Movingon5:
Pls sirs and mas am not really in my right frame of mind.......

We cohabited for 7years and have suffered several domestic abuse so I decided to quit this January. So he left the house and took all the amenities the kids are enjoying since February...

So this, easter he called to tell the kids to come do easter with him in his village.. Getting to Kogi state, he sent me house and harrassed me with security officials. So he has apparently taken the kids from me and trying to take them to another state.

He has made attempts to buy the children from me by offering me 400k but I said noooo. He is a Deputy retired commissioner of police and ex director of EFCC and currently working in Dangote as their cso.

The kids here are minors age 3 and 5years.... where can I get justice and the authorities to report to. The kids are supposed to be in school today. He is 66years and am 30years.

Pls elders on family issues help me and how to get the custody of my kids back cos am ready to be taking care of them without his contribution. Am fighting for the kids becos of the motherly love I have for them not because of child support fee etc.

Am not married to him legally or traditionally...... we cohabited for 7years. And am his 4th wife and that is how he has been collecting the kids from his wives. He has a brother he puts in EFCC and they all threaten me to fight me cos they have the money to spend...

Go to the nearest FIDA Office in Kogi State

Prettychild:

Go to the nearest FIDA Office in Kogi State

We residing and still working in lagos state.

ivolt:

Don't die of ignorance.
Pick a copy of the Nigerian constitution and laws to educate yourself.

what's your argument about please?... common-law is the term for people living together without being legally married...I don't really get what your issue is at all...do you think in court the judge would be interested in whether they are married or not?...the argument would be on how the kids would be taken care of... whether sole custody (either the man or the woman) or co-parenting...I don't get you though...

so you as a custodian of Nigerian Constitution...give a verdict or advise on the issue

Movingon5:


We residing and still working in lagos state.

Then go to FIDA Office in Lagos. I would prefer you go to FIDA Office in Kogi State since the subject matter ( the kids) and the event took place in Kogi State

RedCentaur:


Oga wake up, this is Nigeria. And where in this "law" was it stated that a woman not legally married has all the right to keep the kids when their father is still very much around?

Since she is not married to the man, in law, she has the right to keep the children

rickpat:
what's your argument about please?... common-law is the term for people living together without being legally married...I don't really get what your issue is at all...do you think in court the judge would be interested in whether they are married or not?...the argument would be on how the kids would be taken care of... whether sole custody (either the man or the woman) or co-parenting...I don't get you though

Thanks ... am not depriving him of having access to d kids, but he just showed world dat he is not to be trusted with the kids. D children spends much and their better time with me cos he is a cso and always on d field working. He forcefully took d kids from me and he his making decisions for them without me.. he is trying to get dem a nanny when have vehemently stated am not parting with d kids. Is isn't influent... and r... like u guys are thinking to be able to fight me... none of us is going to take sole responsibility of d kids but joint one cos am sure they are his kids.

Prettychild:

Then go to FIDA Office in Lagos. I would prefer you go to FIDA Office in Kogi State since the subject matter ( the kids) and the event took place in Kogi State

Thank you

Prettychild:

Since she is not married to the man, in law, she has the right to keep the children

Thanks so much.

Movingon5:


Thanks ... am not depriving him of having access to d kids, but he just showed world dat he is not to be trusted with the kids. D children spends much and their better time with me cos he is a cso and always on d field working. He forcefully took d kids from me and he his making decisions for them without me.. he is trying to get dem a nanny when have vehemently stated am not parting with d kids. Is isn't influent... and r... like u guys are thinking to be able to fight me... none of us is going to take sole responsibility of d kids but joint one cos am sure they are his kids.

...you see...it's even co-parenting you want...that's okay...at age 3 and 5years they really need their mum..just take it easy and go through the right channel...you will get what you want...the kids are quite young.. co-parenting is a good idea as well...the matter is easier since you two were not legally married ( hence you won't go through any divorce process)..so it's a little easier since it's just parenting of the kids you are going for...I wish you the best

RedCentaur:
I just had migraine while reading this.


Cohabiting for 7yrs? Birthing children without doing as little as paying your dowry?

The elders are coming.

As in ehennnnnnnnn. Was just angry reading the post. Her best bet is to go to FIDA.

rickpat:
...you see...it's even co-parenting you want...that's okay...at age 3 and 5years they really need their mum..just take it easy and go through the right channel...you will get what you want...the kids are quite young.. co-parenting is a good idea as well...the matter is easier since you two were not legally married ( hence you won't go through any divorce process)..so it's a little easier since it's just parenting of the kids you are going for...I wish you the best

God almighty will bless u for ur consistent positive advice.. u are 1 out of d people here who really keep me going... ur rightfully possessions won't be taken away from u. ... amen

WHAT GET U HERE MAY NOT GET U BEYOND...... SO EVOLVE.

Gospel367:


Which leg she wan open again when they don carry dick and expired sperm finish that place and her life. Tomorrow, she will start saying all men are the same instead of saying all grandfathers are the same. She destroyed her love life and i hope she is not out of shape already...

Chaii.... You have bad mouth oo, see me laughing out loud with this your comment

peepydelano:
They are his kids as well and will obviously fare better with him than with you.If he’s not denying you visits then I see no case here.

Don't mind her. She wants to use the kids as pay cheque. What's wrong with him having his kids if they're better taken care of woth him. Truth is their welfare really doesn't matter to her. She's more interested in herself and how she feels about them.

Movingon5:


God almighty will bless u for ur consistent positive advice.. u are 1 out of d people here who really keep me going... ur rightfully possessions won't be taken away from u. ... amen

WHAT GET U HERE MAY NOT GET U BEYOND...... SO EVOLVE.

amen....God bless you too...and bless your two lovely kids even more... Amen

Prettychild:

Since she is not married to the man, in law, she has the right to keep the children

Stupidity... and what about the children's rights ?!!!! Oh I forgot ... its only mama that has rights.

That's why you don't create children out of a marriage. It complicates everything.

Movingon5:
en me to fight me cos they have the money to spend...

you dated a 61 year old man while you are 25? Wow! Just Wow!

RedCentaur:
I just had migraine while reading this.


Cohabiting for 7yrs? Birthing children without doing as little as paying your dowry?

The elders are coming.

why are you having migraine?

must everyone do this marriage thing?

I as a woman, I want only kids from a man and no marriage, shikena.

revolt:


Stupidity... and what about the children's rights ?!!!! Oh I forgot ... its only mama that has rights.

That's why you don't create children out of a marriage. It complicates everything.

That’s not stupidity, it’s the law. Learn to remove emotions from your comments

Having read all the comments from page 1-7 here's what I have to say.
Poster, you have done a grave mistake of your life by co-habiting with a man that hasn't paid your bride price and who even doubles as your father. It's VERY VERY WRONG.

Didn't your parents/uncle's/aunty's/friends talked you out when you were living with the man Prolly they did you didn't listen because you were beclouded with all the goodies you were enjoying back then.

Be that as it may, firstly accept all the bashes/insults you will see on your post. Filter the good advice and let it be your action points.

You will have to go back to your family and beg them to forgive you by not listening to them that's if paragraph 2 in my comment took place, because you need them now. Your family are your pillars now.

Kindly go to FIDA in your state of residence and lay your complaints to them, I'm sure they will help you or better still if you can come to Abuja and go to brekete radio (Human Rights Radio and Television).

I know you have made the worst mistake of your life and regretting bitterly now. I won't judge you because I'm ain't God. I wish you the very best in your pursuit and please let us know how it's going.

Cheers!!!!

Exodora:

And you did read where she mentioned domestic violent, you guy’s should be reading nau before judging.

They are more interested in playing the equality card, arguing how she called them her children. But they are okay with the man taking away her children still, as if they belong to him alone.

But women, that gender is so notorious with unimaginable behaviours.
At the age of 23 years you went to cohabit with a man of 56 with 3 wife's already.

Are you not even ashamed saying this? You loved money so much that you went and open your leg for a man older than your father and after they man have laboured very hard thrusting you probably with wick erection and his money is no longer flowing as before, you now here shouting my children my children.

Cant you remember how hard it was for that man to get erection and produce those children, madam you better respect yourself.

You think money will last for ever, if you had followed your mate by now both of u will be in ur prime and cruising life, now dem don leave, you are a mumu woman.
Next topic please.

Proudlyomonna:


Did you read the part where she said she is not legally married to the Man.
She has been spreading her legs waahhhh without the Man even paying her bride price hmm don't give her advice to waste her time oo.

Whether married or not, she still has rights and responsibilities to her children. Your thoughts about what she did with her legs are insignificant compared to the facts in her case.

rickpat:
I'm sure you don't understand my point....the law gives sole custody to either a man or a woman that it sees fit...if not the law grants them co-parenting.. these laws are there...you may feel it doesn't exist in Nigeria..till the day you are caught in that web....so it's only MARRIAGE that brings kids right?.. you're funny though...child custody is either co-parenting or sole custody...sole custody comes into play if one of the parent is not capable financially or mentally or not interested in taking care if the kids...so sole custody can be given to a man or a woman... sometimes a visiting plan is set up...so mr. "this is Nigeria"...know the law and stop this mentality of Nigeria is lawless...we may have problem of implementation but the laws are there ..have a great day

I like your reply

You are well knowledgeable concerning laws of the Land

Are you a lawyer?

Prettychild:

That’s not stupidity, it’s the law. Learn to remove emotions from your comments

Which stupid law... The law didn't give rights to only mothers duhh? The kids, the father and all parties involved have rights. Infact in cases like nigeria. ... there are 3 tiers to jurispudence..

Sharia law
Common law
Customary law.
None of these tiers gives the mother sole rights in nigeria. The kids ate even told to choose whom they'd wanna stay with in certain cases.

revolt:

Which stupid law... The law didn't give rights to only mothers duhh? The kids, the father and all parties involved have rights. Infact in cases like nigeria. ... there are 3 tiers to jurispudence..

Sharia law
Common law
Customary law.
None of these tiers gives the mother sole rights in nigeria. The kids ate even told to choose whom they'd wanna stay with in certain cases.

lol! Bros I no get strength to argue with you, because this argument no go fetch me money. But if you want me to enlighten you on this, you can pay me consultation fee and I will throw more light on this and even give you plethora of cases where the courts have ruled on this issue.

djon78:



I like your reply

You are well knowledgeable concerning laws of the Land

Are you a lawyer?

no..i am not...just from studying and experience...thanks

rickpat:
no..i am not...just from studying and experience...thanks

Wow that's awesome

You are really knowledgeable

Keep it up �

You can also visit FEDERATION OF WOMEN LAWYERS. Hope I got the name correctly.
It's opposite Marda Barracks along Funsho Williams Avenue. Just around the vicinity of Jibowu/ Empire axis.
Na dis kind case Dem dey like for there. You no go pay shishi.
My wife showed me pepper there one year like dat. But I trounced them later.

Justkatty:
First mistake you made, you knew about all these, and you still went ahead of getting pregnant for him��

May God help you retrieve back your kids.

Aswearugaaad

I'm not shocked by you women anymore. Just imagine. Your kids. So the man na wetin, their Uncle?

aribisala0:


There is no law that says men can take custody of children from a woman they have not married

The default position for unmarried people is Native law, Sharia law or Common Law(which we inherited from the British)


An unmarried father may be given custody BY APPLYING to a court and DEMONSTRATING that mother is UNFIT not by resorting to SELF HELP
The default position where there is no marriage in all systems is that custody lies with the mother especially for children at that age

No, If both are capable and the man is more capable than the other and he can successfully prove it, He will win.

If for example, the kids attends a school that pays 2m per term, lives in Maitama in a palatial mansion, go on holidays outside the country twice a year aside other luxuries afforded them by their father, it will be practically impossible for the woman to be able to afford that lifestyle assuming she earns 80k per month.

No judge will grant custody to the woman! Never!

It will adversely affect the psychology of the kids as they are used to luxury if they will now be subjected to one room self contain in Mararaba and will be exposed to other risks also.

The Father will be granted custody and the mother will be able to see them.

Let me tell you, in law, nothing, i mean nothing is cast in stone and two similar cases can get different judgement depending on how the lawyers are able to proof their cases and also present cogent and cogent evidences.

Movingon5:
Pls sirs and mas am not really in my right frame of mind.......

We cohabited for 7years and have suffered several domestic abuse so I decided to quit this January. So he left the house and took all the amenities the kids are enjoying since February...

So this, easter he called to tell the kids to come do easter with him in his village.. Getting to Kogi state, he sent me house and harrassed me with security officials. So he has apparently taken the kids from me and trying to take them to another state.

He has made attempts to buy the children from me by offering me 400k but I said noooo. He is a Deputy retired commissioner of police and ex director of EFCC and currently working in Dangote as their cso.

The kids here are minors age 3 and 5years.... where can I get justice and the authorities to report to. The kids are supposed to be in school today. He is 66years and am 30years.

Pls elders on family issues help me and how to get the custody of my kids back cos am ready to be taking care of them without his contribution. Am fighting for the kids becos of the motherly love I have for them not because of child support fee etc.

Am not married to him legally or traditionally...... we cohabited for 7years. And am his 4th wife and that is how he has been collecting the kids from his wives. He has a brother he puts in EFCC and they all threaten me to fight me cos they have the money to spend...

Small small girls and their are greed and love for money, how can you married someone that senior your father because of money, even when you see red flag in his attitude when you are enjoying during that 7 years you didn't disturb us...each family have they're issues please manage your grandfather attitude.

both of you have right to the kids so what's the problem? This one na fight of the richest, which I see you loosing cus he is rich.