's curse on marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16 as previously mentioned and last I checked, a curse is not an agreement nor a blessing. undecided
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by apatheticme(f): 4:52pm On Apr 23, 2022
Gee64:
I'm a male- an experienced one at that! You boys will not understand the secret of a lasting relationship.

They will not listen to you!!

Don't bother engaging them. Many of them learn when it's already late. Leave them to their folly!

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by realG101(m): 4:57pm On Apr 23, 2022
I personally believe husband and wife should maintain a level of equality in marriage. But what pushes the balance of equality off is when the man is virtually the only provider and the woman brings nothing in terms of finance.

A woman who doesn't support the husband financially in providing for the family will have to be super submissive.

My advice is women should also achieve substantial financial empowerment before they get married

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by phemmyfour: 4:59pm On Apr 23, 2022
Kobojunkie:
agreement ke? undecided
God, who sanctioned marriage in Genesis 2 vs 24, turned and cursed marriage with submission as His curse in Genesis 3 vs 16 (in addition to cursing child bearing), this after man fell. undecided

So how can what is a curse be said to be an agreement?? undecided
2Tim3:16-17

All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: [17] That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by apatheticme(f): 5:07pm On Apr 23, 2022
Winters23:


No matter how Africans tries to copy western degenerate culture, Africa will never be western!

Here in Africa A MAN AND A WOMAN CAN NEVER BE EQUAL!

One drunken man is more intelligent than three women with PHD!

A wife will forever be under the husband

A girlfriend will always be a bitch to her guy

Don't ever bring this nonsense gender equility cum feminism here, take it to quora and reddit where the western pigs massage their ego.

Wonders shall never end on Nairaland Toxicland!!

@bolded has got to be the dumbest thing I've heard this year.

I'm sure an agbero is better than a professor in your village as long as the agbero is a male and the professor is a female!

Africa will forever move backwards, no thanks to brain dead folks like you who rate mediocrity over brains because of useless male ego. Tueh.

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 5:15pm On Apr 23, 2022
phemmyfour:
2Tim3:16-17

All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: [17] That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.
Well, what is written above does not change the Truth of God as stated so far.....which is.. that Jesus Christ never taught submission, instead He taught equality among all those in His Kingdom. - Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10 undecided

Submission which is mentioned in Ephesians instead comes from God's curse on marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16 as previously mentioned and last I checked, a curse is not an agreement nor a blessing. undecided

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 5:17pm On Apr 23, 2022
realG101:
I personally believe husband and wife should maintain a level of equality in marriage. But what pushes the balance of equality off is when the man is virtually the only provider and the woman brings nothing in terms of finance.

A woman who doesn't support the husband financially in providing for the family will have to be super submissive.

My advice is women should also achieve substantial financial empowerment before they get married
Would a man who doesn't support the wife financially in providing for the family also under the same super submissive requirement? undecided

There are equally many homes out there where the woman is breadwinner. undecided

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by apatheticme(f): 5:18pm On Apr 23, 2022
ednut1:
Dont be deceived alot of women are breadwinners in many Nigerian marriages

Nairaland boys, incels and AWALT won't believe you! To them, only men are breadwinners.

Let them enter marriage first!!

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by apatheticme(f): 5:34pm On Apr 23, 2022
Connected1:

Is that a condition for equality?

I thought you guys always puff your chests and brag you're making all the money, so there can't be equality.

If the woman is also making money then why can't that be a condition for equality??

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by goshee: 5:39pm On Apr 23, 2022
Gee64:
That a woman shares in decision-making doesn't make her the boss. Marriage is not an organisation. It is a union where both parties should be equal shareholders. Marriage is the only human institution where you have two heads giving moral instructions to their offspring and managing the affairs of the family on equal terms. That way, a harmonious relationship will be established.
Marriage is a business partnership that favours only the women. Tell me one advantage a man has over his wife in that marriage
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by phemmyfour: 5:39pm On Apr 23, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Well, what is written above does not change the Truth of God as stated so far.....which is.. that Jesus Christ never taught submission, instead He taught equality among all those in His Kingdom. - Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10 undecided

Submission which is mentioned in Ephesians instead comes from God's curse on marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16 as previously mentioned and last I checked, a curse is not an agreement nor a blessing. undecided
Have you not heard that

Galatians 3:13, NIV: Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: 'Cursed is everyone who is hung on a pole.'
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by jaxxy(m): 5:40pm On Apr 23, 2022
apatheticme:


They will not listen to you!!

Don't bother engaging them. Many of them learn when it's already late. Leave them to their folly!

Leadership or equality in marriage is not based on who is the breadwinner. The breadwinner can change anytime.

Any marriage or relationship based on status for control is doomed to fail.

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 5:43pm On Apr 23, 2022
phemmyfour:
Have you not heard that

Galatians 3:13, NIV: Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: 'Cursed is everyone who is hung on a pole.'
If you truly believe Jesus Christ redeemed you from the curse, then you would do as Jesus Christ commands in Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10 , this as opposed to continuing to bow to the curse in Genesis 3 vs 16 -22 by choosing submission on marriage. undecided

This is very simple choice given you by Jesus Christ. undecided
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 5:44pm On Apr 23, 2022
jaxxy:
Leadership or equality in marriage is not based on who is the breadwinner. The breadwinner can change anytime.

Any marriage or relationship based on status for control to doomed to fail.
So what relevant criteria is this claimed leadership based on then? undecided

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by phemmyfour: 5:47pm On Apr 23, 2022
Kobojunkie:
If you truly believe Jesus Christ redeemed you from the curse, then you would do as Jesus Christ commands in Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10 , this as opposed to continuing to bow to the curse in Genesis 3 vs 16 -22 by choosing submission on marriage. undecided

This is very simple choice given you by Jesus Christ. undecided
Marriage is an institution ordained by God. Mt 23vs8 says nothing about marriage
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Dada4me: 5:52pm On Apr 23, 2022
Because the manufacturer did not include it in marriage manual
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 5:55pm On Apr 23, 2022
phemmyfour:
Marriage is an institution ordained by God. Mt 23vs8 says nothing about marriage
Again, the same God who instituted marriage in Genesis 2 vs 24, turned and cursed marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16, rendering it unholy - no longer of God - by His judgement. undecided

The same God who reminded you in Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God aka your marriage remains unholy to Him.. undecided

Matthew 23 vs 8 declares all equal in the Kingdom of God. Do you think your marriages(unholy) can somehow cause inequality to creep into the Kingdom of God? undecided

That which is unholy has no place in God's Kingdom and does not belong to Him but to the curse. undecided
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by realG101(m): 5:57pm On Apr 23, 2022
My answer should be a straight yes but men's approach is a little different when they are not contributing to provision..their ego sets in and that is where you have a couple trying to divorce. Ordinarily, any man who doesn't contribute to provision at all is not worthy to be called a man or head of the family. It's okay if the woman happens to be doing more. In today's world, women are almost at par with men in terms of earning power.
Kobojunkie:
Would a man who doesn't support the wife financially in providing for the family also under the same super submissive requirement? undecided

There are equally many homes out there where the woman is breadwinner. undecided
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Winters23: 5:58pm On Apr 23, 2022
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apatheticme:


Wonders shall never end on Nairaland Toxicland!!

@bolded has got to be the dumbest thing I've heard this year.

I'm sure an agbero is better than a professor in your village as long as the agbero is a male and the professor is a female!

Africa will forever move backwards, no thanks to brain dead folks like you who rate mediocrity over brains because of useless male ego. Tueh.
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woke fo0l

is it only gender equality you can learn from the west?

why not marry your fellow gender in the name of same s*x marriage grin ?

it's not okay to embrace some and leave some, take it all, Mr black slave!

And yes a village agbero is better than a woman professor and that's how it is around here
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 6:00pm On Apr 23, 2022
realG101:
My answer should be a straight yes but men's approach is a little different when they are not contributing to provision.. their ego sets in and that is where you have a couple trying to divorce. Ordinarily, any man who doesn't contribute to provision at all is not worthy to be called a man or head of the family. It's okay if the woman happens to be doing more. In today's world, women are almost at par with men in terms of earning power.
Woman have egoes as well, so why is the ego a man's excuse as far as refusing to be super submissive? undecided

So what does it take to be worthy of being called "a man or head of the family"? Or is it an outies only club thing? undecided

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by phemmyfour: 6:03pm On Apr 23, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Again, the same God who instituted marriage in Genesis 2 vs 24, turned and cursed marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16, rendering it unholy - no longer of God - by His judgement. undecided

The same God who reminded you in Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God aka your marriage remains unholy to Him.. undecided

Matthew 23 vs 8 declares all equal in the Kingdom of God. Do you think your marriages(unholy) can somehow cause inequality to creep into the Kingdom of God? undecided

That which is unholy has no place in God's Kingdom and does not belong to Him but to the curse. undecided
Another wrong interpretation, Lk 20:34-36 dwell on "If marriage exist in heaven" which Jesus emphatically said NO.

You are yet to show me where Jesus is against Marriage here on earth

Some of the Sadducees,(W) who say there is no resurrection,(X) came to Jesus with a question. 28 “Teacher,” they said, “Moses wrote for us that if a man’s brother dies and leaves a wife but no children, the man must marry the widow and raise up offspring for his brother.(Y) 29 Now there were seven brothers. The first one married a woman and died childless. 30 The second 31 and then the third married her, and in the same way the seven died, leaving no children. 32 Finally, the woman died too. 33 Now then, at the resurrection whose wife will she be, since the seven were married to her?”

34 Jesus replied, “The people of this age marry and are given in marriage. 35 But those who are considered worthy of taking part in the age to come(Z) and in the resurrection from the dead will neither marry nor be given in marriage,
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Slurity(m): 6:05pm On Apr 23, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ taught His disciples that actually... Men are women are equals in the Kingdom of God - Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10 undecided
There is no man or woman in heaven because they don't need to procreate, they same way no man or woman among angels. Matthew 23 vs 8-10 you quote say nothing about equality or gender equality. Are you using the same bible that every knows ?
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 6:08pm On Apr 23, 2022
phemmyfour:
Another wrong interpretation, Lk 20:34-36 dwell on "If marriage exist in heaven" which Jesus emphatically said NO.
You are yet to show me where Jesus is against Marriage here on earth
The Kingdom of God is right here on earth. You enter into it the moment you become born-again - John 3 vs 5 - 8. So if you think what Jesus Christ said about the Kingdom of God only takes place when you die and the last day arrives..... it means you don't even begin to believe Jesus Christ at all. undecided

Jesus Christ against marriage here on earth? Where in the world did you come up with that nonsense from? Following your taught process, I would also ask you if you also assume by what I have said that Jesus Christ also against you eating and drinking, this since God also cursed our obtaining of food and all? undecided
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 6:11pm On Apr 23, 2022
Slurity:
There is no man or woman in heaven because they don't need to procreate, they same way no man or woman among angels. Matthew 23 vs 8-10 you quote say nothing about equality or gender equality. Are you using the same bible that every knows ?
I didn't say anything about Heaven but instead about the Kingdom of God which Jesus Christ brought down to earth for us over 2000 years ago. undecided

You should probably read Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10 with your eyes open to see that in the Kingdom of God, Jesus Christ commands equality among all His servants. undecided
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by phemmyfour: 6:14pm On Apr 23, 2022
Kobojunkie:
The Kingdom of God is right here on earth. You enter into it the moment you become born-again - John 3 vs 5 - 8. So if you think what Jesus Christ said about the Kingdom of God only takes place when you die and the last day arrives..... it means you don't even begin to believe Jesus Christ at all. undecided

Jesus Christ against marriage here on earth? Where in the world did you come up with that nonsense from? Following your taught process, I would also ask you if you also assume by what I have said that Jesus Christ also against you eating and drinking, this since God also cursed our obtaining of food and all? undecided
Jn18:36

Jesus answered, “My kingdom is not of this world. If my kingdom were of this world, my servants would have been fighting, that I might not be delivered over to the Jews. But my kingdom is not from the world
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 6:18pm On Apr 23, 2022
phemmyfour:
Jn18:36

Jesus answered, “My kingdom is not of this world. If my kingdom were of this world, my servants would have been fighting, that I might not be delivered over to the Jews. But my kingdom is not from the world
Exactly! Yet the same Kingdom of God is here with us - Luke 17 vs 21. undecided

Jesus Christ brought down His Kingdom to us over 2000 years ago and only those who are born-again gain access to it. However, nothing that is of this world can. undecided

The same Jesus Christ said in John 15 vs 19 and John 17 vs 15 - 26 that we are in this world but we are not of this world. undecided
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by HRprof: 6:21pm On Apr 23, 2022
odinson1:

But when it comes to take up the Responsibilities of a Man,that is where you Hypocrites draw the line.
There is no hypocrite there, accept gender equality and share your responsibility with your wife to balance the equation. You can not relinquish your responsibility to her while you claim to be the head over her.

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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by Aaay: 6:26pm On Apr 23, 2022
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Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by phemmyfour: 6:28pm On Apr 23, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Exactly! Yet the same Kingdom of God is here with us - Luke 17 vs 21. undecided

Jesus Christ brought down His Kingdom to us over 2000 years ago and only those who are born-again gain access to it. However, nothing that is of this world can. undecided
lol
Jesus answered the pharisees and saducees in parables.

He declare to them that "the kingdom of God" is in their midst/heart and within their reach. He was speaking figuratively
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by realG101(m): 6:29pm On Apr 23, 2022
Frankly, you cannot compare a man's ego to a woman's. Me I don't even think woman have ego.

The urge to man up and earn your own living as opposed to waiting for someone to wife you and take care of you is one valid way to distinguish a man and woman in terms of ego. Largely, woman don't have much ego.

So it is very difficult for a man who can't provide in a marriage to be submissive. Most men will rather become toxic in the marriage or opt out.

However, note that equality does not suggest two captains on the ship. But the captain thing should be a fluid concept. It should not be a taboo for a woman to make critical decisions for the family, esp if she actually has a superior grasp of the situation at hand. Then she can be the captain at that material time. Not the man insisting his decision is final when his decision is not the best for the family.
Kobojunkie:
Woman have egoes as well, so why is the ego a man's excuse as far as refusing to be super submissive? undecided

So what does it take to be worthy of being called "a man or head of the family"? Or is it an outies only club thing? undecided
Re: Why Is Gender Equality Not Respected In Marriage? by apatheticme(f): 6:32pm On Apr 23, 2022
Winters23:
[s][/s]

woke fo0l

is it only gender equality you can learn from the west?

why not marry your fellow gender in the name of same s*x marriage grin ?

it's not okay to embrace some and leave some, take it all, Mr black slave!

And yes a village agbero is better than a woman professor and that's how it is around here

Unwoke Barbarian.

Where were you when your mates were learning innovations, Tech, IoT, AI, Robotics Surgery!!

Na only sex, marraige supremacy dragging and gender battle your ear for dey raise up like a rabbit's own!!

Dem nor dey ever see you near forward thinking ideas, na to dey threaten fire and brimstone for women matter, dey drag supremacy!

Ozwor!

At the end of the day,fear nor go let you talk in front of a female professor oh, na online you fit dey cap rubbish.

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